#intersectional counseling

[wovetherapy]

New Year Reflections: Reconnecting with Oneself

With the closing of one year and the beginning of another, people often enter a time of reflection and setting intentions. Whether one subscribes to the notion of New Year’s resolutions or not, the time of year lends itself towards spending more time indoors, contemplating interpersonal relationships, navigating family dynamics, and thinking about all that has happened in the past 12 months… reflecting on where you are at now, and what is about to begin. And if these reflections are not on your mind as 2024 comes to an end and 2025 begins, then perhaps consider this a sign encouraging you to tune into and reconnect with your self.

Connecting with Self

Feeling connected with oneself can hold different meanings and may look different for each individual at different times of life. Generally, connecting with oneself involves understanding one’s true desires, values, and emotions. There are many reasons why one may find a lack of connection with one’s self, ranging from consciously distancing to subconsciously drifting or being actively inhibited from these concepts.

Some examples of reasons for feeling disconnected from oneself:

Stress

Grief and loss

Monotony

Lack of self-expression

Abusive relationship

Substance use

Mental health disorders

Chronic pain or illness

Trauma

Intersectionality

Those with various marginalized identities, especially women of color and children of immigrants, are often taught to put others before themselves. By being told to not be an inconvenience to anyone or attract unwanted attention or take up space, it can feel like there is no room for one’s own desires, values, or emotions. Constant messaging that other people have it worse than you do and to not go against the status quo or you may end up alone for the rest of your life can be forms of manipulation that inhibits people from connecting with oneself. This environment may foster the alienation of one’s true self or the distancing of various parts of oneself, again preventing marginalized individuals from being in touch with one’s own desires, values, and emotions.

Being disconnected from oneself can be detrimental to one’s mental health, including but not limited to contributing towards low self-esteem, unsatisfying interpersonal and romantic relationships, and lacking a sense of belonging. Experiencing disconnect from oneself can manifest as people-pleasing, difficulties with setting and maintaining boundaries, shallow connections with others, feeling lost in life and lacking purpose, and burnout. To work through these issues and create new patterns, it is important to find ways to begin communicating and connecting with oneself.

How to connect with oneself

Connecting with oneself for the first time or reconnecting with oneself after time apart can feel like a big question mark in where to start. Although there is no one right way to become (re)acquainted with yourself, here are a few guidelines in where to start.

Give yourself permission. To take up space, make mistakes, and not be liked by everyone around you. Although it may feel foreign, uncomfortable, and terrifying at times, shift your focus towards your relationship with yourself.

Hold space for all versions of yourself. Show yourself kindness and compassion, and be open to change. You may be surprised by your own values, desires, and emotions. Be curious, and allow yourself to explore these avenues and embrace times of discomfort. Humans are complex beings, and you are deserving of your own time, care, and attention while getting to know yourself.

Practice tuning into and establishing your own boundaries. Having boundaries is a form of self-expression and self-advocacy. It is a form of self-respect that honors one’s own safety and protection, allowing for meaningful connections with oneself as well as with others. A form of setting boundaries with oneself may include questioning and communicating with one’s intrusive thoughts.

Express gratitude. Reflect on what you appreciate in life. This may elucidate aspects of your priorities, including your true values, desires, and emotions. Focusing on what you like can help foster your own interests and sense of self.

Practice mindfulness and acceptance of self. Be aware of and open to your thoughts and feelings along with your reactions and judgments to your thoughts and feelings. Be present and stay with yourself through all these sensations. These exercises may strengthen the relationship with oneself and relates to self-esteem and self-efficacy.

Seek out awe-inspiring experiences and get creative. By looking beyond oneself for something greater can be helpful in finding ways to (re)connect with oneself and one’s emotions, desires, and values. Creative expressions can be helpful when these concepts feel inaccessible or difficult to describe in words. Examples: nature, spiritual contemplation, psychedelics, collective movement, art, music, dance.

Conclusion

Reconnecting with oneself can feel daunting and overwhelming, but it is not something you have to do alone. Speak with a therapist to better understand what is coming up in times of disconnect with yourself and explore options of connecting with yourself in ways that work best for you. Your emotions, desires, and values are all valid, from previous years and into 2025. Happy reflecting, and Happy New Year!

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[respectissexy]

Tumblr is currently serving me an ad for "Voda, the LGBTQ mental health app" offering "daily meditations, self-care and AI advice" and as a therapist I am begging you not to download an app where an AI tries to help you with your mental health. Please do not. They tried to have an AI chatbot counsel eating disorder patients and it told them to diet. That shit is not safe. Do not talk to an AI about your mental health please. You don't need to talk to a professional but talk to a PERSON. Edited to add: OK, it's been a long day and I wrote this when I only had the information that was in the ad. It looks like they may not actually have a chatbot, but something that just... churns out pre-programmed advice? That's genuinely a lot safer! But calling it "AI advice" feels a little misleading. This app may be perfectly fine and safe to use, but should probably stick to the fundamentals that people want from a mental health app and not try to use AI hype to market, since the intersection of AI and mental health support is VERY DICEY and bad shit has happened there before. And you should probably do further research on how they are using your data, since that is also an area where mental health support apps have gone bad before.

[thelesbianpoirot]

I really despise how people try to skirt around any kind of basic feminist praxis by saying their race or culture or other marginalized identity makes it different somehow. Yes, intersecting identities add nuance to feminist theory, not in the way you people view it. "Actually being feminine breedable and submissive may be negative for white women, but actually it is really empowering for black women." "It may be empowering for white women to work, but brown women have worked to long, we deserve to be dependent on men for a while." "It may be empowering to white feminists to be anti-makeup, cosmetic procedures and other frivolous female suffering for trends but black women NEED MAKEUP more an anyone else!" "Divorce may benefit white woman, but us brown women value family, and self sacrifice, so we counsel abusive men of color, so we can keep families together. They are always trying to breakdown brown families. We will not be calling the police when he beats her. We don't send another men of color to jail."

"Abortion may be for white able-bodied women, but my people are facing genocide so women of race/disability must keep the children they don't want, abortion for us is sterilization!"

"This lesbian pornography is actually very important to Queer culture! This lesbian porno was directed by a woman! And it stars actual queer actresses. So even though porn is usually bad, in this case, it is okay." "Controlling every aspect of a woman's life is wrong, unless it is my religion, then it is fine, atheist women may not approve, but my situation is different, a different kind of feminism but equal." "High heels are usually torture devices, but on a femme it just feels right, it is important to her femme identity!" We ain't never getting anywhere if women can just pull out a permission slip (race, sexuality, disability) to get them excused from practicing or honoring feminist praxis that will benefit ALL WOMEN.

[flawseer]

Jade Mountain Academy students

#6 - Skywing chapter

I like Skywings a lot actually. I think they were underutilized in the story. And then there is Flame. Poor, lovable Flame. One day I would like to write a more in-depth think piece on him, his character, and his role in the story. But not today, so here are some Skywings:

Carnelian

Tribe - Skywing

Winglet - Jade

Color - Tomato red

Relatives - none on site

Clawmate(s) - Moonwatcher (Nightwing), Kinkajou (Rainwing)

Favorite subject - Exercise

Least fav. subject - Science

Physical characteristics - tan horns, bendy; banded markings running down upper neck; light to medium scarring across face, neck, and limbs; medium to large stature, well-defined musculature

Other characteristics - selectively uncooperative, refuses to do assignments that annoy her (monitor for now); abrasive, three reported threats of violence against students (monitored, suggest expanding physical extracurricular options to burn off excess energy); appears to respond well to praise

Flame

Tribe - Skywing

Winglet - Gold

Color - Crimson red

Relatives - none on site

Clawmate(s) - Bigtail (Nightwing), Pike (Seawing)

Favorite subject - did not disclose

Least fav. subject - "All of them"

Physical characteristics - double-bent horns; black dorsal plates and accents; large, jagged scar running across left side of the face, intersecting the eye; blind in left eye; medium size with thin, wiry frame

Other characteristics - very uncooperative, refuses to do assignments and has poor attendance record (monitored, suggest counseling, consider withdrawing from student body if behavior does not improve); emotionally volatile, does not like eye contact, will react with hostility if stared at or if facial scar is mentioned (suggest counseling); shows signs of post traumatic stress and severe self image issues (suggest counseling); has turned down counseling offer (give space for now, ask again later)

Thrush

Tribe - Skywing

Winglet - Silver

Color - Apricot yellow

Relatives - Peregrine (cousin)

Clawmate(s) - Changbai (Icewing), Boto (Rainwing)

Favorite subject - History

Least fav. subject - Anatomy

Physical characteristics - straight horns; row of dark scales running down ventral side of neck; beak-like mouth; smallish stature, small-boned

Other characteristics - decent work ethic; very energetic, difficulty to sit still; eager to prove personal competence; frequently interrupts people while they're speaking (suggest guidance and monitoring)

Peregrine

Tribe - Skywing

Winglet - Copper

Color - Brick red

Relatives - Thrush (cousin)

Clawmate(s) - Pronghorn (Sandwing)

Favorite subject - Anatomy

Least fav. subject - Art

Physical characteristics - dark-colored stripe patterns running down the side of the neck; long limbs; medium to large stature with slender features; deaf in left ear

Other characteristics - practically-inclined; morbid sense of humor; tends to play with food before eating; owns a collection of small, sharpened animal bones (has been instructed not to bring them to class); expressed interest in a class/seminar about medicinal herbs

Garnet

Tribe - Skywing

Winglet - Quartz

Color - Amaranth red

Relatives - none on site

Clawmate(s) - Siamang (Rainwing), Arid (Sandwing)

Favorite subject - History

Least fav. subject - Cultural Exchange

Physical characteristics - sharply bent horns curving inward; ridge of thorn-like spines running from nose down to tip of tail; light scarring across ventral side; large frame with well-defined musclulature

Other characteristics - morose; does not like loud noises or crowds; prefers to eat alone; longest fire-breathing distance; notable age-gap to rest of winglet (no issues so far, but continue to monitor social integration)

Peril

Tribe - Skywing

Winglet - not assigned

Color - Tiger orange

Relatives - none on site

Clawmate(s) - none

Favorite subject - class attendance suspended

Least fav. subject - class attendance suspended

Physical characteristics - afflicted with firescales, body emits dangerous levels of heat at all times; scales show faint fiery glow like embers; bright yellow vein-like pattern spread through wing membranes; bright blue eyes; tall stature, very thin

Other characteristics - CAUTION! Do not come in physical contact with her, severe burn hazard; instruct student body to keep minimum distance; be mindful of surfaces she was in prolonged contact with, as they could carry residual heat; keep away from flammable areas; we don't know what to do with her yet, for now just give her a place to sleep and eat

[erotetica]

Fuck Trump, here’s all the civil rights orgs I know:

(Most have education pages and/or socials to follow and boost if u can’t donate right now)

LGBTQ+

Trevor Project—queer crisis hotline/counseling (NOTE THAT THEY CALL POLICE IN CERTAIN SITUATIONS)

List of Crisis Hotlines/etc compiled by Inclusive Therapists .com which DON’T CALL POLICE

Point of Pride—helps trans folks having trouble accessing gender affirming healthcare

Trans Lifeline—community support/resources/financial aid for trans folks

REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS

National Network of Abortion Funds—financial assistance/transport/childcare for people in ban states seeking abortions.

Brigid Alliance—same

Sister Song—reproductive justice for WOC

Indigenous Women Rising—helps Indigenous families access abortions/menstrual hygiene/midwifery/etc

Afiya Center—reproductive justice/HIV care for Black womxn in Texas

Abortion access orgs for Americans in the

Midwest

South

Appalachia (they also offer free emergency contraception/support services/etc)

RACIAL JUSTICE

NYU Law Center on Race Inequality—self-education resources on racism & antiblackness/how to contact elected officials/how to protest safely.

List of orgs protecting Black Americans, compiled by NYU (incl NAACP, Audre Lorde Project, BLM, Black Voters Matter, etc)

National Immigration Law Center—fighting for asylum seeking/DACA; helping immigrants access healthcare/worker’s rights/etc

American Civil Liberties Union—working on many intersectional initiatives

Southern Poverty Law Center—same

GLOBAL AID (While we Americans wait for shoes to start dropping, let’s not forget others in need, and that Trump’s atrocious foreign policies will affect everyone!)

World Central Kitchen—hunger relief

Action Against Hunger—same

War Child—supports and educates children in conflict zones, like Yemen and DRC

Medecins Sans Frontieres— medical aid

Islamic Relief USA—emergency aid

PALESTINIAN AID

Palestine Children’s Relief Fund— medical aid for kids

Anera— emergency relief & long-term development resources for Palestine, Lebanon, Jordan

United Nations Relief and Works Agency—aid for Palestinian refugees in Lebanon/Syria/West Bank/Gaza/Jordan

Palestine Red Crescent Society—medical aid

SUDANESE AID

List of humanitarian orgs working in Sudan, compiled by 500 Words Magazine

CONGOLESE AID

Panzi Foundation—supports assault survivors & their families

Eastern Congo Initiative—supports ands funds local/community-based Congolese efforts

Please reblog, & add any legitimate humanitarian organizations you know of! I love all of you!!

[codenamesazanka]

thoughts on the chapter

“these differences, both internal and external, allow us to run towards other people and search for a point of intersection” kid out of 8 chapters you spoke like 5 sentences to Shigaraki. What intersection. (I know, I know - the crying child. the only thing Deku can care about.)

Aizawa and Mic visiting Shirakumo's grave

Compress reading Spinner's book with a sad smile...

Did villains just magically stop appearing? because AFO is gone? Because everyone is a bit nicer to each other? Because the rankings got expanded and now everyone wants to get the Eiyuu title?

Shoji says "This award goes to those who rose up 8 years ago." GEE SHOJI. I WONDER WHO IT WAS THAT GOT THEM TO SHOW UP IN THE FIRST PLACE.

I know he's thinking of the heteromorphs that stopped that day. But i just. can't get over the fact that it was Spinner's call to action that inspired them first to even come out.

"peacefully resolving prejudice-based incidents in the rural areas" Peacefully telling a man to put down the rake they're about to hit a heteromorph child with.

I know the intention is de-escalation or something. And that's a good thing! Ideally I don't want the man holding the rake to be smashed into the ground. I don't want the dumbasses spray painting slurs on a wall to be punched around. But the word peaceful here feels like it implies that... it would be victim's fault if they use force to resist violent discrimination. Equal responsibility on all parties and it's up to Shoji, it depends on Shoji to resolve it nonviolently. The originator of the violence doesn't enter the equation.

idk. rubs me the wrong way.

Did Shoji resolve the heteromorph riot peacefully? Not really. He fought Spinner (ah, you might say - well, Spinner was using violence! Shoji has to react to that with punching as well! Yeah. That's what I mean.) Koda had birds shoved someone off a building. What actually stopped everything was one rioter feeling doubts. It's credited to Shoji's words, but Shoji also admits that it's good they showed up and in the chapter here, he calls it an "uprising".

And they showed up because of Spinner.

Well. Maybe Shoji turned to "peaceful resolves" afterwards.

Just to clarify so that no one misunderstands me. Peaceful resolutions are good. I'm glad that's how Shoji is stopping anti-heteromorph incidents. What I dislike is the shallow framing.

"Quirk Counseling Expansion Project" EXPANSION???

Toga became the way she was because she didn't go to Quirk Counseling enough. Needed Expansion. The counselor saying she'll make Toga "nice and normal" didn't go far enough. Needed Expansion.

Again, I get that probably reform is implied in that, or the intent is probably expanding the concept/ideas/tools/methods/scope to include better methods. But wow.

All Might + Crowd of Supporter Statues is the creepiest thing I've ever seen.

Story literally breaking the ending fourth wall to give a happy ending to Deku.

I expect the volume extras to have Shigaraki to come and decay the ending and rescue the league.

It's amazing how the answer to "can someone quirkless be a hero" is a NO. Because Deku's feeling sad and lonely being quirkless and just a teacher and saving a kid from tripping and encouraging a future student. It's not enough. It's not Heroism. So he gets a support item and gets to be a Hero again

And then Shigaraki's Star Wars ghost is just there, not tied into the theme happening on page because Deku failed to saved the fucking guy, but he remembers Shigaraki. for one panel.

Just to repeat this because it's hysterical: This ending is "Can a quirkless person be a hero (and be happy and feel worthy?)" We get a gentle bittersweet but resounding NO. Until All Might comes again to help him out with a 'gift'.

"Remember that day when I used support items to inject acid into an immortal child demon on global TV? The day that you killed a man? Well, data from that day made you this support item. Use it to be a Hero."

Also being a quirkless Hero after all depends on knowing people and having lots of money.

All Might is now about 64 years old.

Shigaraki ghost...........

Something about shigaraki in his original outfit has me all choked up.

That's the appearance he chose to present as in the vestige realm before he disappeared.

The appearance he had in that flashback of him and Spinner bonding over games.

I like how Deku looks back, sees the ghost, but then turns forward and smile. Not even a smile as he's looking at shigaraki. I know this is nitpicky. jfc tho.

"You already destroyed it"/"That depends on what you guys do from now on." I see that there's barely any credit to Shigaraki forcing this amount of change in this chapter. As far as I can see, Deku barely thinks about Shigaraki or even Tenko this chapter. Shigaraki's just a ghost hidden vaguely in all this.

"I'll never forget" lol. The ghost is just like an afterthought from the story to make sure Deku keeps his 'promise'

I don't think a single villain's name is mentioned here. Not a single League member's. Uravity's work towards quirk counseling is not publicly or explicitly credited to her experience with Toga (the vaguest of implication). We don't know Dabi's fate and Shouto is only known as "Endeavor's son" - which might be good? because it's Endeavor's who was the main perpetrator, but still. Spinner lead the uprising but Shoji doesn't mention that. Spinner wrote his book but there's no impact, except for making Compress smile sadly and that's it. Twice has been long forgotten. Deku thinks of Shigaraki's words at the beginning of the chapter, then sees his ghost at the end, but otherwise, nothing.

Truly they've been swept under the rug. A lid put over everything.

Whatever!!!! Shigaraki and the League - the absolute best part of bnha.

[purpleaqua8]

What is blocking your money flow?

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PILE 1: The Sun, Six of Pentacles, and King of Wands Your lack of confidence is currently blocking your money flow. Spirit is reminding you that financial abundance doesn’t have to come from working harder; it can come from working smarter and shifting your mindset. Money can flow to you effortlessly if you release the belief that success requires struggle. Instead, align with your passions and pursue them wholeheartedly. Believe in yourself and have confidence that you can earn money by prioritizing your happiness and doing what you love.

It’s time to discover what truly excites you—something that feels fulfilling and abundant without the weight of “work.” This is where understanding Ikigai can be transformative. Ikigai is a Japanese concept meaning "reason for being." It represents the sweet spot where your passions, talents, and what the world needs intersect, creating a path to purpose and fulfillment. By identifying your ikigai, you can align your energy with work that feels natural, joyful, and financially rewarding. A Reason for Being Tarot Spread: Ikigai

You have the potential to be a money magnet, but this requires you to invest in yourself. Whatever your dreams may be, channel your resources—time, energy, and finances—into nurturing them. This process will only succeed if you deeply understand and embrace who you are at your core.

Confidence is key here. Work on enhancing your self-image—improve your appearance, refine your style, and adopt a positive attitude about yourself. Avoid comparing yourself to others or placing yourself in an inferior position. Let others recognize your value, but always stand strong in your knowledge of your worth and capabilities.

When you stay true to yourself, focus on your goals, and let your confidence shine, you’ll find that the effort you invest in yourself pays off in abundance. Trust the process—you won’t regret it.

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PILE 2: Ten of Pentacles, with the rest all in reverse: Eight of Swords, Ten of Cups, Ace of Wands, King of Cups, Page of Cups, and Ten of Swords Generational curses, poor money management, and unhealthy spending habits are blocking your financial flow. You’ve inherited these patterns, along with a poverty mindset, which must be released in order to create a healthy and abundant financial life.

Take time to reflect on how your parents or guardians managed their finances and examine both their past and present attitudes toward money. Patterns within your lineage may be repeating themselves, preventing you from achieving the abundance you deserve. Emotional spending, struggles with debt, or the lack of a solid financial foundation may have been issues for those before you—and these cycles may now be affecting you.

This is your opportunity to break the cycle. Assess your financial habits and identify where you may be overspending, mismanaging money, or avoiding the necessary steps to build long-term financial stability. Sometimes, this avoidance may not be purely practical—it could be related to inner shadow work that needs attention.

It’s time to take responsibility and develop a healthier relationship with money. By addressing these inherited challenges and making intentional changes, you can free yourself from the past and cultivate the financial freedom you desire.

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PILE 3: Pile 3: Queen of Cups, Temperance, Five of Pentacles, and Two of Pentacles Your money flow is blocked because you need to refresh or create a budgeting system. Understanding where your income is coming from and where it is going—regardless of the amount—is crucial for managing your finances effectively.

Additionally, there is a strong call for you to give back to others. This doesn’t necessarily mean monetary contributions; you can also offer your time, energy, and talents to causes you're passionate about. Whether through volunteering, working in a job that adds value to society, or sharing your expertise, your community and the world need the unique skills and services you provide. The great part is, you can also be compensated for doing work that aligns with your values and helps others.

While it’s important to ensure you are compensated for your work, incorporating charitable activity or giving back can be incredibly rewarding. When you engage in something you love—without letting it drain your energy or affect your personal well-being—you’ll find that your efforts are recognized, and you may be rewarded in ways that lead to greater income.

Use wisdom in balancing these efforts. By helping others and adding value to society, you can create opportunities for both personal growth and financial success.

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[todomitoukei]

what’s the spoiler for the final chapter? 🤡

It's a lot of dumb stuff so I'll just focus on the lov, which technically isn't a lot because we don't get any actual info on them.

First of all, there is a time skip of 8 years.

There is a tiny panel of Spinner's book, which is simply titled "League of Villains", next to it is a panel of Compress reading it (where? We don't know). And Shigaraki appears as a ghost in front of Deku in one panel but he just stands there 🕴️without saying anything. Aizawa and Present Mic are seen praying at an altar, suggesting that Kurogiri died (EDIT: it could also be Midnight or anyone else because they don't mention who they're visiting exactly). Ochako started some kind of quirk counseling project (in honor of Toga I guess).

No one actually mentions the lov in any way shape or form.

The chapter starts with the quote from the first chapter: “People are not born equal. Each of us has a different form or shape but, despite of that, we still care for others. And these differences, both internal and external, allow us to run towards other people and search for a point of intersection”

And ends with: "This is the story of how we will continue to reach out."

While these quotes are supposed to come across as inspirational, they ultimately feel shallow as the heroes that committed crimes are continuing to live life while their victims are either dead and/or their ending not even explicitly stated. There is one panel of Endvr in his wheelchair, surrounded by Hawks and his sidekicks, Shouto is a pro hero who is being called Endvr's son less and less these days.

This story about caring and reaching out unfortunately failed at getting anywhere with that as the people that needed help ended up dead/in prison/probably dead.

So while we spent so long arguing about whether Touya would live or die, Horikoshi simply decided to give us the middle finger by not showing him or revealing what happened to him. Is he alive? Did he die? Kurogiri at least had people come visit his altar, however, what happened with Touya, how long did he live if he died, what became of his relationships with his family members? That and more we will apparently never know because why would any of that even matter, right?

Essentially, Horikoshi should've just killed him at the end of the second war and let him go out on his own terms instead of keeping him alive for... what?

[percheduphere]

It troubles me when fans find Loki in his own tv series "out of character". Since the first Thor movie, Loki has shown a certain sweetness, protectiveness, and level-headedness that was overcome and eventually self-suppressed by rage and tragedy. He didn't have an environment in which he could thrive and, in Frigga's words, succeed at being who he truly is.

Loki desperately needed a support system outside his immediate family. That support system simply couldn't have been built on Asgard because of:

1. Odin's political machinations, including the intentional creation of an environment rife with sibling rivalry and blatant favoritism.

2. The racist if not xenophobic views of Asgardians.

3. The inherent masculine-dominant, warrior society culture of Asgard.

To break Loki out of his self-destructive patterns, it took the empathy of 1 brainwashed and memory-wiped TVA analyst to rightly recognize that Loki as a person has incredible potential and that he could actively do something about it. That Mobius uses this reasoning for the advantage of the TVA (then under HWR's helm) is a plot point I'll discuss later, but the fact still stands: Loki was given a second chance to be who he really is because of the choice Mobius made to intervene. Loki would have been pruned before he would have had the opportunity to meet Sylvie, B-15, Casey, and OB. This is fact.

Mobius literally drops everything--the case he's actively investigating--to intervene. The fact a minuteman immediately reports the variant of Loki he is most interested in has been taken into custody suggests that Mobius has been planning this intervention for some time.

Some fans hate Mobius for his treatment of Loki in the first episode. It is, indeed, manipulative, condescending, and to a certain extent, emotionally abusive. I'm not denying any of this, but from a narrative perspective, Mobius, to be a fully well-rounded character, necessarily must have his own flaws and personal conflicts to battle. Loki's evolution as a character, and thus his positive impact on others, would be missing an emotional beat of mutual reciprocation otherwise. That emotional beat pays off in every episode of S2, culminating in the final scene of the final episode. This is to say nothing of the likelihood that Loki would not have been receptive to any form of gentleness at that point in time to begin with.

Crucially, Mobius gets Loki to admit that his villainous persona is exactly that: an illusion constructed in a bid for control. Some viewers might interpret this scene as a shortcut for getting Loki to behave "out of character" by S1E2, but Thor 2 proves otherwise:

This scene with Thor demonstrates that Loki has a high pain tolerance and is adept at hiding pain. His need to mask his vulnerability, and how that vulnerability is intrinsically tied with the misplaced shame of who he is, resonates deeply with queer, people of color, immigrant, colonized, and adopted fans, many of whom have intersectional lived experiences (including myself). I believe it is for this reason that so many of us are desperate for blatant representation in mainstream entertainment, and to shame us for the sin of hoping is disturbing.

But I digress. Frigga, Thor, and now Mobius are among the few who can see through Loki's deception. That deception has the unfortunate effect of hurting not only innocent civillians but his loved ones and himself (closeting, internalized racism).

Once Loki is able to drop that persona through admission, however, he is able to relax and be himself in the TVA. And in being himself, Loki is consequently able to love himself, which manifests through loving Sylvie. S1 shows Loki holding her up on a romantic pedestal: he chases after her, he sings a song for her, he wants her to be okay. He loves her, yes, and though it appears she does not reciprocate (in my opinion, your mileage might vary), Sylvie does love Loki enough back to buy him a drink and counsel him about what he really wants. This scene is critical in Loki's development in the same way Mobius sheds light on his potential to be whoever he wants.

Both Mobius and Sylvie are integral for Loki to arrive at his turning point, his ultimate sacrifice. Loki loves Sylvie. He therefore chooses to not kill her. Killing her, moreover, would not solve the issue of free will. Sylvie is right in believing free will, and thus the multiverse, is right and necessary. Sylvie's moral question and Loki sparing her life, answers Mobius's belief that Loki can be whoever he wants.

On the other side of this coin, watching Mobius in the final scene, hearing Mobius whisper, "Let time pass..." answers Sylvie's question of what Loki wants, and what he want more deeply than not being alone is for his friends, most especially Mobius (whom he also loves and cares for most, to LIVE.

The series ends with only 2 characters heartbroken with the outcome of Loki's heroism, which Mobius knew existed within him from the beginning. He saw those little but important moments: Loki comforting his brother, Loki protecting Jane, Loki giving up his life to buy Thor time, and so much more, he saw and he knew Frigga's words were right.

[gingersnapwolves]

previously on "Kouri vs. Her Family", I mentioned that my brother is really irritated at my dad because they all live in the same house and my dad chose to live in a place with kids and dogs and then gets upset when they act like kids and dogs.

probably worth mentioning that

my parents have had dogs and my dad LOVES our dog so if he doesn't like Rex it's because Rex is, you know, a monster

my brother's kids are, uh, a lot

they originally were planning to get a place with a separated in-law apartment but couldn't find one

my brother said something along the lines of "when we planned all this, they were younger" like bruh???? what did you expect to happen? you are an adult man, you should be aware of the passage of time

(wasn't that the entire point??? that you'd have them around to help with the kids and then you'd be able to take care of them once they got old????? if that wasn't the point, what was? just being able to afford a bigger, nicer house with my dad's money??????)

anyhoo

my dad emailed me yesterday with a house listing in the city I live in 😂😂😂 (about 45 minutes away from my brother). no preamble, no context. just a Zillow link and the text "I will explain when I can be assured of privacy"

and because I am a good, dutiful daughter I looked at the link and said I would not recommend that particular house because it's right by a very busy intersection and it's not a great neighborhood, but I found a couple others they might like, if this is indeed for them and not for some OTHER person he knows (my dad knows zero people)

to which he said, "Mom thinks I am overreacting. I am still inclined to move." and now we're meeting for lunch this weekend so I can't WAIT to see how this goes and test out my 'marriage counseling for your aging parents who have the communication skills of toddlers and haven't compromised on anything in 50 years' course

stay tuned!

[wovetherapy]

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Rubies

Waiting Room

hello! so i actually wrote this a while back but couldn’t think of a right time to post it. this takes place on the same day as First Base, but it’s a different POV!

(Content: living weapon whumpee, discussions of war and child soldiers, implied child abuse, dehumanization)

“I’ve got it,” Kitty made a little circle with her fingers. O.K. They were escorted away before Apollo could respond.

“Okay. I’m gonna go…beg for his life, I guess,” Apollo said into the empty space she’d just been standing in.

“I’ll go with you,” Iza piped up. At least she didn’t leave him hanging. Apollo was surprised by her eagerness, but he knew it was the correct move on her part. It’d be better to seek Levon out than the other way around. He would not react well if he felt he’d had to catch them.

For better or worse, it did not take long for their paths to intersect. Levon was already out in the hall. One woman from the counsel hung by his side. They spoke in low tones. She was one of the few people on base that matched Levon in age and in history. She shot the two of them a dirty look as they approached.

“Oh, speak of the devil.” Levon lifted his hands up in greeting, a sardonic smile appearing upon his face. He couldn’t hold it any longer then a second. His expression quickly fell back into its fatigue state. Not exactly angry, but clearly not pleased. The woman slipped off into the shadows, patting him lightly on the back before she departed. 

“It’s my fault,” Apollo put himself between Levon and Iza. “I take full responsibility.”

“Not how it works, kiddo. Chain of command.” Levon looked straight past him.

Iza did not say anything in her own defense. Levon shot her a curious look. It had meant something that she’d come to find him and that she had not come to argue the point. It was a good start. They could talk later. They would.

But Apollo clearly needed a wall to throw himself against. Levon started to move down the hall again. He wasn’t totally shutting him out, but he had better make his point quick. He’d had it so rehearsed before, but the words sounded hurried this time, more uncertain than ever. 

“Captain, it’s not his fault. You understand that. He didn’t have a choice. It’s not fair to punish him for what Empire did. You can’t hold that against him. You won’t, right? What we did, it has nothing to do with him. He didn’t know. He still doesn’t know. He just woke up. He-“

Levon held up a hand, “I thought you had a powerpoint.”

“I do,” Apollo admitted, “I can go get it if you give me five minutes.”

“That’s alright.”

“Captain!” Apollo hissed. They’d already arrived just outside of the ward. 

“Please don’t hurt him.”

It was such an earnest and simple request that Levon’s resolve momentarily cracked.

“Take it easy. Whatever I decide, I’m not going to do it right now. Save your breath.”

“He’s scared, Levon.”

“Has it ever occurred to you that you’re not the only person in the world who knows right from wrong? That I might actually know what I’m doing?”

Apollo shut up. Iza put a hand on his shoulder, both to steady him and to pull him back. Levon signaled to the medical staff to clear out just before he stepped into Delta’s room.

==========

Levon stepped back out into the lobby, shutting the door quickly behind him. There was a deep unhappiness in his features.

Apollo’s face was marred with concern. It had been for as long as he had waited there. But as he caught sight of Levon’s haunted expression, it slipped into a barely suppressed smugness. I told you so.

In the same way, Levon’s horror flickered briefly into exasperation as the two made eye contact.

“You didn’t say he was a baby,” Levon insisted. He realized instantly that the effect would be lost on Apollo. Levon often felt that he was surrounded by children. He maintained his own inner circle, each of them tending to their own sector, but all the rank and file skewed young. Apollo was no exception to this, hardly tipping twenty four, but then Apollo’s career had just begun. Delta’s star had been burning ever since he was a child.

Levon forgot any thoughts of penalty. He couldn’t reasonably hold him accountable for things he had done as a child. Delta was a ward of Empire. It was their fault. 

Apollo searched Levon’s expression, still seeming a bit too satisfied with himself.

“You’re not off the hook,” Levon told him.

“I know, Captain,” he said mildly, “Is he?”

Levon leaned against the wall. He palmed at his forehead in hopes of relieving the tension building up there.

“I don’t understand the child soldier thing. I’ve never understood it. Why? Is there that much of a shortage that they can’t fish from the adult pool anymore? What purpose does it serve?” Levon didn’t hide his disgust. Empire already recruited teenagers as a matter of policy, but there had been more and more reports of them dipping even lower. He’d gotten reports of combatants as fresh as twelve stumbling blindly into enemy territory. They’d be found limping and with blisters from where their oversized boots had rubbed them raw. They had to be carried out.

Iza spoke up. Levon was surprised to hear her speak. She’d been hanging back, trying to make herself unseen, as if he might bite her. 

“Kids have more raw psychic talent than adults. They lose it as they get older. It’s rare

you find someone who’s been trained enough to carry their abilities into adulthood. You need to start them young,” she mused.

The clarity with which she spoke of it was incriminating.

“Tell me the truth,” Levon said, “Did you know?”

“We suspected,” Apollo admitted, “Strongly.”

“And what? You wanted it for yourself?” 

“No.“ Apollo’s voice got all pitchy, the way it did when he was upset. “How can you even think that?”

“You?” Levon ignored his indignation, turning his gaze to Iza.

“Me?” Iza asked. She let some softness creep into her voice, “I didn’t want anything. I thought it would be a good experiment. I thought you might get something out of it. But I knew you’d never want to use it, not the way they did. I know you.”

Levon relaxed in a way that was barely observable. He took a deep breath.

“You are very, very lucky this didn’t go worse. Do I even have to tell you all the nightmare scenarios that could have unfolded instead? If you had gotten caught? If he had detonated? The standard response for this kind of insubordination is automatic and permanent dismissal. Were you aware of that?”

Neither of them answered. It was a wise thing to do.

“However.” Levon continued. “Things are about to get very, very bad for us. Early reports say the civil war is over. The prince’s staff sold him out. Nezu is preparing to be coronated and he now runs unopposed. We will not have the advantage of a divided Empire anymore. All the heat is going to be on us. For that reason, I’m disinclined to let you go entirely.”

Again, neither of them spoke. Apollo put all his energy into keeping his face neutral.

“…Thank you.” Iza’s voice was low. 

“Don’t,” Levon denied the moment, “I haven’t decided what I’m doing with you yet. All I’m saying is you’re not kicked out. What I do might be worse. You — you are going to go apologize to him for putting him in this situation.”

“I will!” Apollo answered quickly, “I mean, I did. But I’ll do it again. He’s okay, right? You’re not gonna do anything to him?”

“He’s fine,” Levon waved his hand, “Don’t worry about it.”

Apollo looked as though he might collapse on the spot. All the tension that had been holding him up was not depleted. He was relieved, but more than that, he was exhausted. Stress was going to take all of them out before Empire ever could.

…………

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[aaknopf]

In the prologue to Spectral Evidence, Pulitzer winner Gregory Pardlo’s new collection, he writes, “This book is about the legal means by which fear is used to rationalize the persecution of people imagined to be in league with the possessed of supernatural forces. This book argues that the logic used to rationalize the prosecution of witches is the same logic that rationalizes vigilantism and police street justice.” He goes on to consider that both Black men and white women are “similarly pressed into service as both muse and monster in the Western cultural imagination,” while, at their ghostly intersection, the patriarchy is haunted by “the omnipresent but rarely named” Black woman. 

One iconic example, brought forth in these shimmering poems of the self as shaped by (and shaping) American history, is Tituba, the only woman of color to be accused in the Salem witch trials.

Occult

Zero your scales to the burden of a lash, Dear Justice, but let Tituba clumsy the Magistrates’ minds with a wag of her wizened index. A flight risk near forests of the Wampanoag where Christians savaged Queen Weetamoo’s corpse, what else might Tituba, nonwhite and woman, haunt but a margin of error? She’s a catbird’s song trapped in the chimney. She’s egg whites in water, she is the tumescence of smoke. Dear Mami Wata, let Tituba prove to be the stone that splits the stream of their vision. Let her renounce sight and be unseen. Let her cough ground coral in the shedding of a pewter moon, that she, of all the innocents, should live. Dear Three-headed Hecate, replace her, the unthought thought, with wax, twigs, horse hair and straw. Let her not appear as a witness. Nor as evidence. As with the talking dog, let her be the hoodoo that speaks through their mirrors. Let a hang-thread skein of yarn ghost the floorboards tempting a red cat—his familiars, the devil and his counsel, the canary. Let her conjure the man in black they fear who charms pilgrims on the road to paradise, disguised as a harmless birdwatcher. Dear Nemesis, let her feed the court a few names from his register—a taste of her truth, her mise en abyme, her one hell that calls forth another. With no standing on her own behalf, let her sit in judgment. Let this power invested of gavel and oath help her give birth through her mouth like a god.

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how do you go about getting DEI training? i wanna work in counseling w other queer ppl at some point in the future, and DEI training seems like it'd be vital to doing smth like that

It was part of my job to do some of it, actually, and I know some college classes actually count as it. I took a class on Race and Power that really opened my eyes to intersectionality with oppressed groups! If you get the chance and you're in college, even a community one, I guarantee there's probably at least SOME classes that'll cover most of the ground you're looking for. I would specifically advocate for classes that discuss things like race and power, because understanding how race intersects with other things like gender, sexuality, culture, and presentation is IMO vital to understand the big picture of how we're all affected. I think a lot of the time we can get hung up in viewing things like queer rights, racial inequity, and class as completely separate entities or isolated issues, but in reality they're all super connected and understanding those connections is going to let you understand basically everything surrounding it as well.

[jadefarringtonlaunceston]

What are the five neurodivergent love languages?

You’ve probably heard of the five love languages of words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts, but did you know the neurodivergent community have five of our own?

They are ways of connecting with one another and showing care.

Parallel play involves doing things alongside one another, but not together. This might literally be playing with two different toys, but it can take many other forms. In adulthood, one person might be watching TV while their partner reads a book. They might not even be doing anything at all. No one is directly engaging with anyone else or trying to influence what they do, but they’re still enjoying one another’s company.

Parallel play is sometimes referred to as ‘being alone together’. Almost everyone engages in this occasionally, but for many neurodivergent people it can be a favoured activity — particularly for autistics.

Neuronormative society sometimes stereotypes this as an awkward silence, or implies there is something wrong when people act like this. Perhaps their marriage is falling apart! Well it could be, but it’s usually the opposite. Parallel play demonstrates how relaxed the people involved are in each other’s company.

Those involved are not feeling any demands to engage, merely enjoying existing in the same space while they simultaneously enjoy their preferred activities. They benefit from the social connection without expending mental energy, and no small talk is necessary.

This cute name comes from the habit penguins have of giving stones to one another to show they care. Plenty of autistics and ADHDers have rock collections so this can be followed quite literally, but it’s also much broader.

Penguin pebbling is a way of showing thought for one another. Maybe you saw an object or a meme or article that reminded you of someone. Collecting it for them, tagging them in it, or messaging it to them all comes under penguin pebbling.

It’s a way of building and maintaining connection in a thoughtful way. It demonstrates you’re thinking of someone in a way that is likely to resonate with them. As with all neurodivergent attributes, everyone does this at some point, but it’s probably something you do regularly if you’re autistic or ADHD.

Deep interests are very common for neurodivergent people. They might be lifelong loves; special interests lasting several years; or intense hyperfixations that burn bright before fading out. If autistics or ADHDers are in-between interests this can be a source of real stress due to their monotropic nature and the need to focus deeply on things that grab their attention.

Infodumping is sharing your love of a topic by talking about or otherwise communicating it to others — usually at great length.

The great lectures of the past were basically scientists and other important people infodumping to a large audience, and we still see it today in talks, webinars and podcasts. This page is one huge infodump about counselling and neurodiversity.

Encouraging your friends and loved ones to talk to you about their deep interests, whether or not you share them, can be a way of demonstrating you care. Autistics in particular tend to have a love of information and knowledge. Neuronormative society often frowns on this, viewing correcting others with new information as wrong, and talking passionately about topics as strange.

Infodumping to one another and being accepted can be a fantastic way for neurodivergent people to connect and feel comfortable. If someone feels able to infodump to you then it is often a good indicator that they feel safe and secure in your presence.

Neurodivergent people typically have spiky profiles, which means they can be great at some things and really struggle with others. An individual’s capacity will fluctuate too based on a huge range of factors such as age, health, stress, sleep, connection, and intersectional considerations.

This means that neurodivergents typically need some form of support in some areas of their lives, and these can vary hugely. Support swapping involves friends, family, or even strangers in a group, taking time to support one another.

Someone might need reminders to perform tasks such as brushing their teeth, taking medication or paying bills. Another might need help with practical jobs such as cleaning or cooking meals.

Some people have no trouble making phone calls but they struggle with writing emails. If their friend experiences the opposite then they can do each other’s tasks.

Support swapping is sometimes referred to as sharing spoons, recognising that certain tasks take up far less energy for some people than others.

Neuronormative standards tell us we should be independent, yet everyone relies on others in some way or another. Support swapping sees interdependence as a natural, normal way of being that can actually bring us closer together instead of viewing those who need support (everyone!) as a burden.

On a basic level this is giving someone a tight hug, but there’s a lot more to the idea behind it.

Proprioception is a sense like taste or smell, but you probably weren’t taught about it at school. It’s what allows you to receive external force or input; to know where you are in space; and to figure out how much effort is needed.

Aspects of proprioception can be a struggle for some neurodivergent people. This may be apparent in things like appearing clumsy; having an unusual posture or way of walking; or finding it difficult to copy someone who’s demonstrating dance moves or gym exercises.

Some neurodivergent people have a big need for proprioceptive input, or this may fluctuate based on how they’re feeling. Lifting weights, climbing, and many other sports are ways of receiving this, but some people have a specific need for deep pressure. This is where the love language aspect of giving tight hugs comes in. You may have seen memes describing it as crushing a person’s soul back into their body as it can be particularly helpful when someone is feeling overwhelmed, frazzled or fragmented.

Not everyone likes to receive deep pressure from others, and many neurodivergent people have trauma around being touched, so please always ask someone before you give them a bear hug. Some get their need met through things like body socks, weighted blankets, or swaddles, which can provide pressure for longer than a fellow human can sustain.

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[cupcraft]

i hate when they gaslight house about his pain. i definitely think that sometimes his physical pain is exacerbated by his stress/mental pain but that isnt something to disregard either. When hes stressed he thinks about his pain more even if it doesnt hurt any more than it did yesterday and people brush him off like it isnt a real thing. like 😭😭😭It still hurts guys

Exactly.

Like stress, anxiety, trauma, etc. are all things that can exacerbate pain and make it worse. They are things that can be caused by the pain, intersect with it, etc. It can make the pain harder to process and manage. Many things. Chronic pain and your mental state are linked but that DOES NOT mean his pain is "made up" just "psychological".

House needing therapy and addiction counseling aside, his pain is still real. It's always real. HIs pain being amplified by stress isn't fake. His pain causing stress which then causes it to be amplified in a cycle isn't fake. His pain is real and deserves to be taken seriously. Every fucking doctor in this show has no fuckign clue what chronic pain is like and it shows. They also act like House being addicted to vicodin is some moral failing when in fact like um he also does need pain management...and opiates are a form of pain management and a consequence of long term opiate pain management can be addiction which becomes a chronic illness on its own that deseves its own patience and management. People, other than fellow patients and disabled characters that also get what he's going through, see House's pain as a made up moral failing that is just his long sinister plan to be drug seeking which is just one of the most gutting parts of the show (and unfortunately a reality for how many people and the medical system treats disabled people and also addicts).

I think it becomes the most jarring when there's a narrative how many people defend Stacy's decision to break House's medical consent and autonomy, and the near sort of judgement he gets for not wanting an amputation. His decision over his body part is his own, his relationship to his leg is his own, his autonomy over wanting a prosthetic versus a leg and a cane is his own. There should be no morality assigned to what House wanted to do with his leg injury. And maybe, that morality is assigned as a sense of guilt people (especially Cuddy) have for the fact the only reason he was injured in the first place is that people gaslit him to think his pain was made up and that he was just some drug seeking individual (see the lecture episode where he talks about this especially amplified about how even the med students thought this patient who was really him was drug seeking and not having a blood clot).

There's also a way that many characters weaponize his pain, like they're trying to teach him a lesson to his "ego" and "selfishness". For example, I think to the episode where they took his parking space and made him and another disabled doctor be pit against each other. I think to how like "well technically the ADA and your accomodations says you can walk 50 feet so your new parking spot is exactly 46 feet so that means youre full of shit house!" and I think to how Cuddy was like "um being ambulatory is less disabled than non-ambulatory" which is gross and fucked up. I hate how she made him "prove" his disability by making him use a wheelchair, and I hate how she punished him for standing to save a patient's life. I hate how she was unreceptive to House being like "hey well 46feet or not you dont understand how much goes into my day planning where to walk, when I use the bathroom, when the elevator's out, etc. My whole day revolves around managing and mitgating my chronic pain" and like telling her there's more to his accomodations just being like "50 feet" because it is in fact more nuanced than that. And instead, it's again, yet another moral failing. The narrative pushed on house of "If only he amputated his leg and stopped seeking drugs he'd be so much better" versus the reality f addiction and chronic paina nd how that intersects with mental health