#but it’s actually fucking infuriating

[impishcupid]

replies are restricted so i have to talk my shit here but the absolute insufferablity in the comments is insane.

No one said being white gives you an all access pass. Of COURSE we still experience homophobia, and sexism, and transphobia, and anti semitism, and ableism, and everything like that.

The post is saying we get the LIGHTEST version of that. Which is true. One commenter mentioned they know a girl who got beaten by her parents when she came out of the closet, and “being white did nothing about it.” but it did actually. A little white girl is going to be less likely to be beaten by random fucking people over it. A random white gay girl doesn’t have to deal with the possibility of going to a gay pride and getting beaten because she’s “not supposed to be there” (bc shocker!!!!!! racist gay people DO exist!!!!!)

At one of my previous jobs, I mentioned to a coworker i’m autistic. He went on a tangent about how he hates when people lie about being autistic, and assumed I would agree with him. I asked who he thought was lying. He brought up our black coworker, and asked if that’s why i didn’t get along with him. The coworker was autistic. (We didn’t get along for different reasons such as him being a loud noise and touchy autistic, and i’m a no-loud noise and no touching autistic, and admittedly im bad at conveying overstimulation. Shit happens, not every autistic is gonna get along). I’m white as snow.

I saved this one for last but good GOD the difference in memes and jokes about women!!!! White woman jokes are about no seasoning, about adopting wild animals, about having basic instagrams or being social media addicts.

Memes about women of different hues?! Let’s just take the regular sexism and call them slurs, compare them to animals, or blatantly sexualize them.

^^^ this one in particular is what came to mind while writing. This is racist! this is a racist meme! The white woman is portrayed as just “annoying”, while the latina woman is portrayed as a perfect beautiful homemaker to serve her husband hand and foot. It’s sexist to both women, and racist to one of them. The original caption on it was something like “this is why you date Latinas”.

If you think the oppression you face as a white person is bad, remember we are experiencing a FRACTION of what’s going on out there. No one’s saying we can’t experience bad things. You all sound like a racist uncle on facebook going “white privilege? man i wish i had that when I grew up poor.”

NOT TO MENTION HEALTHCARE I CANT BELIEVE I ALMOST FORGOT

NURSES AND DOCTORS ARE STILL BEING TRAINED (in some areas) THAT BLACK PEOPLE HAVE A HIGHER PAIN TOLERANCE. I remember reading a photo of someone’s text book that said black people don’t need as much anesthetic as white people.

racism is everywhere, you can’t just close your fucking eyes and pretend it isn’t.

i dont think whites understand how being white makes literally everything easier.

it effects everything.

being trans is easier when youre white.

being gay is easier when youre white.

being disabled is easier when youre white.

being a woman is easier when youre white.

being autistic is easier when youre white.

oppression is eased when you are white, as you get extra privileges, and your whiteness is seen as a positive characteristic that in some ways counter-balances your other forms of being a minority. whiteness controls everything.

you are automatically way more innocent in your own oppression as a gay, trans, disabled person because of your whiteness.

never forget this.

[hilacopter]

leftists have created for themselves a situation where they have to either be islamophobic or antisemitc, because to them anything even mildly criticising islam or muslims and not treating them as a pure, primitive and peaceful culture is islamophobic. acknowledging jewish oppression under muslim rule or our indigeneity to the levant interferes with their narrative of the perfect noble savages, so now they have to choose between supporting jews or continuing to be unconditionally islamophilic. guess what they chose.

[erinwantstowrite]

i think im not a fan of what dc keeps doing with jason because they keep having him, the abused, become an abuser in some way shape or form. and the classism they don't want to talk about (i am being so for real there is a genuine problem of both writers and readers who do not understand jason's background and it pissed me off so bad because it always shapes their opinion of him in the wrong way and they don't care to even try to listen). and how if they were going to have him come back they should have had delved into his identity crisis and the inherent horror of coming back but not knowing how or why or what to do about it and not knowing what you were doing while dead and having to deal with time jumping forward on you and the fact that you will never get the time back and no one will he the same as they were before you died and how isolating and lonely that would be. and they also definitely weren't prepared for the fact that jason was grieving his life and his death and his hopes for his mother and his dad who didn't get there in time and the dc writers are fucking cowards. which brings me to my next point: why do we keep listening to them about shit because they are quite literally always fighting with each other and projecting their own personal biases into characters (i.e. making them worse than they are/2 dimensional/trying to make them iredeemable so their favorite character gets to shine) and also they are all freaks of nature with a consistent problem of being God Awful People who why would we trust them with these characters. jason todd they don't get you like i do

[edelgarfield]

i love shadowgast, i think their journey together learning how to be better people & healing is beautiful.

but nothing annoys me more than when Caleb gets all the credit for Essek's redemption arc, or when Essek's relationship with Caleb is automatically placed on a pedestal above his friendship with the rest of the Mighty Nein.

because it is straight up untrue. it wasn't even Caleb that did most of the legwork reaching out to Essek, it was Jester. Yes, their magic lessons, and Caleb's understanding went a long way towards showing Essek that he could change, but Jester was the one who consistently and repeatedly reached out to him. I am of the firm belief that without Jester, the Mighty Nein would never have gotten past Essek's initial standoffishness.

And furthermore, Caleb was Essek's friend first. I don't think it's ever been confirmed, but IMO most of Essek's initial attraction to Caleb was 1) academic 2) performative, and any genuine physical or romantic attraction didn't start developing until post-reveal. I'm not even convinced Essek was romantically interested in Caleb, or at least able to identify it as such, by the END of the campaign. Essek values Caleb primarily as a friend and any romance on top of that is a bonus.

Essek's relationship with Caleb is not inherently more important than his friendship with the rest of the Mighty Nein just because they're dating. He loves all of them, and expresses that multiple times at the end of CR2. It was their friendship that changed him, not his interest in Caleb. Caleb values the Mighty Nein's friendship more than whatever budding romance he had with Essek. Essek's entire life doesn't, nor should it revolve around Caleb! Caleb is an important part, yes, but he values and needs the love he receives from the rest of the Mighty Nein just as much.

As someone who's aro/ace-spectrum and has little to no interest in romance, every time I see Essek's relationship to the Mighty Nein reduced to his relationship with Caleb, it feels like a slap in the face. It validates my deepest fear that I'm just an accessory in my friends' lives, and that no matter how much I love them or what I do for them, I'm inevitably going to be discarded when someone they want to date comes along.

People will watch 500+ hours of a show that emphasizes over and over the importance of friendship and platonic love then turn around and reduce it to romance alone.

[britts-galaxy-brain]

Lily + her diehard stans: They have no evidence! They're just harassing me because I'm trans/for clout/for attention/because they're bored/because I insulted a show they like/ect!

Also Lily's diehard stans: I didn't even watch this video. I refuse to even look at any of these documents. I clicked off this video after 5 seconds. You have no evidence so I'm not taking you at your word. But I'm going to take Lily's word as gospel even though she's never shown a single shred of evidence to back up anything she's said and her stories change every time she tells them.

[strawandstream]

I think the worst part of Oswalda's design that they clearly took inspiration from a real woman from the 1920's burlesque scene, Gladys Bentley, for her style and shape. But Gladys didn't look like that.

(Photo posted by one of my favorite blogs for old 20's and beyond photos, New York: The Golden Age)

Gladys was a black lesbian, a crossdresser, and a crooner who took an unmistakably masculine role during a time when gender roles were in upheaval. You should absolutely look her up, because the shit they got up to back then was far more wild than some silly comics. She was also, you know, visibly fat. Her fat doesn't magically disappear under a tailcoat and double breasted vest, it just shapes it differently.

It would have taken so few changes to make her a rebellious, powerful character rather than a loose collection of sexualized traits. Less pinup doll, and more Gladys Bentley. They couldn't even give her a slight hint of a stomach, and people will lap it up because lol she's fat milf mommy ect ect. But like... is she though? Is she actually fat, or is she just twitter artist right kind of fat.

[thiagodasilva]

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embarrassing, embarrassing, embarrassing all around.

like clockwork, all of the rats are crawling out of the woodworks to double down and remain ignorant to the issue at hand. THIS is why publicly calling out an ALREADY public incident is permissible & encouraged even. it’s embarrassing the way they keep showing their ignorance.

so many of them defending what happened by claiming it to be a “cultural” thing and everyone else just doesn’t understand. so many of them saying Wesley and others were wrong to take to social media to condemn even though that livestream was also very much public, so no. they weren’t wrong. they just didn’t like being publicly called out on it.

when they say it’s cultural, they want it to be overlooked, and that’s one of the biggest problems with why racism like this continues to have such a stronghold in our society, and ESPECIALLY in Latino culture. It shouldnt matter if “that’s just the way it is” if it is has been and always been harmful to a whole group of people. that “cultural” defense is such a pathetic way to keep disgusting and harmful behavior around and to CHOOSE to remain that way instead of learning to be better is so incredibly detrimental. calling it out for what it is is probably the least anyone can do when being witness to it. they have to choose to be better or else they will continue to look like the pathetic and malicious clowns they are.

[mydream-synopsis]

cuddling with togame and it all seems innocent till you feel jo's hands creep a little higher up your shirt. it doesn't bother you much that he has his hands casually roaming around your bare back - it's business as usual for this man. but he's discreet, reaching up to your bra while your face is buried in his chest. with one skilful flick of his fingers, you suddenly sit up when you realise togame jo just unclasped your bra with one hand.

[lord-squiggletits]

One of my favorite parts of phase 2 (and indeed one of the few moments I resonated with IDW Prowl) was when the neutrals were coming back to Cybertron and Prowl said that he refused to let Autobots be pushed aside and overruled after they were the ones who fought for freedom for 4 million years (the exact wording escapes me atm).

And I mean, that resentment still holds true even once the colonists come on bc like. As much as it's true that Cybertron's culture is fucked up, and as funny as it can be to paint Cybertronians as a bunch of weirdos who consider trying to kill someone as a common greeting not important enough to hold a grudge over.... The colonists POV kind of pissed me off a lot of times, as did the narrative tone/implications that Cybertronians are forever warlike and doomed to die by their own hands bc it just strikes me as an extremely judgemental and unsympathetic way to deal with a huge group of people with massive war PTSD and political/social tensions that were rampant even before the war?

Like, imagine living in a society rife with bigotry and discrimination where you get locked into certain occupations and social strata based on how you were born. The political tension is so bad there's a string of assassinations of politicians and leaders. The whole planet erupts into an outright war that leads (even unintentionally) to famine and chemical/biological warfare that destroys your planet. Both sides of the war are so entrenched in their pre-war sides and resentment for each other that this war lasts 4 million years and you don't even have a home planet any more. Then your home planet gets restored and a bunch of sheltered fucks come home and go "ewww why are you so violent?? You're a bunch of freaks just go live in the wilderness so that our home can belong to The Pure People Who Weren't Stupid And Evil Enough To Be Trapped In War" and then a bunch of colonists from places that know nothing about your history go "lol you people are so weird?? 🤣🤣 I don't get why y'all are fighting can't you just like, stop??? Oh okay you people are just fucked up and evil and stupid then" ((their planets are based on colonialism where their Primes wiped out the native populations btw whereas the Autobots and OP in particular fought to save organics. But that never gets brought up as a point in their favor)) as if the damage of a lifetime of war and a society that was broken even before the war can just magically go away now that the war is over.

Prowl fucking sucks but he was basically the only person that pointed out the injustice of that.

And then from then on out most of the characters from other colonies like Caminus and wherever else are going "i fucking hate you and your conflicts" w/ people like literal-nobody Slide and various Camiens getting to just sit there lecturing Optimus about how Cybertronians are too violent for their own good and how their conflicts are stupid, with only brief sympathetic moments where the Cybertronians get to be recognized as their own ppl who deserve sympathy before going right back to being lambasted.

Like I literally struggled to enjoy the story at multiple points because there was only so much I could take of the characters I knew and loved being raked over coals constantly while barely getting to defend themselves or be defended by the narrative so like. It was just fucking depressing and a little infuriating to read exRID/OP

[loganswdc]

new race weekend , and ofc logan’s car is vibrating / porpoising again !!! lmao because of course williams can’t get him a new car yet with the upgrades and get them working !!!! it’s actually insane how he always gets the shittiest luck ever during race weekends . and it pisses me off so bad because ?? not only are they letting his car be crap and giving him the worst circumstances possible , but they’re also not telling anyone about it during the debriefs on instagram . it’s always logan who has to bring attention to it , but of course no one listens to him or the haters claim he’s “making excuses” when ?? they’re fully valid concerns ??? like what the fuck do you MEAN his car’s upgrades didn’t work so they took them away and they said nothing ??

and now his car is even worse off than before because he’s porpoising like fucking crazy ?? they had him on softs , switched to mediums thinking maybe it had something to do with the tyres , but nope !! still bouncing like crazy !! and for those who don’t know , porpoising in an f1 car is bad because it can cause the car to be unreliable and decrease performance , so of course he’s not gonna be doing too great because THE CAR IS FUCKING BOUNCING UP AND DOWN !!!! and yet what does this man do ? he gives the performance of a lifetime and gets into sq2 with a shit car . y’all i am SO PROUD OF HIM . HE DID SO WELL . HE IS STARTING P15 IN A CAR THAT DOESN’T HAVE THE UPGRADES , IS OVER WEIGHT , AND WAS PORPOISING . he’s doing so well despite the crap conditions he’s under currently and that makes me so insanely happy for him . he genuinely deserves the best , and to see him getting to sq2 honestly gives me so much hope for the whole race weekend .

but genuinely , it's so crazy that they still haven't been able to fix his car and get the upgrades to work . and it's genuinely infuriating because it makes you wonder if he's not getting the upgrades because they genuinely can't get them (due to funding , not having the time / engineers , etc.) or if they're just . not giving them to him just because . and with how he's being treated recently it's making me think that and it's infuriating that i even have to begin thinking about things like that . because it SHOULDN'T be that way . at all , whatsoever .

but on the bright side , logan seems confident and happy in what is coming for the future , and i am sticking with that positivity . he seems happy and that makes me happy . i know he knows what he's doing and where he goes i go !! :) and he did so amazing in sprint quali today ? like i know it's just for the sprint race , but he got into sq2 !!! and is starting 15th !!! that's fucking amazing all things considered ? he's absolutely killing it and that makes me so happy and proud of him . i'm actually looking forward to the sprint and to quali tomorrow to see how he does :3 if i think of anything else / when i rewatch sprint quali tonight to see if i missed anything else then i'll post again :) praying nothing drastic (negative) happens between now and tomorrow !!!

all in all , hopefully the sprint race and quali go well tomorrow ,, i'm confident he'll make us all proud <3

[tiredyke]

i cant stand feminist discourse on this site because its like 90% "feminism means equality which means you can't say anything bad about men and you have to criticize women just as much as men because misandry is just as bad as misogyny" and these posts always get thousands of notes from other people who call themselves feminists likeee

[serpentface]

Does Janeys know that Brakul has a wife and son? How would he react if he learned?

He actually does know and has known pretty much from the beginning.

Early on in his stint as a POW turned mercenary, Brakul would repeatedly invoke his wife and son as reasons he could or could not do certain things + to insult Janeys like 'okay but some of us have actual, tangible responsibilities in this world and people who depend on them. Like my wife and son, who I will be returning to immediately when my contract is over. You're never going to see me again. On account of my wife and son.'

When he started actually Liking Janeys and wanting to be with him, and seeing a chance to Avoid All Consequences And Never Go Back Home, he gradually reversed course (and attempted to rationalize it to himself) like "Ahhh they'll be fine. I mean everyone probably thinks I'm dead and/or an oathbreaker anyway so Sirudan's gotta be remarried by now. My brother probably got in on that, and he really has his shit together so they're in good hands. Honestly it will be worse for them if I go back. They're better off without me. They're fine. It's not a big deal. I'm soooooo single and unattached btw" And Janeys was like "Okay. Yay."

13 years down the line Janeys almost never thinks about it and when he occasionally remembers it's like

He does not give a shitttt about the wife/child abandonment angle whatsoever, but he's aware that Brakul still has some attachment to them and regrets over skipping out, and he's kind of insecure about it. The concept of Brakul having a child out there completely independent of their whole Thing also makes him uncomfortable in ways he can't really put his finger on. He's not actually scared that Brakul will return to his ex-wife though, like even with all his profound insecurities and abandonment issues he knows there's not a chance in hell that he's gonna actually attempt to make amends. Bottom line is he doesn't like to think about it, and mostly doesn't have to.

[the-mechanisms-system]

eternal NPD paradox of "I wanna be the cool edgy loner" vs "if I actually do that there will be no one around to witness it and be intrigued by my mystery therefore defeating the purpose"

how am I supposed to thrive in these conditions. I should get to have both. as a treat.

[grotesque-butler]

i need to unsub from the ocd subreddit.

i was looking through the subreddit, specifically with the keyword 'pocd' to try and look for some comforting posts. this was a mistake.

i came across a post talking about anti-antis (that was the word they used) and how they're actual pedophiles using pocd as an excuse. everyone in the comments as well were equally disgusted and sharing their own experiences and opinions (all negative).

i will not link the post as i don't want to promote harassment to any parties involved (although OP's account is deleted) but it was the most disgusting and infuriating post i've ever read. i am a proshipper with pocd. we exist, and saying it's an excuse for 'actual pedophilia' is really gross.

i am still very upset and enraged by that post. it has been archived so no comments can be made. i just feel like that post made me worse, and any other pocd proshippers who stumble across it as well.

antishippers are dangerous.

[cementcornfield]

this fucking dude.

[beepbeepmfkr]

Trans Dude: "I understand very well the intersection of transphobia and misogyny because I've lived it my whole life. That being said. It feels icky to take the term made by trans women, it's theirs. Also I'm not a woman. Maybe we can have our own word-"

The Chronically Online, unaware that having multiple words for different things is actually Good in Real Life Conversations: "I think that makes you a bigot who hates trans women 😡"