aetherial-boy

[aetherial-boy]

post for my mutuals and followers to say that i’ve changed my username

mimikyu-chr to aetherial-boy

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with all the talk about DIY HRT, let’s also talk about stocking up on mifepristone and misoprostol (the abortion pills). it’s worth knowing the right dosages, how to use it safely, and keeping some on hand. better to have it and not need it than the other way around. the shelf life is (at least) five years.

having abortion pills accessible is just as vital as HRT, especially with both potentially at risk of restricted access.

getting them in advance can be life-saving for you and others around you.

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daily reminder that even if whoever abused you believes that they're in the right, you don't deserve that. you didn't/don't deserve to be abused even if your abuser believes you did/do <3

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I feel like it’s important for me to remind the DID community that a good majority of the people with DID are not going to have high alter counts. They’re not going to be overt. They’re not going to have tons of fictives and fully formed identities.

This is common to see online, but the truth is that this is not what DID is going to look like a majority of the time. Is it possible? I would say yes, if just because there’s not enough research about DID and how the human mind works. But most people with DID are not going to look like what you see online.

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please let disabled people on the bus first.

like, the order is wheelchair users, then other people with mobility disabilities and people with visual impairments, and THEN abled people please. (other physically disabled people please correct me if i’m wrong and i’ll fix this)

don’t push past people. you shouldn’t be pushing past anyone, but especially not those with guide dogs, mobility aids or anything else signifying a disability. (and yes, this includes sunflower lanyards.)

and please give up your seats for us, unless you have a disability that means you need to sit.

in an ideal world this would just be unspoken rules of being polite but apparently it’s not 🥲 i just wanna get home and i can’t stand for an hour to do that. being selfish and not waiting a couple minutes can make getting the bus really dangerous, and a lot of people have no choice but public transport.

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seeing kink is not participating in kink. if there is a Dom/sub couple walking around in public, and you see them, you are not being forcibly pulled into their dynamic. you have no relationship with these people. you are not being forced to participate in their kink. a girl walking around in a revealing her crop top because her boyfriend likes her breasts is not forcing you to participate in her boyfriend's breast fetish, and a guy wearing a dog mask to pride with his boyfriend is not forcing you to participate in his fetish, either. the idea that percieving kink (which has historically included gay attraction, which is why gay people and kinky people are in this shit together) means the viewer is being forced into non-consensual sexual activity is a cornerstone of homophobic, sex negative conservative arguments.

you being personally uncomfortable seeing something =/= you are being forced into something, or that the people you are seeing are morally in the wrong for your emotions. you have a right to feel uncomfortable, look away, go somewhere else, ignore them, or even vent about them to your friends, but that uncomfortable feeling does not justify falling in line with dangerous conservative rhetoric.

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I wish there was more actual intersex allyship in the queer community. I don't think "you're valid!!" counts as Actual Allyship.

I hate talking about the normalized medical violence faced by intersex people and getting a "oh that sucks :(" or "sorry about that" or "this reminds me of trans people and [insert completely different issue]" from perisex allies.

Like what the fuck, do none of you grasp the absolute horror of it? Of literal actual graphic violence against group that is so normalized that nobody bats an eye, even when it's right in front of them? When you Google my variation the first thing that comes up is surgery gore photos of children and babies being "treated" for being intersex. THAT IS APPALLING. Imagine if you couldn't Google "transgender" and the only thing that came up was violent gorey hate crime footage. And what if that was just normal and nobody cared.

That doesn't make you fucking mad? That doesn't make you sick? What the fuck kind of response is "you're valid!!" "So sorry" "*hugs* :<" to that.

Perisex allies, I need you to get pissed off with us.

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minors DNI with this post, 18+ only

Something I need people to know is that disabled people can be and are kinky. We belong in kink spaces. We have sex and some of us have kinky sex and that’s just a fact. Kink spaces haven’t always been the kindest to me with my disabilities and that really pisses me off. I’m a collared submissive who practices BDSM. I need to be able to be in conversations about safe kink and feel comfortable in them, and I need people to remember that not everyone who’s in these spaces is able-bodied.

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picking up litter is worth it!!

individual environmentalism gets a lot of flak in the face of corporate pollution but picking up litter makes a significant, noticeable impact. I spend about an hour a week picking up litter from around my dorm complex and I'm literally outpacing my community's litter production. Just an hour a week from one person is enough to offset nearly 200 people's worth of littering.

it would take less than 100 man-hours of labor per week to keep my whole college campus entirely litter-free. If you got two classrooms' worth of people to spend two hours per week each picking up litter, the whole campus would end up spotless and they'd straight up fucking run out of things to pick up.

If you're looking for some way to make a noticeable and positive impact on the world around you, go pick up some litter.

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rb this and tell me what ur accent is. this has no purpose except the fact i just realized i could have like... mutuals with cockney accents or newfoundland accents or something and thats just wild

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listen, some of the extra fun experiences in life carry a little risk of death desmemberment or horrible mutilation, just a fact of life, yknow? it's good for the kids, builds character

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i have no explanation

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telling disabled people (specifically disabled adults) to just get out of the house, attend events and make friends is easier said than done because;

1- a lot of disabled people can't leave the house. it's as simple as that.

2- if they can leave the house, they may need carers who may be bigoted and may not feel comfortable bringing them along to events for specific minority identities

3 if they have a supportive carer/ if they can go out alone, they may not have reliable access to transport (cars can't always fit mobility aids, public transport is notoriously inaccessible)

4- if they have access to transport, it's still not guaranteed that disabled people can enter an event, be that physical barriers, sensory overwhelm, dietary restrictions

5- if a disabled person can get into a venue, who's to say they won't encounter ableists, overt discrimination or not. this is an even larger concern for disabled people of colour, queer people, or any other minoritised identities.

6- even if the people are lovely, a lot of events are set in evenings, a time when a lot of disabled people feel even less safe when leaving the house.

I'm sure there's more. this doesn't even include trying to keep in contact with people and everything else that comes with relationships, but I just want to highlight that disabled loneliness and isolation is a huge issue with so many factors. don't try to dismiss it and tell us to 'just go out'.

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uni is tiring, and stressful, and right now insanely boring

we have to go over basic organic chemistry and medchem concepts that I already know very well, and while I know other people need to, that doesn’t make it any less tedious for me

I want to fast forward to after the first placement block when I’ll be learning actual new chemistry 🥲

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Today, on this fateful day in sex ed, I have to teach 25 9th graders how to put condoms on wooden dicks without losing my composure. Wish me luck lmao

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hey, I’ve just got out outta uni and I’m once again angry at accessibility issues so:

don’t stand in front of the door to the accessible toilet

don’t leave your empty water bottles in the middle of the floor of the accessible toilet

don’t use the accessible toilet if you’re able bodied

and especially don’t walk into the toilets at the same time as a disabled person, go into the accessible toilet and start closing the door, THEN realise your mistake and rush out, and run into the disabled person, who just wants to piss, on your way.

this has been a PSA, I’m fed up of people’s shit.

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Another thing about inaccessibility that non-disabled people don’t realise is how dehumanising and diminishing it can feel: having to circle a building to find a step-free entrance, maybe where the dumpsters or other junk is kept? Having to ring or call for someone like a child who is waiting for permission to enter while everyone else walks by with no problem? Having to be carried up a flight of stairs, with everyone watching wide-eyed?

Yeaaaaahhhh, it’s no joke.

I’m sure there’s more stuff.