#from the way allos do it

[dead-inside-demiboy]

Im sorry but being aromantic and/or asexual is such a beautiful, complex identity that opens up almost endless possibilities and interpretations about sex and romance and relationships and struggles within those,

and i will always absolutely LOATHE how both the outside and the aro/ace community itself have boiled these identities down to just "doesnt have sex" and "doesnt date"

[stopper-my-heart]

Nothing like Heartstopper S2E8 removing some of Taylor Swift's "seven" lyrics just so that the singing can specifically come back in at "Or hide in the closet" while Isaac is processing difficult emotions related to the book he's reading (i.e., Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen).

Did I mention "Or hide in the closet" hits just as the camera focus finishes shifting away from Isaac?

This is fine

[puppppppppy]

I have to ask, is your pfp Mutsumi from Skip to Loafer?

!!!! yeah it is!! i read the first volume last year and fell deeply in love with the characters and story, so its one of my favorites lol. i highly recommend it <3

[wiretism]

I actually just dont care about aroace stereotypes at all. like it couldnt bother me less.

[cosmicredcadet]

I call characters ugly because their personality is revolting and i love to hate them and bully them. You call characters ugly because they have physical features that you deem "unattractive" or don't fit eurocentric beauty standards and you hate them for that.

We are not the same.

[shiawasekai]

(apologies for any formatting nightmare from mobile)

Who does your OC love? (platonic)

Is there someone your OC liked at first, but then grew to dislike?

Has your OC ever had to let a canon character down easy?

It's completely fine! It worked out.

Who does your OC love? (platonic)

I'm going here on a somewhat strange tangent perhaps and not mention either her brother or parents (who she loves very much mind you) or the companions (who she also loves very much or she wouldn't be still alive), and instead go with her mentor because I actually don't talk about her enough.

She was Cypria, a very very very old woman, a half-elf already nearing the end of her lifespan. A BFT Arcanist much like Nela (who learned from her) who essentially saw this feral, hurt teenager and adopted her like one adopts a particularly spicy stray kitten. She simply realized that: 1) the kid was down a bad path, 2) lecturing her wouldn't do anything but further push her away.

Instead, she chose to offer what the kid wanted: knowledge. As she taught her about magic, Cypria also speckled attention, validation and valuable advice to nudge the kid in the right direction. The methodology was much like with a stray, slowly using "food" to get them to lower their guard and become receptive to touch until they realize petting isn't bad actually, it's even kind of nice!

Nela learned a lot of her, and respected her deeply. She was the one adult she felt comfortable enough to truly talk about her fears and doubts, about the intrusive thoughts and what hurt her.

Cypria is 100% the main responsible for Nela never going down the dark emberkin path. She was the only one who figured out how to offer her the helping hand she desperately needed, a task Nela's parents and brother failed no matter how much they cared and tried (they weren't equipped to handle it, also too close to the problem in a way to see what to do).

The Nethysian trinket Nela wears is a replacement for an identical one Cypria gifted her. She lost the original because of Areelu, so she asked an artisan to remake it for her. Is there someone your OC liked at first, but then grew to dislike?

Uhmmmm, I feel as stereotypical as it may sound Queen Galfrey fits this category yet not really. As in, ultimately Nela realized they're very very similar in some ways (both stranded away of their actual time, having long outlasted those they were supposed to share their lives with and saddled with a responsbility that's way too heavy), but there's still a lot of resentment there over how Galfrey used her and pushed this duty on her shoulders in the first place and then got angry about it.

Her feelings about her are a complicated mess of "why did you do this to me" and "still I see myself in you," but she did start liking her well enough so? It kinda counts? Anyone else who she ends up disliking is either a minor character enough it's not jumping out to me (it has been a while since I played last, alas), or someone she had bad vibes from the start.

Has your OC ever had to let a canon character down easy?

I may, huh, accidentally triggered Lann's romance and had to reject him, which is terribly awkward but, alas, not a rare occurrence. That aside, I don't think she gives the vibe of being approachable in a romantic sense? Which has probably saved her much grief. Hell, Nela's own receptiveness with the one LI she is with (Daeran) came as a surprise even to herself!

[lesbiansanemi]

It just sucks it just really fucking does and I never want to admit this because it’s “wrong” to want to “be normal” because these things shouldn’t be considered abnormal but fuck. Fuck man. I wish I was allo I wish I was cis I wish I was neurotypical I wish I was fucking normal and didn’t have all these little fucking things that clump up into a giant mound of ridiculous weight that is just too much for another person to deal with

[beesinspades]

i like my vashwood ace vash and allo wolfwood flavored because it's the kind of relationship dynamic i want to explore with them in my writing but i am also really fond of demi wolfwood....I don't know it feels right for him. slowly falling for vash and developping that bond with him and eventually he finds himself being attracted to him that way too and because he's never felt like that towards anyone before it's just another way vash shakes up his world

[diluc33rpm]

the romance/relationship system in bg3 is genuinely some of the worst designed shit i've ever seen in any game with that feature but at least the memes we get out of it are funny. once saw someone comment something along the lines of 'patch note: waving at gale will no longer cause him to buy a house for the two of you to retire in' and i've never recovered since

[intrigd-voyagr]

whenever I describe my ideal romantic relationship to people I'm always told "that's not dating that's just being friends!" and it's like!! Well yeah!! But actually no! Like. I still want the loyalty and emotion of a romantic relationship, I just don't want The Nasty™. And even with my watered down definition I still don't feel ready for it especially since I have 0 experience,,

I guess I'm just plain scared of intimacy but since it's all anyone wants in a relationship I'm just better off alone so I don't disappoint or annoy people

[aq2003]

"it's a shame they shoved freema into so many of donna's episodes" Literally just say you're racist and leave oh my god those 3 eps in the middle of series 4 with martha in them were so fucking good showing ten having evened out and feeling more comfortable showing affection and martha recovering from all the horrible stuff she's seen and gone through (but also she can't leave that life behind completely bc how could she)

[teenagefeeling]

am i seriously starting to see jokes about asexuals on my dash again??? i chose the wrong time to accept myself.....

[houseofwolvess]

i wish romance wasn't so hard to understand. how the fuck do i even tell these things apart

[confines]

i wanna fuck my mechanic so bad it makes me look stupid :(

[streetsandsodiumlights]

(tags from @no-1-rosalind-lang-apologist)

By the way "some aroace people still date and have sex" and "it's weird how internet spaces makes every single aroace character romance and sex favourable" can and should co-exist. Sincerely, an aroace person

[watsername]

this post was supposed to be a lighthearted post about aspec people by highlighting them in a joking way that still instills positivity and pride in the identity .

unfortunately too many people are too chronically online and media illiterate to realise that so let’s break down the post.

‘shout out to the people not having gay sex this pride month’

this was intentionally a worded to counter the ‘have lots of gay sex this pride month’ jokes and positivity that surround pride discussions. The wording directly associates with anti-queer activity and their frequent attempt to divert attention from queer people during the month of pride. it is worded intentionally. it is supposed to seem counter active to pride .

the humour is then seeing a pride flag. specifically the asexual flag- in which case this stands for an umbrella term across the aspec community which is more recognisable than the variety of aspec flags that i had seen whilst looking for a flag for this post . the grey line of the asexual flag stands for the spectrum between allosexual and asexual it represents the degrees of asexuality and in so, with the purple, stood for the aspec community in this post.

if the joke is still lost on you, the idea was to read a statement that counters the idea of queer pride and find it recontextualised to humorously represent an identity associated with the lack of sexual attraction; ergo no gay sex .

what this post is NOT, is a comment on varied asexual attraction. it us not a commentary on what makes a valid asexual person or whether or not you specifically will have sexual inter course this pride month . it is not saying asexuals are not allowed to have sex . this post is pushing any stereotype of asexuality . op is a sex having aspec person. i am demisexual . i have been with my partner for almost 2 years and engage in sexual activity .

what this post IS, is a joke. it’s a fucking joke i cant make it any clearer. not every single joke is going to relate to your own experiences and that’s ok. not every post about asexuality is going to relate to your own experiences that’s ok. you need to stop taking things at face value and actually engage in some media literacy to understand when something is a reductionist and stereotyping commentary which is inherently negative and when something uses a reductionist approach to convey humour because a lot of you really seem to be struggling with that one.

i fear a lot of you take yourselves too seriously and can’t find the humour in simple tumblr shitposts to the point where i’m having to actually explain what i thought was a very easy concept to grasp because it has upset a lot of people . stop taking everything so seriously .

if you are offended by the original post that is actually a you problem. that is something you have to work on where you cannot accept any form of lighthearted media that does not directly align with your own experiences . bc it’s not serious . it’s a joke x

also allo people can fuck off bc this is literally a post celebrating aspec ppl idc if your gf lives across the country or if you’re just a single loser this literally has nothing to do w u

yall make me want to kms for making me do this