#TW ableism

[sunlitmcgee]

my understandig is the reaosn the r-slur is different from say dyke or faggot or tranny or queer or the n-word or whatever is these are all words folks have found in time to be a fun way of empowerment against the abuse they represent. Like yeah I'm mister faggot, what's it to ya? Like some folks in these groups still don't like 'em and that's okay. But there's a sizeable amount of people who do and identify with them and have used them to find community and advocate and be seen and known.

the r-slur isn't like that. there's no real history that I can think of of intellectually disabled people using it....it's a very loaded word. it's loaded with centuries of medical abuse and torture and the systematic mistreatment of people who are often unable to fully understand what is even going on when it's being slapped on them while they're hurt and demeaned and yelled at or worse. I have had that word used against me so much just seeing it makes me tense and makes my eye tears up. That's a word that was used as I was assaulted. There's no friendship or community or belonging to be found in its use. only hurt.

[ndcultureis]

(unaware) NPD culture is seeing people say "Narcissistic people can't be self aware, and they can't get better" and thinking, "Well, I'm obviously not a narcissist then because I know how much I suck" and then never realize that we have NPD in the first place and never go to seek help.

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[luxdraconia]

come back to shrine, sherbet. we don't hate you, all of your current "friends" do. we don't care about your alters. we just want you back.

come back. please.

i'm sorry but you want us BACK in that shitshow of a server?

the same server that had a porn channel in a server full of minors? the same server that actively causes sherbet distress when it even thinks of rejoining? the same server that would PROBABLY ridicule and harass and trigger us just for being pro endo and disabled?

hah. no. i don't think we fucking will. i've been here for fucking years, i'm not letting us go back there bitch.

also, we're headmates, not alters. get your language right :)

[tea-and-secrets]

Oh my god that ask reminded me of the time I got gaslit into thinking i had did???? literally i was like 14 and a handful of people i was in a discord server with started telling me i was a system in denial, that they could always tell when i ‘switched,’ etc.

i was skeptical, but i trusted them because they were older + i didn’t know what my actual mental problems were. but then i got really into it, and that made things really complicated when i realized they were Literally Just Gaslighting Me. like if we argued too heavily about something they would say that i didn’t “actually” think that, that “this is your persecutor talking, and you’re being toxic by forcing us to engage with it” and make me apologize…

anyways this is all really to say that I’m not sure who I actually am anymore. i miss having some kind of self image [even though it was moulded specifically by grown adults who wanted to emotionally abuse me online better :,)]

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[godtears]

Asking someone to tag posts that casually use the "schizo" slur as an insult as "tw ableism" and I get back a "that tag already exists FYI" like then... Why the fuck weren't you using it? It's literally an ableist slur. Use the fucking ableism tag. I'm so sick of people treating schizophrenic folks like it's okay to be ableist towards us. What the fuck?

[spoonietimelordy]

More details about my tags in the previous rb:

I sincerely believe that, in the context of our heavily ableist society, laws allowing euthanasia are ableist, full stop. Allowing disabled people to be legally killed by doctors, in a world where we are seen as better dead than alive is not giving us rights, it's making it legal to murder us.

I agree that people should have the right to decide how to die. But right now, it's not something that can be done, because we don't have the right to decide how to live.

[real-team-luster]

@pokeconspiracy asked:

You guys sell gem stuff??? That's cool dude, but have you ever considered that each gem holds the memory of a forgotten dimension, and every time you sell one, you’re actually unlocking an ancient curse that could unleash the wrath of the cosmic Beedrill swarm? It's real. And it's gonna come get you.

...What.

I've heard all manner of conspiracy spun around my activities, but this is a new one. Ancient curse? Cosmic Beedrill swarm? Are you out of your mind?

[notdefendingtaylor]

i think a big reason fortnight mv was beyond cringe to many, even ASIDE from the ableism -

is that the pop star who commands the most resources of any working today, and perhaps any ever, could/should have done better.

when edgy emo bands did something like this in the 2000s on a shoestring budget, we applauded because it was goofy and histrionic but still something more than what you expect from people who are probably getting rides from their parents to get to a studio they could only afford to rent for two hours

taylor has the full force of money and connections to do something better. i actually liked lavender haze mv because yes moody colorsss and set dressing

fortnight was just poorly done, vacuous, AND ableist

[cyncured-au-official]

(CONTAINS MAJOR AU AND CANON SPOILERS) My plans for Cyn's schooling in this AU!

I honestly don't really know where to start with this post. I have ideas, for sure, but I don't know what to start with, lol. (I just woke up from a nap, so that's probably not helping.)

Anyway, I'm going to try to start somewhere. The actual lore is under the cut, for the sake of everyone's dashboards and to avoid anyone getting unwanted spoilers. This is probably going to get pretty long.

Note: I'm typing this on my new laptop, and I'm used to mobile, so forgive me if there's any missing letters (this keyboard is big and I have small hands) or other errors.

Please note that it'll be a while before this arc is actually posted to Ao3.

TRIGGER WARNING: ABLEISM, PUNISHMENT FOR MELTDOWNS, ABA LANGUAGE, SCHOOL SUSPENSION

Cyn is currently 5 in the AU. (This post was written after the first two fics in this AU were posted.) She could technically start kindergarten as soon as she's been cured of the Solver. She's legally considered old enough, but since it's already May by the time this happens, N decides to hold off on it until the next school year starts.

Not to mention, by the time she has all her legal paperwork in order with Outpost 3, the school year is pretty much over. N also wants to get Cyn into therapy before putting her into a potentially stressful environment.

Skip ahead to September 3071, and N decides to try sending Cyn to Outpost 3's public kindergarten. He's definitely nervous, especially after hearing Uzi's horror stories about how she was treated as an autistic student. But Cyn needs a way to make friends, and since she said she wanted to try when N talked to her about it, he decides to give it a shot.

It goes badly. As in, she has a meltdown during the second week and gets suspended for it. N gets a call in the middle of the school day that goes something like this:

Ableist Teacher: Hello, is this N Doorman?"

N: Yeah, why? Is Cyn okay?

AT: Yeah, she's fine, but she threw a tantrum-

N: You mean meltdown-

AT: Whatever. She threw a paintbrush at a classmate, so legally we have to give her a 1-day suspension. Please come pick her up. We have her stuffed animal, we'll give it to you when you arrive.

N: If you took her comfort item, you've violated her *IEP. That's illegal.

AT: Well, she wouldn't comply until we withheld the preferred item.

N: I don't care. You signed up to take care of my sister, that includes accommodations for her diagnosed disability. I don't want my sister to blindly obey adults. I've been working with her on self-advocacy, and you've likely just undone a whole lot of progress.

N: Not to mention her stuffed elephant isn't a 'preferred' item. She needs it to feel safe.

AT: Whatever. You need to pick your student up.

N: I will. I'll be there soon.

*call ends*

N unfortunately did have to be the one to give Cyn her comfort item back. After that fiasco, N pulled Cyn out and started homeschooling her.

*IEP: Individual Education Plan. This is a legally binding document detailing accommodations for a disabled student. In Cyn's case, she's supposed to have permission to carry her stuffed elephant anywhere she likes, and is supposed to be exempt from class-wide reward/punishment systems. Unfortunately, its legally binding status is incredibly difficult to enforce. IEPs are an American thing, I believe the UK equivalent is an EHCP. I'm American, so I'm using the terms I'm familiar with. This is different from a 504 plan. A 504 plan is a non-legally binding version of an IEP for students with no official diagnosis. Cyn has received an official diagnosis of autism at this point, as well as a PTSD diagnosis, so she qualifies for an IEP.

[rottenandcutemaggots]

"eww I hate toxic/bad vibes in the internet!" and it's just a vent blog

[princessuncertain]

why are half of. like. Autism Takes™ "just because you have many many autism symptoms and autism coping mechanisms work like a charm and your autistic friends think you're autistic and the only reason you're not diagnosed with autism is because of the sheer bigotry among psychologists doesn't mean you get to say you're probably autistic!!" and half are like "if you do maths in the way 70% of the population does, you have ASD. i don't make the rules"

[whydoifeelthisquiet]

Wow, I can’t wait to have a president who literally said we should “just let Disabled people die” and who was sickened he had to interact with a Disabled veteran at a ceremony. He will implement as many ableist policies as possible. It’s going to be so fun for all of us!

[luxdraconia]

narc abuse IS a thing tho. i’m a survivor myself

“narc abuse” refers to narcotics. Which is my thing. :3

[januscorner]

Medical abuse and the historical treatment of disabled people is so funny!/sarc

But seriously fuck lobotomy jokes

[tea-and-secrets]

people will claim to be against ableism and then attack people for experiencing symptoms of their mental disorder and screaming "you can't blame it on your disorder!!!" with absolutely zero self awareness

could you imagine saying that shit to someone whose physically disabled? If you wouldn't say it to someone whose is physically disabled you shouldn't fucking say it to someone whose has a mental disorder.

I feel as though part of this rhetoric stems a lot from those "commentary" YouTubers cuz I constantly see them throw that shit around. It's so great that you're able to perfectly control your mental disorder and never slip up, so so cool.

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[the-crystal-femmes]

I don't know how many times I need to remind people that "narcissistic" isn't a word you should use to describe an abusive parent. Like, unless they have narcissistic personality disorder, they aren't a narcissist 👍👍, thanks. They're just an abusive asshole.