#non ace demiromantic

[demiro-allosexual-culture-is]

Demiromantic non-ace arospec culture is wishing we were more represented in the demiromantic community instead of demiromantics being assumed to be demisexual or asexual

[genderqueerdykes]

i want to see more asexual, aromantic & aspectrum representation this year during pride month 2024. we've been made to feel like we're not queer at all, and when we are seen as queer, we are pushed to the VERY bottom of the priority list, seen as not as queer as others, or not a priority because we do not suffer from any kind of oppression.

i want to break the silence on this matter this year. even if an aspectrum person isn't affected by any sort of societal oppression, they still deserve to have a space to talk about how they experience their identity. having a complicated relationship or no relationship at all with romantic feelings and relationships in a society that guilt trips people into developing romantic relationships starting in their teens is not in line with our societal view of what is "normal" and "correct". constantly being told that you "haven't found the right one" is harassment.

Not experiencing sexual attraction, refusing to have sex, or having a complicated relationship with sexual feelings is 100% queer and outside of the norm in a sex-obsessed society that guilt and mocks people for not having experienced it, and at the worst of time, forces it on people, telling them that they'll have a changed opinion of they just experienced it for themselves. being guilted or forced into interacting with sexual media or having friends try to force you into sleeping with someone is harassment and assault.

having a complicated relationship with gender that results in someone feeling agender, whether they have no gender at all, or have a gender that feels partially agender and partially another gender often results in someone being told they're confused, or have no idea what they're talking about. many people refuse to acknowledge someone who totally lacks a gender identity, or identifies with gender neutrality.

aplatonic people are frequently told they are losers, or just have anxiety or are experiencing their feelings due to depression or something similar. aplatonic people are told they do not understand their own feelings, when it is a very valid experience to not experience platonic feelings or have a very complicated relationship with them that leads one to feel happier not engaging in those relationships.

these are very real issues aspectrum people face. even if an aspec person doesn't face these problems, they are still queer. they are still aromantic, asexual, agender, aplatonic, or some other like of aspec. you don't get to tell them how they experience their identity, and you don't get to tell them they're not queer or don't experience hardships and denial of their identity. i want to see more people talking about and accepting these identities in 2024. no more pushing aspectrum people to the back, we are here in the front with everyone else, shouting alongside you. we all deserve to be heard- including asexuals, aromantics, agender people, aplatonic people and other aspectrum folks. we are all shouting for our rights together. let's shout for each other, too.

[twigstarpikachutroll22]

Reblog for something aspec to happen to you this summer

[dreamsy990]

Iso from Valorant is asexual (headcannon)

@lavacane @swipamous @skys-trash-bin @feralcringeman @verathena14 from your headcanons here are some aroace doodles. sorry i meant to post these a while ago but i got half done and then got held up for a bit by responsibilities and also i forgor. but here!! meant to do a couple more but i just wanted to get this done so!! here

bonus for athena heres sora with a different flag. for funsies

[alex-fictus]

PRIDE KEYCHAIN ORDERS ARE OFFICIALLY OPEN! Pre-orders close on November 10th!

I have 20 flags of my pride series available in cat, dog, and shark. If this goes well, I will be able to open up more flags by next year's pride! Someday I'll have all 40 flags available lol.

I have 19 gender and sexuality flags and my disability pride flag designs available for the moment. :)

[aroaceconfessions]

as a demi-panromantic non-binary asexual I love living life knowing a homophobe would be foaming at the mouth with how many labels I have

Submitted April 5, 2023

[moss-opossum]

Hey I decided to make a social Discord server for trans-umbrella folk who are also aspec. Most of the trans servers I’ve run into have an implicit assumption that members are allo and it made me feel kind of unwelcome or like I was being pushed out of conversations I was already participating in, but the aspec servers I’ve tried joining were mostly comprised of cis people. There are Sapphic trans servers and Achillean trans servers, so why not a server for aspec folks as well?

<begin self-promo>

Aspec Trans Gang is a social server intended for gender-variant adults who are on the asexual spectrum, the aromantic spectrum, or the aplatonic spectrum!

This 18+ server is SFW and new users are verified by staff to prevent trolling. Neopronoun, multigender, xenogender, non-dysphoric, gender- and orientation-questioning friendly! All good-faith identities are welcome!

🌿40+ self-assignable roles

🌿 Dozens of cute emotes

🌿 Categories for hobbies, health, and gender/orientation discussion

🌿 Icebreaking, poll, and QOTD channel

🌿 Resource-sharing channel

🌿 Ticket bot for easy staff outreach

[pondererswandererswonders]

Aros/arospecs of Tumblr, suggest some songs to me that you find aro-coded, or [insert] attraction-coded, and I'll see if I can add it to my Spotify aromantic playlist!

Here's the link to my playlist to check out what I already have, though it's kind of long as shit: A Gift From A Loveless Something

[genderimpala]

not attraction, not gender envy, but a secret third thing.

[dirtysenner]

Random thing but ima list the progression of my life into being what I THINK I am now, queer-wise

SO. Little me. Little, cishet me who didn’t know what gay was. That lasted until about sixth grade when I discovered the glory that is women. At that point, I thought I was a cis lesbian.

NEXT. Slightly less little me in seventh grade. I had a bunch of non binary and demiboy friends and at one point they jokingly said an idea on what my gender neutral name would be and that stuck for a while after I came out as non binary but I think that was my initial awakening. At this point, I was a non binary lesbian.

Well then I discovered the glory that is fictional men and then I thought I was a non binary bisexual.

But then whoops sex is gross so now I’m a non binary asexual biromantic.

BUT THEN one of my best friends who I had a crush on transitioned a whole bunch from a female then to non binary then demiboy and back to non binary (I also watched them date five different people, three or four of which were my friends but that’s a story for another day…) and I continued to like them regardless and I find that gender doesn’t really matter so much as personality. So I’m a non binary panromantic asexual.

AND THEN I realize that I THINK I gravitate towards feminine and androgynous presenting people so now I’m a non binary omniromantic asexual.

ON TOP OF THAT I now think I only develop romantic feelings towards people I get to know on a more personal level and never before then so atm I think I’m a non binary omniromantic demiromantic asexual.

Bottom line is you don’t have to figure it out first try. Things change and you learn and develop through life and you learn over time who you are. Learning who you are, who you love, and what you want doesn’t make you any less valid or queer or loved!

[brieflie]

I'm lazy and don't want to make the decision myself, so I'm having you all decide..

Note: they're generally allies but don't know much about the community specifically, there's no danger and I'm also an adult/college student :3

[personwholikespmtok]

*pinches and punches for the first of the month gay-ly*

[wysteriagargoyle]

mono..demi..aro..grace..void...fluid??

Hello, I'm 'new' to Tumblr

I'm evolving in my sexuality and I just got back on tumbr after a long long time, but was suggested groups while I was trying to research what I am now.. would there be people willing to help? These groups sorta feel right but not really and...

with my new partner.

I'm just. I've been challenged(?) and I just feel like I don't know what to identify as anymore..

> Cy

[your-blorbos-are-queer]

aziraphale from good omens is agender, demiromantic, and asexual (headcanon)

submitted by anonymous

[aroaceconfessions]

I have a cousin who, ever since she was a kid, had a plan for her life. Go through 4 years of college, get married right after, have a child soon after they were married, then another soon after, etc. She has happily done so, and while I am happy for her, as an Ace demiro, I just don't really get it. I'm happy with my slow and single life most days, never felt a need or desire for the American Dream lifestyle, and the idea of spawning creates a major ick factor for the Ace and nonbinary in me. I don't judge my cousin for her joy, I'm happy she's happy and I love my niece and nephew, but damn do I not really get it.