#caregiving burnout

[thepanvelite]

Reverse Parenting: Embracing the Role of Caring for Aging Parents

Children become caregivers for aging parents in reverse parenting dynamics.

A mother has to break the umbilical cord twice: once at birth and once when the child becomes an adult. As we grow older, the dynamics between parents and children evolve. We often find ourselves taking on more responsibilities towards our parents. This shift, known as reverse parenting, is a natural progression where children become the caregivers for their aging parents. Understanding Reverse…

[aesdi]

the tragedy of James and Mary Sunderland is one of the most heartbreaking and (most importantly) human stories I’ve ever had the joy in witnessing

[family-trauma]

I can totally see this in my family members who say emotionally abusive things to others at home and dismiss that they are being toxic at all. I think emotional immaturity and lack of self awareness does tend to cause people to say very toxic things and not realize or accept that what they are doing is wrong.

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The past few days have been very difficult for me. My mental health has been at an all time low leading me to stay in bed even during work hours. I realize how depressed or burnt out I have been but I also feel like I have 0 energy to get up and do anything I need to. Living in a negative and toxic environment really does bring down one's soul and energy down, to even try doing basic things to stay afloat.

Taking it 1 day at a time this week....

[bitchesgetriches]

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[thepeacefulgarden]

[cjbolan]

As I just today became an aunt, I can't comprehend how JD Vance call himself "pro-family" yet thinks women shouldn't help children who aren't theirs. Unless it's in a way that supports his extreme ideologies.

How does JD Vance think we survived so long as a human species?!!! We survived thanks to women helping children who aren't theirs!!!!!!

[afarewelltokings]

remember when this website was really into the metamorphosis by franz kafka for like 2 months? i finally read it. what the fuck

[n0ts0phism]

Anyone have pointers on how to cope with Generalized Anxiety and T1 Diabetes while being a dementia caregiver? For various house-renovating reasons, my father’s been acting up frequently lately, and it’s taking its toll on me. He’s excreting where he wants, there’s an ever-present odor because he refuses to bathe and we can only do so much to clean him, he physically fights us when we do, he likes to try taking our food, he’s hurt our pets, and for reasons that only makes sense to him, he thinks inconveniencing us is fun. It feels like if I let my guard down for even a moment, he will fuck with us in some way. This is on top of a heavy personal history of his emotional abuse and adultery, so there’s extreme difficulty in separating the person he was then from what he is now.

I want to engage with things that make me happy. I want to interact with my Transformers figures some more. I want to play more video games. I want to feel comfortable watching my television over my phone. I want to illustrate in Krita, whether it be my original ideas or some fan art. The times where something has gone wrong have been so frequent that I’m actively on edge and waiting for whatever comes next. I feel like he monopolizes my time directly and indirectly because of it all, and my mental bandwidth is just obliterated.

Help.

[stacys-mom-has-got-it-goin-on]

"It's hard to fix in someone else what's wrong with you."

[lost-onpurpose]

I am exhausted.

I showered last night for the first time in two weeks. I got almost zero sleep last night because night is the only time I ever have quiet to myself. And it's still very unstable quiet because I could get called at any time to run back to mom's because mammaw needs something or gets hurt or needs medical attention.

My entire life is on hold because I can't go more than an hour away from home in case something happens. I feel guilty doing anything for myself because it takes away from the care of my great grandma.

I just can't keep doing it. It's taking a toll on my mental and physical health at this point.

I'm so tired of taking care of everyone else.

When is it my turn to be taken care of? Even just for a little while.

[magicalblerdpenn]

It has been incredibly painful to have been a parent caregiver for a whole decade, from ages 22-32, and have absolutely no support with the exception of certain family members. It's especially painful because my Vietnamese mom cannot understand my emotional needs and often exacerbates my mental health issues, but cannot live by herself because of her health problems.

From ages 22-24, I was navigating college, grief (lost my dad unexpectedly before my 3rd year of college), my repressed orientation, and being a caregiver before I even knew what being a caregiver was.

From age 25 until now, I have been dealing with freelancing, trying to live my dream as a poet and author, mental health issues, navigating my different aspects of my identity (race, orientation, gender identity), and being a caregiver.

The last three years have been even more difficult due to the ongoing pandemic & other world on fire stuff, especially since I live in the United States.

The United States has such a backwards view of what adulthood should be like that they can't provide adequate support for young caregivers like myself, especially caregivers of color (I'm Black-Asian). I've been put down for living with my parent past my early twenties in an online caregiver support group, despite the fact that I need to do so to take care of my mom. I've been told that by my state that I would have to give up my freelance writing career to receive any financial support, because people think you can't freelance and be a caregiver at the same time. My freelance career has been integral to my writing dream and I've managed it for 8 years.

I'm a young caregiver of color, I'm very tired, and desperately need something to change ASAP.

[artemisdares]

I published my first piece of writing!

[thelyd]

Not fishing for pity and not sounding the “I’m gonna ‘clock out early’” alarm. But I’m definitely fucking depressed. I’m tired of lying to myself about it saying that’s just how things are. I’ll be okay. I don’t know when. I feel like I have no say in my life. I live with and take care of someone who is kind and supportive one day and hateful and telling me why I shouldn’t do various things the next. I don’t know when he will pass. I don’t know how much longer it will be until I snap and have a panic attack at work again.

Fuck. I’m so tired.

[peapodsplace]

Seriously debating if I have the emotional and mental bandwidth to take on a kiddo right now... It'd be really exciting but it's hard to find someone you can click with, plus different people want different things from a cg. Hmm...

[vendettavalor]

// Angel Hare’s last episode and overall portrayal of Angel Gabby is proof that the real horror is compassion fatigue and taking on more than you can handle trying to help others to the degree that you become paralyzed due to the crushing weight of perceived responsibility and constant guilt caused by worrying that you are never doing enough, and that often times caregivers lack a stable support system of their own leading to burnout. In this essay I will-

[thiccherry]

being a caregiver is not easy wallahi I’ve never felt so hopeless