#disability etiquette

[majaurukalo]

If you are non-disabled and have disabled friends and want to invite them into your home that is inaccessible, warn them beforehand. We are not going to kill you 😂

I had friends who invited me into their homes and when I found flights of stairs they went like “uuupsie”. This irks me more than knowing it beforehand, it sounds almost like a mockery.

I don’t want to sound harsh but just a heads up like “Maja, I’m sorry but there are stairs to reach my house. I will help you though, we’ll find a way, don’t worry” is enough. We cripples appreciate it a great deal.

Also, I’m not blaming anyone for living in inaccessible houses. That’s how our society is built unfortunately. And it’s not my friends or people’s fault.

But don’t do me the “upsie” thing. Let’s do a team job. Yeah?

[aetherial-boy]

- Don’t touch my mobility aids. I don’t care if they’re ‘in your way’. Either ask me if I can move them, or sit / stand somewhere else that doesn’t involve touching my stuff.

- I don’t have to answer all the ‘what happened’ ‘why do you need that’ ‘but you look fine’ type questions. I don’t have to answer any of your questions, actually, and you need to respect that.

- When I say I can’t do something that’s not a reason to question me about it, it means I can’t do the thing. Full stop. No amount of ‘have you tried this’ is gonna make me magically able to do it.

- If we’re friends, don’t stop asking me to do things with you or come places with you just because I’m disabled. I know what I can do, and even when I can’t take part in the whole of what we’re doing I still want to come along and hang out with you.

- I can see you staring at me and hear you talk about me. I know my tics might be ‘annoying’ and you think I look ‘weird’, keep it to yourself please. I can’t control it and it’s a lot less awkward for both of us if you just try your best to ignore them. I’m probably just as embarrassed about having them happen as you claim you are for me - I don’t want to know that they give you ‘second-hand embarrassment’ thank you very much.

(I included this because my tics are caused by a physical disability and also society is still very Not Normal about people ticcing in public)

Calling all cripplepunk folks!

So I have been asked to lead a group at my recovery center about disability etiquette. This is much-needed as I have had my mobility aids manhandled three times in the past three weeks with staff brushing it off and blaming me for being in the way instead of making an announcement for people to not do this.

This is a fantastic opportunity to have a significant impact on a place that desperately needs it. All i am asking is that you reblog or reply to this post with at least one thing you wished abled people would do differently regarding your disability.

I'll pick as many as I can reasonably fit into one presentation to show to the recovery center, and I'll be sure to update y'all on how it went!

Additionally, if you have any resources on disability etiquette, feel free to share them!

If you can't, reblogging it to spread it would be appreciated too!

[merm-aac]

friendly reminder that it’s not ok to mock how high tech AAC sounds

I Know it pronounces stuff weird sometimes and I Know it sounds robotic you don’t have to tell me. I know. some of us are hyper aware of it. stop pointing out shit we have no control over.

it’s mean to make fun of how somebody speaks verbally and it’s mean to mock somebody speaking with technology. don’t do it.

[incognitopolls]

Anon says that when multiple sentences are bolded, they become unreadable. They're unsure why, since common wisdom holds that bolding should make it easier for people with reading- or language-related disabilities to read a long block of text.

I (pollmonger) would posit that bold isn't meant to be used for full sentences and bold sentences are (generally speaking) harder to read. If you emphasize everything, you effectively emphasize nothing. The most useful application of bold text is for short, salient keywords. But we're interested to see what others think.

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[curiositysavesthecat]

Is it okay for people who have no disability, aren't elderlies or pregnant, to sit on the seats reserved for disabled, elderlies or pregnant passengers on a bus/train. etc?

Answer choices below:

It's fine if they're tired and really have to sit down and there's no other seats or any disabled people or people who are in need on the vehicle, but they should still get up and give up the seat once/if disabled people or people who are in need get on the bus/train

It's fine if they're tired and really have to sit down and there's no other seats or any disabled people on the vehicle, they should not be asked to get up and give up their seat once/if disabled people or people who are in need get on the bus/train either.

It's fine for anybody to sit there even if they're not tired, if there's no other seats or any disabled people on the vehicle, but they should get up and give up their seat once/if disable people or people who are in need get on the bus/train

It's fine for anybody to sit there even if they're not tired, if there's no other seats or any disabled people on the vehicle, and they should not be asked to get up and give up their seat once/if disabled people or people who are in need get on the bus/train either.

It's ALWAYS fine for anybody to sit there even if there're other seats available, as long as there's no disabled people or people who are in need on the vehicle. They should get up and give up the seat once/if disabled people or people who are in need get on the bus/train

It's ALWAYS fine for anybody to sit there. No matter what. They should not give up the seat once/if disabled people or people who are in need get on the bus/train either

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[that-polyamorous-brat]

Consent and Ableism

I think it goes without saying that you should not touch strangers without permission on purpose. However, this rule being completely ignored is a common experience among disabled people. Our mobility aids are just as much a part of us as our hair and clothes.

Just as you should not shove people out of your way, you should not shove someone's mobility aid out of your way. This is probably going to end in a bit of a personal rant, but just because I have wheels doesn't mean you should push me. Just because I am disabled doesn't mean you should assume that I won't understand "excuse me." And just because my wheelchair doesn't look like your able legs doesn't mean I can't (gladly!) get out of your way by myself when politely requested. And no, saying "excuse me" while pushing my wheelchair out of your way (unless I've allowed or offered you to do that) is not polite.

Tell all your friends to please remember:

We are disabled, not f-ing shopping carts.

[gretchenzellerbarnes]

imagine being so hateful over a pointless ship war that you think it's ok to refer to a disabled character as a "creature"

[weirdstrangeandawful]

People really need to realise that ‘disability aids are an extension of my body’ really means that. It’s not just a fancy way of saying ‘don’t touch’.

Don’t brush against my aid if you wouldn’t brush against a person’s body.

Dont drive alongside closer than you would drive alongside a person’s body.

Apologise for bumping into my aid if you would apologise for bumping into a person’s body.

Don’t trip my aid if you wouldn’t trip a person’s leg.

Don’t kick/throw something at/hit my aid if you wouldn’t kick/throw something at/hit a person’s body.

Make enough room for my aid if you would make enough room for a person’s body.

Don’t sit closer to my aid than you would sit to a person’s body.

Don’t lean on my aid if you wouldn’t lean on a person’s body.

Dont touch things on my aid if you wouldn’t touch things on a person’s body.

Just generally don’t do things to or around disability aids that you wouldn’t do to or around a person’s body.

[splatoon-countdown]

I just had an idea. Perhaps we could all change our in-game nicknames to "FREE GAZA" or "SAVE GAZA" to show our support. It sounds a bit silly, but it could spread the message about this terrible genocide. Obviously, you should be doing so, so much more than just changing your display name in a video game, but it's an extra thing you can do maximize your support. Maybe after a protest, when you want to relax from the stress of it, you can still wind down with a game of Splatoon while still showing support. It would be awesome if this started spreading, and a bunch of people starting changing their display names to this, and maybe even made a bunch of plaza posts about it! If you have a following in the Splatoon community, you should reblog this to spread the message. Maybe even repost it to Twitter/X! I saw a plaza post about the matter and it made me feel even more determined to do all I can. The more of us who work together, the stronger we become!!

[padawansuggest]

Annnnnnnyways. That comment had me so fucked up that I forgot to eat for over 8 hours and now I’m gonna throw up if I don’t cause I need to take my pills :/

[will-pilled]

There is literally nothing wrong in of itself of playing around with fictional characters but am I the only one who finds it.. odd that it's mostly only fat and or disabled characters being "rewritten", or mischaracterized most of the time?

Like it's always fat characters being drawn thin and shit or very obviously autistic characters having their autism stripped away.

Like according to some fandoms I guess autistic people can't be attractive because they always have to have autistic traits stripped away. Idk it irks me.

Back to the thing about fat characters, another thing is just unconventionally attractive characters in general. Characters with hooked noses, wrinkles, round faces, ect. having those traits taken away all the time. Idk if it's a big deal but it really irks me.

[queerbrainrot]

"X is so genderidentity-coded" this "Z is b-sexuality and i will fight people on this" that, "10001 reasons why character C is [insert sexuality, gender identity, disability etc.]" shmat.

can we just go back to saying "I headcanon this character as being X, Y, Z"

If I see one more person use "[insert disability, gender identity, sexuality]-coded" in context of

"I personally view them as [sexuality] and a representation of [sexuality] and it's a positive thing and I will be upset if someone disagrees"

My brain will melt.

No one will fight you over headcanons, but some people will fight you over saying that a canonically pansexual character is 'actually lesbian/asexual/gay etc.'

[shadelorde]

No one is owed unlimited access to me.

[tryan-a-bex]

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[ashidentshappen]

An unfriendly reminder! Do not push someone in a wheelchair unless they say it’s okay, especially if you don’t know them

Unless they are about to roll into on-coming traffic or off a cliff or into some kind of immediate and life-threatening danger, do not touch them or their chair without permission. If they look like they’re struggling and no one is with them, ask if they would like some help.

And nobody come in here with highly specific “what ifs” trying to paint yourself as an unsung hero. There’s obviously nuances within this rule but, again, this is tumblr, not a thesis. I am not going to cover every possible situation. Just please,

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