#energy lesson

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be addicted to real dopamine

be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there

experience new exciting things that bring you joy

love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections

make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free

stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book

do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down

move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying

listen to music that matches the moment you’re in

eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort

get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day

[beamer7thepoko]

I'm a channaler reblogged ✔️

Intro to Channeling

Channeling is one of the basic tools of energy work. There will be spells that will require a larger amount of energy than you currently possess, and learning how to channel other types of energy will help you to not drain yourself too quickly. For now, our lesson will focus on elemental energy.

There are a couple reasons for this. Elemental energy is generally one of the safest external energies to work with because the human body is naturally tied to it. As long as we are nice to the elements, the elements are nice to us. This type of energy is also the easiest to work with, as most of us have affinities for at least one basic physical element. The secondary physical elements (or sub-elements) probably come second in terms of easiest to cast, but not everyone has an inherent affinity for one (although most everyone can develop one).  

There are a few rules to this:

Never call an element that you don’t vibe with. Elements that don’t respond well to you probably won’t come anyway (and you definitely shouldn’t force it to come), much less work for you.

Never force an element to work with you. Think of it like trying to force a deity that doesn’t want to work with you to do something for you. It’s not good. Moreover, if you somehow do manage to force the element, you probably won’t get the results you want.

Do not abuse the elements. The elements are living, sentient beings. They may not be humanoid, but that doesn’t make them unlike any other human you’ve met in terms of emotions; except they’re even more dangerous. Believe me: you don’t want the elements against you.

That’s it! They’re super simple but really important to follow in order to make sure you stay safe. We’ll be working with the four basic physical elements today: Air, Fire, Water, and Earth. Some people include the element “Spirit” when we’re talking about these four, but Spirit is not a physical element so we won’t be working with it for now.

If you don’t know what element you “vibe” with, it’s pretty easy to get a good and reasonable guess. First, ask yourself: of these four, which one do you want to work with the most? Then, search your memories. Which element do you have the most impactful memories with? Do you have lots of memories of days at the beach or the pool? How about somewhere up high or a memory where you’re standing outside and the wind is brushing past your cheeks and the clear night sky is directly above you and you feel like you could just reach out and touch the stars? Do you have any memories of the heat of the sun on your face or sitting in front of a roaring fireplace in the dead of winter? Or what about when you’re standing outside barefoot in the garden, letting the dirt you’re digging up to give a new plant a home cover your hands because it feels soft and cool on your skin?

Maybe you don’t have any memories like this, but remember that the elements aren’t just physical. They’re emotional and mental, as well. Calmer or more emotional people tend to vibe with water. Stable, responsible people vibe with earth. Wild and spontaneous people are air people, and intense, driven, passionate people are fire types. Sound like you?

If you’re still not sure what element you vibe with, don’t worry. You’re still testing the waters so it’s not like the elements will lash out at you–they’ll just let you know whether they want to work with you or not by either not showing up or making you feel a little off until you send them away. Just pick an element you think you might get along with and go from there. If it doesn’t work out, you can always do the exercise again with a different one.

Step One

Gather a physical representation of your chosen element. Most energy work can be done without any kind of physical component, but as a beginner, it’s also nice to have something physical as a type of support. In this case, the physical representation of your element will not only help you call it, but it will also hold any energy you can’t handle channeling at the moment. Below is a guide for suggested items that can be used for each element:

It’s best to choose something that you’re okay with either tossing afterward or that you’re cool with being a permanent representation of your physical element. You can always cleanse the item of energy, but strong energy tends to leave an imprint on any item.

Step Two

Before we channel the energy of your chosen element, we have to call it to our space. Get into a relaxed state and focus on the element you’re trying to call. Think of all it represents for you. What thoughts/feelings/memories do you have associated with it? Call everything forth; immerse yourself in the very life that is your element. Take your time. I can usually stop here if I briefly need the element, but I’ve been doing this for quite some time now. You should speak something aloud or do something that will call your element to you. Find words that feel right (and if you’ve called on a powerful enough connection, the right words will come to you as soon as you call to them). I personally like to sing for air and dance for fire. For water, I have a specific sigil that I draw in water while speaking some words of my own, and for earth, I touch the rock and say some different words. Sometimes I’ll dance or sing for all of the elements… it really depends.

At this point, you probably feel a large influx of energy that is not yours. What you want to do now is take that energy and put it into the physical representation of your element. This is so you don’t overload yourself by being the host of too much energy. You can, eventually, host the energy on your own but as a beginner, you definitely need the physical representation. Don’t worry—the element is still with you, you just won’t be the direct host of its energy for now.

Step Three

The last step is to actually channel the energy. You did this briefly when you called the energy, but now that you’ve given the element a place to live temporarily you can begin to test your current limits. Take the energy out of the item you’ve chosen a little at a time. Keep pulling until you either feel like you can’t handle any more energy or the element doesn’t give you any more.

From here, you can play with the energy you’re channeling if you’d like. Manipulate the energy in any of the basic ways we’ve talked about so far. It’s very much like controlling your own energy. The only difference here is that you’re A) working with another being and B) you have to work more in order to form a tangible enough connection that you can call upon the energy with. Once you’re done or you get tired, you can gather the element around you and say something like, “Thank you, [element]. I release you.” Its energy should leave, then.

I’d also recommend grounding after channeling energy. It’s a good practice to get into, especially because channeling leaves you feeling completely energized most of the time and you have to learn to bring yourself back down.

[succulentsiren]

Advice I'd Give to My Younger Self.

Be unapologetic about your presence. Never enter a room with your head lowered. Hold your head up like you are proud to be who you are. Take up space. Be bold in your actions. Let your voice be heard.

You don't have to be perfect. Get over perfectionism and the fear of being embarrassed. Learn to own all your flaws and insecurities and continue to do what you love.

What other people say mean nothing. Never loose sleep over anyone’s opinion of you. They are not God and they don't define you.

Believe in yourself. You can be successful just like those people you look up to. You have what it takes. Hone your skills and be great too.

Appreciate your unique gifts and qualities. Stop comparing yourself to others and changing yourself to fit in. Always stay true to yourself.

[femmefatalevibe]

25 Life Lessons I've Learned In 25 Years

In honor of turning 25 this month, here are some lessons I wish someone could've baked into my brain by 18. Hope this helps xx

Putting yourself first is not selfish, it is an act of self-care. Actively discounting others is not the same as protecting your peace.

Pay attention to who gossips and keeps to themselves amidst an interpersonal conflict. Insecure people or those in the wrong will speak the loudest and go on the longest in a fight to prove their innocence. Individuals who are self-assured and comfortable with the truth know it's better to communicate their feelings appropriately and then move past it. Confidence is assertive, tactful, and relatively silent.

If you want to know who to believe in an argument, pay attention to how both sides speak about the conflict. The perpetrator will often speak about the individuals' character/morality while the victim will explain their personal experience in the context of the relevant situation.

Display empathy and consideration, but don't live to satisfy others' emotional needs and expectations. Say farewell to anyone who dismisses or guilts you for your own needs, emotions, priorities/life goals & aspirations.

Your needs matter. No one needs to approve or validate your desires. If someone feels they have control over you or tries to persuade you to change your mind to ensure you put their emotions and needs first, cut them out of your life. They do not care about you.

Almost no one deserves insider access into your life and mind. Upholding your right to privacy – especially regarding your finances, dating life, health conditions/concerns, and long-term goals – is the simplest way to protect your peace.

A friend to all is a friend to none. Be wary of those who will not stand up for you behind closed doors. These people do not care about you, they care about what your place in their life does for them and their ego.

Be radically honest and accepting of who you are. Don't apologize for your preferences, aspirations, and values. You deserve to live in a way that makes you happy, not to appease others in hopes of their approval or future favors due to your karmic good deeds.

You deserve happiness, love, and nice things, life experiences, relationships, and opportunities in your life regardless of what others may or may not possess/ be able to experience. Dispel this scarcity mindset ASAP. Jealousy and internalized shame are destructive to your self-esteem and all your relationships.

You are worthy and offer many incredible, unique gifts to the world. Don't allow naysayers, critics, or bullies (of any age) to dim your light or sacrifice pursuing your dreams. Decide you're the leader of your own life. Then act accordingly.

Direct communication is always the way. Remain tactful, but at least when dealing with non-manipulative people, always say what you mean and mean what you say. It will save a lot of trouble and petty disagreements that could've been avoided with clearer communication.

You don't owe anyone an explanation for your feelings, emotions, and actions that don't have a direct, inescapable impact on someone else. "No" is a complete sentence.

Approach conversations as a meeting of the minds. Healthy debate or conflict is about seeking to understand the other person, not prove yourself right. Leaving your ego at the door will allow you to expand your mind and avoid many unnecessary conflicts or arguments.

If it's not a hell yes, it's a no. For a job, date, sex, attendance at a time-sucking social event, family gatherings, an informal meeting not essential for you to keep your job, a wedding, birthday party, holiday invitation, etc. Outside of your contracted hours and time necessary to keep yourself/your home clean & well-maintained, you should spend your time exactly as you please. Doing things you don't want to do will only breed resentment down the line toward yourself and others.

Detangle yourself from any who refuses to self-reflect and take accountability. This person is selfish and will never see you as fully human with emotions, needs, and a complete life/internal world of your own. Cut them out (or at least fully emotionally detach and limit contact with them) immediately.

Speak your truth, but always say a little less than you feel necessary. Overexplaning and oversharing do you no favors. At a minimum, this approach allows you to protect your peace. In the worst circumstances, this tactic can also save you from a lot of trouble in your personal or professional life.

Learn to ask for a little more than you're comfortable with, but do so with grace, tact, and confidence. Whether it's a salary/rate negotiation, flight/hotel/restaurant accommodations, get in the habit of making that slightly higher/up-leveled request like you're expecting a "yes." You can't get something you don't ask for, so speak up and show you know your worth. This habit can bring a lot of great opportunity into your life and builds up your confidence.

Everyone is on their own timeline and path. Don't compare yourself to others' credentials, job titles, relationship status, net worths, or jean sizes. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Remaining envious of others only takes up the energy that could otherwise be used to elevate or enrich your life.

Become clear on your priorities, and remain diligent with your habits & routines. Set SMART goals. Implement healthy habits and rituals into your daily lifestyle. Be consistent with goal-supporting and wellness rituals (generous sleep schedule, healthful eating habits, daily movement/regular exercise, reading, task time-blocking, cleaning, and life/work admin schedule), so they become second nature. Help yourself by creating these default habits to ensure your brain is wired for success whether you're in an easygoing era or a stressful life season.

Stop seeing other people (especially other women) as your competition in your profession/dating life and within your platonic relationships. Use your immediate criticisms as a tool for self-reflection. Actively deconstruct the patriarchy in every aspect of your life. Other women coworkers, dating prospects, and friends are not your rivals nor individuals who should be evaluated based on their assertiveness, sexual history/appeal, relationship status, or desire to perform traditional maternal/domestic roles.

Understanding how to interact with others in a cordial, tactful manner is significantly more important than having everyone like you. Learn how to positively influence people without seeking approval. What other people think of us is none of our business. All we can do is show up as the best version of ourselves, and remain optimistic about a potential connection.

Acceptance, accountability, and consistent discipline are the holy trinity to creating a sustainable change that you can maintain for the long haul. There's no shame in starting from the bottom, but you need to be honest about where you're at, so you can create a realistic game plan/small behavior-changing habits that stack up over time to help you implement the radical change you're craving.

Let go of any internalized shame. Being the "good girl" does you no favors in life. Set a standard and expectation to be respected, not to be perceived as "innocent" or submissive – this is how you get taken advantage of in professional, platonic, and intimate relationships. Remain ravenous for respect. It's the only way to live life to the fullest.

24. Investing in your appearance is a form of self-respect. Wanting to look & feel your best and present yourself in the best light possible to others is not a superficial pursuit. Remain unwavering about your hygiene/beauty/grooming routines, deliberate styling choices, healthy eating & workout habits, and mindfulness of social graces. You're your #1 publicist, so act like it. Life is all about embracing satisfaction with a sprinkle of reputation management.

25. Be unapologetic about your financial ambitions, priorities, investments, savings goals, etc. Financial freedom IS freedom. The only way to change the system is to break it from the inside out. Leverage is everything. Allocate, and assert your (financial) power wisely.

[girlwithrituals]

LISTS TO MAKE WHEN FEELING DOWN

• list all the things you'd do if you weren't so afraid.

• the nicest thing anyone's ever done for you.

• the people you'd like to weed out of your life.

• all the reasons why you're so amazing!

• things that always makes you laugh.

• the major losses you've survived in your life.

• all the qualities you like the most about yourself.

• things you'd get rid of to make the world a better place.

• the best gifts you've ever been given.

• all the ways you've changed for the better.

• the things you must do before you die.

• how you'd like to change your life for the better.

• your favorite life quotes that inspire you.

• what values you need in your life to have a fulfilling life.

• the things you won't tolerate no matter what.

• any miracles you've seen happen.

[itzzey]

Let them be wrong about you.

There’s nothing to prove.

[reality-detective]

Hutchison Effect

What if Zero-Point Energy already existed? 🤔

[pure-light-and-love]

your life is always moving in the direction of your strongest thought.

[sageexperience]

A message on men’s mental health

[zu-is-here]

easy prey | hidden & leviathan

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[tangledinink]

Like his mother before him, Gemini Donatello is a capable and fearsome witch. He showcases his arcane abilities rarely-- which is often to the benefit of those around them.

[succulentsiren]

People who try to humble you are afraid of your power.

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: Mindset Shifts To Improve Your Life

Think "Practical vs. Pleasure" not "Right vs. Wrong" when evaluating your thoughts, desires, actions, and decisions. Stop moralizing your emotions, inclinations, and goals when curating your life and inner world. Shaming leads to stagnation, not self-reflection.

Design your days based on 3s. Consider the 3 most important tasks of your day that, if completed, will leave you feeling satisfied with your progress/productivity at the end of the day. Plan how and what 3 meals to incorporate into your day. Divide your day 3 parts into morning/priming, afternoon/productivity, and evening & nighttime/unwinding. Consider the 3 activities you can do/complete during these 8-hour blocks that will leave you feeling fulfilled and a step closer to your longer-time goals/overall well-being.

Consider your various needs as different buckets that require regular nourishment (physical, emotional, social, sexual, financial, and personal growth). Look beyond certain inclinations and behaviors to understand why a certain decision, action, or relationship is a value-add to your life. Many actions, goals, and relationships fall into more than one of these buckets simultaneously. If you don't sense that some practice, routine, or relationship serves any of these purposes, it's time to reevaluate why and whether it's worthwhile to keep this time & energy consumer in your life.

Perceive your life as a hub & spoke model with you as the hub and all your responsibilities, self-care activities, and relationships as the nodes. This roadmap allows you to reclaim ownership over your life and act in your own best interest. Seeing yourself as the center of a web (your personhood) helps you to organize your life while simultaneously seeing how all your interdependent relationships, responsibilities, and valued activities influence your day-to-day.

[cozylittleartblog]

diversity win your spam emails are queer

[dear-ao3]

recently i stood inside penn station in new york, waiting for my amtrak train to board after another great visit home to my parents. the same parents that my ex boyfriend hated for no reason other than that they were supportive of me and wanted me to do well. and i was listening to the new taylor swift album, my weathered vera bradly tote at my feet. the manuscript came on, a song about looking back at a torrid relationship and i dont know what compelled me but i opened up snapchat and scrolled back through all of our saved snapchats, skimming my way through the memories tainted with blatant lies and manipulation. i saved one photo of me and my younger sister that i forgot i sent him. i dont regret being in love but i do regret that i didnt see when the love ended. and standing in penn station, i blocked him just as they announced my train was boarding. and it felt so good.