#gender identity headcanons

[eahsayswhat]

Kitty’s mom is the only one of the EAH parents whose gender doesn’t match her role’s, so I decided that she’d be a transwoman in my AU (her jaw structure certainly looks the part; I say this because I’m a transwoman and my own jaw looks kinda like hers). Since Kitty in my AU was produced from her mother asexually via hairball turning into a kitten, she’s a clone of her mom and thus also a transgirl. Maddie doesn’t care either way because Wonderland is ahead of Ever After on LGBT+ issues and she just likes making puns.

Happy pride! Now if only I knew what a bigswitt was...

[wlwanakin]

actually always thinking of darth vader through a transgender lense bc i’m insane but also bc it is SO EASY to do a trans reading of his whole deal like to me, personally, in the star wars in my brain that is better than yours and doesn’t gaf about authorial intent, darth vader is in part a manifestation/personification of the horrifying feelings of loss of control that come with long-term repression/closeting or forced detransition. and this works on a purely superficial level because darth vader is hypermasculine in a way that starkly contrasts a lot of anakin’s softer/more androgynous traits but if we are to actually think beyond the superficial the themes of loss of autonomy and rejection of personal identity in favor of one given to you are veryyyy resonant from a trans perspective. constant insistent rejection of your true self. “that name no longer has any meaning to me.” even his voice is not his own. etc etc. vader is a reinvention of anakin but that reinvention is into an empty husk whose entire existence is to be another person’s pawn. vader is not so much a new identity as he is a lack of one. and i don’t want to dismiss that on a literal textual level disability is a part of the Body aspect but all this is far less about his injuries and part more about how they’re treated, specifically how his body is altered in ways that are entirely about creating a more imposing image and basically turning him into a weapon (there is no reason for him to be 6’7), and that again ties into the idea of Erosion Of Self. and i think these aspects come together in a way that is so easy to read as trans, or at least that resonates with me as a trans person, because so much of repressing as a trans person is inventing an empty version of yourself and accepting your physical state as something you are fundamentally not in control of and self-denial for others. and vader encompasses a lot of those feelings taken to body horror space opera extremes

[cosmicredcadet]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[rad-batson]

Damian: I’m not gender neutral. I’m gender evil.

Tim: …are you coming out to us right now?

[someone-else-entirely]

Me, a child, reading A Series Of Unfortunate Events and seeing that Duncan, Isadora, and Quigley Quagmire are meant to look eerily similar to one another: "Ah. Identical triplets."

Me, a teenager, learning about how genetics work and realizing that a boy and a girl cannot be identical twins/triplets/etc: "Nevermind. Fraternal triplets who just happen to look super similar."

Me now: "They are in fact identical and Isadora is trans"

[gothyanki]

Thinking about gender roles or lack thereof in Rauatai again (with a side of thinking about gender roles or lack thereof in the Deadfire). Rambling and headcanons behind the readmore:

It only comes up a handful of times in Deadfire, but I’m so fascinated by the idea of Rauatai as a matriarchal-leaning society where “hard” power (military might, sailing ships, guns) is gendered feminine. The Biha quest in the Gullet hints at this - if you’re playing a female character, she thinks Sedūzo will take you more seriously. She also points out that pretty much all the highest-ranking Rauataian military officials are women, which seems to be borne out by the game. (Karū, Sedūzo, and the hazanui from Tekēhu’s story are the only people of that rank we see or hear mentioned, and they’re all women.) Atsura also has an incredible turn of phrase where he refers to something as “like a child picking up her mother’s pistol” [might be paraphrasing a bit].

So if “hard” military power is seen as feminine in Rauatai, does that mean “soft” political power is seen as masculine? Maybe! There’s the divide between Karū and Atsura as the most obvious example; she’s the head of the operation who gets to be very blunt and straightforward about her intentions, while Atsura is the power behind the throne influencing events much more subtly. The ranga nui himself is a man, though I don’t think the gender of a ruler holds much weight without knowing the genders of previous rulers. It’s 100% headcanon, but I’m imagining that high-ranking politicians skew male the same way high-ranking military officers skew female.

It’s worth noting that I don’t think Rauatai has strong gender roles; absolutely nothing about their society or the characters we meet suggests that. There are plenty of men in military careers (including among the higher-ups) and they don’t seem too concerned with gender as a whole. If this divide exists, it’s more like mild background radiation that influences the way people view themselves and each other. I do feel like it adds something to both Maia and Kana’s characters if this is yet another pressure they had to deal with growing up. Some of Maia’s bluntness and in-your-face approach to life is just personality, but another part is her trying to be a Proper Rauataian Lady! Kana has to be skilled at playing politics whether he likes it or not! He talks about his mother pushing his sisters hard to succeed aaaand all three of them ended up in a military/sailing career. There’s a lot going on there!

This led me to thinking about gender in Huana culture(s), because I’m also endlessly fascinated by the similarities and differences between them and Rauatai. Gender doesn’t seem to matter to the Huana at all, not even in a very minor sense; caste is the main determiner of your role in the community. Tekēhu refers to Ukaizo as the “land of [his] mothers”, which is a friendly little reminder that There Is No Patriarchy Here (no legal marriage, no nuclear family, no tracing the bloodlines of children or differentiating between “biological” vs “adopted” kids in a household, children aren’t seen as “belonging” to their parents…) but aside from that, very little is gendered. We do see more women in leadership than men (Ruānu is the only male ranga I can think of, and he’s quite easily displaced by Nairi), but the sample size is small enough that that’s probably a coincidence. I feel like this is what enables Ahimi to shrug off Durance’s misogyny - it does bother me that the Watcher can’t answer back, but in her case, I don’t think she even sees it as worth acknowledging. She’s never had to deal with any kind of shame around or restrictions based on gender/sexuality, so he’s just saying words. (This is a point of friction between her and Pallegina, whose experience of godlike-ness is inextricable from painful gender expectations.)

…this headcanon also makes a minor in-game sequence infinitely funnier to me. There’s a moment where Onekaza and the Watcher can get into this little political back-and-forth which Karū clearly has no patience for; she’ll eyeroll at them and be all “If we’re done comparing cocks…” I like to think Rauataians use this phrase when people are diplomatically faffing around, being overly subtle, or arguing verbally without accomplishing anything. Stop using your words and punch her in the nose like a WOMAN!

[dustykneed]

psst stop scrolling ensign!! happy trans joy tsaturday (brought to you by the triumvirate <333)

doing this a little differently this time. but these are mcspirk affirmations in my heart... there's no wrong way to be trans. and we deserve to experiment, and present in ways that feel right to us, and to grow old and wrinkly and be happy. these guys support all of us and they know that it's possible to be comfortable in your own skin and that you always deserve to feel trans joy. they're proud of you. they want you to know that you will be okay and they believe in you.

bonus t4t4t mcspirk! look at them go <33

[lumierexfics]

hihi... do you still accept idv requests?? if not, feel free to trash this! anyway, I'd like to request ithaqua with a childhood friend! s/o... 🤏🤏

Chat Log Name : It’s you, It’s me.

Chat log description : six headcanons with a childhood friend s/o and Ithaqua!

online users : Ithaqua,childhood friend! s/o

‼️ CONTENT WARNINGS : Gender-neutral reader, Semi-lore accurate to Ithaqua’s backstory. ‼️

Childhood Friend! Ithaqua who accidentally formed a a friendship with you when you had accidentally went off the common trail from the village and he does help you get back to the outskirts of the village. As you originally tried to get him to come with you but he eventually refused.

Childhood friend! Ithaqua who noticed that you’re always going off of the trail; seemingly on purpose but always helps you because he feels a sort of a connection that he’s never felt before.

Childhood friend! Ithaqua who slowly opens his heart to you and you do the same. As for the first time his heart flutters when you both hold hands as it was always in the greenery of the meadow that he showed you during the spring when it was most bountiful with wild fruits that would stain your fingers or lips from the sweet juices.

Childhood friend! Ithaqua who notices the slight change in your behavior when winter comes—notices the distant behavior that you never had before. He notices the way that you don’t enter the woods anymore but he thinks it’s because of the weather right and he notices your sudden disappearance and he looks all over for you. Till, he hears your voice but it’s not happily laughing nor when occasionally he wiped away your sobs rather it was screams of anguish—of pure utter anguish.

Childhood friend! Ithaqua’s who is shocked when he sees his own face staring back at him—the face that made the cries of anguish escape from your lips. He can’t take it anymore—his hands are covered with blood but the damage was done, you had crumbled beneath his eyes but he tries his best to not frighten you.

Childhood friend! Ithaqua who comes the shared little cottage in the woods to not see you there—he get scared while the what ifs circle through his head. As an envelope with an open red seal was on the wooden table with your bowl of stew that was now cold. He needed to find you no matter what it took and it could handle the blood on his hands if it meant that you could finally look at him without the mask that he wore to protect your mind that had distorted your perception of himself.

[yardsards]

think of a character that isn't canonically trans that you headcanon as being trans-masculine. (if you have multiple, just choose one arbitrarily or pick your favourite)

trans-feminine headcanon poll

[smilepilled]

happy jollyday!

[mitsukiixx]

Me Bored so I present to you my Marauders Sexuality and Gender Identity headcanons:

(disclaimer this is an opinion and I also tend to go along with multiple headcanons at the same time that sometimes contradict each other, so don't come for me, these are fictional characters, chillax) (also this could make zero sense cuz I'm doing this at 2 am)

James: Pansexual, cis man. He just loves people, he doesn't care what or who they are.

Sirius: Bi or omniesexual (preference for men) and genderfluid. Though most commonly he goes by he/him, bro defies gender, any pronouns work for him. Also drag queen Sirius is a hill I WILL DIE ON.

Remus: I don't know what any of y'all say that is a gay man. If you chant "gay" three times in a mirror he will appear behind you. Dude touched a woman ONCE at the age of 14 just to check if he is into women and after that just said "cool, never again". Cis man but he won't correct you if you call him by other pronouns.

Peter: Cis He/him straight ALLY! I love Peter trying his best and be a supportive friend and then Sirius teasing him saying "that's homophobic" every chance he gets and just watching Peter's face turn pale and be eaten out with guilt. Bbg is just utterly confused. He asks what each letter stands for in the LGBTQ+ all the time and tries his best to learn. (He's the embodiment of the "Talk Valentina- ALLY" meme iyk what I'm talking about)

Mary: Lesbian, she/her. Thought she was bi for some time but at some point she just said "fuck men". I also would like to believe she is most people's gay awakening.

Lily: Bisexual, she/ her. She was in the river nile (denial) for the longest time. Mary and Marlene had to DRAG her out of that glass closet.

Marlene: She/they and is a massive girlkisser. No explanation needed.

Pandora: She/they and pansexual. She's also asexual, but not aromantic. However not many people are aware of her girl-kissing tendencies and get jumped-scared if she ever mentions that she's dating a girl.

Regulus: Dude is the 2nd most gay man in Hogwarts after Remus (he would might give an exception to one woman but that's just me being a Jegulily shipper). Trans man, he/him.

Barty: He/him, Pansexual. Dude will fuck anything and everything(including pans and especially Evan).

Evan: He/they, omniesexual with preference for men. (More like Bartysexual tho)

Alice: She/her, pansexual, polyamorous

Frank: He/him omniesexual with preference for women. Polyamorous. He and Alice would happily accept another person into their relationship.

Severus: A straight white man.

[yourfriendlyneighborhoodenby]

*slaps side of cybersix cartoon* this show can fit so many trans experiences in it

like, the genderfluidity of it all? you're is presenting as a man here with this identity and as a woman here with this identity but is always still you. one of the things the story says over and over about our protagonist's love interest is that, in whatever way, he cares so so much about our protagonist in Both of their identities. The story is not just about one it's about both.

a transmasc experience? The coat that's a bit too big for you but makes your shoulders look wider, the shirt that's big enough to hide in, your voice doesn't really pass and you're just hoping it'll be overlooked, you get hurt and you don't want to go to a hospital because they would see through the disguise, you don't want to give your name to someone who might realize it's not official. If they see through the disguise you're in danger. you've finally reached a part of your life where you can make connections freely as a person but there's always this doubt of is this real? do i deserve this? what if they knew? and they can't know because that would implicate them in the same danger. i cannot be this and live this all the time because of how i was created, because of the dangers around me. and at the end of the day, when it comes to the final hour, I'll have to give this up, won't I? you put the glasses down. but you survive anyway, and you can get them back, if you want.

but just. the more I watched of this show the more it's just absolutely hit me in the feels with a transfem narrative? like in the way galaxy the prettiest star has a 'you're in disguise as a man to keep yourself and those around you safe' transfem narrative and like specifically a partially closeted/sometimes in guymode transfem narrative. your childhood photo that you keep with you is ambiguous enough on your gender to not give anything away. you go to work in mens clothes that don't quite fit right with a man's name and you hope no one sees through that facade because if they do you would be in danger. You go home and at night you change your hair, you put on your makeup and nails and heels and you go back out as yourself. and you are incredibly strong and you are in incredible danger but deep in your heart you feel alive. and at the same time there is a voice in your head that says you are not real, you are not a real person. you are not the right kind of person. you are not the right kind of woman. you don't deserve the things that real people deserve. you'll try to turn away someone who loves you because of that but because he loves you for yourself he doesn't care. You face danger and you survive anyway and you're loved. It just. it hits me right in the feels. I love her.

so much trans. very gender.

[kieranval3ntine]

Zombiepusheengender

When your gender feels connected to zombie pusheen (flag by me)Date:5-5-2025

[simplynims]

Angel who's a transman that doesn't pass as a man but still embraces his feminity despite the looks he gets though there are times where Angel gets hit with waves of feeling like they're not truly a man because of how he expresses himself. I like to think in support of Angel, David joins him with getting his nails done, trying out new make up with him, giving him that affirmation he looks just as handsome in feminine clothing as he would be in masculine wear.

[d4rk-x-w0lf-17]

im sorry but if you refer to lightbrush as yaoi or mlm, im immediately blocking you

[littlebittyhollowbugs]

Oooh I'm gonna ramble about Hollow and gender hcs for a minute !!

Firstly, I do like the idea of the vessels post-canon getting to explore and embrace their own gender identies! for Hollow specifically, who struggles with dehumanizing itself, this might take some time.

I don't believe Hollow would even attempt using feminine pronouns or identity.

As Hollow was the greatest victim of the Radiance's physical and psychological torture. It having been possessed by the being that destroyed its body and took the lives of countless others who it desired more than anything to protect.

Hollow was so conjoined with her that its body was the closest thing she had to her own.

I imagine it would take years for it to distance itself from her even after it had been freed and she had died.

While I assume accepting any gender identity would be difficult initially, I can see (and even hc myself) that Hollow would eventually accept using he/him pronouns and identify with masculinity, (Especially with the Pale king being an inspiration to it.) Its experience with the Radiance would leave it uncomfortable with presenting itself as female.

None of this is to say that Hollow wouldn't embrace its more feminine attributes too, or that it would lack respect for or attraction to femininity. (I believe the opposite !)

Just that it would feel uncomfortable primarily identifying itself that way. And would choose not to as a form of distancing itself from its experience being possessed by the Radiance.

I do like the idea of Hollow eventually finding comfort in presenting as masculine. Again, something he and his father would have in common. As the Pale king had chosen a masculine identity for himself too. (PK went from using it/its to he/him pronouns) And we know the he has always been an inspiring figure to Hollow.

That way of connecting with him could be meaningful.

Everything that has to do with the vessels (and especially Hollow) getting to explore new aspects of their identies and find enjoyment and peace in doing it, is so interesting to me !!