#did host

[thesleepysystem]

did is so silly because we have a literal god, someone fueled entirely by rage, a little girl, some poor dad trying to keep said little girl from front, and then a shape-shifting punk boy. what is going on

[lefluoritesys]

A list of ways hosts can be hosts because a lot of systems stress about it a lot, including us:

Somebody who stays at front the most, AKA the general definition. You got somebody here who you see most often despite there being many people in the body.

Somebody who stays in the body as default. Nobody wants to front? We have a person right here.

Somebody who does school/daily tasks. Everybody else is there for backup and to fool around, and while they help out as much as they can, the host will be the person to do all the daily stuff needed to function.

Somebody who takes care of the physical body. While you have soothers and caretakers, a host can be somebody who is also a physical protector. There are systems in which alters literally cannot eat, bathe, or sometimes even walk on their own, which is when the host helps out.

Somebody who is best equipped to deal with that specific period of time. Whether the host will change when that period ends or not, there are hosts who become hosts temporarily, doesn't matter for how long. The amount of time can vary from a few days to a few years.

Somebody who manages the outside world. And no, that might not be the same as doing daily tasks and school. Whatever managing the outside world means is different for every system, and is always valid.

Somebody who's been stuck at front for an incredibly long time. Whether they are still stuck or unstuck, they can still be called hosts if they want to.

Somebody who stays being the host for sentimental reasons. Whether it be they spent a long time at front beforehand or something else, there are hosts who can stay being hosts for pure sentimentality.

Somebody who is best equipped to deal with the outside world. And again, no, that does not always mean the statements stated previously. Somebody who is best equipped to deal with the outside world may be anybody, depending ont he system's needs.

Somebody who chills at front and lets others take care of everything. Whether it be because the host is resting or not.

Somebody who wakes up in the body no matter who fell asleep in the same body before them. They might be the default, they might not be, but brain makes sure to make them switch in their sleep.

Somebody who the system decided is host, and who feels like a host. It doesn't matter how often they front, because hosts being more often than others in the body is outdated information, and a label not all systems have in the first place.

Continue the chain if you so desire.

(Note: This is not about the desire to be host or who they are as people. Hosts are still hosts if they want to be or don't want to be, whatever sexuality or race or nationality or personality, yes, however, this is all about functionality.)

-physical persecutor

[owo-writing-man]

Being trans and not being the child my parents had was one thing.

But realizing I was a system and I was never the child they loved is another.

I love my father but the man who loved me only ever existed when it was a different alter.

Having heard him say "you stole my little girl from me" hurts a lot more when you *literally* replaced the old host.

-dorian

[the-devils-dozen]

Yk that dissociative feeling when you look in the mirror and your reflection hits you like ?̷̭͚͈̪̋͋̕͝*̸͚̋̔͋8̷͔͓̬̰̞̍́̍̀̚k̷͕͙̺̙̜̐̎0̴̸̸̭̜͙͍̪̝̫̤̱͕̻͈͊̽̂̓̇̏̑͋̕͝=̷͔̬̭̫͆̾3̴̤̳̭̀͂̐f̷̺̗͓̼͋̏͘͝

[chowdercoining]

Perennial Host

A perennial host is an alter whose role as host is permanent. A perennial host may have other roles, but they will always be the host until fusion or dormancy.

A perennial host will rarely, if ever, be able to leave front, but they will always at the very least be co-conscious. They will likely have trouble accessing headspace, if they're able to at all.

This role is intended and made for P-DID systems to describe a role the dominant-alter may have, but may be used for any kind of system

Coining Date: August 17th, 2023

[the-house-wins]

are you tired? are you overwhelmed? are you sick of always being the one fronting?

well bOY do i have the solution for you!!

for the low low price of your sanity and little remaining memory, you too could have *explosion sound effect* THREE HOSTS AT ONCE!!!!

[sirius-romsys]

Things people can't seem to get through their damned heads.

Since Jackie did this, I might as well too.

Persecutors are "evil alters". No. They are not. Just because they're a persecutor doesn't mean they're evil, and shouldn't be treated as such, as it will make it worse. And in our experience, typically it is a trauma response, not actually having genuine hate for us.

All alters with like you if you're friends/dating one/some. No! Especially in a bigger system such as ourselves, not every alter will like you, maybe they'll tolerate you for the sake of the others, but you are not entitled to every alter in a system, especially if they have specifically said they don't like you, or do not want to engage with you.

Alters are different people stuck in the same body. No, every alter is part of one person, split into different pieces. Like it or not, at the end of the day, alters are not different people, yes, they can have different personalities, but that doesn't mean they're different people. This is why systems should hold responsibility for what their alters do/say.

Endos are valid. No, they are not. Plurality is proven to be a response to severe trauma, and cannot be caused any other way. You may not remember some/most of this trauma, and this does not invalidate your experience, and does not make you an endo. Endos, get help please, if you want to be a system there's likely something wrong with you. And while I do believe some 'endos' are systems who've been groomed/are in denial, most 'endos' are invalid, and need therapy.

Having a clear head when switching invalidates you. No, it does not. Everyone is different, and sometimes it depends on the day, typically we have a severe amount of amnesia when switching, but some days we don't have any amnesia at all.

Having an alter from a bad source is problematic. No, it is not. You cannot control when an alter forms, or where they are sourced from. Sometimes an alter can be from a piece of media you don't watch/read/etc.

Having an alter of an object/place can't happen. Wrong. As I said previously, you can't control the source of an alter, or when they form. We have a Texas alter, and we've never been there, it just appeared.

Self-diagnosing is invalid. No. Self diagnosis is very valid, because many people cannot afford an actual diagnosis, or cannot get a diagnosis for their own safety. This doesn't even have to be about plurality, for example, if you're diagnosed with autism you cannot move to some places in the world, and sometimes you're not allowed to adopt a child if you have it.

Have a good day y'all, and remember, I'm open for questions (I need questions I'm so bored.)

[nikitasys]

Becoming aware that you're part of a system is like having lived in the same flat/house forever & then suddenly realising there are rooms in there you didn't even know EXISTED & also wait for it...

There are OTHER PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH YOU FOR YEARS.

(P.S : You were the only headmate unaware of the situation 🙃)

— Kita, host/caretaker

[chemicalcarousel]

Pretty sure it's been done before, but if not here is a sys meme we just made

[cubertthecube]

[y0han]

System ask game!

I got bored so here’s an ask game :3 feel free to ask your own questions too these are just some basis ones!

👥 - How many alters do we have?

🔥 - What does our inner world look like?

🥀 - Did we ever experience denial of being a system?

🌬️ - How many parts view themselves as something other than human and who?

🌟 - How did alters discover their names?

🌕 - Who has the strangest name in terms of English dialect?

💥 - What do you do when you need to calm down from rapid switching or a panic attack?

💐 - Has anyone ever switched in during something they shouldn’t have? Explain.

☘️ - How does everyone communicate?

🐁 - Does everyone have different speech patterns?

🦢 - Does everyone have different handwriting to each other?

🪱 - Are any alters in relationships? If so who?

🐝 - Can you list everyone? (Exceptions are allowed for those who can’t be revealed)

🦋 - Who has been fronting most often lately and for what reasons?

🐠 - Who has the strangest source?

🐳 - Does everyone have a different music taste?

🪰 - Who likes the strangest music?

🐴 - What does a rapid switch look like for us?

🦋 - What does switching look and feel like for us?

[thesleepysystem]

me: I’m faking :(

also me: using us/we even b4 “I” thought I had DID, thinking of myself as “multiple” for many years before even knowing what DID was, doesn’t remember about 70% of my life, has greyed out “memories” for about 15% and emotional amnesia for the other 5%, has whole ass arguments with people in my head (“we should eat this” “no, we should eat that” “no, this”) again before even knowing what DID was, LITERALLY HAVING SOMEONE CONTROL THE BODY WHEN TRIGGERED AND KNOWING IT WASNT ME ???

me: .......but what if-

-samuel (host)

[magicbungelic]

Any tips on trying to improve communication between alters ? Or just trying to have any communication at all ? Especially as a p-did system host (which is what I believe is the case for me)

I can't access headspace (if we even have any), can't communicate with any of them at all, I just feel them when they're there with me and the changes they cause in my behaviour, but whenever I try to make any effort to acknowledge they're there they just retreat :(

I don't even know their names (besides an introject with a very strong presence), please send any tips if you have any !

DNI transharmful/transid and pro para

[v01c3s-mp3]

Any systems that practice witchcraft? How does this affect your craft? (If you're comfortable sharing ofc!) We've gotten back into witchcraft recently and are curious :]

[undead-furbies]

Host: "Can't you do something helpful like go talk to the Gatekeeper?"

Me (trauma & anger holder): "No, she hates me"

Host: "But she hates me more than she hates you !!"

[wildwoodshotelsystem-tm]

ULTRAMAN: RISING MY NEW OBSESSION WHY MUST YOU BREAK MY HEART

KENJI TEACHING EMI BASEBALL FILLS MY EMOTIONALLY ABSENT FATHER-SHAPED WHOLE IN MY HEART AAAAAAAAAAAAA

I dont know if I should be flattered or scared. Also kid you have a bunch of father figures in here not just me-Ken

I KNOW BUT EMOTIONS