#but pronouns ≠ gender so it’s okay

[heavenb3nt]

Anyways. Academy era designs

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The Quest Continues...

(part 1- part 2)

[cosmicredcadet]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[secret-sageent]

Rattling off my sexuality and gender when asked like it’s my freaking coffee order

[iamfuckingsorry]

So I've recently realized that murderbot's been translated into my native language and it's apparently a he in the translation (which admittedly makes sense, because it's a heavily gendered language and 1. gender-neutral language doesn't really exist in general and 2. "bot" and all the related words - I believe they use "droid" for mb in the translation - are grammatically masculine).

It made me curious how it's been handled in other translations though!

*e.g. being referred to by multiple gendered nouns/pronouns depending on the context, like both "bot" (masculine) and "machine" (feminine).

[alivebaguette]

I survived getting into storytelling podcasts and all I got was a fucking gender crisis

[zenniaphoenix]

I’ve been playing In Stars and Time a bunch recently, and reading fanfics for it most of the day. And I just realized that I haven’t seen anyone struggling to use Siffrin’s pronouns. Canon and fanon alike are using both he and they pretty much equally in a way that feels natural and as someone who’s used multiple pronouns for years that is so nice to see.

[cookie-nom-nom]

weirdly enough one of the things that prevented me from fully using exclusively they/them pronouns wasn’t even like a fear of blatant transphobia or whatever. It was because an acquaintance with DID developed a headmate based on me and I realized they were integrating my habits so I stopped telling them personal details about myself bc I didn’t want to influence the headmate into being someone they weren’t. And then the headmate transitioned to they/them before I did and it gave me a crisis about who was copying who. So like. Everyone’s gender journey is different but some are zanier than others. shall we say.

[listenheresweaty]

Reminder that Stirringjuice/Ven themself has said that TMC is not fetish content. Kister’s works are NOT an extension of what was described in the allegations document. If you don’t want to consume TMC content anymore, fine (best you don’t— not in a way that gives Kister money anyway), but don’t spread misinformation.

EDIT: after rereading Ven’s callout document and finally being able to access ALL the screenshots he attached, I have decided that I will no longer support him. I will not go back to supporting Alex Kister yet, but I cannot support a blatant ableist transphobe either. link to annotation doc: (not mine) https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vReErDatnpQ_h3W-WlqrmzmPN26-UyDwLVwBKmHV09WhVZtdZQM44HRxvoV0ZTz8Ho-NaBVKYxjNuha/pub

Things I will be addressing:

Why I do not support Ven (separate from other victims)

Stuff that Alex Kister DID do wrong, even if the allegations were exaggerated/faked/done out of malice

The allegations and victims themselves.

WHY I DONT SUPPORT VEN

First of all, this ⬇️ (scroll down its below the blue highlighted ss. Formatting issues sorry.). This is a ss of Ven’s (now deleted, now archived post) response to how many people are calling him transphobic for his transmisogynistic comments in his document, and how he had basically outed Alex. Instead of saying something like “it wasn’t transphobic — I had to out Alex— it was necessary for the victims/proof/whatever”, Ven just says that if Alex didn’t want to be outed or subjected to transphobia, he shouldn’t have been a “groomer” (Ven later says that he had misused the word “groomer”. Everyone that Alex had interacted with in a sexual or romantic manner had been an adult, and had fully explicitly VERBALLY consented.)

However. Even if your opponent is a bad person, you do NOT have the right to be transphobic. EVER. criticize them on whatever they’ve done wrong, hold them accountable in a balanced and civilized manner— etc. Being protected from bigotry/ not getting misgendered, privacy, legal counsel— these are all examples of RIGHTS.

When you start denying something based on whether someone deserves it or not, that “something” has become a privilege. By stating that his transphobia was excused because Alex is a supposedly bad person, Ven has stated that not being subjected to transphobia is a privilege. here’s the link: (takes forever to load the keep reading portion but it works for me) https://web.archive.org/web/20240317125855/https://www.tumblr.com/stirringjuicee/745117180204548096/alex-kister-and-actively-using-being-trans-to-lure

Screenshot of the post below, along with something from the callout doc (annotated by a tumblr user. The non-highlighted color text is the annotated bit.

—— ss from ven response (click. It IS An image it just looks like text)

—- now onto some more details.

Ven, or StirringJuice, made the first allegations document against Alex Kister. He had stated himself that he does not consider himself a victim, just a friend of the victims who wanted to spread the word. Ven starts the document off by describing his past relationship with Alex Kister. He also includes screenshots of text messages from Alex— which often contradict or have no relation with what he’s saying. This is why it’s important to look at the screenshots, guys! Most of the toxicity in Ven’s relationship with Alex stemmed from Ven’s refusal to honestly his boundaries or feelings. He told Alex that he was comfortable with the sexual comments, he told Alex that he was comfortable being just Friends with Benefits, and he told Alex that they were welcome to vent to him any time <- all of this is corroborated by the text screenshots that Ven himself posted.

In Ven’s text messages, we can see him suggesting that Alex gets a therapist. Great! Nothing wrong there. And then you actually look at the ss:

(Ven is the blue. These ss are linked in the callout document.)

First of all. You cannot force ANYONE to get mental help, regardless of whether you think it’s for their own well-being. If their behavior is harming you, leave. But even the worst people on earth deserve autonomy for these kinds of things. Ven literally states that he had FORCED Alex to get a therapist, and you can see him admit it in the messages above as well.

after these ss links (labeled part 9 in the doc), Ven hits us with this absolute banger:

“[Alex] then decided to go off his meds.”

Someone had already said this, but: YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO SAY THAT TO OR ABOUT A MENTALLY ILL PERSON. EVER. REGARDLESS OF WHO YOU ARE, OR WHO THEY ARE. it’s an insult to every mental health community.

^ also, Alex gives a pretty good reason for going off his medication. Not that they needed to.

^highlighted text is Ven’s callout post. Purple text is a fellow tumblr user’s annotations. They have a whole post with these annotations. I’ll credit them when I’m done writing out my post. [clarification: the annotator uses “she/her” pronouns for Alex, Ven uses he/him. I use they/them because Alex was never publicly OUT as she/her before they were outed, so I’m not sure what to do]

Also: please go on the callout doc and see the “pt. 11” screenshots yourself. There’s a lot of them and I don’t want to add them here, but please go see them.

^Ven hears that Alex wants to start a new chapter with them (yknow, like redeem the toxic relationship they’ve had) and immediately assumes it’s in the romantic sense.

^Alex admits that they are not ready for a committed relationship, a good first step for smoothing over any toxicity.

^nothing else to add. Annotator did great.

^ text ss as listed under the “pt. 14” link

These are 3 out of 10 ss under the Pt. 15 link. Look at the text indicated to with the red arrow (drawn by me). Ven literally tells Alex that they “don’t understand anything ever.” They also tell Alex in a later ss (plz find it yourselves because I’m not posting all 10 photos) that they “don’t understand [their] own emotions.”

Maybe Alex was making an unhealthy decision by continuing to reach out to someone they clearly had an unhealthy relationship with. But these responses are borderline abusive, especially when aimed at someone who suffers from paranoia.

A huge chunk of the entire callout doc is Ven venting about his relationship with Alex. This relationship is not abusive, it is toxic on both sides. The fact that Ven put this much focus on these barely relevant details— even when the topic was the victims, not Ven himself— suggests that he did this out of petty vindictiveness. If the allegations are true, the victims deserved a BETTER PERSON and a BETTER FRIEND to share their story. Not someone who did it purely because it was en excuse to get revenge. If it wasn’t revenge, why add all these details?? (funny thing— the whole doc. Would be more believable if Ven hadn’t added all this stuff. He destroyed his credibility before even getting to the allegations).

the one below has more transphobia and general assholery than ableism.

^apparently once you are out of the closet, you are not allowed to go back or feel ashamed. Else you are lying and manipulative. Thanks, Ven.

I am done posting screenshots from the annotation document. Please, PLEASE read it in full. I will tag it in the comments. There are so so so many good points.

STUFF THAT ALEX HAS DEFINITELY DONE WRONG, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THE ALLEGATIONS ARE TRUE OR FALSE:

(Orange text is annotator, black is original doc).

Venting to/ Relying on a minor fan for mental health support (I think it was Mitchie). That’s not good.

making allusions to suicide during their relationship with Ven. Joke or not, that’s unhealthy.

ALLEGATIONS/VICTIMS:

wont say much here because I’m getting tired. some people on Reddit have been pointing out that some discord ss (not the ones I’ve shown you, those were imessage ss) look faked because there is use of military time, which is not an option on discord apparently. Other screenshots seem to use different fonts as well, further indicating forged evidence. I have fact-checked none of this and can’t verify it (not that you should be relying on my word alone, anyway).

I do not support Mitchie, since they’ve been telling people to self-harm and/or commit suicide when they point out flaws in the callout doc. I don’t care what you’ve been through. There is no excuse for that.

As for the other victims.. I find their statements fishy. However, I will not disbelieve them until more has been cleared up.

[donnieisaprettyboy]

people who refuse to use it/its pronouns for people bc “it’s so dehumanizing!” like…. yeah babe for a lot of people that’s the whole point

[peonycats]

I've been staring at Iran for two hours now...

Would Iran be a girl?? A boy?? Gnc?? I've not seen u use any pronouns for them up until now idfk how to compliment the way u draw Iran 💀

AH..... IM SO FLATTERED 🥺 you're too kind anonymous, im sure however your compliment them iran will take it smugly graciously! Here's something i drew of them recently!

as always transp below the read more!

[whatwooshkai]

-2-

“No, that’s not it, try again.” Rubble impatiently grinds the tip of their pede into the floor of the mine. “Little less emphasis on the end of the word Iacon, alright? And you’re adding some kind of ‘Z’ in there somewhere. Repeat after me: ‘I am attending school in Iacon’.”

“I am attending school in Iacon,” Boulder parrots very, very slowly, and Rubble’s face breaks out into a grin.

“Hell yeah, you are!” they say, patting Boulder’s helm affectionately. “Just make sure you keep practicing your Common pronunciation. It’s gonna make everything a lot easier for you, I promise.”

“I know,” Boulder sighs. "But it's Iacon. My accent shouldn't stand out too much, right?"

"I think there are, at most, six Tarnish mechs in Iacon," Rubble says flatly. "Including you."

"But-"

"But most mechs in Iacon can afford Universal Translators," Rubble points out, dropping down onto the floor and crossing their legs, across from Boulder. "And that clears up the accent."

Boulder frowns. "You talk about the accent like it's a disease."

"Might as well be." Rubble leans back on their hands. "Iacon. That's crazy."

"Primus, I can't believe it either," Boulder says, sighing dreamily. "I'll never step pede in a mine again- oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it like that-"

"It's fine." Rubble gives them a sad smile. "I really hope you never do, Boulder." They flop back against the floor. "With test scores like yours, you shouldn't be anywhere underground ever again."

Boulder wrings their hands together. "I get it, but..." They worry their bottom lip between their teeth. "But what about you? The others? I could come back and visit! I mean, I can't just leave you here-"

"Oh, shit, that's the supervisor!" Rubble grabs their drill and hoists Boulder up by the handles, dragging them further into the mine and away from pounding footsteps.

"But seriously." Rubble pushes Boulder into a crevice, away from prying optics. "I'm being 1000% serious. Never, ever, come back here." Their grin is bright, but not quite genuine, showing a few too many blunt teeth. "Or I'll drag you out of here myself."

Boulder can only nod. Rubble pushes reassurance into their field, pressing against Boulder's despair. "You deserve so much more than here. Besides, if they see you back...," Rubble leans away, "they might not let you leave again."

Rubble's grin becomes genuine once more. "I'll be fine, Boulder. We all will." They tap Boulder's chassis, just above their spark. "I'll be in here."

"Okay," Boulder says, resigning to follow them further into the mine. "I hate to think that pretty soon there will be a last time I'll see you," they add, unable to keep the shake out of their voice.

"I think it's for the best, actually," Rubble says, taking them deeper. "To know when the last time will be. That way it can be special. Y'know, make it count."

"But I-"

"Boulder, please." Rubble drops their drill and grabs Boulder's hands. "Just... please. Think about yourself for once. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity, don't waste it dwelling on us, okay?"

Boulder manages a nod, fighting back the prickling cold burn of coolant under their optics.

Rubble gives them another sad smile. "Just promise me one thing."

"...Yeah?"

"Don't forget me."

[covington-shenanigans]

christ alive I love my parents and I'm glad I got to see them but they are just. so fucking exhausting

[candy-fae]

The TikTok queer community is just, SOOOOO close to being transphobic loud and proud. This person had pansexual in their bio. Like okay, let’s do the work FOR the oppressors!

And I’m not trans. Don’t get me wrong, maybe my opinion is wrong!! But I don’t think anybody who identifies as something, and purposefully plays with gender on the opposite spectrum, is going to attack you. Some trans people take pride in being confusing. Every trans person I’ve ever met was kind and understanding and if you are getting defensive like this over a fake scenario, YOU are the issue.

Why are you imagining this scenario. Why are you possibly IN this scenario? Being gay doesn’t give anyone a pass to openly be an asshole to others in the community and the comments were like a stomping ground for other gay people to say “yeah….you know I DONT like it when trans guys wear feminine clothes, or when a trans girl talks about her JUNK?”

And the speed at which I clocked who was transphobic was intense. I would say impressive but they’re not hiding it, so I don’t have to really look. Anyway, if you see one of these videos, speak up. Make ‘em feel bad. They should. If you’re gay and think you have the right to disrespect others based on the way they look, guess what! I’d doesn’t matter what you identify as, you’re on the side of the people who don’t like you either.

[sentientsky]

Crowley as played by Vicki Lewis (in an alternate reality)?? U see the vision, yes?

[traggy-faggy]

What if I told you that pronouns don't mean anything when it comes to gender.... what if I told you that you can be a cis girl and use they/them or even he/him pronouns JUST BECAUSE YPU LIKE THEM. Pronouns are not an identity they are not linked to one specific gender they are just words and can mean anything!!! Stop putting barriers around words that anyone can use to make themselves more comfortable!!!