#not man just….not anything on the binary

[bloomshroomz]

This seems fun, but I don't think I'll get any asks, so I'm just gonna answer some of the prompts lol

1) What are your genders? Either labels/terms or descriptions :)

I'm male and demiaporagender (100% man and less than 5% aporagender). I'm also xenic/xeno-aligned, but this isn't a separate gender for me; it basically just means certain aspects of my gender are best describe using metaphors.

2) Describe your pronouns. What are they, and why?

My pronouns are he/him. The reason why is pretty simple; I'm a man and he/him pronouns affirm my manhood.

I also hypothetically use some neopronouns (xe/xem, vi/vir, ze/zed, and ip/ips), but people haven't really referred to me this way, so I can't know for sure how I would feel about those pronouns being used on me. I don't really care much about my neopronouns though, and people assume that people who use neopronouns are also fine with they/them pronouns (I'm not), so I don't bother telling people I use those most of the time.

I like neopronouns because they acknowledge the aporagender aspect of my identity without degendering or dehumanizing me. They/them doesn't feel affirming; it just feels like a way to avoid calling me he/him, because that's what often ends up happening. It/its pronouns are hypothetically fine in some circumstances, but are often just used by transphobes as a way to dehumanize and degender me. So that just leaves neopronouns as my explicitly genderqueer pronoun option.

Vi/vir in particular has the added bonus of affirming my manhood, due to "vir" being identical to the Latin vir in spelling and pronunciation. It might be my favorite pronoun set, because it encompasses my full identity—both a man and demiaporagender.

5) Are there any terms under the multigender umbrella that you identify with? (like bigender, trigender, genderfluid, omnigender, multiflux) 6) Do you identify with any umbrella terms that can encompass being multigender, like "trans" or "nonbinary"?

For the most part, I just identify as a man without any other umbrellas or multigender terms. Being demiaporagender is such a small part of who I am it feels mostly unimportant to me, and I'm also aiming towards being stealth in real life, so describing myself as anything other than male is generally counterintuitive to that goal.

However, internally and in certain queer spaces, I consider myself to be somewhere between monogender and bigender. I also use the term genderqueer to describe the fact that my experience with gender is non-normative. I don't identify as binary or nonbinary, because this dichotomy feels irrelevant and inapplicable to me, but will align myself with both categories when I feel that it's relevant.

I'm also trans, as in both transgender and transsexual, but I'm using these terms less and less as time goes by. Partially because I'm trying to be stealth, and partially because cis men aren't expected to call themselves cis in most scenarios, so I don't see why I should call myself trans outside of specific situations.

7) Are your genders more fluid or more static?

I've had a more fluid experience with gender in the past, or at least thought I did, but it has settled into being static. I don't expect that it will change, because it has been consistent for a while now.

8) Are your genders more separate or blended together?

The difference isn't meaningful to me, so either interpretation is fine.

10) Do you have any analogies you use to describe your genders?

This goes back to the xenic aspect of my identity. One way that I describe my gender(s) is through metals and alloys. My gender is primarily one metal (male), with some impurities or alterations. I also compare it to pewter specifically, where my manhood is the tin.

My boyfriend has described my gender as a "rounding error" which honestly is kinda spot on.

11) Describe your ideal gender presentation, or physical form.

My ideal physical form is either strictly male, bigenital with otherwise male sex characteristics, or capable of changing form at will (in regards to sex, species, and any other physical traits). I'm aiming for the second one.

My ideal gender presentation is fluid, but I largely present masculine so as to avoid being perceived as a woman. This might change later on, and I do consider myself a femboy, at least to some extent.

12) Does your gender influence your sexual orientation?

Only in the way that it typically would for a man. As in, my attraction to men is gay, my attraction to women is straight, and my attraction to nonbinary people is complicated, but generally queer. I know that not all bisexual people view their attraction like this, but I do.

I could use words like achillean or romeric, but gay and straight work better. I don't consider my overall orientation gay or straight, because, again, I'm bi/omni. But if I'm talking about how my attraction to specific genders feels, those are the words I'd use.

13) Does your sexual orientation influence your gender(s)? 14) Do you identify with any multigender-specific sexuality labels?

Nope to both of these. I'm just bisexual, omnisexual, and queer. Sometimes I'll call myself gay as well, in a similar vein to queer. And, as mentioned above, I'll sometimes describe my individual gendered attractions as gay, straight, etc. But nothing multigender-specific.

16) What are your plans for medical, social, legal (etc) transition? How far along in your transition would you consider yourself to be?

I'm transitioning in a relatively straightforward and "binary" way for the most part. I'm legally changing my name as soon as possible, as well as my gender/sex marker to M (it's currently F or X depending on the document). Socially, I'm just aiming towards being accepted and perceived as a man.

Medically, I'm currently taking testosterone, and intend to get both top and bottom surgery (vagina preserving metoidioplasty, potentially followed by vagina preserving phalloplasty later on). I'm not sure whether testosterone will be a temporary or unending part of my transition, but I at least want all the permanent effects.

I consider myself to be fairly early into my transition, all things considered, even though I've been out socially for about half a decade, and am taking testosterone. I'm just not even close to done.

17) Have you faced any barriers in transitioning specifically related to your multigender identity or related goals?

It has never been an issue for me, but I also never explicitly identified as multigender when accessing the things I need to transition. When I started testosterone, I specified my pronouns as he/they, and described myself (if I remember correctly) as nonbinary/genderqueer and transmasculine. This is no longer accurate, but still not that far off from how I identify now, and it didn't make it any harder for me to access my HRT. But I also live in a place where HRT is easy to access.

18) Have you ever faced prejudice or hostility due to your multigender identity or related presentation?

I used to identify as a pangender lesbian/lesboy/lesbihet, and I was often either excluded by other lesbians, or had my manhood invalidated or ignored in favor of my womanhood.

I now know that I'm not a lesbian, nor sapphic at all, and I'm also not pangender. But I think there's a very real problem in queer spaces when it comes to the treatment of boygirls. People want to either reduce you to man, or reduce you to woman, but never acknowledge you as both simultaneously, in many cases.

19) When in a situation forcing you into one gender, what do you do? 20) How do you deal with such transmultiphobia, external or internal? Do you use any comforts or affirmations to help?

This isn't really relevant to me, because I voluntarily place myself into the male category with no mention of anything else 99% of the time. Being demiaporagender just isn't that important to me.

22) What multigender-related pride flag do you like the most?

The original bigender flag and its similar redesign are definitely my favorites aesthetically. This isn't just me being biased as a bigender person, either. I don't use either of those flags, because they feel very "boygirl" and inapplicable to my specific bigender experience. But I absolutely love the combination of pink, purple, and blue; those have always been my favorite colors.

I also love the genderfaer flag, when it comes to genderfluid multigender identities specifically. I'm far from genderfaer, but their flag is absolutely gorgeous, and the color symbolism makes sense.

24) Do you do (or have you ever done) anything to express pride, privately or publicly, in your multigender identity?

I had a pangender flag and a genderfluid flag, as well as a demiboy flag (demiboy, for me, was a multigender identity), back when I had identified with any of those terms. I still have those flags put away, but I don't use them, and plan to either sell them or give them away at pride. I have some stickers, pins, and bracelets with those flags as well, and I used to have a bunch of different gender bracelets for my gender shifts each day.

I don't have anything like that now, though. I'm comfortable being just some guy; being multigender is basically just fun gender trivia.

26) Do you have any friends who are multigender?

One of my best friends is genderfluid and uses she/him pronouns.

27) Do you talk about being multigender with other people? 28) Are you open/out about being multigender? 29) Are you open about some parts of your gender identity, but not others?

For the most part, no. It's not that it's a secret necessarily, but I spend my day to day as a man, and have no problems with this. Though I do feel being open about the demiaporagender part of my identity could compromise me being stealth, or respected as a man.

30) What do you wish more people knew about being multigender?

I wish people understood that manhood and womanhood are not mutually exclusive or "opposite" categories. They don't cancel each other out—she/her + he/him ≠ they/them.

"Woman" does not inherently mean "non-man," and "man" does not inherently mean "non-woman."

Multigender people, and especially boygirls, should be able to claim gender-specific labels relevant to one of their genders, without their other genders being used to exclude them from it (e.g. a boygirl should be able to be a lesbian on the basis of their womanhood/genderqueerness, without their manhood barring them from it).

I also wish there was more visibility and acknowledgment of multigender trans women and transfems. Acknowledgment of nonbinary trans women and transfems in general is lacking; a lot of people think of nonbinary identities as a transmasc or AFAB thing.

This isn't relevant to me personally, but I care about it.

Multigender question prompts / ask game!

Basics

1) What are your genders? Either labels/terms or descriptions :) 2) Describe your pronouns. What are they, and why? 3) How long have you known you were multigender? Or, when did you discover each of your genders? 4) When did you first hear about being multigender? 5) Are there any terms under the multigender umbrella that you identify with? (like bigender, trigender, genderfluid, omnigender, multiflux) 6) Do you identify with any umbrella terms that can encompass being multigender, like "trans" or "nonbinary"?

What's It Like For You? 7) Are your genders more fluid or more static? 8) Are your genders more separate or blended together? 9) Do you "hoard" genders or labels? 10) Do you have any analogies you use to describe your genders? 11) Describe your ideal gender presentation, or physical form. 12) Does your gender influence your sexual orientation? 13) Does your sexual orientation influence your gender(s)? 14) Do you identify with any multigender-specific sexuality labels? Getting A Bit Personal Now, Are We

15) Describe your names and their significance to you. 16) What are your plans for medical, social, legal (etc) transition? How far along in your transition would you consider yourself to be? 17) Have you faced any barriers in transitioning specifically related to your multigender identity or related goals? 18) Have you ever faced prejudice or hostility due to your multigender identity or related presentation? 19) When in a situation forcing you into one gender, what do you do? 20) How do you deal with such transmultiphobia, external or internal? Do you use any comforts or affirmations to help?

Pride

21) What are your favorite things about being multigender? 22) What multigender-related pride flag do you like the most? 23) What unique parts about your identity are you proud of? 24) Do you do (or have you ever done) anything to express pride, privately or publicly, in your multigender identity? 25) What's your favorite art/music/writing/etc about being multigender? (Things not explicitly written as such are OK too!)

Community

26) Do you have any friends who are multigender? 27) Do you talk about being multigender with other people? 28) Are you open/out about being multigender? 29) Are you open about some parts of your gender identity, but not others? 30) What do you wish more people knew about being multigender? 31) Free space! Share anything you would like about your multigender experience.

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[mayonesamitch]

An imperfect guide to a transgender haircut! (For the boys, or anyone who wants a masculine haircut)

So, if you're reading this, you probably want a haircut. Whether you're trans, non-binary, or cis, this is a guide for getting the perfect masculine haircut. I made this specifically for my trans/non-binary folks, but if you're a woman or even a cis man, you can use this guide too!

I'd also like to note that you don't need short hair to be anything, you can express yourself the way you want! As long as you're happy.

Step 1: Why You Want Your Haircut

You first need to figure out why you need your haircut. If you're trans, you probably want it to pass more or to elevate dysphoria. If so, you probably want to look for something that a cis man would have. If you look at men's hair closely, you can tell one common pattern, short on the sides, long on the top. Having these kinds of haircuts will definitely get you to pass more and get those gender euphoria points.

Now, let's say, you want something more androgynous. Like, a woman or man can have it, then you're probably looking for something like a short shag or an e-boy cut. These are typically longer but rarely go below the face. If you have more waving and voluminous hair, then these are perfect for you. Of course, if you want that androgynous look.

Step 2: Working with what you have

There are a lot of hair types in the world. There are also a lot of head shapes. So, try to pick a haircut that will do good things to your looks. You don't want a bad haircut. That will ruin your social life for a few months. Instead, think about what features you want to accentuate. For example, if you have a round head, maybe aim for a high fade so your head looks longer and sharper. If you have curly hair, try looking for something that will work with the curls.

You also want to note if you have any scalp or skin conditions. For example, if you have eczema, specifically on the scalp, then you're more prone to dandruff. Some people also just have a lot of dandruff, even if the wash their hair regularly. So if you are prone to that or anything similar then try to choose something shorter. It'll be a bit easier that way to deal with the dandruff that way. Also, if you really want to, you can get a buzz cut as well. I know that's the most optimal hair cut for stuff like that, but I don't know how willing most people will be able to do it. So, generally speaking, a shorter haircut will work better. (I'm not someone with excessive dandruff, so I'm not an expert when it comes to this information. I'm using information I researched.)

Step 3: Choosing how to do it.

So, you chose your haircut. Now, how are you gonna do it? Well, you have a few options. One, you can do it yourself. If you do it yourself, then you are taking a risk. Assuming you're not a professional, it could end up looking bad if you do it wrong. However, if you're scared of going to a barber or your parents don't allow you to go to barbers, then doing it yourself is optimal. If your parent/guardian is a barber then they can do it for you. Just show or tell them what you want and they'll hopefully do it for you. Both of these options are free (hopefully) and also allow you to avoid talking to other people you don't know.

Okay, so let's just say you want to go to a barber. Then you might just go to your regular old barber. However, I generally recommend going to a barber shop made specifically since that's where they're most experienced at. Also getting a male barber will get you someone who's more experienced with men cuts, so if you don't know what to get, you can ask them what you should get. If you get a female barber though, it should be about the same. Male barbers just know more about male hair. However, I'm sure a female barber will be able to help you the same. This option will have you talk to people you may or may not know, so keep that in mind. Also, it costs money. So, hopefully you can pay for that.

Step 4: Asking for the haircut

So, you have everything planned out. Now, it's just asking for it. If you're an adult, then you don't need to ask anyone. So this part is made for people who are still living under their parents roof, using their money for everything. If you're cutting it by yourself, then you don't really need to ask. I know some parents are chill about it. However, many are strict on a lot of things. So, if you're not a risky person, you might want to ask them first. Same if your parent is a barber.

If you're going to a barber shop, then it'll take a bit more to ask. First, you need permission, since your parent/guardian is paying for it. Then, you would have to choose the barber shop and basically everything I said in step 3. So, again, more talking involved, but it'll be worth it.

If they ask you why you want to go so short and masculine all of the sudden, you can either come out to them (if you're not cis), tell them why you want it (Assuming you don't want it for the gender aspect of it) or give them an excuse. (Again, if you're doing it for the gender aspect) I know many people don't live in supportive households, so saying an excuse might do. Something like, "My hair gets in the way." Or, "It's easier to manage." Will do. Prioritize your safety. If your parents are already suspecting that you're not cisgender and are not supportive of trans people and an excuse doesn't work, just don't do it. It'll be very hard to convince them. So, prioritize your safety. Don't risk it. It'll be very difficult, but just wait.

Common haircut terms you might be looking for

So, that's all the steps to getting a masculine haircut. So these are some terms that you might be looking for.

Low/Mid/High taper fade

Textured Fringe

Crew Cut

Short Shag

Wolfcut

Mullet

Quiff

Okay, so that's all! If you have any questions feel free to ask me. Again, even though I made this specifically for the trans men, anyone who's nonbinary, a woman, or a cis man can use this guide.

Also, this is the haircut I have. It's a mid-taper fade, open bang, thing. Don't know the exact name but I pass really well in it.

Okay, well that's all for now. Hopefully this helps!

[king0fcrows]

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[forestdeath1]

I think this isn’t about skirts, painted nails or long hair (why is that “too feminine” btw? These are just things — they don’t perform femininity on their own. People are assigning an inherent quality to objects when in reality, it’s the person who performs femininity or anything else and that performance isn’t dependent on skirts — tho a skirt can be part of it)

This is about effeminophobia/effeminomisia/femmephobia. And it’s about this character’s personality. Sirius’s clothes are irrelevant when so many people completely rewrite his character, his core, turning him into a whiny, pathetic clown. Why is it that in the fandom “femininity” often comes bundled with stupidity, helplessness and submission, while masculinity equals dominance — when that’s exactly the rigid binary that we’re criticising?

Moreover people can be seen as masculine even if they look feminine. Their appearance doesn’t erase their masculinity (and vice versa). More than that femininity itself shouldn’t only be defined as the opposite of masculinity. There are multiple ways to code femininity. Just as there are multiple ways to code masculinity. And mix it. Or erase it all. Whatever.

I’m not denying that some people genuinely believe that “a man in a skirt is gross” and it means that Sirius shouldn’t wear one — that’s absolutely ridiculous and deserves criticism (and obv personal preferences are fine. Everyone has their own tastes when it comes to attraction — that’s fine. As long as they’re not dictating what others can do)

But most of the criticism isn’t even about his appearance in the first place.

The real question is — why does Sirius in the fandom automatically become an incompetent joke of a person the moment he’s put in a skirt? Just look at the “incorrect marauders quotes”. Why does a “too feminine gay” man instantly get reduced to a whiny, infantile, clueless stereotype, when canonically, he is objectively one of the smartest and most psychologically strong and resilient people in the series?

Does anyone actually think that’s ok?

Or is it just… oh. Effeminomisia/phobia at work? (It’s not about you, OP, it’s about the fandom).

nooooo way dude you hate when men are too feminine? in the fandom for books written by Notorious Transmisogynist? that’s so brave of you to say wow who else is speaking up about the horrible crime of men wearing skirts these days

[penumbralwoods]

lays down and stares at the ceiling. really wish it was as easy for me to ignore casual exorsexism as it seems to be for so many of you

[angharadical]

Not even getting into all the other ridiculous stuff that guy up there said, but…

Yes, radfems know there is an inherent binary of human sex. Yes, conservatives know there is an inherent binary of human sex. But whereas conservatives think female = woman = feminine, radfems just think female = woman. Conservatives think male = man = masculine. Radfems just think male = man. Radical feminists don’t believe a person’s sex has anything to do with their personality, interests, hobbies, career ambitions, values, or role in life. That is why radfems are radically leftist in an overwhelmingly conservative world, a world that believes a person’s sex has anything to do with who they are as an individual.

As for so-called “trans women” and “trans men”… just like conservatives, they believe that woman = feminine. Or, more accurately, that feminine = woman. They believe in an ephemeral, religious “soul”—what they call “gender identity”—that can somehow be misaligned with the female or male body they are born with. They believe masculinity in a woman and femininity in a man is a sign of “transness.” And that…

That’s conservative.

I wonder if trans radfems realize that Conservatives hate them as much as any other trans person, and that they're seen as "useful idiots" that exist purely to deflect accusations of transphobia.

"We can't be transphobic, we have Jenner and White", they say, as they pass laws that will be used to remove the rights of queer people, and eventually imprison anyone who isn't a cishet WASP.

Shitting on trans men won't save you, all it'll do is put you 5th in line for the firing squad, instead of 3rd.

[maraschinotopped]

ive been staring at the naqtube channel page just doing analysis thoughts in my head for like 15 minutes and ive just been hit with the realization that Damn this is not normal. normal people dont do this. either the mental illness or the mild sickness is doing something to me right now.

[thepunkmuppet]

I have never related to a character more than I do to lake. like they just ARE the trans experience they’re literally ME they are so unbelievably fucking important to me it’s not even funny. trans people watch infinity train if you like good cartoons and also want to genuinely cry your fucking eyes out

[e77y]

I really want to like being a woman but I don’t. But I’m not dysphoric either; I like my body fine and I don’t want to change my voice or my mannerisms or even my pronouns really. So I don’t think I’m transmasc. Sometimes I just really wish I was born and raised a man. But it’s more of an “in another life” dream kind of thing. I think it’s just internalized misogyny idk

[genderkoolaid]

As someone who uses all pronouns, when I say all, I mean all. It's not a matter of "I don't care what you use for me" but "It makes me actively dysphoric to only have one set of pronouns used for me."

I am multigender/genderfluid and it's very important to me that ALL of my genders are recognized. Not every nonbinary person is neutral or third-gender; many of us ARE women or men, or both, and we care about our wo/manhood just as much as any binary person does.

So when I tell people I use all pronouns, and they choose "they/them" and then never use anything else, it causes dysphoria because I'm being placed in the "neutral/other" box and every other part of my genders are ignored.

I don't hate they/them, I just don't want it to be the only thing people use. Which is why I don't tell people to use they/them, I tell them to use all pronouns interchangeably. But people have a tendency to equate "nonbinary person" with "they/them pronouns" so they just ignore the "all interchangeably" part and think "oh, cool, I'll just use they/them because that's easy."

A very similar thing happens often when I say I'm genderfluid. Even though I am specifically pointing out that I have multiple gender identities, people interpret "genderfluid" as "basically just neutral nonbinary" and never think of me as a "real" woman or man. Anything that isn't a binary man or a binary woman is put in the "neutral/other" box and forgotten about.

Essentially my point is that if someone says they use all pronouns or multiple genders or whatever else, that's NOT synonymous with neutral pronouns or gender, and people need to keep in mind that nonbinary people still have needs relating to our genders that may not be fulfilled by being degendered. If someone says "I use all pronouns," they are not saying "I use they/them pronouns." If they really don't care, then there's no harm in switching it up. If they DO care, then you SHOULD be switching it up. If you aren't sure, you can just ask. But just don't assume that everyone who uses all pronouns doesn't care about how they are gendered. Because right now, being someone with multiple pronouns who actually cares about how their pronouns are used is kind of a nightmare.

PSA: "all pronouns" does not mean they/them & consider not immediately degendering every nonbinary person you meet. our wo/manhoods matter too

[princessefemmelesbian]

Well would you look at this. 😵‍💫 Because obviously if you dare say anything as wild and controversial as “lesbians don’t like men, please stop using a label that hurts us and tries to force men into our identity” you’re a raging terf radfem transmisogynist. Because obviously ONLY trans women use the bi lesbian label and it’s not like there are transfem lesbians who are rightfully against the label as well or anything and it’s not like terfs use the label to refer to cis lesbians who date trans women and why can’t you just let people identify as how they want of course lesbians like men stop the infighting already if you disagree with me that lesbians can like men then surely that’s because you’re an exclusionist gatekeeper who hates trans women.

[chipjrwibignaturals]

god i wish trans healthcare was just like. a fuckin casual thing. i wish i could go to my doc and be like ‘hey this is the result i want: what hormones & methods would be best to achieve it’ or even just like. ‘hey i wanna try this’. i wish that level of comfort on the topic and respect for bodily autonomy was just a thing instead of having to go so far in depth into diagnosis and full social transition and all that just to get Proper Medical Advice And Treatment

[sokkastyles]

Hey, sorry if my initial response came across as flippant, but you asked for my opinion and I have strong feelings both on love languages and Mai and Zuko, and I've seen the love languages argument before, both to explain why Mai and Zuko don't work, and by people who think it explains why they DO work.

I think there is some truth in the concept of love languages, but the way it's utilized and the history of it is pretty problematic. This article explains it really well, and part of the reason it's problematic is because the guy who invented it was promoting heteronormative relationships using binary ideas about gender, so almost all the women who were studied were told their love language was "acts of service" and almost all the men were told their love language is "physical touch." Which is just another way of saying that women are just naturally made to perform labor and men are just naturally made to need sex.

So it also doesn't surprise me to hear you say that Mai's love language is physical touch and Zuko's is acts of service and gift giving and words of affirmation. What's surprising is that the genders are flipped here. But it's still a dynamic where one party performs all the labor and the other gets to snog.

And the reason it ends up this way is because Zuko is an abuse victim who has learned to see love as transactional and one-sided as a trauma response. Mai doesn't know how to give and Zuko gives too much. This is a trauma bond and an unhealthy balance.

There's truth in love languages, of course, but the truth is that all people need these things at different times. But like the article says, the idea that love is a language can easily become manipulative. Mai often uses physical touch as a replacement for what Zuko really wants from her, and reacts negatively to his attempts at performing emotional labor but still expects it from him, like in "The Beach" when she demands he bring her food despite reacting negatively every time he brought her stuff previously in the episode.

Also, on the Boiling Rock being Mai's moment of the stakes being challenged, I'd agree, except in the end that's walked back entirely. The challenge was that she had to either let Zuko go or watch him die. She chooses the high road and lets him go, but then at the end of the show she comes back and tells him he can never break up with her again, so her moment of "letting Zuko go" only actually lasted for a few episodes. It's not even a problem that they got back together, it's that the show treats this like Mai deserves it and she gives Zuko an ultimatum about it, so she hasn't really learned anything about letting go or about what it really means to love someone and care more about their well-being than your relationship status with them.

The problem is that Zuko is held accountable, over and over again, and Mai is not.

I've also heard the love languages argument used to defend Kataang, and naturally Katara's love language is also said to be acts of service, because, you know, every woman really wants to mother their man. (sarcasm)

Which is just further confirmation to me that the concept can easily be used to justify unhealthy relationships. The problem is not a difference of love language, it's that one person is doing all the work and the other person is doing none of it. And we've already seen Mai treat another boyfriend the same way, so I don't think putting her with someone else will fix this unless she does A LOT of growing.

I'm not meaning to start (another) argument, but you asked for my opinion, so.

My take on Maiko

Now this isn't meant to be a bash against Mai. I wanted to point out the hot and cold emotional rollercoaster that is Mai and Zuko's relationship. I believe they are not romantically compatible but it isn't any one person's fault.

They have different love languages and different relationship wants and needs. They also have opposing political views.

Zuko's experiences have changed him, what with being banished and life as a fugitive. He is no longer the boy Mai had a childhood crush on. People grow and change and so do too our interpersonal relationships.

Despite everything, they still care for each other. Keep in mind that caring for someone can be platonic or familial as well, not just romantic.

Simply put, they are not a good match for each other.

[kil9]

its insane that even tho taemin for years now has been like "im gona break the gender barriers im gona straddle the line between man and woman," ppl have such an averse reaction to anyone pointing that out or commenting on it. you dont have to be annoyed at people pointing out taemingender when taemin is doing the gender stuff in the first place. and you definitely dont have to "protect" him from people playing along. they even tried to get that super junior guy in trouble for this.

[lab-gr0wn-lambs]

Ok I've had some time to chill, lemme say a bunch of things I DID like about The Star Beast:

The right vibes are back. THIS feels like Doctor Who and I have a lot of faith in what's to come once they have time to pace things out

The characters are great. A+

Made me laugh

Silly practical effects!

Obviously Marvelous MARVELOUS to have Donna back with us, even if it's just for a little while

New intro is bangin

New Tardis is Nice. I honestly didn't like the crystal one.

The trans rep comes from a sincere place, I can tell. I think a lot of the gender talk was awkward and confused and kinda. stupid. in places. but. I appreciate it anyway

Really nice that they didn't kill off Wilf despite Bernard Cribbin's passing

[faggylittleleatherboy]

It’s so stupid how adults will go around doing the equivalent of “blue is for boys and pink is for girls” on a global scale (both on queer and straight groups)