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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
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Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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A clarion call to put an end to cosplaying diagnoses
First off, it's cheapening the experiences of people who have actually been diagnosed.
Secondly, it's promoting stigma and misinformation.
A diagnosis is not a shield to hide behind or a weapon to bash people with. It's a life-altering piece of news to a suffering individual.
It's not cute, it's not trendy, it's not a joke.
There are protections in place for people with diagnosed disabilities to foster environments that are accessible and open for all; not to give people internet clout, not for attention, not for distracting from the issues on the table.
Claiming a disability without going through the proper channels is, to me, a lot like stolen valor. If it's against the law to pretend to be a veteran to reap benefits not earned, the same principle ought to be applied to people claiming they have been diagnosed with an illness without a formal assessment.
I am not talking about people who suspect they have a health concern and haven't been able to get a formal diagnosis but plan to, I'm talking about people who have no intention of receiving a valid diagnosis but want to claim they have it.
Receiving a diagnosis is life changing. It can be devastating; it can be a relief. With a diagnosis comes a responsibility to take action based off of the information that has now been received. There is now an opportunity to seek therapeutic intervention and to get help, whereas before it was only suffering without knowing why or what to do about it.
It's a disgusting trend that people are claiming to have a diagnosis for attention or even to rationalize their behavior. It needs to stop.
Sincerely, A legitimately ill mo-fo who will kick your ass if you're falsely claiming a disorder thinking it will save you from the consequences of shitty behavior.
#mental health matters#health and wellness#mental health#mental health support#actually mentally ill#personal development#mental illness#physical health#healthcare#therapy#psychology#disability#disabled#actually cptsd#actually schizoaffective#actually schizophrenic#actually bipolar#bipolar disorder#schizoaffective#disorder#delusion#attention seeking#this is bullshit#consequences#actually disabled#stigma#misinformation
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BESTIE HOW ARE WE FEELING ABOUT THE SOLDIER POET KING MUSIC VIDEO AND PINS
Im handling it pretty well.
#GOD they go spin#the oh hellos#I’m thinking about an Oh Hellos fanart tonight ngl#I absolutely go feral any time TOH drop out or hiding and give even the smallest gram of content#The new animation style in the music video has me desperately hoping for a reboot of Dear Wormwood with animations#Dear Wormwood is my favorite album ever created EVER so I am absolutely losing my goddamn marbles#This is a good sign for me considering I start seeking mental health support tomorrow
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Hey, guys. I don't usually post anything about my personal life on this page, and if I do it's usually vague, but I'm curious to get some thought, and maybe support, from the community during this next stage of my life.
I've battled with fairly major mental illness for at least half of my life but never had the option to attempt recovery or even address the issue in general. However, recently I have all but lost my ability to function and there seems to be no other option left but to seek help. I'll be having my first ever therapy session this month, and to be honest, I don't think I've even fully comprehended that yet. Feels like I have years worth of secrets, symptoms and stories to unbury from the depths of suppressed memory...
Does anyone have any advice, tips or thoughts on beginning therapy? Where to start? What to avoid? How to go about opening up? Good therapists versus bad therapists? I'll take anything you guys got.
Thanks 🖤🖤🖤
#ak thoughts#therapy#mental illness#mental health support#help#q&a#recovery#seeking advice#mentally ill#mental health#actually mentally ill#depression#anxiety#personal#q&a questions#im fine#disordered eating#personality disorder
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I’m like two steps short of making an Instagram story begging people for validation and kindness because I cannot find it in myself
#hahaha#queue#like#follow#reblog#my stuff#mine#text#text post#validation#external validation#i crave validation#i need validation#self validation#emotional validation#seeking validation#kindness#mentally ill#mental heath support#mentally fucked#mental illness#mental health#mentally exhausted#mentally tired#mentally drained#instagram#beg#begging#begging for attention#begging for it
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Never before have I asked help for my mental state from hospitals (I always have talked with my sis or friends) but today I simply had to. I honestly felt I can't anymore, that everything is falling on me etc. Lots of horrible feelings.
So I walked to local hospital, meeting a nurse in the waiting area. She looked at me and asked what I am there for. I instantly burst into tears, saying I just can't anymore. She rushed to hug me, asking am I having mental issues. I said yes and she instantly escorted me in small waiting room. She stood by my side, rubbing my back and shoulder as I told her everything. She bend to hug me more, holding me. She was so sweet and kind. She told me to wait while she would go get a doctor.
Doctor came and took me in his personal room. He said nurse already had told him what's going on but he wanted to hear it all from me too. I started to cry hard again, telling him everything. I told him I've been having issues to sleep for 3 weeks now, I just can't go on alone anymore, I have been having depression symptoms for years, no longer I get joy from things which brought me joy in the past, I can't eat and I drink very little, I see nightmares every night, I wake up sweating, I get panic-, anxiety- and depression attacks etc.
He listened to me while writing notes to himself, asking things carefully at times. He finally said that he can give me pills (I get them tomorrow from pharmacy) which are now first-aid to my situation. They help me sleep better and reduce my symptoms. However, he was very firm, in gentle way, when he said that in Monday I need to contact my own hospital and go there to talk with therapist and get better medication for depression. He was especially worried since my sleep issues have been going on for 3 weeks now.
I told him I've try to go on on my own in life, thinking my depression symptoms are actually symptoms of being bored and nothing more. I also admitted that I can't go more further on my own anymore. That I have come to my point of asking help.
He smiled gently while looking in my eyes, saying: "I am happy you are here now."
So, tomorrow I get the pills from local pharmacy and on Monday I can book a time for nurse / doctor online, telling them everything there and see how things start to go from there.
I feel a bit more relieved now but there's still these anxious feelings and thoughts, bringing fear and panic attacks. And tears. Lots and lots of tears.
#text#neis life#depression#mental health issues#mental health#support#doctor visit#he was young and so super nice#as well as the nurse#so lovely people#I am glad I went to seek help
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I really think you're telling on yourself if you actually think that people are diagnosing themselves with every and any mental disorder in the DSM-5 from a tiktok. chronically online of you to think this tbh. it's giving, "I don't actually talk to people irl and all my information about this is from social media."
#mental health#i mean yeah I'm sure there are people who ''fake'' a mental disorder for ''attention''#or who don't do their due diligence and just go around saying they have x disorder#but i don't think that's even a considerable enough percentage of people#to justify the moral panic regarding self diagnosis#imo self diagnosis is a crucial step in seeking mental health support ANYWAYS#like#the same happens ALL THE TIME with physical health issues#it's very fucking normal to think ''i think i have a cold'' take steps to remedy that at home#and when that does not work then seek additional treatment#and then you either get diagnosed with what you thought you had and you just need prescribed medication#or you actually have something else in which case THINKING YOU WERE SICK WAS STILL A CRUCIAL STEP
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Hi ray! Umm well I’m not good at expressing feelings but um. I really love your blog it’s like a happy place for me. I’ve not been doing well this past few months. It’s a repeat cycle of being ok, relapsing and feeling my mental health go down the drain and crying then back to being ok. And right now I can’t seem to cry about what happened but umm. I’m not sure feeling numb is good too? I’m just really confused about how I feel and I don’t know who to talk to. But I really love how your blog is a safe haven for me. So yeah, thanks for listening to me rambling
#submission#Aw darling I'm so sorry you're having a rough time#I hope you have a support system you can reach out to#family or friends or a mental health resource at work or school or in your community#seriously don't be afraid to seek professional help#there's no shame and that's what it's there for#either way though I'm glad i can be a bit of a bright spot and i'm here if you need to talk
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I can't stand being open about negative emotions, but covering them up feels like a fucking knife to the chest.
I think it's because the system is autistic and misses social cues / boundaries, so Grey has overshared and accidentally put too much on people in the past.
And from a combination of autism trauma + abuse & us not actually knowing the line between healthy sharing/support and Too Much, my brain processed it as "if you admit you're having a hard time or ask for support, they won't love you"
#ed mention in tags /#some social rules actually are useful and are good to mind.#i just need to take away the emotional association with ''if you break this social rule you're unlovable and deserve abuse and you should#be deeply ashamed"#if it's a valid rule then i should follow it because it's healthy for all involved. not because i'm terrified and have a deep hatred of#myself.#it reminds me of the concept of intuitive eating. except... idk if our autistic ass actually has a natural feel for things when applied to#social situations#which ig is why i based my identity around perfectly following social standards. that's all i have if i want to be accepted.#venting/seeking support in moderation + being there for other people + focusing on others not just yourself + other stuff i cant#think of right now... these are all healthy#in the same way that sugar in moderation + vegetables + exercise are healthy#but my associations aren't with health. they're with threats. so it's hard to approach and mentally process in a healthy way and it's#hard not to take ''''healthy'''' stuff so far that it destroys my life
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Embracing Self-Care: Prioritizing Yourself in a Hectic World
What could you do more of? Written by Delvin In today’s fast-paced and demanding world, it’s easy to get caught up in the never-ending cycle of responsibilities and obligations. Amidst the chaos, we often forget to prioritize the most important person in our lives: ourselves. Self-care is not selfish; it is a crucial aspect of leading a fulfilling and balanced life. In this blog post, we will…
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#Believe in Yourself#dailyprompt#dailyprompt-2070#Embrace Me Time#Mental Health#Mental Wellness#Practice Self Care Rituals#Prioritize Physical Well-Being#Seek Support#Self Care#Set Boundaries
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#the despair continues#all of the options available to me make me feel catatonic w depression and demotivation#i want to seek my rights within the uni department but i dont want to rock the boat too much#but like. i have to resort to begging and asking this that might seem ungrateful bc im unable to cope#be a mental health training department. create the perfect conditions for disadvantaged students to become more mentally ill#thanks guys! really in touch w the current state of the economy and your students' needs!! and w their mental wellbeing! good job#:))#meant to be finishing my diss and last couple of weeks in the uni house but im too sad to do anything properly#my parents are reassuring me that everythings fine and they will help me#im rly thankful to them ofc#but the fact that i will have to rely to heavily on their support when im gonna be WORKING FULL TIME#and the most ideal option for my mental health will be the most expensive option for myself and everyone in the family#so theres no winning. im fucked over either way#i cant even take this to a therapist bc the only thing that would help is financial assistance#i hope that the bursary ppl response and are sympathetic to my situation#og post#personal
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Helping Teens Reduce Self-Imposed Pressure: A Comprehensive Guide
In today’s fast-paced and competitive world, teenagers often find themselves under immense pressure to excel academically, socially, and in various other aspects of their lives. This self-imposed pressure can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout. As parents, educators, and mentors, it’s crucial to provide guidance and support to help teens navigate these challenges and learn to put less…
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#Academic pressure#Adolescent well-being#Coping strategies for teens#Educator support for teens#Goal setting for teens#Growth mindset#Mentorship for adolescents#Open communication#Overcoming perfectionism#Parenting tips for teens#Redefining success for teens#Resilience building#Seeking professional help for teens#Self-imposed pressure#Setting healthy boundaries#Stress management#Teen mental health#Teen self-care#Teenagers#Time management strategies
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I have something I've taken to call "itchy brain" where I'll suddenly start interpreting things in a very paranoid, personal way. People are against me. They're arguing with me just to argue. They're deliberately misinterpreting me. They don't care at all or they care too much. It genuinely feels like I have a sort of itch in my consciousness and I can't stop scratching it until it bleeds. I'll freak out and start begging them to tell me what's really going on or I'll start ranting about how what they said came off to me. I'll just start crying as I get in a spiral of trying to explain myself.
And then it stops.
Suddenly, I become completely aware of just how insane I'm acting. It's like this flood of negative emotions just evaporates. Which is weird because you think I'd still feel it from all the stress hormones. But no, suddenly I'm back to normal, albeit very embarrassed about my behavior over the past few minutes.
Most things I've looked into require you to feel it a lot longer-term, like days at the minimum. But it only lasts a few minutes, and I can go weeks without this problem. Intermittent explosive disorder might fit better, but it's not anger. It's fear and hurt and confusion. It might be a trauma trigger, but what could possibly be triggering it and why, I have no idea. It's not an autistic meltdown, those feel different. More overwhelming, less itchy.
IDK, Tumblr seems to be good at diagnosing brainwrong. If anyone knows wtf is up with me, please let me know, and share this if you don't.
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I really just saw someone, on this website, tell a person who felt disturbed by a friend’s suicidal thoughts that maybe the friend shouldn’t have unloaded on them like that.
Are you fucking kidding me?? What are people supposed to do, then? Keep that shit shoved so deep inside them that they actually end up killing themselves??
I understand it can be really disturbing to hear that shit from someone who’s close to you, but bearing that discomfort is in fact necessary because maybe people need a friend’s support before seeking professional help. And that discomfort is nowhere nearly as bad as the pain of losing a friend. Get over yourselves.
#Johanna speaks#suicide tw#suicidal ideation tw#I would’ve killed myself in my early teens if one of my friends’ mum hadn’t called my mum to tell her I was saying weird shit at school#like. I get that it might’ve felt super uncomfortable to my friend and her mum but it literally saved my life#A few years ago I thought we were making a lot of progress when it came to destigmatising mental health issues#but I feel that what we have now - at least in online communities - is this very surface level kind of support#and still such an individualistic approach to this kind of issues.#Sometimes being a good friend means being uncomfortable if that means you’re helping your friend out#also if we look at how men struggle with mental health in particular this is such a dangerous way of thinking#bc so many men already find it so difficult to be vulnerable and seek help and that ends up killing them. Just think for a second please.#Anyway the person whose friend was struggling didn’t think like this but that comment just pissed me off so much
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