#sex positive culture

[faux-phallus]

We couldn't wait to show you the Stamen toy from today's pour 👀

We matched the colours from our @broken_birds harness and we think it came out stunning 😍

We're so glad Broken Birds gave us samples of their colours, it's going to make matching other peoples harnesses so much easier 😊

[benjaminallhope-fulltimemind]

just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

/Edit: I forgot to give credit this is a screenshot from a video made by a content creator called Lily Orchard you should check her channel out it's amazing

[fucktoyfelix]

"Desire is not evil. Expressing attraction is not a violation. Failing to express oneself can be just as dangerous as not listening to someone else’s limits. Women can be abusive. Bottoms can sexually assault. No matter our gender, presentation, or sexual role, we are each capable of harm. And the only way to make a safe, mutually pleasurable sexual encounter happen is by going after it, actively, and communicating from a position of inner strength." -Dr Devon Price

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is being sex-positive

[angelellipsis-devilofdots]

i will never understand what goes through someone's mind when they teach teenagers, whose hormones are (in most cases) all out of whack and causing ridiculous amounts of Horny, that libido and sexual attraction are bad. literally what the fuck. actual proper education on safe sex will protect teens more than teaching them to be abstinent. all you do when you reiterate puritan culture is ensure that teens feel ashamed of sexuality and will hate themselves for it.

[hereticcryptid]

Hm. Something about "says the porn blog" or "you have a sex blog your opinions are irrelevant" sets me off. I can't quite articulate it but something something puritanism and sex negativity. If they're not bots, the people behind those blogs are still people

[brasskingfisher]

PSA for pride month since some of you need it (apparently).....

Purity culture is more than just slut shaming or having hang ups over premarital sex.

Purity culture is also kink shaming. It's also thought criming people for their fantasies. It's also applying gender essentialism to sex. It's treating anything other than unsatisfying missionary sex for the purposes of pregnancy as inherently shameful. It's vilifying sex workers and saying that sex work is inherently exploitative.

[justdavina]

It's Drag Queen Thursday Bitches!

[cazort]

How Sex-Negative Culture Enforces a Strict Binary Between Casual Sex and Romantic Relationships

When I was in college I heard a lot of people complain about how there is a lot of pressure for sexual relationships to be categorized either as serious romantic relationships, or totally casual sex, with little to no in-between.

I also started feeling a lot of pressure to categorize relationships in this way. In this video I talk about the ways I experienced this pressure, and how I saw other people around me struggling with and responding to it as well.

I also talk about how I think this pressure is rooted in sex negativity and purity culture, specifically, that it stems from guilt and shame associated with sex outside of serious romantic relationships. A lot of people who supposedly have rejected this culture, still enforce these same norms, and they often do it by how they approach their own sexual relationships and how they talk about them with others. Things like saying "Don't have sex with friends / sex messes up friendships" or pressuring people to label relationships as romantic in the early stages even if the other person isn't ready, isn't fully comfortable with the label, or isn't sure what they want.

I unfortunately have also seen a lot of backsliding in the past 10 or so years, like our society seemed to be getting better for a while but it seems to have gotten worse again and I see a lot of people saying all the same things I experienced in college and right out of college all over again.

I hope that this video can give people the tools to understand and resist this pressure, the ability to articulate what is wrong with it and assert yourself when faced with these pressures. When we start talking about this stuff, we become empowered to break it down.

[transsexualfiend]

I strongly encourage you to unfollow and even block people who are constantly posting callouts and bewares for every little thing. YES there are shitty people out there. I'm not denying that. But it is also not safe to be around someone who is constantly digging through other people's social medias to find "bad things", especially when their idea of "bad things" is rooted in fear and misunderstanding, rather than an actual experience with said person.

For example I followed this person who would put people's FULL ACCOUNTS on blast and even dox them and say "BLOCK AND REPORT THIS PERSON because they're a CREEP and most likely a PEDOPHILE, R4PIST, ZOOPHILE, and POSSIBLE ABUSER!!!". Now naturally you want to believe someone when they say they are the victim of something. But that isn't what's happening here. This is a case of "Your kinkyness grossed me out and your sexuality is too vulgar for my tastes, so I will be attempting to put your life and privacy at risk". For this specific example, no evidence was provided to summarize why all of these extreme words were used, so out of curiosity I went to the account and... the person was just a trans woman posting furry porn and other nsft ramblings. That is not an offense. That is not abuse or pedophilia or zoophilia. Remind me again how it's "social justice" to keep calling openly sexual trans women predatory?

And I say block these kinds of people (the ones who feel the need to play "neighborhood watch" online) because chances are, eventually they will investigate YOUR business, and you might be found "guilty" of their personal morality crime.

[wolf-tail]

"It doesn't serve a purpose to the story!"

A) A lot of the time it does, you just don't know what it is. Look harder.

B) Neither do a lot of fight scenes. A lot of them are there just to look cool. And the movies are better for it.

[steelthroat]

*me putting my Transformers figures on a shelf after tidying up* "Optimus and Megatron go together obviously"

My dad jokingly: "Heh, are they friends?"

Me: "In the Ancient-Greek sense of the word yes"

[aloeverawrites]

tw mentions of rape culture and sexual coercion:

The idea of aces or anyone having to sleep with their partners as a "sacrifice" or "something uncomfortable to show they care about them" is so infuriating to me. That's sexual coercion and normalising sexual coercion.

Yes asexual can have sex if they want to, yes people can want to sleep with people they aren't attracted to for other reasons, but no one should sleep with anyone. Ever. It is never owed, it's never "a chore you should do for them". The healthiest relationships are built on respect and love. A good partner wouldn't want to make the person they care about feel sexually uncomfortable.

Don't accept anything less then enthusiastic, affirmative consent and don't accept being treated like your boundaries don't matter.

[hypersexual-alter-culture]

Quick medical resources regarding reproductive health (along with helplines):

List of reproductive cancers

List of various STDs

For Canadians: Sexual Health Clinic locations and services

Planned Parenthood (USA): Sexual Health Clinics, getting tested for STDs

CDC (USA): Get Tested

Helplines for SA victims (Canada)

Helplines for SA victims (USA)

LGBTQ+ Friendly Safer Sex Guide

If theres any resources you want me to add onto here or to look for, let us know! We’ll try to find some for you!

[motziedapul]

🌺 19 DAYS TO GO! 🌺

The Pinoy Monster Lover Anthology: After Dark, a queer, 18+ comic anthology by Filipino creators is 50% funded on Kickstarter.

Motzie explains why she started this project, and how it's a celebration of Filipino queerness, sexuality, and culture:

We've got the work of 8 amazing artists on display, and I've been hard at work on the pages while running the marketing campaign for this project - the fourth installment in our Pinoy Monster Anthology series, and the first adults only entry. There are a few reasons we wanted to go with an 18+ anthology. For one thing, we've always had a primarily adult audience, but more importantly; most Filipinos know, especially queer Filipinos, how restrictive and sex negative certain parts of the culture can be, and celebrations of sexuality are, in a way, a joyful re-invigoration of a part of our culture that's been labeled dirty or unholy, by the very same institutions that erased so much of our history. Sexuality was such a big part of precolonial Filipino culture that we still have records of such from that era - up to and including our anito, or pre-colonial gods and spirits (look up Lakambakod! His only physical traits are�� very interesting). Along with reclaiming our expressions of sexuality, there's been a renewed appreciation for Filipino folklore and monsters, and just like Guillermo Del Toro (but perhaps, in a very different direction - though not that different, considering The Shape of Water), I wanted to celebrate the beauty in the monstrous, the romance in the horror, alongside other amazing Filipino artists, whose efforts I want to be rewarded in full. Please do check out the Pinoy Monster Lover Anthology! The main title is 18+ but the previous titles (which are included as add-ons) are all ages or PG-13 at most. We have a few weeks to go, and lots of amazing art to share.

🌺Back it on Kickstarter HERE🌺

[qpr-culture-is]

qpr culture is being able to kiss and hug and comfort and cuddle and grope and fuck and feed and love and commit to forever with my best friend just because I want to do those things With My Best Friend, even though the acts themselves don't really fill me with warm romance fuzzies like people say they should.

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