#but pronouns ≠ gender so it’s okay

[heavenb3nt]

Anyways. Academy era designs

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The Quest Continues...

(part 1- part 2)

[redysetdare]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[secret-sageent]

Rattling off my sexuality and gender when asked like it’s my freaking coffee order

[zenniaphoenix]

I’ve been playing In Stars and Time a bunch recently, and reading fanfics for it most of the day. And I just realized that I haven’t seen anyone struggling to use Siffrin’s pronouns. Canon and fanon alike are using both he and they pretty much equally in a way that feels natural and as someone who’s used multiple pronouns for years that is so nice to see.

[cookie-nom-nom]

weirdly enough one of the things that prevented me from fully using exclusively they/them pronouns wasn’t even like a fear of blatant transphobia or whatever. It was because an acquaintance with DID developed a headmate based on me and I realized they were integrating my habits so I stopped telling them personal details about myself bc I didn’t want to influence the headmate into being someone they weren’t. And then the headmate transitioned to they/them before I did and it gave me a crisis about who was copying who. So like. Everyone’s gender journey is different but some are zanier than others. shall we say.

[listenheresweaty]

Reminder that Stirringjuice/Ven themself has said that TMC is not fetish content. Kister’s works are NOT an extension of what was described in the allegations document. If you don’t want to consume TMC content anymore, fine (best you don’t— not in a way that gives Kister money anyway), but don’t spread misinformation.

EDIT: after rereading Ven’s callout document and finally being able to access ALL the screenshots he attached, I have decided that I will no longer support him. I will not go back to supporting Alex Kister yet, but I cannot support a blatant ableist transphobe either. link to annotation doc: (not mine) https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vReErDatnpQ_h3W-WlqrmzmPN26-UyDwLVwBKmHV09WhVZtdZQM44HRxvoV0ZTz8Ho-NaBVKYxjNuha/pub

Things I will be addressing:

Why I do not support Ven (separate from other victims)

Stuff that Alex Kister DID do wrong, even if the allegations were exaggerated/faked/done out of malice

The allegations and victims themselves.

WHY I DONT SUPPORT VEN

First of all, this ⬇️ (scroll down its below the blue highlighted ss. Formatting issues sorry.). This is a ss of Ven’s (now deleted, now archived post) response to how many people are calling him transphobic for his transmisogynistic comments in his document, and how he had basically outed Alex. Instead of saying something like “it wasn’t transphobic — I had to out Alex— it was necessary for the victims/proof/whatever”, Ven just says that if Alex didn’t want to be outed or subjected to transphobia, he shouldn’t have been a “groomer” (Ven later says that he had misused the word “groomer”. Everyone that Alex had interacted with in a sexual or romantic manner had been an adult, and had fully explicitly VERBALLY consented.)

However. Even if your opponent is a bad person, you do NOT have the right to be transphobic. EVER. criticize them on whatever they’ve done wrong, hold them accountable in a balanced and civilized manner— etc. Being protected from bigotry/ not getting misgendered, privacy, legal counsel— these are all examples of RIGHTS.

When you start denying something based on whether someone deserves it or not, that “something” has become a privilege. By stating that his transphobia was excused because Alex is a supposedly bad person, Ven has stated that not being subjected to transphobia is a privilege. here’s the link: (takes forever to load the keep reading portion but it works for me) https://web.archive.org/web/20240317125855/https://www.tumblr.com/stirringjuicee/745117180204548096/alex-kister-and-actively-using-being-trans-to-lure

Screenshot of the post below, along with something from the callout doc (annotated by a tumblr user. The non-highlighted color text is the annotated bit.

—— ss from ven response (click. It IS An image it just looks like text)

—- now onto some more details.

Ven, or StirringJuice, made the first allegations document against Alex Kister. He had stated himself that he does not consider himself a victim, just a friend of the victims who wanted to spread the word. Ven starts the document off by describing his past relationship with Alex Kister. He also includes screenshots of text messages from Alex— which often contradict or have no relation with what he’s saying. This is why it’s important to look at the screenshots, guys! Most of the toxicity in Ven’s relationship with Alex stemmed from Ven’s refusal to honestly his boundaries or feelings. He told Alex that he was comfortable with the sexual comments, he told Alex that he was comfortable being just Friends with Benefits, and he told Alex that they were welcome to vent to him any time <- all of this is corroborated by the text screenshots that Ven himself posted.

In Ven’s text messages, we can see him suggesting that Alex gets a therapist. Great! Nothing wrong there. And then you actually look at the ss:

(Ven is the blue. These ss are linked in the callout document.)

First of all. You cannot force ANYONE to get mental help, regardless of whether you think it’s for their own well-being. If their behavior is harming you, leave. But even the worst people on earth deserve autonomy for these kinds of things. Ven literally states that he had FORCED Alex to get a therapist, and you can see him admit it in the messages above as well.

after these ss links (labeled part 9 in the doc), Ven hits us with this absolute banger:

“[Alex] then decided to go off his meds.”

Someone had already said this, but: YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO SAY THAT TO OR ABOUT A MENTALLY ILL PERSON. EVER. REGARDLESS OF WHO YOU ARE, OR WHO THEY ARE. it’s an insult to every mental health community.

^ also, Alex gives a pretty good reason for going off his medication. Not that they needed to.

^highlighted text is Ven’s callout post. Purple text is a fellow tumblr user’s annotations. They have a whole post with these annotations. I’ll credit them when I’m done writing out my post. [clarification: the annotator uses “she/her” pronouns for Alex, Ven uses he/him. I use they/them because Alex was never publicly OUT as she/her before they were outed, so I’m not sure what to do]

Also: please go on the callout doc and see the “pt. 11” screenshots yourself. There’s a lot of them and I don’t want to add them here, but please go see them.

^Ven hears that Alex wants to start a new chapter with them (yknow, like redeem the toxic relationship they’ve had) and immediately assumes it’s in the romantic sense.

^Alex admits that they are not ready for a committed relationship, a good first step for smoothing over any toxicity.

^nothing else to add. Annotator did great.

^ text ss as listed under the “pt. 14” link

These are 3 out of 10 ss under the Pt. 15 link. Look at the text indicated to with the red arrow (drawn by me). Ven literally tells Alex that they “don’t understand anything ever.” They also tell Alex in a later ss (plz find it yourselves because I’m not posting all 10 photos) that they “don’t understand [their] own emotions.”

Maybe Alex was making an unhealthy decision by continuing to reach out to someone they clearly had an unhealthy relationship with. But these responses are borderline abusive, especially when aimed at someone who suffers from paranoia.

A huge chunk of the entire callout doc is Ven venting about his relationship with Alex. This relationship is not abusive, it is toxic on both sides. The fact that Ven put this much focus on these barely relevant details— even when the topic was the victims, not Ven himself— suggests that he did this out of petty vindictiveness. If the allegations are true, the victims deserved a BETTER PERSON and a BETTER FRIEND to share their story. Not someone who did it purely because it was en excuse to get revenge. If it wasn’t revenge, why add all these details?? (funny thing— the whole doc. Would be more believable if Ven hadn’t added all this stuff. He destroyed his credibility before even getting to the allegations).

the one below has more transphobia and general assholery than ableism.

^apparently once you are out of the closet, you are not allowed to go back or feel ashamed. Else you are lying and manipulative. Thanks, Ven.

I am done posting screenshots from the annotation document. Please, PLEASE read it in full. I will tag it in the comments. There are so so so many good points.

STUFF THAT ALEX HAS DEFINITELY DONE WRONG, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THE ALLEGATIONS ARE TRUE OR FALSE:

(Orange text is annotator, black is original doc).

Venting to/ Relying on a minor fan for mental health support (I think it was Mitchie). That’s not good.

making allusions to suicide during their relationship with Ven. Joke or not, that’s unhealthy.

ALLEGATIONS/VICTIMS:

wont say much here because I’m getting tired. some people on Reddit have been pointing out that some discord ss (not the ones I’ve shown you, those were imessage ss) look faked because there is use of military time, which is not an option on discord apparently. Other screenshots seem to use different fonts as well, further indicating forged evidence. I have fact-checked none of this and can’t verify it (not that you should be relying on my word alone, anyway).

I do not support Mitchie, since they’ve been telling people to self-harm and/or commit suicide when they point out flaws in the callout doc. I don’t care what you’ve been through. There is no excuse for that.

As for the other victims.. I find their statements fishy. However, I will not disbelieve them until more has been cleared up.

[donnieisaprettyboy]

people who refuse to use it/its pronouns for people bc “it’s so dehumanizing!” like…. yeah babe for a lot of people that’s the whole point

[peonycats]

I've been staring at Iran for two hours now...

Would Iran be a girl?? A boy?? Gnc?? I've not seen u use any pronouns for them up until now idfk how to compliment the way u draw Iran 💀

AH..... IM SO FLATTERED 🥺 you're too kind anonymous, im sure however your compliment them iran will take it smugly graciously! Here's something i drew of them recently!

as always transp below the read more!

[covington-shenanigans]

christ alive I love my parents and I'm glad I got to see them but they are just. so fucking exhausting

[candy-fae]

The TikTok queer community is just, SOOOOO close to being transphobic loud and proud. This person had pansexual in their bio. Like okay, let’s do the work FOR the oppressors!

And I’m not trans. Don’t get me wrong, maybe my opinion is wrong!! But I don’t think anybody who identifies as something, and purposefully plays with gender on the opposite spectrum, is going to attack you. Some trans people take pride in being confusing. Every trans person I’ve ever met was kind and understanding and if you are getting defensive like this over a fake scenario, YOU are the issue.

Why are you imagining this scenario. Why are you possibly IN this scenario? Being gay doesn’t give anyone a pass to openly be an asshole to others in the community and the comments were like a stomping ground for other gay people to say “yeah….you know I DONT like it when trans guys wear feminine clothes, or when a trans girl talks about her JUNK?”

And the speed at which I clocked who was transphobic was intense. I would say impressive but they’re not hiding it, so I don’t have to really look. Anyway, if you see one of these videos, speak up. Make ‘em feel bad. They should. If you’re gay and think you have the right to disrespect others based on the way they look, guess what! I’d doesn’t matter what you identify as, you’re on the side of the people who don’t like you either.

[sentientsky]

Crowley as played by Vicki Lewis (in an alternate reality)?? U see the vision, yes?

[succikko-nebulae]

im very glad im married and i had a great time

but tbh the ceremony at the city hall, like it just doesn't feel like what our love is like, it felt a bit wrong, having to be misgendered and told about our responsibilities to our kids when we basically dont plan on ever having any... but eh, now we're officially family to each other so if anything happen we're covered

also i decided to go with a dress for the wedding, because I felt like it and sometimes that's how I dress, deciding to go through it as if i was in drag - but i feel like i gave a free pass to everyone to misgender me all day... and i noticed some of my fam and friends go for "her" since the wedding whereas they'd he/him me usually... sigh

plus we asked the city hall clerk to write down to not gender us in the ceremony but alas i forgot they do a transcript that they read out loud and they she/her'd the shit out of us in that. Rigid administrative shit is so annoying especially for something so inconsequential as gender

so the dysphoria's pretty high these days

[uncanny-tranny]

"Pronouns don't equal gender" will never mean "therefore, use whatever pronouns you want to force onto others." It means that you can (and should!) use whatever pronouns you fucking want to, without quantifying your preferences and needs with justification after justification as to why you deserve to be treated with respect. Pronouns not equaling gender means that you get to say what is best for you, and in what situations you are comfortable with certain forms of address. If you're pronoun nonconforming, you deserve the recognition and respect you want. That is what "pronouns don't equal gender means," and if people use that to misgender others, they were already transphobic to begin with, they're just looking for an excuse to be transphobic, whether it makes sense or not.

[this-isnt-oish]

flowa

[endtimeillusionist]

Forever hurtling towards the earth...

Behold, my long overdue redesign of my ancient Galactic Nova catification. Or I suppose it's a CBC now? Nova doesn't really have much of a personality (or personhood, even) in canon so anybody who makes it more of a character than a plot device of course winds up having to make up their own characterization. Why on God's green Earth would a wish-granting entity with any modicum of a conscience grant wishes indiscriminately? Why would such an entity be created? It should never question this.

Old design (warning for bright colors and a GIF, in two separate images) and Cat Marx (also posted here) under the cut!