#post top surgery advice

[varney-sioux]

So I have officially had top surgery. Tomorrow will be the start of my forth week since top surgery and final week of wearing the compression vest.

I was wondering if anyone had tips on getting moving and active (slowly, within restrictions) to gently get moving again? Like physical therapy exercises I can do at home, if anyone has ever had any. My surgeon is unfortunately new to top surgery and doesn't have allot of resources for that stuff. They certainly seem to know what they're doing surgically, but just haven't been at it long enough to I guess develop knowledge of this type of stuff to recommend. I'm definitely going to request to go to physical therapy as soon as I'm able to get ahold of my pain doctor. But I just was wondering if anyone knew things to get me started at home, because I feel like there has to be someone with resources out there that I'm not finding.

[that-trans-lad]

Okay flood me with advice, my fiancé left me I’m still madly in love and of course I believe I always will with her but she does not feel the same anymore. I’m finding it incredibly difficult to move on. I have lack of control of my overthinking mind and it’s been destructive.

[sapphicslut777]

today is by far the worst day post op (4 days po).. i’ve been sobbing since 7:30 in the morning. everything hurts and everything itches. i’m running out of guaze/abdominal pads already. i’m so constipated that wearing my binder hurts my stomach. and i’m overall terrified every time i have to wash and touch my incisions. i feel like i’m an absolute nightmare for the person taking care of me. i really just want to crawl into a hole and die there.

[leqsr]

Haven't been on tumblr in. A hot second. But let me tell you!!! Anyone getting top surgery or any surgery in general thwt will reduce your upper body mobility (mostly arms) get a fuckin poncho. Now!!! Make one out of an old blanket. It is the best thing I've done for myself post op. I can't put on normal shirts and robes are too hot and I can't move my arms much. Poncho. Boom! I'm warm! I can vent easily (moving the bottom to increase air flow)and it's easy to take off. Get urself a poncho.

[thethingything]

so apparently the side effects from the metronidazole got to us so much that now I get to have recurring nightmares about it.

some of the side effects we had happened to match up with the symptoms of the start of a much worse reaction you can have to those meds, and luckily it didn't end up being that, but we spent a few days absolutely terrified by the possibility of it, and clearly that was enough because now we're having nightmares about getting that much worse reaction.

I guess we'll see if that calms down any time soon, but given everything that's happened over the last few months I get the feeling that once we've gotten stuff sorted and things calm down a bit and our brain starts processing everything we're gonna realise just how much all this has fucked us up and trying to process and deal with it all is gonna be exhausting

[kingofsmalldeath]

anyone else who had to wear post op binder got rib pains from it? :( i don't know if i should make it looser or not but its starting to be kinda bothersome especially at the bottom where it rolls up a bit

[pretty-little-martyr]

trying to find a good post-top surgery med binder online and boy fucking howdy is it hard. i cant tell what brand(s) are the best or even going to work at all esp wrt the drains and stuff. does anyone have any recs

[boypussydilf]

its really funny that like. adventure time often is a profound and meaningful and affecting show but like- all the most popular quotes that get passed around as these beautiful things tend to be, like, bullshit when actually in context. Especially if Jake said it. saw a post the other day that said like “jake will give the most life changing advice but its just to cover for his own personality flaws”. “sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something” is immediately followed by finn and jake performing plastic surgery with no training. his spiel about how rules and laws are made to benefit and protect the people who are already on top and keep everyone else down is just him trying to justify not paying rent to his son or something. marceline says “i don’t think there are bad people just that sometimes good people make mistakes and that’s not bad” and that’s great but the context is that she and LSP just assaulted multiple people for no reason, stole from a woman and then ran her over with her own car and locked her in the trunk

[parasocial-work]

HOW DO YOU HANDLE THE SCAR HEALING ITCHIES ???? HOW

[lessi-lover]

the not so very well hidden II b.mead x v.miedema

summary: beth seeks help on how to manage with a newborn baby ★ the not so very well hidden II b.mead x v.mediema

beth and viv hadn't exactly tried to hide you away from anyone. it was just how it seemed to work out in the scheme of it all. with the amount of commitment it took to get through not one but two acl injuries, announcing you was the last thing on their minds. and so, you stayed in shadows away from the media.

beth didn't exactly know how comfortable she felt sharing her and viv's journey of adopting you a couple months past the first round of surgeries, and she definitely wasn't sure of the reactions that would spur if they did tell end up telling anyone.

on the other hand, viv wasn't at all bothered about telling people that they had decided to adopt a baby girl. she honestly enjoyed watching the attention you relished in by her friends and family, although she didn't think she'd get used to them showing up unannounced.

they had kept it tame, only introducing you to a couple of family members, then their cousins and aunts and uncles, and then finally a few close friends. it had all gone perfectly, you and your inherent bubbly nature entertained all of their friends to no end and nobody could stir away from your toothy grin and loud giggles.

it was only when photos of beth and viv walking around with a toddler surfaced on twitter that beth realised how much you would actually be exposed if they were to reveal you to the world.

she didn't like the thought of that.

she wanted to keep your smiley face and bright eyes away from the cruelness of social media. she wanted your first steps and your first words to be a private moment that would just be for her and viv, so they kept you a secret.

"what's on your mind beth?" steph, one of beth's closest friends asked. the two of them had been sitting on the porch, the both of them sipping their tea in silence as they watched the last of the sunset.

the australian had been worried about her friend for a few weeks now, the usually cheerful blonde always the one to make everyone else smile, but lately she just seemed so distracted and out of it from what steph knew of her best friend.

beth sighed, setting her cup down on the wooden table. "it's about y/n." she began, her voice warm even as she spoke so worriedly. "i've been thinking a lot about whether or not we should tell everyone about her."

steph nodded, understanding immediately what her friend was talking about, she had seen a few posts about the 'mystery baby' online but chose not to mention it in spite of comforting beth. "you and viv have done a great job keeping everything private. but why the sudden concern?"

"photos of us with y/n are all over twitter," beth admitted. "it just made me realise just how much exposure to the public she would get if we went public with the whole adoption. i don't want to expose my baby to the harshness of social media."

"viv's not as worried about it," beth continued, trying her best to explain how she felt in hopes her friend could offer the advice she usually would. "she enjoys seeing buttercup interact with our friends and family. but for me, it's different."

steph was on the edge of her seat, her hand moving to beth's knee as she saw a few stray tears escape beth's eyes, the tears dampening her top as she tried to muffle her cries.

"mum never got to meet her, and that still hurts. by the time i realised how sick she really was, the adoption was out of the question and i just wanted to be with my mum."

steph squeezed beth's hand, her expression softening from the one she sported just ten minutes ago, never having seen the fellow blonde so distraught and upset. "i can’t imagine how hard that must have been for you, beth. your mum would have loved y/n."

beth nodded with her lip between her teeth, tears welling up in her bright eyes. "i know she would have. she always wanted to see me happy and having a family of my own. it just feels like sharing buttercup with the world is letting go of something so personal, something my mum never got to be a part of no matter how hard she tried to stay with us."

steph took a deep breath, choosing her next few words carefully, she didn't want to mess anything up given how hard it must have been for beth to share this with her. "you know, sharing buttercup doesn’t mean losing those moments you have as a family. you and viv can still have those special memories, you can control what you want to share and what you keep just for yourselves."

beth nodded, appreciating steph's support even when she had just thrown this into her hands with no warning. "viv and i didn't exactly hide buttercup. it just sort of happened with how everything ended up coming together. two acl injuries and the adoption process.. it was overwhelming to say the least."

"you've both been through a lot," steph acknowledged beth's words, nodding along so the blonde knew she was listening. "how did the the introduction to your family go?"

"it was perfect. little one charmed everyone who came. they couldn't get enough of her actually," beth smiled fondly at the memory. we started with close family and then we moved on to our other friends and of course you."

"see, she is already loved by so many," steph pointed out, remembering how you giggled when you first saw her and reached your small hands out to grab her hand to pull her even closer than the aussie had already been. "maybe it's time to let the rest of the world know. on your terms, of course."

beth sighed, deep in thought. "i just want to keep the special things private. those moments are for us to enjoy."

"and they will be," steph assured the blonde. "no matter what, those moments will always belong to you and viv. nobody can make them any less special than they are to you. you can control how much you share with the world."

beth looked at steph, her eyes filled with gratitude. "thanks, steph. i needed to hear that."

"anytime, beth. whatever you decide, i'm here for you," steph said, giving her friend a reassuring smile.

[fatmasc]

is it too much to ask that other trans ppl don't assume my gender? I make disclaimers on pinned posts, on posts about my transition, on advice I give all to hopefully avoid these assumptions. People see my beard, know I got top surgery, and call me transmasc. people hear my voice, know I was once on progesterone, and call me transfem. how many times must I say I'm neither? why did we have to go and invent gender binary 2.0? there are so many trans ppl like me who are neither. and not just nonbinary people! not just other intersex trans people! why did we create these labels to broaden the understanding of transsexuality if we are just going to treat it like they're the only ways to be trans

[ms-demeanor]

Going off that post about nutrition and science, I'd love to hear what you think of the 5:2 diet/The Fast 800 and its creator, Dr. Michael Mosley. For context: in order to get an NHS-funded breast reduction (it's a gender thing, but also just a general quality-of-life thing), I need to be a certain BMI, so I've been referred to a weight management clinic. The lady I've been seeing initially just put me on a low-carb diet (130g or less of carbs per day, with an aside from her about how bullshit Keto and BMI limits for treatment are), but now she's said that, if I wanted to speed up the weight loss, I should include the 5:2 diet: 5 days in a week where I eat "normally", and 2 fast days in which I restrict myself to 800kcals. I did a little looking into it myself, and found that 5:2 - which I HAD heard about before - is now being sold as part of "The Fast 800", with Dr. Mosley being the creator of it. I was shocked by that, because I was already a fan of Dr. Mosley's work (he has a podcast called "Just One Thing" that I really liked, and thought contained reasonable-sounding advice), and yet having a diet plan that he's clearly making money off of does immediately make me feel suspicious. I've borrowed his "The Fast 800" book from the library, both to find out more about the diet I've been put on and to see if it's at all backed by evidence, and he does cite a bunch of scientific studies which seem to back up his ideas, but I don't know how valid they are, and I don't just want to accept them at face-value (especially since he's a "we got fat completely wrong in the 80s, therefore we should eat a Mediterranean diet!" types). Obviously I'll go with what my weight management lady suggests, since she's obviously more qualified to talk about it than I am, but I am curious to know what you think, and whether I'm right to be distrustful of all of this.

I am, generally speaking, against any diet for rapid weight loss. They're not sustainable so people gain the weight back (often with more weight getting added on).

There have also recently been findings that suggest that BMI cutoffs for top surgery are detrimental to patients as patients in higher BMI categories are more likely to have minor complications like UTIs or to be readmitted, but are not likely to have major complications or be at risk of significant harm from having top surgery. I don't know if anybody will listen if you bring up that study, and I know that GCS is fraught in many places for many reasons.

I'm also just.

I'm so mad. I'm so fucking mad! I'm so mad about this!

One of my best friends is a guy who was pressured into a pattern of disordered eating and unhealthy exercise in order to qualify for top surgery; since then he has not been able to eat in a healthy way and has struggled with alternating between exercising to the point of harm and other destructive behaviors that make him unhappy and unsafe. And he didn't need that. He didn't need any of that! He needed a very safe surgery that had perhaps a slightly higher risk of minor complications at his size and instead he got top surgery and an eating disorder! I hate it! I'm so fucking mad about it!

Also as near as I can tell Michael Mosley qualified as a psychiatrist in the 90s, spent very little time working as a psychiatrist, and then became a media personality. From what is visible on his website and every biography I've found for him he apparently doesn't have any background in nutrition beyond whatever is standard for someone in medical school (which is NOT MUCH).

Hey I just looked at his website and this is straight-up fucked up.

Anybody recommending an 800 calorie a day diet for 2-12 weeks in a context that is not heavily medically supervised can fucking choke. That is *ridiculously* dangerous and the website says that this can improve insulin resistance but there are a shitload of studies about people on crash diets like this *developing* insulin resistance (oh hey like my friend who became prediabetic after his rapid significant weight loss).

Also in regard to the studies he cites on the website, the "two years later patients are still going strong in their diabetes improvements" it's really important to put shit like that in context

at 5 years 13% of the original intervention group were in remission from their type two diabetes; the average weight loss experienced by the intervention group as a whole was 6.1kg compared to 4.6kg in the control group. That's 1.5kg lower for the people who went through a twelve week medically supervised very low calorie diet compared. That's an average difference of 3.3 pounds between "starvation diet" and "no diet" for the Americans in the audience.

Yours is the second comment I've seen that has been leery of the Mediterranean diet, btw, and the Mediterranean diet is fine. It's very achievable and not super gimmicky and is based on very reasonable reassessments of fat, not the hardcore "you are fine to eat 100g of fat a day" kind of attitude that you get from the keto crew. There isn't really one Mediterranean diet and it certainly isn't low carb (which the bits from Mosely's website seem to indicate it is).

So, no, honestly I don't think much of Mosely and I'm very sorry you're in this situation, that sucks and I hate that they're refusing you treatment until you undergo an exceptionally difficult and potentially harmful weight loss excursion.

I know you're probably stuck with that and it's bullshit and I think it fucking sucks and unfortunately the medical advice you're likely to get is "eat in a significantly disordered manner at least until it is time for surgery" and it blows. That just fucking sucks.

If you're looking for rapid weight loss that you don't plan to sustain (and you shouldn't plan to sustain it, it won't stay off) you may want to look into body building forums for how they discuss cuts. It's still disordered eating and it's still not healthy, but at least they're effective and can tell you what supplements will keep you from becoming malnourished while you prepare for surgery. This is a terrible idea. I don't actually want to give this advice to anyone but bodybuilders are the exact kind of people who know how far and how fast they can push weight loss while having an awareness that it isn't really good for them and it won't stay off.

I cannot overstate enough how much I hate the thought that people are being encouraged to rapidly starve themselves in order to prepare to recover from surgery. I am so sorry and I'm so mad and

[ajjpng]

The camera (and night lighting) makes this look a bit shit- colour wise, but I don’t care right now because I am so happy with it.

Like HELLO

I still need to do some colour pencil touch ups in the skin and everything but I’m just so happy with this. (Will probably post a pic in better lighting tmr)

ALSO I know this concept has probably been done before but it was just rly fun.

ALSO ALSO I know this is not DT’s body type- but I wanted to practice muscles and everything so yeah

Lastly- I’m really not that happy with the top surgery scars but I don’t really know how to fix it. I’m thinking of going dark to make them stand out more but I’m not sure (any advice = appreciated)

[konigsblog]

konig and transmasc!reader body worship post-top surgery (no bottom surgery)????? would mean everything to me. maybe him going down on the reader too. i have spoken LOL (also the trans info anon just put in your inbox was me, i just forgot my tag)

- 🔪💕

worship...

again, i've never written for a transmasc insert before. i may make some mistakes, but i'm open to any criticism and advice !! :3 🫂

cw: gender neutral parts used (hole), male titles, transmasc!reader, smut. !!

translation: “guter junge, schau, wie gut du aussiehst; lass mich dich so anbeten...” = “good boy, look how handsome you look; letting me worship you like this...”

könig adores your body; he's utterly obsessed with you, your delirious, pleasured reactions as he begins to spread your thighs, peppering soft and tender kisses towards your hole, worshipping your handsome body. könig is touchy; he'll run his hands down your body, towards your chest, tugging at your nipples with his calloused, scarred fingers, leaving soft kisses all over your chest.

you're drunk, intoxicated off of his love and adoration; how he suckles at your hole, muttering praise while encouraging you to toy with your nipples, like a good boy, all while he talks you through it, chuckling at your breathless, house grunts when he begins flicking his tongue against your wetness.

“guter junge, schau, wie gut du aussiehst; lass mich dich so anbeten...”

you're breathless, with your eyelids heavy, delirious as he drags his wet, dripping tongue over your slick, wet hole, his fingers pumping into you, stuffing you with two of his calloused, thick digits. thighs covered in dark hickeys, your eyes rolled to the back of your head as he holds your hips down, watching you squirm and jerk skywards, rubbing against his mouth as he runs his tongue back and forth, his large and roughened hands gripping your thighs firmly, spreading you out against his face.

thinking about how könig will cover your body in kisses and hickeys, making sure everyone knows how you're such a good boy, who you belong to. :(

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[batmanisagatewaydrug]

Howdy Sex Witch,

I've been trying to "jork it" but every time I do I end up in extreme, nauseating pain.

Now I have endo, which was pretty well managed until I had covid, which re-inflamed everything. And the post-mastubatory pain has gotten worse to the point that it is no-longer just post-masturbation but also during. (What a mood killer)

I know I should take this to my GP but talking about down there makes me dysphoric and if I'm going to my GP (which costs money, even with a national healthcare system, for some reason) I'd rather it be for something cool like a top surgery referral. And all that's to say I don't really want to go.

Do you have any tips, ideas, advice, etc. on what to do or what a plan of action may be?

Has anyone else experienced something similar? What did you do? Was it lapro/hysto town?

hi anon,

much as I loathe being the bearer of bad news, "extreme nauseating pain every time I masturbate" is not a sex witch question. I can't make you go to a healthcare provider, obviously, but I'm also not going to pretend that that's something I'm equipped to help you with. that's a medical problem, my peep, and it needs a lot more than a dude on tumblr dot hellhole can provide you with.