#mental health advice

[selfcarereminder]

hey if ur reading this and ur in a bad spot mentally or anything i hope u feel better soon and have a good day

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

When somone says "after all I've done for you" they are revealing that what they did for you was not for you at all, but their own need to control you. Their generosity was just a contract with hidden terms of compliance. Breach the contract and you become the problem.

via coachingwithspyro

[theereina]

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

Rarely ever be emotional. Your default is under emotional. Always observing, looking at how you can turn certain events to have a favorable outcome for you and where you can benefit from. Save your emotions for your children or your pets or for when you write or paint or express yourself. Save it for your journal to put them all down in and sort through them. Process your emotions in private, with someone you trust, or with a therapist. Practice mental hygiene every night where you put them down on paper or say them out loud. But your emotions are a currency.

Say you only have so much currency to spend every day. Would you be giving them out as freely as you do and to people who didn’t even ask for it?

[mental-ch-illness]

my best advice is to do the easiest thing you can do right now. pick one item of trash up and throw it away. put the toothbrush back in its holder. hang the towel up. put an article of clothing in the hamper. by doing just one of those you’ve achieved 100% more than you would’ve otherwise. having 99 problems will always be better than having 100 problems, full stop.

[yaseraphine]

RANT ABOUT THERAPY AND WHY IT'S NOT MY CUP OF TEA 🤡

+ trying to guess the therapist's rising and our synastry and ranting about it cause I am tired man (and too sensitive lol)

Really messy post btw just a disclaimer lol

(Update 23/11/24 : I might have slightly overreacted 🤡😀😁 lol plus maybe the therapist was actually a Taurus rising lol idk man I am confused as fuck about everything bye 😝🤪🫡)

Just had my first therapist appointment since 2021 and what can I say....it was REALLY awkward. I don't know how people are able to spill their deepest traumas like that bro she just sat down and told me to talk 💀 like what I thought she would interview me or start the first appointment with pre-made questions to make a profile, regarding my background, family relationships,etc .. It was really messy and I was so confused throughout the whole thing.

I understand it's a privilege to afford therapy (it was 60euros for 45 minutes lol of course it is) but it is much more complex than just spilling your guts to a random with a degree.

Something about me is that I always thought i didn't really need therapy, no matter how painful a situation was for me. And it wasn't only therapy, it was also opening up to my own friends 💀 i could take care of myself like i always did anyways so whats the point of paying for it ? I understood people who needed it and felt helped by it. But it just wasn't for me. I have realizations on my own consistantly thanks to my self-awareness and trained and developped intuition.

What pushed me to go back to therapy even though i was , and still am, very skeptical in its effectiveness on me, is that this year, I realized asking for help won't actually kill me and that i have my limits as a human being.

I fear this appointment just unfortunately kind of validated my initial more negative feelings towards therapy and the idea that I don't really need it.

As a really introspective and painfully self-aware person who has a hard time asking for help (but is actively working on it), I really don't know what kind of therapy could help me, really. I know I probably have a few blind spots, but it's so out of my comfort zone to open up like that. I kind of hate it.

I want to keep an open mind, and probably try another therapist but damn if I don't f*ck with any, it just feels forced .. I trust divine timing for that because I don't really want to put myself in such a situation again.

Right now, I feel dirty knowing a random woman knows about my deepest traumas in a really messy and all over the place way. She has fragments of my soul, and despite me having somewhat giving my consent for it, it was too fast. Maybe it's my 8th house moon conjunct Lilith (1181) in Leo that is speaking but I feel literally violated. Strong words but this how uncomfortable it was for me.

Guessing the therapist's rising sign and ranting about 12th house synastry...

Random but I think the therapist in question had a Virgo or Leo rising... I already said it's the most common rising signs (especially virgo) and I am losing patience. We probably had a 12th house synastry that's why our exchange was really weird and scattered. She kept on making weird faces while I was talking telling me she didn't understand what I was trying to say.... I know it all too well because EVERY single person I knew or had interacted with that had a leo rising, my interactions with them were like this. I was saying stuff and it felt like it went in one ear and got out in the other. Like they could hear me but not listen and understand what i was trying to say. This kind of reminds me of Willy Wonka's relationship with Mike TV or wth his name is, in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory Tim Burton's movie. Wonka always said stuff to him whenever he opened his mouth like "I cannot hear a single thing you say because you're speaking gibberish"or whatever. (Me being Mike TV and Leo risings being Willy Wonka).

This is how every single one of my interactions with Leo risings went, no matter their gender or age. It was always like that.

[schizodiaries]

For the most part, I’m pretty open about the details my mental health, at least in certain online spaces such as this blog. I don’t feel ashamed of my experiences, nor do I feel like i have anything to hide. I also want to set a good example for others who might be struggling mentally, by showing that it’s okay to talk about this stuff openly and without shame.

That being said, I just want to remind you guys, especially younger folks like teenagers, to be careful about what you share online and who you share it with. It’s easy to feel like everyone in online mental health circles are your friends who will accept you wholeheartedly, but there are some shitty people out there too. People who will intentionally try to trigger you, people who will use your trauma against you, people who will try to out you as mentally ill when you’re not ready to open up about it, people who will take advantage of your vulnerabilities. It’s easy to say just avoid or block these people but they aren’t always apparent with their intentions.

So before you share sensitive details of your mental health online, ask yourself: will I be able to handle it if someone who hates me gets ahold of this information?

[bismutharts]

a zine about how to rest

as usual with my zines with advice, i hope it helps some people, i know it won't help everyone

this is part of my project to make a zine a day in april

also i'll probably put this zine (possibly a version 2 of it) and other printable zines up on gumroad for pay-what-you-want at some point, tell me if you want to be tagged when that happens

[cranes-menagerie]

To everyone who is scared right now,

I know things are bad right now. People are scared for their future, for their family, for people they love, for themselves. It doesn't help that media likes to sensationalize tragedy and make it so that all we see are the ugly parts of our lives.

Don't forget the good parts, though. Don't forget the parts and people in your life that are there for you no matter the state of the world.

Those people who will sacrifice sleep for you just to make sure you're OK.

The people who fight tooth and nail for your future.

Those who do everything they can to make sure you feel loved, accepted, and heard.

There are people who love you.

Whether it be platonic, romantic, familial, or any other form.

Part of the reason why I work on the man of tomorrow is because I feel the world needs a character who embodies the innate kindness that humans have

It's a reminder to myself that things get better, people get better, that I can get better.

The world we live in is one full of hate, fascism and bigotry, and that can make it hard to see the love and acceptance that also fills our world.

Try your best to find and/or be that source of love and acceptance, to be kind

Find little victories that you have done in your day, check in on your friends and family, do things that make yourself feel loved and happy.

We can do this if we stick together, be with our families, both biological and found.

Suffering in lonely silence only causes worsening feelings, I know this very well...

The brightest sunshines rise after the darkest nights, things will work out for you, they will work out for all of us.

Remember that you aren't alone and that you are loved by people around you.

[mindfulness-matters]

try to be curious, not concerned. when your anxiety rises again, ask yourself: ‘so what? what would be the worst that could happen? I stutter and get nervous? big deal. I have nothing to fear. let it happen, whatever it may be.’ by accepting the possibility of a negative outcome and being okay with it, you no longer give the fear of anxiety any power over you. over time, your anxiety will become powerless.

[selfcarereminder]

hey if ur reading this and ur in a bad spot mentally or anything i hope u feel better soon and have a good day

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

do not do engineering/medical courses just to satisfy your parents and shut them up for temporary peace, in the long race it will ruin your mental and physical health and it backfires in the worst possible ways.

[theereina]

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

Daily reminder 🤍

You are worthy of receiving love. Just like that. For who you are right now at this very moment. You have been worth being loved every step, every minute of your life and you always will be. Let that sink in.

It is safe to give love. You will not run out of it for giving it out. On the contrary, your capacity to hold love in your heart grows as you give love. You won’t run out. I promise.

It is the most natural thing to give, receive and want love. Please don’t deprive yourself of that beautiful gift.

[mossy-petrichor]

Mossy Petrichor's healthy coping 101

Do you always dissociate from distressing situations, repress strong emotions or deal with stress by self harming? Do you have 0 idea what it means when people talk about "coping"? This post is for you!

I usually see this happen a lot in people who were emotionally neglected (like yours truly), which is unfortunately really common, but no less traumatizing

Psa: all of this is based off my own experience, as someone who also had no idea how to cope and learned it by themselves. This isn't medical advice!

So, what does coping mean?

When you go through a stressful situation, you can feel your emotions at a 10/10. To cope is to bring this down so you don't lose your mind. This can apply to anger, sadness, hopelessness, fear

I like to separate coping into two ways:

Expressing the emotions in a healthy way

Calming yourself and bringing the emotions down (when you can't express them, or when those emotions do more harm than good)

I usually go by 1, but 2 can be used for when, for example, feeling angry at someone who can't change. So you keep feeling this anger that you can't do anything about, and it'll just make you feel worse to keep feeling it whenever you look at this person

Here's some things to make sure to do if you're feeling shitty:

Drink water

Eat a meal

Shower/bathe

Take a nap

Move your body (go outside if you can)

Socialize, talk to friends

(think of yourself as an animal in the zoo. If you noticed them feeling bad, what would you do to make them feel better?)

Here's some examples of how to express emotions healthily:

Singing loudly, screaming, humming, stimming verbally, talking to yourself out loud about what made you feel bad

Acting, drawing, painting (it doesn't have to be perfect! Just express whatever those emotions feel like, in whichever way feels right)

Writing poetry, visual poetry, making playlists, writing (like projecting into a character, make them do the things you wish you could do to cope)

Writing about how you feel, crying, venting (can be counterproductive, so if you feel like venting is just making things worse, try something else!)

Dancing, jumping, running/walking, exercising, cleaning, stimming physically

Ripping paper, chewing on something

Baking or cooking, going outside, playing with animals, gardening, taking pictures

Here's some examples of how to calm your emotions when you can't express them:

Watch something that makes you laugh

Consume comfort media (make a list! Videos, series, movies, books, songs)

Play a chill game

Make a list of things that make you happy and read it

Listening to music

Taking deep breaths, tensing and relaxing your muscles

Engage with things that make you happy (a hobby, art, an interest)

Meditation, sitting and thinking about your emotions

This isn't an extensive list! Coping is a very personal thing, and all of these are suggestions if you don't know where to start! In the beginning, it can (and will) feel like it doesn't do anything, because you're used to immediate solutions to make you stop feeling unpleasant emotions, and healthy coping mechanisms don't work immediately - it's a long term thing

Some of these can make you feel worse, in which case you should just try something else. As I said, they won't immediately make you feel better until you're more used to coping healthily

Eventually, you'll reach a point where it feels more intuitive and less forceful and uncomfortable, but you have to get past this first phase! It's like building a muscle, and it takes work. With practice, you'll figure out what works best for you and what doesn't

I promise it gets easier :•)

[fella-lovin-fella]

hey by the way, if anyone wants access to dbt packets but dont have a therapist/cant afford one, let me know and i can send you PDFs of the ones i have. there shouldn't be a paywall to mental health. ily we're in this together <3