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guys guys guys guys can we talk about that one scene in tsitp where jeremiah, how do i say this, asks for consent before grabbing belly’s boob-??
I HAVE THOUGHTS ON THIS PLEASE LISTEN
I HAVE HEARD SO MANY FUCKING PEOPLE PRAISE HIM FOR ASKING FOR LITERAL FUCKING CONSENT
HERES AN ACTUAL COMMENT I FOUND
STOP PRAISING PEOPLE FOR THE LOWEST FUCKING BAR THAT CAN BE SET
#sorry I kinda lost it#like#yes#please#by all means#encourage consent#but do not praise people for it#its so frustrating because it is supposed to be expected#tsitp#jellyfish#jeremiah#belly conklin#the summer i turned pretty
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Unless: You want the action to repeat itself because it's super cute and there is nothing inherently wrong with rewarding contact-seeking behaviour, and shockingly it is actually possible to both teach and learn more nuanced ways to communicate with your dog than simply "no" and "when i say so"
#if YOU think this is rude and pushy then go ahead but you can also teach your dog 'not now'#replicate calming signals or otherwise communicate to my dog that i am not interested in this interactiom right now#dogs are a social species with fairly complex language#and im tired of basic level dog training being DO EXACTLY THIS and THAT IS BAD#instead of: what do *you* actually want to encourage in your dog#because personallyyyyy ive found that fostering an environment for consent and mutual communication a whole lot more rewarding#as a pet owner#then simply telling my dog what to do when
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fandom psa; there is nothing whatsoever that is inherently "problematic" about shipping characters who are "found family."
Adoption is not found family. A blended family is not found family. A found family or chosen family is a group which, through circumstances or simply mutual affection, hold their relationship to one another with equal care and importance as family members ought to. It's not the same type of relationship.
It's not incest. It's not even pseudo-incest unless you want it to be. I personally don't care what people ship, but I'm absolutely tired of people misusing the term "found family" to just recreate the idea of a nuclear family and force those roles onto the entirety of a fandom. Sure, maybe characters who are found family may view themselves like siblings, or like a parent and child or aunt and niece, but they might also just see each other as friends-- and guess what? romantic partners too! That's technically the most widely-accepted form of found family/chosen family there is!
The whole point of found family/chosen family is to have the importance of "family" on relationships that lie outside the commonly-understood bounds of that relationship. Not to recreate the "mommy-daddy-daughter-son" dynamic with unrelated characters and use that headcanon or fanon dynamic to enforce your own morality or preferences on other fans.
#zhuixing posts#fandom#shipcourse#technically#found family#found family is whatever you want it to be#that's the whole POINT#idk this just makes me mad#if you like two characters together platonically just say that and block the ship tag!!!#don't make up an excuse to make a relationship between two consenting adults 'problematic' and target shippers for harrassment#just because you don't like it lmao#also characters can refer to one another with familial terms and it STILL doesn't make it 'incest'#in MANY cultures my own included it's common to refer to romantic partners and unrelated people as brother/sister etc#unless they're literally related it's not incest#and it's not pseudo-incest unless you want it to be#if you're gonna be against a ship for 'moral reasons' at least make sure the incest you're accusing people of shipping#is actually really incest in the first place and not some ridiculously vague definition of the term :)#i generally hate the mindset of 'you can't ship x because morality!' because problematic ships are not real life relationships#and have no bearing on someone's values since fiction is supposed to be a way to look at things that wouldn't work irl#but for those of you who *do* feel like you can't ship things that are 'problematic' and are upset you wouldn't be able to ship#some of your favorite characters because they're considered 'found family'#i hope this encourages you to do what you want#and to have fun bc THAT'S what's important in fandom
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WELL. i'm in contact with the person who took those pictures. the VHS belongs to a friend of theirs who was actually in the production. it's been many years and the friend has moved across the country since those photos were taken, so he isn't sure where the tape is now. but i was told that if it's found, they'll let me know. it's the kind of situation where we just have to wait and see. the lines of communication are still open, but i don't want to bug them for updates. we've just gotta be patient.
to be completely honest, i'm not even sure i want it to be found at this point. i've already received a lot of shit for other things i've uncovered and it makes me hesitant to want to open myself up to more of that.
#it was a production video produced by a multi-million dollar company at the time#a company that was later absorbed by adobe#so like this isn't a home video that's deeply personal or private#this is the kind of thing that consent would've been given for before being made and distributed#but the statements people made about me after the jcpenney pictures were really uncalled for and it just wasn't encouraging#makes me want to not try so hard to find the extra rare stuff and make it available for everyone
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every time I see a “it’s actually totally fine and nbd to have sex you don’t enjoy and are uncomfortable with because your partner wants it and you want them to be happy, as long as you’re giving uncoerced consent!” post I lose a month off my lifespan
#can /some people/ do this and have it be healthy for them? sure#but this is the overwhelming pressure both in a relationship and from society#and ime at least it has fucked me up a lot#to have sex i technically gave uncoerced consent to#where i was uncomfortable and unhappy and doing it to try and make my partner happy#bonus points for ‘it’s just like any other activity! just like you can watch a movie you don’t like for the sake of your partner#you can take a few hours to have sex you don’t like for them’#like come on now.#sex is not in fact psychologically identical to movies for most people#when i was a kid my school often made me watch movies I didn’t like or want to watch#you can say this isn’t ideal but#surely you can see. how this is different. than if they had made me have sex i didn’t want.#whatever WHATEVERRRRRR i know the sentiment is helpful for a lot of ppl#and i probably go too hard in the opposite direction#but im not framing myself as a wise advice giver im just rambling in tumblr tags abt my issues#if i were giving advice. well personally i would try to be more nuanced#than ‘don’t worry about it! it’s fine and normal to have sex you’re uncomfortable with and if you disagree you’re acephobic’#but that’s just me.#therapists dni#oh also I agree that people shouldn’t have to fake ‘normal reactions’ to sex#or to try and have orgasms if that’s unrewarding for them etc#im stone! its complicated! i get it!#but you gotta be careful to give the message ‘it’s complicated’#and not just. encouraging ppl to do things they’re genuinely uncomfortable with to make their partner happy.
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oh my god okay I’ve been working since 7:30am but MN, SD, and JW are all submitted for internal review!!! NF is ready to submit as soon as he gets home from school and does a final readthrough!!!! DN has decided to waive review lol godspeed to that poor kid but it means less work for me today yippee!!!! and I also had time to give the baby a bath which is his new favorite activity (furiously focused water-kicking time!!!!). I think now I will take a break from student work and take all the residents of this household out for a brisk walk.
#I’m on a roll today so I might try to knock out EP’s five short essays too#maybe if the baby consents to nap once more (he’s been very obliging today)#I also just found out that one of my tutoring clients from another company wants to schedule 2x/wk sessions with me#for the foreseeable future#which is almost all the tutoring I’d need to do during the admissions offseason to make up my budget shortfall#tonight after the baby goes to bed I am going to sit down and calculate exactly how much $ I need to take six more weeks of leave#and then I will draft an email to let work know#thank you everyone for encouraging me to do it#even though I have to work a bit to make the unpaid leave work out#I still think it’s worth it to have the extra flexibility!!!#like I get to work in bursts while baby naps#and then hang out with him when he’s awake#and there’s no commute and no fixed hours
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Conservative memes are like "I'm just gonna claim teachers are turning children into cannibals and it's on you now to prove that they don't".
#it would be funny if it didnt make the internet discourse like trying to argue with a canada goose#and if legislators didn't then see the meme and talk about how we need security cameras in classrooms#to make sure noone is encouraging cannibalism without the consent of the parents#politics#meme humor#memes#lol#conservatives be like#school
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i've been too exhausted to cook/clean from all the chaos of daily doc appts and lots of work all the time so i've been only eating bread again. my body and heart are not happey. but at least i'm still alive
#lay text#i will catch up on nutrients soon!!!#this is just a very hard week. and next week will prob be hard too. all the wheeling is so exhausting and long bus rides eugh#and sleeping with itchy uncomfy bandages#and dealing w ppl trying to grab my chair w/o consent all the fuckign time (i need to put spikes on my handles i stg)#and having to navigate unhinged men downtown#and having no sense of direction so getting lost 24/7#my body & brain aren't used to being out daily deep in the city like this..... like damn idk how ppl do it all the time#i have to rest 2-3 days after going downtown#but alas that's not allowed for me rn :'(#cuz of my ramen booboo#anyways. it's 11pm i have so much work to do. i wish naruto was there to encourage me. he would know exactly what to say#something stupid and loud and brash#god. can't wait to indulge in spec interests again
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and to leave the tags, has anyone ever noticed their close friends also getting fat, maybe not as fat as if it was intentional just a slow progress when you turn and look at your friends and realize that at some point most are anywhere from a bit too pudgy to completely hide anymore up to the first to hit obesity as well, and on her way to the next category even.....
#I'm not trying. I'm not feeling without consent.#just I can't help but notice every friend who stuck with me from uni is just sliding up the scale......#and I regret how much I'm attacted....#or *want* to start encouraging but god I do.#I've had whole dreams of us becoming an obese girl gang so many times now....
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Hey there fellow pokephiles! I wanted to ask anyone that wants to, if they'd be willing to come into my inbox and share their love of pokemon.
You can share anything you like! Sexual desires, stories about your first loves, your current partnerships, past partnerships, your preferences, funny or heartwarming stories. You can even share others' stories, as long as you're not giving me identifying information.
The only thing I will not post is asks talking about their pokemon or pokemon in a manner I find is abusive or dangerous. I only promote consensual relationships on this blog!
Anon is on for your comfort guys, I look forward to hearing all about how much you love Pokemon! <3
#Pokemon#Pokemon IRL#pkmn irl#pokephillia#unreality#Kraw Posting#(( Just to let you know I the mun behind the character am not uncomfortable with things like abuse or whatever for pokemon ))#(( If that's how you do that's fine lmao ))#(( But Kraw is adamant about consent when it comes to relationships ))#(( Just so nobody is confused on my actual stance ))#(( But to stay in character she is pretty upset about stuff like that and finds it abhorrent ))#(( Remember she treats these relationships at the same level of a human x human relationship ))#(( So she doesn't want to encourage abuse or mistreatment of pokemon in any way. c: ))
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If you’re a minority and you give your non-minority friends a pass to use slurs, make bigoted jokes, butt in on minority conversations etc, just because you “know they’re not really like that” or “know they don’t mean anything by it” or “they’re basically a minority by association haha”, then you’re a clown & a massive disappointment to your community & should be put in a public stockade btw
#why tf would you do that it makes no sense#you’re encouraging them to do things you know are problematic just to kiss their asses further#i hate you guys#like even if you know somebody personally and know that they’re not an asshole and you feel comfortable w them doing these things#you need to keep in mind that you’re pushing them to do these things to other minority people who don’t know them too#and those people did not consent to having their demographic boundaries violated like that#and see when they try to reprimand your friend for doing problematic shit they’re not gonna listen#and they’re not gonna understand the gravity or the wrongness#because you already taught them that they were all good#gross#this includes all minorities btw that’s why I’m using vague language#women going along with misogyny & r*pe jokes#black ppl giving their white buddies a pass to use the n word#queer men teaching their straight gal pals that they’re entitled to intrude on gay spaces/events/discourse#I hate you all#not fandom#homophobia#racism#misoginy#allies
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friendly reminder that you that you are hot, you are beautiful, and you are capable of whatever you set your mind to!!
and even if you aren’t feeling hot and capable? that’s totally okay!! even the hottest of hotties still have bad days. a hottie is a hottie no matter what 😌
#and I will aggressively love on you (with consent) until you believe it 😤#I JUST HAVE SO MUCH LOVE AND SUPPORT TO GIVE#i will encourage and support any silly ideas you have#sending you all smooches and hugs!!!#sierra speaks#mutuals 💙
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the anime romantic killer does genuinely seem like just a tone shift away from becoming a horror show
#ramblings#only a few episodes in but if this happened i think i would bite somebody#maybe it is the lgbt in me but being forced into potentially romantic situations#AND HAVING PEOPLE MIND CONTROLLED INTO THOSE SITUATIONS?#seems Genuinely horrifying. i would not feel comfortable getting into a relationship with anybody in this situation#not bc of anything on my end but bc mind control . completely erases all consent#and like. forget about Informed consent eithrr if they dont know about the wizard#and a wizard thats intentionally taking away things that you find joy in ???#instead of encouraging you to meet other people through those interests?????????#a wizard whos forcing you to wear more 'girly' clothes despite discomfort???#like. actually wearing clothes that have cats on them is 100% fine! you can make that into a style!#and forcing you to wear makeup??????????????????#sorry this would be literal hell on so many levels for me. im watching to see how horrible a situation it wiuld be for me#and also; shock that there are people who might adapt well to this#edit: NOT TO MENTION THE WEIRD MORALIZING ABOUT FOOD?#like yeah eating only chocolate isnt healthy but its her choice if she wants to do that?#but again: forcing someone to give something up instead of idk. Offering Other Options In Addition ???#and also the stealing away her cat...#AND LIKE. she doesnt need to become dependent on a person. and taking away her comforts until she does is blackmail#like if a guy was unable to play sports until he got a girlfriend that would be obviously fucked up right#why is it suddenly seen as more acceptable and not abusive to take away everything relating to a girl's interests until she finds a boyfrien#ntm the literal destruction of property to organize the whole scenario wtf.
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clip studio paint what the actual fuck
#WHY#ARE YOU#ENCOURAGING#AI BULLSHIT#AND THE FACT THAT YOU CANT GUARANTEE THAT THE GENERATOR WON'T USE COPYRIGHT IMAGES/IMAGES THAT HAVENT BEEN CONSENTED TO BE USED#FOR AI????#WHAT ARE YOU DOING
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swear to god if i open a fanfic ONE MORE TIME only to be greeted with an author's note saying "i asked chatgpt to tell me a story about-" i am going to go fucking NUCLEAR
#it's NEVER tagged!!!#i am so sick and FUCKING tired of hearing about chat bot shit. it's irresponsible tech that is only gonna help spread misinformation#/be used as a tool by corporate America to crank out shitty computer generated content#bc anything is better than having to hire people and pay them what they're worth am i right guys!#my job won't shut up about chatgpt i don't wanna have to see this shit on AO3 dot gov! please! is anything sacred!#I've already started running into endless variations of the same regurgitated paraphrased clearly AI-written garbage misinformation article#half of the time whenever i try to google something! i just keep getting AI generated garbage instead of any actual helpful information#side note: is Google like... super fucking broken for anyone else in terms of 'i can't find any useful information about anything anymore'?#or is it just me?#but AUGH. tech bros will be our downfall i swear to god#keep the AI shit out of art and creative endeavors it's a slippery slope and it's not leading anywhere good#this is fucking nfts all over again#or at LEAST if you're gonna be posting chat gpt prompts to ao3 fucking TAG THEM AS SUCH#I'm at the point where i hear someone say AI or chatgpt in an excited tone of voice#and i just consider it an immediate red flag#I'll delete this later it's unnecessarily cunty and i realize that but my GOD im sick of it#is it not enough that all of these writing bots are training on ao3 fics without the authors consent or permission?#now we have to encourage it by putting AI shit on there to begin with?
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also thinking all PIV sex is rape is not normal or healthy and is also something you should talk to a therapist about because its genuinely a very concerning thing to believe, regardless of whether or not the belief is from trauma or from something else
#rape //#i cant believe how many terf/otherwise radfem types just. act like thats a normal thing to think#like holy shit? what the fuck?#two consenting adults having sex is not rape even if one of them has a penis and the other a vagina. like. thats an insane and unhealthy#thing to think and believe#dove talks#also this is a really quick path to the belief that the only 'real' form of rape is penetration with a penis#and that is NOT a thing you should ever encourage belief in fucking full stop#that leads to the idea that cis women cant be rapists and that makes me see fucking red#'its worse and more traumatic' no it is not. rape that isnt penetration with a penis is just as traumatic#the presence of a dick and balls does not make it magically worse nor does the lack of a dick and balls make it better.
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