#demi asexual

[snowed-leopard]

MANNCO PRIDE PT 2: SEXUALITY!

part two to my only slightly too late pride month project... aheh

Gender | Sexuality | Other | Some Xenogenders | Robotkin

(as asks come in and I get additional requests more links to extra may be added) ((Other includes both rainbow flag variations and some flags like the bear flag and questioning flag. ))

QnA is in the Gender post! go check there for how I want people to ask for a flag I may have missed on. I'm very sorry if I did btw, I promise it was not intentional, you're still valid I'm just a dumbass.

[is-the-character-aroacespec]

Is he demisexual and demiromantic?

🖤 🩶 💜💚 🤍 🖤

Reasoning: There have been multiple instances where people have attempted to seduce him and it has utterly failed to work, he has never seemed to be interested in anyone except Tarvek & Agatha, both of whom he’s close to

[lujart]

OISUGA 🧃🌱📷

Art Trade for my friend Sugamari 🤍

[ltownerillustrates]

Me IRL...

[gray-ace-space]

a while back i posted screenshots of a conversation with a demi friend who afaik is otherwise cishet and extremely not on tumblr. i guess he's just gonna be a recurring character on this blog.

here is me (badly) explaining the deal with unicorns and dragons to him, and a message he had for acespecs in response.

make armadillo ace a thing. do it for him.

[dead-inside-demiboy]

Im sorry but being aromantic and/or asexual is such a beautiful, complex identity that opens up almost endless possibilities and interpretations about sex and romance and relationships and struggles within those,

and i will always absolutely LOATHE how both the outside and the aro/ace community itself have boiled these identities down to just "doesnt have sex" and "doesnt date"

[scretladyspider]

demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman��, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

[simbistardis]

Happy ace week to my Black asexuals, Black demis, Black greys, ace studs, ace stems, ace femmes/fish and everyone else in between

[universillyquiet]

do I want a romantic relationship or do I want someone to promise to stay by my side and then not only take that promise seriously but also keep it

[desperatecheesecubes]

Growing up asexual is actually so funny because all of a sudden people all around are like ‘oh my god what if I don’t know how to kiss??? I have to practice!’ And start doing unhinged things and the whole time you’re like

[redbeardace]

It's Ace Week!

[is-the-character-aroacespec]

Is he demisexual and demiromantic?

🖤 🩶 💜💚 🤍 🖤

Reasoning: The only person he has that sort of interest in is his childhood friend that he's known his whole life. He literally never seems to experience romantic or sexual attraction except for when she's involved.

[noahhawthorneauthor]

Sometimes they fancy a shag, sometimes they don't, sometimes they never do or only for special moments or people. REGARDLESS THEY MATTER AND DESERVE TO TAKE UP SPACE.

Yesterday was International Asexuality Day, but ace books are good to read all year round. Asexual means a person doesn't feel sexual feelings or attraction to others, but this is a spectrum and can vary widely from person to person. Note that attraction does not equal romance, and asexual is not the same as aromantic. Some people are sex repulsed, some are not. Some people are sex positive, some are not.

Demisexuality falls under the asexual umbrella, and means a person doesn't feel attraction until developing a strong connection with a person. Two of my books, Phantom and Rook, and Matsdotter and Adrastus, have demisexual mains.

There are many different shades of Ace, and many different types of stories just waiting for you to read.

[the-cheese-slut]

ATTENTION QUEER PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!

we need to take Halloween.

it needs to be ours.

idk how, but we will find a way.

Halloween will belong to the gays by this October.

taging everyone to spread the word:

@cryptidwithaninternetconnection @gingerbreadeel24 @nimonastan @pickupstyx @reggie-the-inferi

[gray-ace-space]

here's the thing about me and smut. i don't read about my favs fucking every night before i go to sleep because it gets me off. i do it because it's soothing. no matter how shitty things are, i can go to this little bubble where everything is safe and perfect. i don't know when it became a foundational coping mechanism for me, but it is now.

[lgbtqtext]

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