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milk-and-cold-custard · 1 year ago

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I really love when my "smart city" that doesn't require a car has the footpath randomly stop and do I have the option of walking in a bus late or in long grass

#Limerick #university #i feel like you should be trying harder

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adhdandcomics · 3 months ago

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perhaps the most important question i’ve ever asked:

does anyone have tips for people trying to stop being chronically late to everything in the world that aren’t weirdly judgmental and aggressive or flat out lies

#when i tell you every single resource i’ve ever found or tried to get through or anyone i’ve ever asked #has been just so. mean about it #not even intentionally #not always at least #but there’s so much inherent shame tied to being late to things or being a person who used to be late to things #that i don’t think people can untie that from their ‘helpful tips’#it’s all ‘i used to also be a lazy uncaring piece of shit! you don’t have to be a horrible wretched loser anymore!’ and it’s like. okay.#you see how that’s not helping. right.#making me feel worse about it is NEVER helpful. i promise you i already have tortured myself over it FARRR more than any ‘on time’ person #ever had #this has been a comic i’ve been stewing on for ages as well but. well there’s of course the shame #idk it’s something that people are always despicably mean about bc fundamentally people who have never struggled with it #see it as a personal choice to be late #and as something one needs to just ‘try harder’ to fix. and that if you don’t #you inherently don’t care about other people’s time or even other people in general #and that feels horrible! it feels really bad!!#i mean i’ve got it from EVERYONE. disability allies. other adhd folks. disability resource offices #it’s something that nobody ever cares to acknowledge or try to accommodate for #bc time blindness and exec dysfunction are NEVER taken seriously as disabilities. they’re always always viewed as a personal failing #and i’m sick and tired of it. bc all this does is make people struggling with this Hate themselves #and worry endlessly that maybe they Are selfish and actually Don’t care about anyone else #there’s a bit too much here to keep in the tags i should really do the comic for adhd awareness month

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lazylittledragon · 1 year ago

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y'know what. sometimes there is something wrong with you. and i don't mean in a "you are broken and that makes you unworthy" way, just in the "your brain/body does not work the way it's expected to and that's why things are so hard" way

like as someone who grew up constantly being told there was nothing wrong with me and i just had to try harder to clean/socialise/work, knowing i had ADHD earlier would've saved me a LOT of guilt. knowing i have IBS would've prevented a lot of pain/embarrassment from not being able to manage it yet. i wish someone had told me there was a reason i couldn't do things instead of just telling me i was fine. people reassuring me i didn't have any issues to spare me the shame of being "different" only made me feel worse about not being able to function like everyone else!!!

idk sometimes i just wish i knew there was something different about me sooner bc then i would've had an explanation and a way to get better instead of just a lot of self loathing

#ramble #ok to reblog #can you tell living back home has brought up a lot of unresolved stuff #the amount of times i said 'there is something wrong with me' and i was told i was fine just made me feel like i was the problem #and that i should just try harder instead of there being a physical barrier that i couldn't control #idk there's just a lot of anger from realising that it wasn't my fault and NOBODY tried to help me #@ parents: different doesn't mean bad. help your fucking kids

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grapecaseschoices · 4 months ago

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so i'm leaning toward briala-celene [ugh] or public truce*. but i wanted to know ...

*I've been reading posts/articles that state that public truce isn't best long run ... but it isn't like the inquisitor would KNOW that.

#dai spoilers #for my mooties that wanna play but havent yet #dragon age #grapecase plays dai #wicked eyes and wicked hearts #aka wicked headache and wicked annoyance #grapecase polls #dai poll #grapecase complains #lmao #i feel these posts dont give briala enough credit #unless im missing something #idk that working with gaspard would long run [or even short term] be better for her and the elves than working for/with celene #[i feel it would be with but a lot of people seem to believe it will be for]#yes celene is dismissive when you show her the [REDACTED] but she KEPT it #the dismissiveness matters sure - bc the type of masks matter - but the fact that she secured it matters as much if not more #and what celene did was heinous but let's not act like gaspard wouldnt be as bad if not worse #i feel briala would be smart with both [but with celene i feel she wouldnt let sentimentaility get her as much as people think she would]#and off chance she did - doubting it - her people would be smarter. i feel they'd be on higher alert with celene #now it is a matter of what power they could milk #and okay i do think immediately she could probably twist gaspard's arms harder bc of the blackmail and celene is still worried of coming of #too soft maybe?#but i think celene is smarter - or should be at keepiing balances. like she owes briala more than a debt. and i can see briala carefully mi #king that. i can see both of them slowly building things right under the nobles noses #idk maybe im being idealistic #i do think celene would try and do better in general and for the elves alone #but idk i nee dto finish to play and see #im mostly measuring this off vibes

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stottlemonk-moments · 6 months ago

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Stottlemonk Moments:

Monk s06ep16: "Mr. Monk Is on the Run: Part 2"

#stottlemonk #stottlemeyer x monk #monk season 6 ep 16 #mnk06 #i wish they went a bit more in depth about people being suspicious of how stottlemeyer was barely phased about killing monk #or more scenes with stottlemeyer trying to act devastated #the last time he thought monk died he had a total breakdown and threatened to quit his job if monk didn't get a full service funeral #and anytime monk is in danger he goes batshit #and now in this case not only did monk die.. he died by stottlemeyer's own hands #so by all accounts stottlemeyer should be acting way more broken up #but he barely grieves and is even still able to work normally #i feel like people would have thought that was very strange #randy and natalie especially have seen first hand how deeply monk and stottlemeyer care for each other #so i feel like they'd be asking way more questions or wouldnt have been fooled so easily or idk.. something like that #i know natalie says “this must be harder on you than anybody” but i need MORE depth #just rambling

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ratatatastic · 4 months ago

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"ive played in a canadian market ive been in st louis in the summer they won—ive never seen buzz like this" "we're really lucky we get to play hockey in such a nice place" the C and A clocking in on their Praise South Florida as a Hockeytown shift

2024-25 Media Day | 9.18.24 (x)(x)

#matthew tkachuk #aleksander barkov #florida panthers #2425 #preseason #harper move aside maffhew is here to PANDER #you ever have fond feelings for guys who just love the place they play for so much #did i tear up a bit? admittedly yeah a little bit #any praise for this sports hellhole is good #idk man growing up here its just nice to hear guys talk good about it NOW instead of the glory days ya know?#“you cant win the cup tomorrow but you can try to build our game where we have a chance to make the playoffs”#matthew and his oration skills never cease to amaze me because he speaks to such emotionality #like okay??? should i run through a wall for you??? several walls??? yeah bud?????#not related but maffhew i dont have a lisp well say that to the mic that peaks anytime you have to make a fh sound my guy #“going to games is a lot of fun now” oh so you're just gonna drop that on me and not expect me to cry #yeah thanks mate real cool #sasha i want to hold you with the gentleness of a tuilip craddling a sleeping field mouse #if i tear up any harder snot is gonna be coming out me nose #i just think they :(

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messrsrarchives · 1 day ago

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hi i wanted to ask ur advice on something

somy parents bought tickets to the cursed child musical on broadway and i feel terrible bc jkr will be getting money but im not in a place to tell them to give them up (minor) and it was really hard and expensive to get tickets and they were really proud of it bc they know i like hp

but while i love the cursed child (scorbussss) i feel terrible

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HI ! i never normally reply to these kinds of asks but this wasn't a self purchase so hi ! i still have no idea how to answer it but 🫂🫂 because it's rough. i think nearly allllll harry potter fans have awkward situations like this. it took me monthsss to successfully explain to my partner that "yes, very cute gift thank you awh but also hi this profited her don't do that pls :("

because on one hand YAY they listen to your interest and on the other hand sighhhh they don't get it, yk? you don't want to seem ungrateful so it's a tricky one to navigate

i think this is one of those cases where they were misinformed and unaware, and that's okay! and i hope the guilt doesn't ruin that experience for you and i think it's really good that you're aware !! that's great, so the next step that i would takeee would be explaining to them if it's something you're uncomfy with. the tickets have been bought so it's down to you whether to go or not, that's okie and i reckon they spent a lot of time getting their child a gift they'd like SOOO i'd say just a lil chat to say thank you and this will be fun but for future reference, please don't buy official stuff.

which is something i still have to do with friends and family. i'm an adult so i do have the safety net of just returning things if they don't listen or matching the donation elsewhere BUTTT obviously that's more tricky as a minor and all you can really do is talk to them about it so that it hopefully doesn't happen again :)

all of that being said i do hope you have a lovely time !! scorbus on top, cursed child is so overhated 😖

#asks #i'll be so honest i never reply to these ones #normally it feels like people are just trying to alleviate their guilt #BUT as i said this wasnt a self purchase so 🫂#the others are all like 'so i bought this and feel bad what should i do'#and i'm like idk whyd you buy it then. what do you want me to do about it idk you 😭#but when you're a minor without control over the money its soooo much harder to navigate #but i think the fact you're aware of the issues and trying to figure it out is lovely #so hi ! answered this one with very vague advice of have a chat lol but 🫂🫂

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macadam · 1 year ago

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Throwback to when someone referred to me as the matpat of transformers

#very few will remember this because it really happened so casually and also... almost 2 years ago now #in the era I like to refer to as this blog's prime #on a little post someone tagged me in #and I was such a champ about it. I was so normal and did not make a scene #but I think about it at least once a month #it really was so crazy. what did I even do #I still don't know if I should be offended or not. I know it was written to place me in high regards #but that somehow made it hit so much harder #it's the type of thing that happens and you gasp and talk about it in discord but it doesn't feel that crazy. and then you look back and go #I can't believe that was a real thing that was said to me #I can't believe.. if only for a moment.. that is how I exist in someone's mind #Mac mumbles #the titles I was given in 2021... the range #chill laid back guy #bug in a jar anon wants to study #uptight annoying prick #insane individual trying to pass off as a chill laid back guy #<- favourite one btw #and lastly #the matpat of transformers #what an era

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catboybrain · 2 months ago

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i dunno if its just who im following rn but im really rocked lately by all the division btwn transfems and transmascs on my dash... where is this coming from .?

#i feel like every other day i see a post about how all trans men are transmisogynist.?#and i also just want to blanketly say discussions of transmisogyny are super important and everyone who's TME should listen & support #but im really confused bc ive seen nothing but support for trans women and even when i look in like the #transandrophobia tag (which . bad idea yeah i know) its not transmascs shitting on trans women ?#i genuinely dont know if its like “trans men are trying to claim they have it worse than trans women” and thats sparked this but??#i dont even see Any posts about that all i see is just trans men saying hey maybe we see xyz side of transphobia can we make 1 post about i #its so strange i just dont see what it is #the post also saying trans men see themselves as women trying to be men and thats why theyre transmisogynist.................#you realize thats transphobic right . to say that . you can still be transphobic even if youre trans and that is definitely transphobia ..#transfems need more support now than ever but yk what also transmascs are gonna need hella support because T is a controlled substance #and if planned parenthood etc gets cut off its gonna be harder to get it (not that e is easier but at least its not controlled)#throws my hands up. can we just talk to each other about our problems yall . this is dumb

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applestorms · 5 days ago

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much love to the (multiple) mutuals i’ve seen agony posting on this fine new year’s day my heart is with you all in spirit 🎉🎉 the pain is incredible but this too will change

#i think i got through all my own angst after having a full on melt down spiraling panic attack and hiding in my room for approximately #92% of christmas day 👍#sucked ass btw. do not recommend #i hate this time of year and all these (northern hemisphere) winter holidays in particular #because it always feels like there’s So Many expectations to Be Happy!! Love Your Family!!! Become A Fresh New You!!!!!#which ime never fucking works. sorry for being a bitch but the harder you push me to get into #The Christmas Spirit the grouchier and more depressed i get #you don’t have to change everything Right Now. you don’t have to fix yourself by the end of january #you have a lifetime to figure that shit out and it’s your goddamn right to spend that time on your own goddamn terms #i appreciate all of you 🫶#and i like having you around #sigh. 1 am somewhat incoherency pardon if i’m making little sense #i think i’m just over trying to find the One True Solution that will fix me and make me a perfect new person #that never has any conflict with anyone and never does embarrassing shit i’m ashamed of or fucks up by not being an #omniscient emotionless robot #i’ll hold onto the smaller goals if only because ‘it’s good to have things to look forward to’#etc. etc.#but. that’s it and only barely #really i just hope my birthday isn’t as utterly dogshit as last year but :]#we’ll fucking see #i should probably just block every tag i can think of related to american politics that day tbh #sigh. horrors of a january 20th birthday #anywho.#there’s my new years rant happy 2025 or whatever let’s see how long it takes me to remember to write the new date #storm tag #broadcasts from the astronaut

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shewhoeatssand · 3 months ago

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I want to befriend Kaneki and meet with him and email him forever

#we should do everything together everything should be parallel play #and then when we go our separate ways at the end of the day I want to still email him things #like pictures of succulents and a glimpse under the amazon river #I want to email him pbs eons videos #I can show him coffee shop vlogs and ask “is this u”#in person I’d mostly let him do the talking and decide what to do #take me down the most intimidating alley on a whim after you said we were just buying lunch pls #I want to eat lunch with him so bad 😭😭😭🙏#it’d be kind of awkward though bc he wouldn’t be eating anything he’d just be sipping his coffee #being with Kaneki is the ultimate dream I wanna see his morning irritation I want to be pleasantly startled by him with his quiet footsteps #& get to ask him about what he’s reading #or how his training is going #or whatever he’s doing #I would ask him how he’d rate vacuuming out of 10 and if he gives it below a 5 will vacuum his house #I feel like he’d lie though and say he likes doing every kind of work just to stop others from doing it #unless he wasn’t in a state where he’s able to actively think about others like that #he should stop doing things and jsut relax imagine taking him on a nice tour trip up mount Fuji that would b nice #stay in a cabin make a snowman clap for him when he skis #he was so good at skiing in the TG calendar?!?? who taught him to ski #did he read “idiots guide to skiing” a day before and absorb all the knowledge like a sponge #he’s so smart. I wish I was smart. or at least smart in an applicable way #I want to try harder but I kind of can’t #or I get sort of frozen by something and can’t find a way forward unless I scurry around it (no one wants u to do this)#I love Kaneki he’s both literally and kind of metaphorically half human and I am too so if we combine we’ll have the power of one full human #we can be human if we stand close enough together #idk he might not want to stand next to me tho he has better options #kaneki time

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bunnyboy-juice · 11 days ago

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ngl. every time i see someone talk about a fairly standard/innocuous bong or pipe that isnt that structurally complex and they talk about the way it would be "impossible" to keep it clean my concern for the ways y'all treat your glass (and therefore your lungs) rises by 10 notches........

#as someone who smokes DAILY: PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD CLEAN YOUR GLASS OFTEN #if you just change the water daily even/try not to leave it filled with wet it will significantly improve your smoking experience #if your bong is getting BLACK AND MOLDY WITHIN THREE DAYS PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO ANYTHING DIFFERENT OH MY GD #filters.... change the water more.... DON'T ash into the water........ anything??????#😭#also not rbable bc this is very judgemental in tone and i dont feel like ppl crying to me about why they Should be able to do this #like ultimately do what u want im just really concerned for ur lungs & u can Genuinely have such a better smoking experience 😭#(<totally not autistic ab weed & smoking (lying))#also if u genuinely dont know how to clean ur bong effectively: get at least 70% alcohol & the frequency of cleaning depends on how much u #use it but when im smoking from the bong a lot i do it before every sesh (yes it takes extra time. i find it peaceful but regardless. you #will just need to keep track of ur own habits) and fill the (empty) reservoir ~1/3-1/4 with the 70% and then plug the mouth piece and stem #hole with your thumbs and shake that bitch a couple times to slosh the alcohol on the walls. if theres grime add a couple spoons of coarse #salt (or rice if its a lot!!) and then shake shake shake (be careful dont hit it ofc) and then dump that out and rinse repeatedly #(i personally fill it with as much water as i can and dump it out lile 4-6 times but just MAKE SURE THERES NO MORE ALCOHOL)#bottle brushes and straw cleaners help with residual grime / harder to clean spots but are unnecessary in my experience if you are cleaning #it often enough. for bowls (& pipes) I recommend letting them soak for a bit in some rubbing alcohol while you do this #and then by the time the main piece is cleaned you can use a straw cleaner in the hole part or even a toothbrush or a q tip to clean off the #resin/gunk (i clean my actual bowl less often than the bong itself but also i use filters and the resin helps that stay better)#anyway i love cleaning my bong and i love glassware so much and bongs can be beautiful just be niceys to it!!! it needs baths!!!

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dungeons-and-dragon-age · 1 month ago

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oo okay. okay okay okay cool. cool!

#dude you cant spring a choice like that on me i need to rotate this over in my head D:#cos. godddd. i WANT to say embrace the rage. she SHOULD she has every right to and it feels kind of bad to tell her not to tbh?#ylva would probably too she is/was SO angry about this whole ordeal #in fact i kinda wish the game had given a dwarf rook special dialogue choices? but i digress #generally i would say that ylva would also tell her to go yeah no! that is justified! we SHOULD be angry!#but also what if this one is a choosing compassion over anger moment for ylva #because yes she does have a big heart and tries to be compassionate but this time it's much harder and a very conscious choice #(also in part bc i already had a ''choosing rage tm'' thing for my poe watcher jfkdsfsjdl)#not like this would Solve Everything between them but. yknow. it's a start!#also something something being inspired by harding despite everything something something holding on to your compassion despite everything #they both also deserve to be angry though #with how much time theyre both spending trying to be Good TM #and either way i dont think harding should be suppressing that anger #im reading that more as like. yes you are angry but dont let it consume you. channel it into something else #mmmmmmmm #decisions decisions.............#laya plays dav #dav spoilers #oc: ylva ingellvar

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yashley · 2 years ago

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laudna: that way we can message each other. fearne: oh right lol

#critical role #imogen x fearne #imogearne #but I mean I'm gonna chew on imogen saying that to be nice and immediately JUMPING on the first thing fcg said #yeah it's not above imogen's other interest but COMPELS me though a faun in your face and you're blushing harder than you probably should be #but we are absolutely a thousand percent not unpacking THAT. one unrequited love at a time. imogen's just too real I literally #there is a SAFETY and familiarity with laudna despite imogen's deeper feelings but fearne is so unpredictable with feelings it's a gamble #ESPECIALLY with their current heightened state pairing up with chaotic fearne when imogen's tryna keep her shit together in every way #I need fearne to zone of truth imogen because it is a show to me when fearne zeros in on imogen to shake her up it's SO GOOD #it's SUCH a bluff #like if fearne Wanted imogen to admit she wanted to be on a team with laudna then why was she so pleased when it didn't happen #granted unfortunately the team up was a complete disaster so I don't know I'm playing the game wrong I know that #fearne gives attention and imogen stammers i just don't know man #fearne desperately wanting to prove to imogen she can be capable and fix the coin toss for imogen hmmmmm #fearne pleading with imogen what should she Do and now she’s trying to suddenly be a respectable teacher and capable partner hmmm #they shake me by the shoulders begging me to see it means nothing #itfcep

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mantisgodsdomain · 6 months ago

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We ought to write more Pokemon fic some time. We want to recreate the Pokemon Manners/Human Manners cheat sheet that we made a few years ago we think that this site would like the Sliding Scale Of Politeness When Greeting A New Pokemon You've Never Met Before.

#we speak #writing #we grew up with pmd games and we feel like the way that pmd pokemon's dialogue tends to be excessively... direct?#should be a feature and not a bug when any pokemon that you meet might be totally unfamiliar with your species and biology #it's probably very polite to start up front with some basic facts about yourself so they know how to act going forward #the very upfront feel to dialogue also very much helps with keeping the dialogue feel more... pokemon #people mock the series for weird npc dialogue a lot but we think that taking these things literally makes for more fun society building #it doesn't all have to fit with socially acceptable for our world we think. polite in our world isn't even consistent by household.#sometimes a polite interaction sounds like “hello! i'm poochyena! i like to chase people and bite!”#name and immediately socially useful information. now you know about the chasing people and biting so you don't assume it's rude #of course poochyena bites and chases people. it likes to do that. you can say you don't like that and it might stop doing that to You #but it will not stop biting and chasing people because that's what it likes to do and it will probably only befriend people okay with that #it makes a very specific dialogue feel that's very fun to do. we like how the pokemon world tends to treat any sort of like #disability or “weird” things as something that you just say out the gate and everyones like “oh okay”#and then treat that as Part Of Interactions going forwards. there are a surprising amount of parts of the pokemon manga #that are dedicated to working around a character's disability after one or all of their means of dealing with it get taken out #admittedly we aren't that caught up on newer content but we find the way that it tends to be just Accepted as very refreshing #making the dialogue this direct does also tend to make it read as more “childish” in english and particular because a lot of Maturity's jus #learning how to dance around what you're saying or phrase it in different ways to get your idea across differently #whereas here everything is just as direct as possible. “i don't like charmander”. “i like roasting berries”. “i want to dig things up”.#all pokemon dialogue tends to go towards being exceedingly simple and it makes for some very distinct writing #especially when you have to tackle complex situations with characters who probably dont employ that sort of vocabulary #though we personally enjoy doing this sort of stuff your mileage may vary ofc #we are biased towards this sort of thins because we find it MUCH more fun to build up what we're talking about from blocks #than to like. try and use more indirect wording that may lose things in translation #unfortunately this is not fun in irl conversation. everyone has to be on the same page and you need to use the same playbook to communicate #we REALLY wish people said what they meant though. we're really tired of being asked shit like “is this accessible”#when what they mean is “can you climb these stairs” a question which depends on the day our energy level and how things have been going #there are a lot of things we could say that would make us feel like some sort of anti sjw type guy and a lot of em boil down to just #"for the love of god dont dance around a Sensitive Topic just get to the point and ask us about it this just makes things harder for everyo

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ebitenpura · 1 year ago

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every time I get back into ffxiv I don't want to play it because of no story skips and then every time my sub lapses I want to try again and make a new character. such is life

#ffxiv #ooc #do you see my issues #my problem is probably how i wasted my first playthrough with negative experiences and then couldn't get my friends to join #but i still wanna like. try to get that feeling back. and commit to replaying the story #i feel like. i should try harder to do something about this but idk how #chronic case of alt-itis #i wanted to go on a fun adventure and missed my chance :(

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