#squishes

[tremendously-crazy]

Pov: You've never had a good, proper friendship before, so the moment you have one with a boy, you convince yourself that you like him, and then you do all the things people do when they like someone, (complimenting them, trying to spend time with them, talking to them, thinking about them 24/7), only for things to get stressful and anxiety enducing when you both confess to each other because you don't REALLY know what its like to love/like someone romantically and everything he does grosses you out and now you're just texting him for hours but he won't even look at you in real life and LOOK NEW HYPERFIXATION!! GOODBYE KID MY NEW LOVE IS SHERLOCK HOLMES

[midnight-soulless-system]

Just told my friend we had a squish on her, but it wasn't a crush because we're aroace and she was like. "Cool, and same on both fronts"

I'm so fucking happy y'all, is this what the allos feel when someone else reciprocates a crush? Cause this is fucking awesome.

[vee-lociraptor]

being aro and having platonic crushes is so embarrassing like. yeah i wanna be your stupid friend or whatever. kicks a rock like an idiot.

[dailyjadenep]

[officeobject]

That feeling when you actually hate nudity and just really like wearing clothes and wanna wear clothes all the time but you can't, and also people should wear clothes, because that is pretty (not that you wanna tell them what to DO, but you know what I mean), and then you actually find someone so much more pretty because you have a squish on them, but like, you think maybe they TOO like wearing clothes, and they look very good in clothes and they never should take that off, and you LOVE their body, and stare at IT, too, but that's because it actually LOOKS like their personality (unlike YOUR appearance which is half yours at best), and because it's so pretty, and so cuddly, and everyone else looking at them is like "dude that's a tired 30 year old working a desk job" and you might be biased because somehow they have the exact same body as you (except bigger, muscle size + weight might be different), but you're still like "I KNOW, RIGHT?!", because, like, WOW ...

[strawberry-s0ap]

grey cat stimboard with plushies and squishy things for anon!

x x x / x x x / x x x

[aroaceconfessions]

gonna give up on telling anyone who isn't apsec about my squishes. can't fucking trust anyone anymore to just shut up and believe me. I'm sick of being treated as if I'm delusional or stuck in that stupid trope of "person insists it's just platonic but later realises they're in love romantically".

I'm a human being, not a character from some fiction story.

I know what I feel. I spent years questioning it, I don't need my own friends to start fucking questioning me too.

fuck arophobes.

Submitted April 16, 2023

[mani-mari]

omg having a squish is weird bc i feel so open about it but im like ! huh?? this is how I act for my crushes. I really love this person's vibe & want to be their friend but am I being too weird? like idc because they dont seem to mind but ..!! am I being inappropriate? why is our hug awkward? im not attracted to them the way im used to being attracted but that's fine?

like this is my first squish at least in a long time and its so WEIRD. I like it but it feels strange but it feels fine? what is happening.

[spiritmander13]

New thing we should normalize: SQUISHES.

Squishes are basically aromantic crushes! An intense desire for friendship with someone! Enough of people assuming the person I'm thinking about is my crush, no, they're just my buddy who's the opposite gender of me (not in a cishet way; I'm Pangender and my squish is Agender).

But yeah, why haven't we normalized squishes and platonic soulmates already? Don't get me wrong, romance sounds lovely and sweet, but sometimes you gotta have diversity.

[fallenrain40]

random aro thoughts again,, i really love the term for friend crushes- "squishes". my only problem is being afraid people will interpret it as an "inbetween" romance and friendship when no... for me it's not even queerplatonic or anything like that... it's literally just wanting to know someone and thinking they are cool, or maybe admiring them in some other form. but no level of romantic attraction is ever involved and i hate to think people will misinterpret that.

im almost afraid to even call it PLATONIC attraction cause... platonic can be really strong too. idk. its like some mysterious fourth option (just like my gender pfft-),

[eclipseisokaywiththiswebsite]

I just want to tell everyone who's aromantic and gets squishes instead of crushes. A squish can have the same feelings as a crush, you can get nervous and get butterflies around your squish(butterflies in your stomach aren't a crush exclusive thing, I get them when I'm around extremely steep roads for instance).

There are two differentiators from a squish and a crush. The first one is what do you want with that person. Do you want to be friends with them, or do you want to be romantically involved with them? The former is a squish, the latter is a crush. The second one is that a squish usually goes away when you've become friends with that person or best friends, or whatever level of emotional intimacy you want with that person. A crush... doesn't? Or at least doesn't until you've finally reached the level of romantic involvement you want? As an aro person I'm not super familiar with crushes, please help me here.

So those are the differences, hope this helps someone.

[askalexandeleutherius]

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I just want to do good things to you and for you, and to make you feel like all the parts of you can be looked at and loved and accepted

I want you to know I love even the parts of you that you think are unlovable

I want to just rest together, sharing space

You are probably one of the few people it would actually give me a positive sensation to touch (which is saying a lot, because my touch aversion is strong)

I want to hug you warmly for a long time

I could just so easily spend all day every day near you sharing space and being quiet together while we work on separate things, and be comforted by the physical proximity (which also says a lot, because usually it's hard to relax around others, it feels like the silence will be suddenly disturbed in a jarring way)

I want to make you feel so valued and appreciated

and I want to make you know you are so deserving and worthy so that you love who you are and never again feel like you have to change yourself

[viktheviking1]

Everybody needs a person who they can make an absolute fool of themsleves in front of, have an awkward pause, only for them to do something even weirder.

[frickityfrackityfuckingshit]

Being abro, crushes can be really complicated as my feelings and attractions flux and change.

I don’t really connect with all the memes that are like “wow all I think about is you”, they feel pretty all consuming and honestly kinda worry me?

For me it’s more like- there’s a special part of me where you reside, and I can’t get you out. Sometimes it pulses with warmth, sometimes it just sits there, and it’s nice either way. The bigger my crush grows, the bigger that section grows.

But you aren’t taking me over. It’s it’s own thing, and when it grows it doesn’t reduce the size of the rest of me.

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning aspec culture is not being sure if you're fully aromantic or not, because the only "crushes" you had before were when you were much younger, too young to really tell if it was crushes or squishes or some kind of tertiary attraction. Like I can't tell anymore since as I'm getting older and older I don't feel attracted to anyone anymore, or tell what romantic attraction even really is.

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[officeobject]

So ... people don't want me to meet this one person, who they don't believe sees me, and has a mutual staring-based friendship ... our schedules don't align, but people wouldn't want us to meet even if we COULD, and yeah, sure, I'll give up on the person, whom, in my interpretation:

Has almost the exact the same body-language as me, almost the exact same body, likes "artificial" stuff (like offices) just like me, has made me like my body-hair permanently for the first time, helped me leave a friendship that was bad for me, calmed me down, was there no matter what kind of day I had, entertained me, made me get over a fake friend, helps me decide what to wear easier, makes tasks easier, gives more energy, decreases general symptoms of sickness + decreased general feelings of shit, gives no reaction to pride flag + assuming even ADMIRING THEIR BODY is platonic + acts like there is no non-platonic option therefore affirming my apothiaroace identity, gives attention, seems to see friendship the same way, has a similar personality, is exactly like this one character, stabilizes my mood/calms me down when needed,

AND IS MY ONCE CHANCE OF NOT EITHER FUCKING DYING ALONE OR FORCING MYSELF TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND,

But sure, let me just give up on THIS person of all people, because they tooooootally can't see me, the GRASS just makes them react.