#relationship to the unseen

[kagoutiss]

din’s champion

[teddybearsims]

warning: she bites

[unladyboss]

SCENES THEY FILMED THAT WEREN'T IN SEASON 3 THE BEAR

I don't think these are deleted scenes, just scenes we haven't seen as yet

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[howifeltabouthim]

'You can look at someone your whole life and never see them.'

Jenn Lyons, from The Ruin of Kings

[designernishiki]

tbh it really feels to me that y3 was implying/hinting at minedai having had at least some sort of under the radar romantic relationship, rather than just mine alone having an extreme one-sided obsession with daigo– like… based on how daigo talks to him and how immediately concerned he is for mine, all of which right after mine admits outright that he Loves (capital L) him to kiryu and all that… it feels more like a reveal of their relationship having been romantic than a reveal of mine’s feelings alone. I need to lay down

[hussyknee]

Fiction (and sometimes real life) has this tendency to frame a character's stubborn belief in people's goodness in the teeth of all evidence as a virtue. As in, not when the person being judged acts seemingly out of character. It's wise to give aberrant behaviour the benefit of doubt. But consistently apologizing for and ascribing good intent to actions that clearly show a bad character, and then refusing to accept that this person is exactly as bad as the trail of victims they've left behind prove them to be— this is not a mark of goodness and kindness.

Wilful blindness and stupidity don't showcase a generosity of spirit. That's simply the need to cling to your own preconceptions for the sake of your own comfort. It's not kind or fair to defend perpetrators at the expense of the people suffering because of them; and infantilizing and finding excuses for people isn't mercy, it's apologia. ("He was a good boy who fell under bad influence" "Ma'am, he's 28 and sold out his own family to pay his gambling debts.") In both fiction and real life, you should be able to look at the situation and choose to safeguard and defend the victimized and vulnerable first and foremost. To accept that you might be wrong, your faith might be misplaced, and prioritise safety, justice and accountability for all the people who are or might be suffering at your friend or family's hands. Because not doing that— not believing victims, apologizing for and defending abusers, centering the perpetrator's interiority instead of the impacted victim's reality— that's just the default evil of real life.

If you being a pure, loyal little cinnamon roll throws other people under the bus, then you aren't actually a cinnamon roll. You're just complicit, enabling and endangering.

[torchwood-99]

Ok, been sitting on this for a while, been trying to talk myself out of it, but here goes.

The book doesn't sell me on the love Theoden had for Eowyn.

I tried to read it and find something in his actions towards her that tell me he has proper regard, proper respect for her, that gives any weight or meaning to his love for her, but I can't find anything. He dismisses her before the entire court, doesn't consider her an heir or a proper part of his house, and has to have her virtues called out to him by other people, when she has been serving him for years.

Return Of The King sees him spout platitudes and declare her "dearer than daughter", but none of this is backed up by his general actions to her.

He loves Eowyn, fine. But he doesn't love her the way he loves Eomer, or probably loved Theodred. He doesn't love her as a fully realised being. Nor as someone to take pride in and carry on his legacy. He loves her a crutch, a tool, and something between pet and person.

He has affection for Eowyn, but his love feels more like a trivial thing, than something with any real worth or regard to it.

[gaphic]

i love it when you post some hot take about random discourse i have literally never heard of nor care even a little bit about. it's so fun (genuine). i feel like i need popcorn

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[treesofreverie]

But it sometimes seemed like she still couldn't see through me, still chose to believe in a version of who I was that we both knew no longer existed.

You Exist Too Much by Zaina Arafat

[cat-eye-nebula]

A common dynamic between avoidant attachment and anxious attachment. (Video by Psychologist Dr LePera)

[thebirdandhersong]

But where do I put all this love? It's inside of me, growing and festering and threatening to explode out of me. Who do I give it to now? Where does it go? Where does it go to fade away? Where does it go to die a quiet death? There isn't a pair of familiar hands to receive it anymore, and no longer a welcoming mailbox waiting with its mouth open. Where does it all go and where should I put it? Who do I love now, the way I loved that boy?

[cruelsister-moved2]

i could never be straight and straight people arent real but if I was straight I would never live w my partner and if I wanted kids id find another woman to platonically raise kids w im not joking. I think before signing a tenancy/mortgage together every woman should have to read the literature on the housework gap

[unladyboss]

SYDNEY CHEF TERRY. SEASON 3 AND 4 THE BEAR

We know that Sydney's whole career in the industry kind of mirrors chef Terry's. From the small business building and failing, to inspiring Carmy, teaching others well and with patience, to running one of the best kitchens out there.

Maybe one day Sydney too will wake up and realize she doesn't want to do it anymore

Because what does it even mean to have a star and have the best little fancy restaurant when all that it brought was heartache?

Or you can't even live your life and enjoy it?

What is Sydneys motivation? And will that motivation last forever once she's worked out her own issues

How does her mom (and dad) fit in to all of this?

Because:

The fancy stuff is dusty

The fancy restaurant made ketchup is gross anyway

It's pulling Carmy away from her. He wants to get it FOR her not with her

They're not 'getting it together '

What if she realizes finally that just showing up and being present is the 'doing the most' that she should be doing?

We saw some BTS stuff being filmed where she and Carmy are together at the old BEEF ( but how could that be with her wearing the chef coat CARMY gave her)

Maybe that's part of what should be...

What if watching Carmy go through what he is going through was meant to ALSO teach HER about that thing inside her that was broken (that thing Richie pointed out in season 1 episode 7)

[lingeringscars]

Shauna always felt like jackie treated her like a doll. Jackie chose her clothes, her makeup, who she should date, and I'm almost certain jackie was the one who got shauna to try out for soccer. (I don't even like soccer!). Shauna never felt like a whole person with jackie (I don't know where you end and I begin) and at times felt like she was just a reflection of who jackie wanted her to be

Shauna resented jackie for this.

Jackie died for that resentment.

Shauna then treating Jackie's corpse as her own doll two months later. Literally envisioning jackie saying shauna was hopeless at applying makeup so she always had to do it as she did Jackie's makeup. The level that shauna is taking back control while talking to Jackie's corpse is astounding, especially when she ends up literally consuming everything jackie is.

She becomes jackie; she becomes what jackie would have been had she survived. Jackie controlled every aspect of shaunas life while she was alive and she still controls it now that she's dead.

[rubyredbonnetblue]

Listen.... I know full well why I’m crushing so hard on Prince Eric and we’re just gonna embrace it

[gregor-samsung]

Sekala Niskala [The Seen and Unseen] (Kamila Andini - 2017)