#does that count as dissociation?

[fantasticgothicpeachsludge]

I just had the realization that my cat that I’ve had since I was around eleven experienced the same trauma that I did and now I can’t stop crying

[howlsofbloodhounds]

the idea of killer being jealous of colors relationship with himself but in different stages makes me giggle. although color wouldn’t mock or dismiss his emotions by pointing out that he’s jealous of himself

[f4ll3nf34th3r5y5t]

Hey autism gang is it flirting if you draw creepy guys for one person but put a bow on them yes or no. Time sensitive

[littlest-bugz]

Oh? Someone texted you? Get bonked with INSTADISSOCIATE

[euclydya]

being in control has been fun but can someone else take the reigns now

[website-com]

this is what it’s like inside my brain all the time. it’s like having a conversation with someone in a restaurant and when you stop talking you suddenly pick up on the other tables conversation, which you weren’t paying attention to, but knew was happening. and there’s music too

[cryptidsandchamomile]

Currently dealing with time loss and someone is yelling at me in my head to find the binder I bought but.,. Because of whatever is yelling at me I can't really recall my own memories??

It's so weird to explain cause I'm being told it's in my suitcase but *I* know I took it out of there and now my memories are such a mess that I can't figure out what happened to them afterwards and this voice in my head doesn't know either and I'm just!! So overwhelming!!

It feels like I'm dealing with someone else's gender dysphoria which is more extreme than mine now too and I feel like I'm going to throw up!!

[lovelaceisntdead]

Dad mad because I didn't make dinner yay now I will dissociate forever

[iiguess]

Don't mind her—-she's just going to lie down for a while, staring up at the sky. Would you like to give her anything while she waits? A snack? A hug? A few words would be nice too, and so would a moment of your time.

[love-me-love-my-weirdness]

One time I was going to therapy and I was in the car looking out and watching people as you do when this one lady suddenly started making really weird come-at-me-bro type motions and I was watching her fascinated and only after we started to drive off did I realise that she was making those motions at me because I was staring at her and ma’am I would just like to say that I was dissociating so badly that I didn’t actually connect the dots between a person facing me and making gestures in a what-are-you-looking-at manner to me staring expressionlessly at them and I did not mean to offend you I swear

[penelopwgarcia]

*making myself a pinterest board and revisiting it every night in order to know myself* self care

[snarlingteeth]

I made this to tell some close friends I believe I may have osdd. But since I’m anon on here I might as well plop it down for everyone else to enjoy 😂😂 feel free to use this to tell the people you love that you may have osdd! Lol

[sysciety]

This is the same anon, thank you for answering my question! It was very helpful. Maybe this was mentioned in one of the articles you cited (we have been reading them but progress is slow😅), but is there empirical evidence for the claim that dissociated parts are /always/ fused before a specific cutoff age unless there is trauma? We’re mostly confused by the specific age part, especially since what that specific age is is often reported differently. The idea of a specific cut-off age also seems unprovable (and unfalsifiable, at least while the response to people with DID claiming to have had the disorder formed after the cut-off is “you just don’t remember your earlier trauma or you’re lying”).

Thanks again!

I honestly think this has more to do with general brain development. 90% of your brain is developed by age 5 which is why early childhood experiences can have such a large impact on someone later on.

I'll say flat out that I'm not a neuroscientist and that I'm not an expert in childhood development. But I think the cut off range is more about the sheer amount of growth that you do at those early ages.

By 7-11 your brain is 95% developed, which is much less growth than that first time interval. By 5-8 is when a child's prefrontal cortex (critical thinking/decision making part of the brain) starts to become more active. It's not developed before then because your brain is trying to figure out basic functions just to like, live in general. When people say identity is integrated by 6-9 it's because it really does depend on when the integration starts to kick in.

You're gonna notice a lot of these are ranges and not specific numbers because brain development varies due to different factors (developmental disorders might mean something like a delay in speech, for example). I've seen some people say an identity should be formed at 6 and that 6-9 is to account for developmental disorders but I don't know the validity of that. I don't have a study for you to back this up so I can't tell you with certainty that 9 is the upper bound.

I will say as you get older you start developing non-dissociation coping mechanisms. In general being dissociation-prone increases the odds of a CDD so unless you've already been doing that I think the odds of developing one outside that range aren't high

The formation of CDDs is also a slow thing that I think ultimately depends on how that initial stage of integration is disrupted. Repetitive trauma doesn't even always cause CDDs it's a pretty complicated process.

So I guess to answer your question there isn't really a hard age cut off, but if there is no disruption then it will happen eventually. For some reason I was having a hard time finding if there is any concrete evidence but I did find this pamphlet on helping your child form an identity which might be helpful? Not sure if it's what you're looking for but I'll leave it here anyway: https://www.patterson-lakes-ps.vic.edu.au/uploaded_files/media/2.helping_your_child_to_have_a_strong_sense_of_identity_.pdf

(Also I know the sources from the last ask are pretty dense I totally get it if reading takes a while but I don't think it's mentioned in anything I linked if you were looking for it specifically)

[moonpool-system]

Absolutely nothing like getting ready to do something, then forgetting what we were going to do right in the middle to the point I'm genuinely not even sure if the thing even existed in the first place??? We have no way of accessing professional diagnosis but I'm starting to wonder if our memory gaps are severe enough to qualify as DID rather than OSDD, hmm...

[cynicalundead]

I'm nervous about driving our partner system home because I'm very notoriously aloof and clumsy and don't trust myself behind the wheel, but can't seem to leave front or call anyone else out to take over.

Hopefully I can before it's too late. I don't want to risk anyone's safety. Things like this are why I wish our mom knew we were a system. There's nothing else I could tell her to explain why I'm so afraid to drive ..

Systemhood makes everything so dang complicated ..

[darrling-starr]

men should learn their place (in the kitchen)

while i should learn my place (in the living room drinking copious amounts of alcohol)

(this is a joke)