#seeking support

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

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[aceofwhump]

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[hawkeyesgirl]

My fiancé’s unemployment is getting cut off this month, and unfortunately my job doesn’t pay all our bills. He’s been looking for work for 6 months with no luck. We’ve economized to death and the hits keeps coming.

We won’t make rent next month, and probably won’t have enough for groceries to last this month (our EBT may also be cut off). We also have his dad and our dog to support/feed.

Please, anything will help.

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[homicidalwhumper]

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[rottingbiogirl]

Difference between an unhealthy inability to be alone and healthy and understandable need for love, community and physical affection??

[vent post because I only go to therapy once every two weeks]

I kinda only have one close friend I can hangout with once or twice a week (with an occassional sleepover). And she is amazing, I love her, but I wish I could be around people that understand me and whom I feel close to… every day? Is that bad?

I genuinely enjoy being alone, wouldn’t want to be around people all the time, and I’m honestly REAAALLY picky about who I want to be friends with, so it’s not like I’m just jumping on every opportunity to socialize just to not be alone.

I’m currently in a position where I kinda don’t have a social group because I don’t go to school and I work from home. And I think the issue is I just need to be around people who get me? Physically, not just online! But also loud crowded places are uncomfortable… so the ideal situation would be like a 90’s sitcom deal where all my best friends live in the apartment nextdoor. But that’s not my reality…

Maybe it’s a family issue? But my family is fine. They’re just not zoomer queers who have the same interests as me. Which is… okay? I don’t know, are you meant to just… fulfil your daily need for community quota by hanging out with your parents and potential sibling(s)? That seems… unrealistic?

Is this just gonna be my life now?

I guess I could eventually move in with some queer friends (would be more realistic money-wise too) and then I’d be guaranteed to have some community time every day even if my work or school social group sucks.

I don’t know, I just- can’t tell if these feelings are a normal response to a bad and alienating circumstance or if I just need to work on being even more okay spending so much time alone.

[multiplicity-positivity]

is there any way i can get someone in my system to help me ?

i have a slightly dangerous thing i do and i need help (tho im looking into fixing it myself i hope my sys can help me too..)

can i like. get someone to take up a system role ? or switch roles? despite my system most likely being created to protect me we suckkkk at that :/ i just mostly need someone to stop me from doing anything dangerous but our main protector only fronts during abuse or situations that remind us of it ,, and i forgot if we have anyone else like him

(yes, i am working on it, dont worry. im trying to help myself. )

hey. it sounds like you’re in a pretty rough situation - we’re sorry you’re going through this!

in general, we think it’s a bad idea to ask or expect your headmates to do things for you that they may not want to do or be able to do, for that matter. still, we know that having support from other members within a system can be immensely beneficial.

have you tried communicating with your headmates about this activity, your concerns, and how they may be willing to help put a stop to it while detailing what actions you currently are taking to change? ultimately it will be your responsibility to commit to positive change, but having a headmate who supports your efforts can make a world of difference. be ready to respect their choices though, and understand if they’re unwilling or unable to help you with this! they may have their own problems to deal with, be physically incapable of intervening, or have some other reason for not helping you commit to changing your actions.

it also may be a good idea for you to seek some outside help from a loved one, therapist, or close friend. they may be willing to let you reach out to them when you feel like doing something dangerous, to help distract you and give you a chance to calm down. we think something like this could be even more beneficial than relying on a headmate inside to keep you from doing dangerous things.

if you tend to act dangerously when feeling overwhelmed… we’ve found that dialectical behavioral therapy skills are incredibly useful for learning how to effectively manage overwhelming emotions. you can get the dbt workbook we use for like $15 usd on amazon:

and here’s a post we made discussing the dbt skill, rest (an acronym for relax, evaluate, set an intention, and take action) which really helps us when we’re feeling overwhelmed:

other than this, though, i’m afraid there’s not much else we can offer besides wishing you the best of luck with this.

we know you said you’re working on it and trying to help yourself. we also know committing to positive change can be ridiculously difficult and exhausting. sometimes it may seem hopeless... but please remember that there’s always hope! we believe in you, and we know that with the right tools and enough support you can do what it takes to help yourself change for the better! you got this!!

🐢 kip and 💫 parker

[artisticdivasworld]

Unmasking Gaslighting

Recognizing, Protecting Yourself, and Overcoming Its Effects “Gaslighting is a subtle form of emotional abuse in which a person or group makes someone question their sanity, memory, or perceptions.” – Robin Stern In the realm of psychological abuse, there exists a particularly insidious tactic known as gaslighting. This blog post will explore the concept of gaslighting, its meaning, its…

[mental-health-advice]

What type of therapy would be useful for someone who is depressed because they're disabled? I tried CBT and it didn't work because my symptoms are not a distorted thought (don't reply if not on anon)

Hey there,

As you know there are many different types of therapies out there that may or may not be helpful for you. I guess it really depends on what you are wanting to get out of therapy and what kinds of things you find helpful for yourself – it’s completely OK to not know what works best for you first up too as part of therapy is learning different ways of coping and interpreting things in a given situation whilst also growing as a person, learning and working on yourself and of course your own personal goals.

People suffer from depression and struggle with it for many different reasons and sometimes it just appears for no apparent reason. A good starting point for anyone seeking therapy and ongoing therapeutic support would be to see your local doctor or GP. They will be most likely to know what is available to you in your local community or surrounds and what therapy may be best for you.

It can be so hard to know straight off the hat what kind of therapy you would most likely benefit from and you may need to try a few different therapies to see which one works best for you or even a combination of one-to-one therapy and/ or group therapy. Your doctor is a great starting point though and I encourage you to check out this link on getting help which may help you to know what types of therapies are out there and how you can go about talking to your doctor about your depression and wanting to seek help and support.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I hope you’re going OK!

Take care,

Lauren

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[voidedvisions]

currently trying to re build my life after my health imploded then exploded everything around me because i wasnt able to keep up with any of the major stresses in my life n had no idea how to seek support in that time . slowly learning to trust myself and others again.

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[cyber-soul-smartz]

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[truenarracounseling]

If you experience constant feelings of sadness or anxiety that don’t seem to lift, it might be a sign to seek help. Persistent negative emotions can significantly affect your quality of life and overall well-being. Mental health counseling can provide the support you need to navigate these emotions and find effective ways to manage them.

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