#stop sexualizing

[hamoodmood]

Another man another disappoinment

[girltalkcollectives]

Dress Codes Are Just Sexism Disguised as "Professionalism"

My little sister got sent home from class yesterday for wearing a tank top. In 80-degree weather. Meanwhile, the guy next to her was literally shirtless because "it's too hot" and nobody said a word.

I'm so tired of this.

Let's talk about all the things that are apparently "distracting":

Shoulders (because collar bones are SO scandalous)

Knees (the horror!)

Bra straps (despite the fact that, you know, we need bras)

Leggings (because comfort is forbidden)

Midriffs (society will collapse if anyone sees a belly button)

Any kind of fitted clothing (because apparently we should all wear potato sacks)

Last semester, my little sister watched a girl get dress-coded for wearing shorts while guys in the same class were wearing basketball shorts that were literally shorter than hers. Make it make sense.

The excuses we keep hearing: "It's distracting to male students" "It's inappropriate for a learning environment" "We need to maintain professionalism" "We're preparing you for the real world" "Boys will be boys"

EXCUSE ME? Maybe instead of policing our clothes, we should be teaching people not to sexualize literal students??? Just a thought.

The mental checklist before getting dressed:

Finger-length test for shorts

Two-finger width for straps

Bend over in front of mirror test

Raise your arms check

No visible bra straps

Nothing "too tight"

Nothing "too loose"

Nothing "too anything"

Meanwhile, what guys have to think about:

Literally nothing

That's it

That's the list

There was a time when I was in high school when my friend had to call her mom to bring her a new shirt because her shoulder was showing? SHOULDER. Like it was going to cause mass chaos in the hallway. Because apparently boys can't control themselves at the sight of a SHOULDER.

Real conversations I've had with teachers: "Your shirt is too low cut" (it wasn't) "Those pants are too tight" (they were regular jeans) "You need to cover up" (I was wearing a normal t-shirt) "That's not appropriate" (it was a knee-length dress) "You're distracting others" (by existing???)

Let's talk about the double standards:

Guys can wear muscle tanks

Girls can't show shoulders

Guys can go shirtless at sports

Girls get coded for sports bras

Guys wear short shorts

Girls need finger-length test

Guys wear fitted clothes

Girls get called "distracting"

The actual impact:

Missing class time

Academic disruption

Body image issues

Shame about our bodies

Constant anxiety

Feeling sexualized

Lost confidence

Wasted money on "appropriate" clothes

And don't even get me started on:

Having to buy different clothes for school

Spending extra money on "appropriate" options

Getting sent home for minor "violations"

Missing important lessons

Being humiliated in front of class

Getting labeled as "problematic"

Being treated like WE'RE the problem

To every girl who has:

Been dress coded

Felt humiliated

Had to change

Missed class

Been called distracting

Felt ashamed

Had to call home

Been singled out

You did NOTHING wrong. Your body is not a distraction. Your education matters more than someone else's inability to focus. Your comfort matters. Your right to exist in your body matters.

Because here's the truth:

Dress codes are sexist

Bodies aren't distracting

Shoulders aren't sexual

Knees aren't provocative

Comfort isn't inappropriate

Existing isn't wrong

THEY are the problem, not us

[chloeijuana]

Just your reminder that it doesn’t matter if you’re younger older, dead, idgaf. Walker, and Leah are still CHILDREN, and your excuse should not be “but we’re the same age�� because they’re still normal teenagers with normal lives, you wouldn’t sexualize your hallway crush so why would you do it to Walker and Leah just because they’re celebrities?? They’re people like all the rest of us.

Anyways I had to get that off my chest cuz bitches be trying make up excuses and then doubling down on why it’s ok talking abt “you could’ve scrolled” and “it’s not your concern”.. well you know what’s concerning?? Sexualizing minors and talking abt how “moan- able” their names are.. 🫥

[bi-dykes]

Saw a tweet that said cleavage is inherently sexual and it made me go grrr

[sillylilneurodivergent]

Scrolled through #asexual to count how many s3xual/unrelated stuff there was & report them(if they were s3xual) & I only counted 15 without scrolling all the way down. Its really disgusting to see when just trying to read about other people like you. :/

[strawb3rrysunda3]

luffy is asexual yall- and so is Zoro

please-

[beatheprincess]

I hate how jojifuku , lolita and any kind of softcore aesthetics are sexualized, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! Lemme wear my ribbons and pink pls and be the cutest thing on earth in peace >:(

[just-ray]

RAY WHAT WAS THAT LAST POST

Full explanation- tumblr has a rule against "female presenting tiddies", and naturally being the gender equivalent to sinn fein (not quite sure who or what they are) the tumblr community, understandably because me neither, did not take very kindly to tumblr being okay with male chests, and not female chests, because, and say it very loudly

WOMENS 👏BODIES 👏ARE👏 NOT�� SEX👏 OBJECTS.👏

If a female chest is nsfw, so is a male one and I will DIE on that hill.

@staff

^ I said what i said so listen up

[tikiki05]

Random post with no forethought but the sexualization of Gwen Stacy actually makes me sick to my stomach

i just clicked on the Gwen Stacy tag; first post was normal and then the next two were like lowkey porn of her. I’m not too familiar with her character outside of spider-verse (as that’s the most popular version and what I keep seeing the sexual posts about) but are there not variations of her as an adult or something? Fucking anything so that these degenerates can stop making porn of a fictional teenage girl, jesus christ

[anticoquette]

Why are people trying so hard to infantilize the coquette aesthetic? It’s not about being younger. It’s not about pretending to be younger or “regressing”. It’s literally just about living a soft, feminine, slow lifestyle. Stop trying to root female dominant aesthetics/niches in pedophila. Soft aesthetics ≠ children. A lot of you are telling on yourselves

[scullylovebot]

Why is the Hayley Atwell tag on this app filled with close up pictures of her tits or disturbing, semi naked ai/photoshop?? Can a woman ever just be?

[xycolia]

Every time “Lolita” by Vladimir Nabokov is sexualised an angel loses its wings

[curiescuriousity]

I WAS BROWSING THE ENCANTO POSTS AND SCROLLED A LITTLE TOO FAR INTO FANFIC TERRITORY... WHAT IS THIS OBSESSION WITH MAMA MIRABEL AU???!? TF- SHE'S FIFTEEN. NO. No. LIKE THAT'S A LITREAL MINOR SO SHUT THE HELL UP.

"oH bUt In ThE fIcS sHe'S aGeD uP"

NO. STILL CANONICALLY A MINOR YOU'RE WEIRD. F OFF. DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON ALL THE FANART IVE SEEN OF HER WITH BIG BOOBS AND SWOLLEN BELLY.

STILL A MINOR. F I F T E E N YEARS OLD. STOP SEXUALIZING HER. AND THE BOTS OF HER....NO.

[andyslefttoe]

yes exactly omg stop sexualizing actors, they’re people, too, not js robots or smth 😭😭

ty @siddyyyyyyyy

[tea-blankets-andstars]

IF. SOMEONE. IS. TOO. YOUNG. TO. BE. WEARING. THAT. THEN. THEY. ARE. TOO. YOUNG. TO. BE. SEXUALIZED. LIKE. THAT.

[sillylilneurodivergent]

It’s so weird how on videos/photos of people spending time together like, let’s say, at the beach & they’re just taking normal photos/videos. Nothing sexual other than two piece bathing suits being the closest thing to sexual. & people will comment “Y’all are so cute and your friend is very sexy🤤” which is absolutely disgusting. Just because they wear something “sexual” doesn’t mean they want comments like that. I used to love wearing two piece bathing suits until I got sexually harassed (not from wearing two pieces) & after that I just never trusted wearing things like two pieces which I LIKED because creeps (weither male OR female) will make it sexual no matter how much you don’t want it then they’ll tell you that you were “asking for it” Like an 8 year old could wear a two piece but that doesn’t mean they’re “asking for it” THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT “it” IS