#positive regulation

[desultory-suggestions]

Pay attention to what makes you feel on edge. If you’re feeling angry try to stop and assess what is triggering that anger. It doesn’t have to make sense. Is the sound of shoes squeaking on the floor grating? Is the way someone is asking you for something upsetting even if the ask isn’t? Understanding what is bothering us is the first step to diffusing our anger.

[tenth-sentence]

Some hormones act as positive regulators of senescence, while others act as negative regulators.

"Plant Physiology and Development" int'l 6e - Taiz, L., Zeiger, E., Møller, I.M., Murphy, A.

[gentleaffirmations]

There's space for all your feelings, even when they conflict with each other. You don't have to make sense of them. Just notice them as they come and go.

[overlyrighteousangel]

“the submarine trip was stupid and rooted in classism”, “it’s absolutely hideous how much more manpower was put into saving and reporting on them vs the 500 migrants who died in a similar horrible fashion”, and “despite their actions, no human being (especially not a nineteen year old) should deserve to die like this, especially when their death will not actually herald any positive change/abolishment of the billionaire class” are three thoughts than can and should coexist. you don’t have to mourn their deaths, but you don’t need to celebrate them, either.

[eamour]

nervous system regulation.

this post is especially dedicated for my fellow neurodivergents, specifically those who have add/adhd.

it’s normal for all of us to feel stressed sometimes. stress, as well as anxiety, are both feelings we all experience from time to time. however, dealing with a lot of stress is proven to have a negative impact on your body, more specifically your (autonomic) nervous system. by understanding how to regulate your nervous system, you will have an easier time managing stressful moments, and overall live a lot more balanced and peaceful life. ⋮ © credits

the nervous system.

your nervous system is the control center of your body. it is the part of your body that’s responsible for regulating your breathing, your heartbeat, your blood pressure, your digestion, and also the way you feel. the part of your nervous system that deals with the emotional wellbeing of yours is called "autonomic nervous system".

when feeling stressed, your body naturally reacts in a way to prepare you for the situation. it could respond through an increased heart rate, sweaty palms or the tension of muscles. nevertheless, our bodies cannot constantly withstand stress. continuously experiencing high levels of cortisol and adrenaline can lead to (sometimes serious) health issues.

a dysregulated nervous system.

a nervous system becomes dysregulated when the body cannot properly handle certain situations the way it used to. the body's way of responding to certain situations falls out of sync. it indicates a state of imbalance as you experience your body not being able to keep up with you.

signs.

these are some of the signs indicating you might have a dysregulated nervous system:

anxiety

easily irritated

memory problems

difficulty concentrating

headaches

quickly overwhelmed

mood swings

panic attacks

digestive issues

trouble sleeping

constant fatigue

chronic pain

persistent muscle tension

weakened immune system

stressors.

here is a list of stressors that are known to disrupt your nervous system balance:

chronic stress

burnout

traumatic events

poor sleep habits

unhealthy diet

no time for relaxation

support.

here are things you can do to help regulating your nervous system again:

meditating and resting

listening to music

dancing and moving

stretching and walking

eft tapping

massaging yourself

affirming

practicing mindfulness

reconnecting with nature

hugging someone or yourself

somatic shaking

rubbing ice cubes on face

taking a cold shower

sleeping and waking up early

grounding yourself

humming, singing and laughing

talking to someone

reading or listening

using a weighted blanket

drinking herbal tea

engaging in calming activities

deep breathing exercises

prioritising your sleep

with love, ella.

[loveyourlovelysoul]

the more you have to be in contact with people that only trigger you or frustrate you, the more nervous and willing to shut off from the world you become. that's normal. try to find some time for yourself, to unwind in any way you can... you deserve that from you, don't let others' emotions and behaviours hold so much power onto you

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for systems who struggle with emotional regulation!

Many systems may struggle with properly regulating their emotions for a wide variety of reasons. Learning how to properly understand, manage, and react to your emotions can be incredibly difficult, especially for those of us who were never taught as children or who have trauma or mental conditions which make emotional regulation even more difficult! If your system or some of your headmates struggle with emotional regulation, this post is for you!

🫶 Shoutout to systems who grew up in abusive or neglectful households, or who were never properly taught how to effectively regulate their emotions!

🫂 Shoutout to systems who struggle to understand their emotions or who react disproportionately to how they’re feeling!

🌷 Shoutout to systems who have only just begun to learn how to properly regulate or manage their emotions!

🫶 Shoutout to headmates who struggle with their emotions more than the rest of their system, or headmates who are symptom holders for their system’s emotional dysregulation!

🫂 Shoutout to systems who often feel overwhelmed by their own emotions!

🌷 Shoutout to systems who often get exhausted, numb, or burnt out due to the intensity of their negative emotions!

🫶 Shoutout to systems whose difficulties with emotional regulation have caused them to split or form new alters or headmates in the past!

🫂 Shoutout to systems who have lost friends or loved ones due to being unable to properly manage their emotions!

🌷 Shoutout to systems whose emotional dysregulation causes them to feel physically ill, weak, uncomfortable, numb, or dissociated!

🫶 Shoutout to systems with emotional dysregulation who need accommodations in their daily lives in order to function to the best of their abilities!

Friends, struggling with emotional dysregulation does not make you a bad person or member of your system. It’s okay if you need help properly managing your emotions, if you’ve only recently started learning how to effectively manage your emotions, or if your mental condition will always keep your system from learning healthy emotional regulation! You still matter, your feelings matter, and you deserve to express yourself as a headmate and as a system just as much as anyone else.

Learning emotional regulation may not come easily! Regardless of where you are on this path, you have value and your efforts deserve to be acknowledged. Remember that there are no wrong feelings - even the intense ones, the overwhelming ones, the negative ones, or the ones others may consider “bad.” You are allowed to feel your feelings, even if reacting to them in healthy ways is still out of reach for your collective. Know that, in all that you do, we are in your corner rooting for you 100%!!

[kiindr]

"don't cry, you're strong."

NO. CRY. YOU'RE STILL AS STRONG.

not crying is not a good thing. emotional regulation is. and that does not always mean someone who doesn't cry or feel upset.

[spirk-trek]

shhhh the bisexuals are sleeping

[autism-polls]

Poll idea submitted by Ghost on April 8, 2024

[yourhealingjournal]

what helps is actually sitting with the feelings no matter how uncomfortable it is and how much i want to distract myself from it. what helps is not shaming myself for the urge or the ingrained habit to disengage from my feelings when it crops up. what helps is finally listening to myself the way i did in the past for everyone else around me even if they never return the favor.

[grogumaximus]

[gentleaffirmations]

[who-is-page]

I'm in the hamburger mines of capitalism and found out that my job is planning to try and outsource my position to remote randos across the country and I'm like. CEO-boy do you have any idea how many regulations I have to take into account not just on a state-level but also on a county and municipality level. None of which is information included in the training.

This isn't even a case where someone would fuck it up just cuz it's complex to get right, this is a case where someone wouldn't even know what they don't know. And it's a lot of information to not know they don't know, because these poor remote guys are going to be covering a bunch of states with finicky and ultra-specific building codes, not even just my own!

Anyways wish my store a very Rest in Piss when this comes back to extremely bite them in the ass, because it's gonna be funny as fuck.

[loveyourlovelysoul]

it may be that, after having been "avoided" by others or put on a side as a second if not third or more choice by others, your mind keeps telling you you'll never get out of that: people will keep abandoning you, letting you down, choosing someone or something else. you may take every sign, even those who are not strictly related to this situation, as a confirmation for you not being worthy enough. not being able to have good relationships (of any type).

but that's not the case. it's indeed really heavy and heart-breaking to deal with such experiences, but don't let your mind and your past fool you. please, talk with your hurt inner self: tell them they are enough the way they are, they don't have to change anything or please anyone to be deserving of love and attention, they aren't wrong. and it won't always go this way. someone caring, that will choose you, willing to learn about you and remember everything about you, is already on their way to you. you deserve that type of love. keep enduring, especially on those days in which it seems impossible, and appreciate yourself for all you've done (be objective: you've done a lot but at times you forget about it or can't see it). like, love and support yourself in any way you want and try to give yourself what you need. prepare yourself for what is coming. cause it's coming just for you and you need to be ready to receive it all (at times we think we're ready but we're not used to that and we may *unconsciously* decide to run away out of "fear/uncomfortability": to start giving to yourself will help you get a little more acquainted with the new feelings you will experience and not push them away).

[dailypokemoncrochet]

Ooo what’s that ring-like thing on your finger in the video? I assume it’s for helping maintain a constant tension but I haven’t seen one before. Do you always use it?

It's a tension ring! You're right, it helps maintain constant tension. And yes, I always use it. Less stress on my arm/hand since I don't have to pinch the yarn anymore.