#boundary holding

[positivelypresent]

Some sentences to help you set boundaries!

[luckystarchild]

The people who get angry when you set boundaries are the people taking advantage of the fact you had none. They are angry because they resent losing unfettered access to treating you however they please without consequence.

You are not obligated to soothe someone after they hurt you. Disrespecting someone's boundaries and facing subsequent consequences should be an uncomfortable experience. People enjoy playing the victim because they forget they are the only person who can save them, and that is too much responsibility to bear for many.

Setting boundaries may make you a villain in their story, but it's better to be a happy villain than a miserable martyr to someone's ego.

[healingechoes]

Boundaries are SO important. ❤️‍🩹

[thetetrisco]

I think it’s time for another serious post.

If anyone ever told me “welcome to the (emoji) community” I will lose my shit, because I have never liked that community, and I don’t foresee that I ever will. There have been so many victims of harassment, abuse, parasocial behavior, grooming, and more. I don’t want to be associated with such a SICK community.

A majority of the emoji community are traumatized minors who don’t know how to communicate a misunderstanding and try to cancel people over it, or are (respectfully) chronically online and don’t know how the real world works. Adults are to blame too, not just minors!

You don’t walk up to some stranger all buddy buddy and say “YOU’RE MY FRIEND, NOW I LOVE YOU!” And that’s what some of you people do on here, it’s sick, dangerous, and unhealthy. Think about how dangerous that is in real life. It’s just as dangerous on the internet too.

This is the INTERNET. It will not be a safe place.

Mental illness is NOT AN EXCUSE. You are 100% responsible for what you do. “The real world won’t find out!” I promise you they will, and if you make up petty internet drama about someone, I promise you it is going to affect their ability to get a job. Digital footprint is REAL.

I am sick and tired of seeing creators fall victim to such harmful behaviors.

[couldbetee]

Lately I’ve been struggling to find a balance between being the kind person I am while still reinforcing my boundaries…

Some say to just speak up or be assertive but as a retired people pleaser ..it has been tough

When attempting to practice assertiveness it has often felt as though I was putting on a mask over who I was. I literally felt a pit in my stomach and my tongue instantly ties..

Recently I listened to @sheissobougie’s podcast episode on boundary setting & I loved it! Completely changed my perspective on the topic

In the episode she details how questioning disrespect is one of the best ways to reinforce boundaries. Basically acting dumbfounded when anyone tries to play you lmao

I love this approach because it allows me to remain true to myself without “stepping outside my comfort zone” … yelling or doing the most when people over step just isn’t my 1st reaction … nor do I ever want it to be

However… if I need to act like a bitch… bitchy Tee will most definitely make a cameo!

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

Ghost From My Past

At eleven years old, my world fell apart,

The man I called father was nowhere, no start.

His laughter, his warmth, a love I had craved,

Invisible, like whispers, leaving me enslaved.

As a little girl, I spun dreams in the night,

Wondering what he looked like, searching for light.

What is he doing? Does he think of me too?

Will he ever come looking? Does he ever feel blue?

Does he hate me for questions I dare not ask?

Did he forget all the moments, the love I would bask?

Is he pretending I’m lost, just a shadow of time?

I sat with these thoughts as I tried to climb.

Then at nineteen, he resurfaced, or so I believed,

For a fleeting moment, I felt a reprieve.

But now here at twenty-eight, he’s gone once again,

A ghost from my past, with no way to amend.

Haunted by echoes of what might have been,

Each passing year feels like a cycle of sin.

It’s like mourning a death, yet he’s still out of reach,

A ghost in my heart, with no words he'd teach.

Where is he now, in the depth of the night?

I know that he’s there, just beyond my sight.

This torment, this longing, it cuts to the core,

With questions unending, I keep wanting.

So I sit and I wonder, just a girl in a dream,

His little girl still, though he’s lost in the seam.

I search for the answers in shadows and light,

Hoping one day, we’ll reunite.

Mamaa's Poem

Mama, oh Mama, the memories flood in,

A childhood of struggle, where do I begin?

You were my anchor, my light shining bright,

But the years slipped away, fading In & out of sight.

You held me close when the world felt so cold,

Yet your presence was fleeting, like stories untold.

At sixteen, I lost you, our bond started to break,

In search of affection, my heart learned to ache.

You bought my love when the price was just right,

But I craved something deeper, a warmth that Felt bright.

Yet every time I reached out, you built up a wall,

You’d turn away quickly, leaving me feeling small.

Now here I am, at twenty-eight years old,

Trying to create a life, a family to hold.

But your voice has to echo softly, filled with disdain,

For the man that I love, who you think brings me pain.

I wish I could tell you how hard it’s become,

To navigate life when I feel so alone.

I mourned our connection for the very first time,

Realizing I had to let go of the climb.

I cut off the contact, it hurt me so deep,

But I learned that this silence allows me to keep

The love for myself that I’ve fought hard to claim,

I wish you could see me, but it’s just not the same.

You’d make the same choice for the man you Know, So I wish you knew,

I had to be brave and finally break through.

I’m building my future, with dreams that are mine,

And though it feels heavy, I know I’ll be fine.

Mama, oh Mama, I hope you can see,

That I’m growing and thriving, just trying to be me.

I’m sorry it’s come to this, but I’ve learned to let go,

And though I still miss you, I’ll continue to grow.

Goodbye To My Childhood

In the quiet of night, I whisper goodbye,

To the ghosts of my childhood, the dreams that ran dry.

A little girl’s laughter, now echoes in pain,

Yearning for love, just to feel whole again.

Daddy, oh father, you were never quite there,

A flicker of hope in a childhood unfair.

I chased your reflection in the depths of my mind,

But the warmth I imagined, I never did find.

Mama, sweet Mama, you held me so tight,

Yet your love was a flicker, lost in the night.

You bought me your affection, but the price was too steep,

In the silence surrounding, my heart learned to weep.

Now I stand here, a woman reborn,

With the courage to shatter the chains that were worn.

I grieve for the childhood I longed to embrace,

But my journey is mine; I’ll carve out my space.

In the depths of my sorrow, I gather my strength,

To finally say farewell, to go any length.

The shackles of silence, the burdens of blame,

I refuse to let them define who I am.

So here is my farewell to the parents unmade,

To the love that was absent, the memories that fade.

With each step I take, I release the old pain,

Embracing the future, where hope will remain.

I’m shedding the echoes of neglect and despair,

With a heart full of dreams, I’ll rise from the air.

Goodbye to the shadows, I’m ready to soar,

For the girl who was lost is now wanting no more.

In the courage I find, I reclaim all my worth,

I’ll build with the fragments, a life from this earth.

With love as my compass, I’ll navigate free,

Goodbye to my past, I’m finally me.

[drachenengel]

[themindfulmind]

Healthy Boundary Practices: Protecting Your Peace

Boundaries are essential to maintaining healthy relationships, fostering self-respect, and ensuring emotional well-being. They’re not walls meant to shut others out but rather guidelines that allow you to connect with others while staying true to yourself. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re not used to asserting your needs, but it’s a practice rooted in self-care, not selfishness. Here’s a quick guide to what boundaries are, why they matter, and how you can communicate them effectively.

What Are Healthy Boundaries?

Boundaries are limits you set to define what behavior you find acceptable and what you don’t. They can apply to all areas of your life, including:

• Emotional boundaries: Protecting your feelings and mental space.

• Physical boundaries: Respecting personal space and physical needs.

• Time boundaries: Valuing your time and prioritizing commitments.

• Material boundaries: Setting limits on sharing possessions/resources.

Why Are Boundaries Important?

1. Promote self-respect: Boundaries reinforce your worth by showing others how you expect to be treated.

2. Encourage healthy relationships: They prevent resentment and misunderstandings by clarifying expectations.

3. Prevent burnout: Setting boundaries with work, family, or friends helps you manage your energy and avoid overcommitting.

Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries

1. Be clear and direct: Ambiguity can lead to confusion, so be specific about your needs.

2. Practice self-awareness: Understand your limits so you can communicate them effectively.

3. Stay consistent: Enforcing your boundaries regularly helps others respect them.

4. Learn to say no: Remember, “no” is a complete sentence. You don’t need to over-explain.

5. Be prepared for pushback: Not everyone will respond positively, but that doesn’t mean your boundaries are wrong.

Phrases to Set Boundaries with Confidence

Emotional Boundaries:

• “I’m not comfortable discussing this right now.”

• “I need some time to process my feelings before talking about it.”

• “I understand your perspective, but I disagree.”

Time Boundaries:

• “I can’t take on another project right now.”

• “I only have 30 minutes to chat.”

• “I need to reschedule; I have too much on my plate today.”

Physical Boundaries:

• “I’m not a hugger, but I appreciate the gesture.”

• “Please knock before entering.”

• “I need some personal space right now.”

Material Boundaries:

• “I’m happy to lend this to you, but I’ll need it back by Friday.”

• “I’m not comfortable sharing my passwords.”

• “I can’t contribute financially this time.”

Remember… Boundaries are about self-care, not controlling others. They’re a way of saying, “I value myself enough to protect my energy and peace.” It’s okay if it feels awkward at first—most good habits do. But over time, setting boundaries becomes second nature, and you’ll find your relationships and mental health improving as a result.

What are your favorite boundary-setting practices or phrases? Let’s talk about it in the comments!

[karalanded]

What is a boundary (what isn't a boundary)?

It's infuriating the way people misuse the concept of boundaries to whitewash controlling behavior. Boundaries are about how YOU choose to engage with others and you enforce boundaries through your own actions. If enforcing your boundaries means dictating the behavior of others, then that's not a boundary, it's a demand. You may be able to restate a demand as a boundary by simply changing the phrasing, for example (paraphrased from a question on r/polyamory):

Demand: "One of my partner's boundaries is that I'm not allowed to date other men." Not a boundary because it's about what "I" am allowed to do rather than their choices.

Boundary: "One of their boundaries is that they don't date people who date other men." This is a boundary. It puts the onus on them to choose who they date, rather than on their partner to change.

The first is controlling (you must x), while the second is explicit about the cost of dating other men (not being in a relationship), while still leaving room for both people to decide how to proceed. I retain the choice of whether to date other men and that choice affects whether they want to date me.

[dailiadelc]

[evil-wild-lesbian-wizard]

I know setting boundaries can be so scary, but it is so important. You won’t be good at it the first or second or thirtieth time you do it, but practice makes it better. And somewhere along the line, you start feeling like a bad bitch. You don’t owe anyone anything. Remember you inherently have worth.

[espadalanoche]

Massage and boundage, its something you may need to try ⛓️🖤

[thetetrisco]

I do not like making posts like this, I was going to stay quiet, but I’m tired of people continuing to interact with me despite my DNI (link to my stances post).

I AM ANTI-ENDO. PRO-ENDOS ARE NOT TO INTERACT.

Stop interacting with me, I have you BLOCKED.

You support an unhealthy ideation ++ MORE.

“Endogenic / Non-traumagenic” systems are fake. Systems can form only through severe dissociation as a child which is only applicable when faced with traumatic events.

[goodvibescreativeave]

Do you have compassion?

If someone was stuck in a quagmire:

Sympathy: would be sitting on the side, feeling sorry for them.

Empathy: would be getting into the quagmire with them and trying to find a way out for both of you.

Compassion: would be keeping your own two feet on solid ground and staying in a state of love while you reach out a hand or brand to help them to get out.

-Odille Remmert

[bloggerpaula]

How European Venture Capitalists Are Adapting to the Deep Tech Boom

The deep tech revolution is reshaping industries across the globe, and Europe is no exception. However, a significant challenge for European Venture Capitalist (VC) firms lies not in the availability of funds but in the ability to identify and support the right deep tech organizations. A knowledge gap among investors has made it difficult to evaluate these emerging technologies effectively, slowing down potential investments.

Bridging the Knowledge Gap in Deep Tech Investment

Unlike traditional startups, deep tech companies operate in complex, research-intensive domains such as artificial intelligence (AI), quantum computing, robotics, cybersecurity, and machine learning. The sheer breadth of these fields makes it challenging for new Venture Capitalist to assess potential investments confidently. Despite this, many Venture Capitalists like Rajat Khare have recognized the potential of deep tech and have already begun making strategic moves.

European VC Firms Leading the Deep Tech Charge

Several forward-thinking VC firms in Europe have stepped up to support the deep tech boom. Angular Ventures, a UK-based firm founded in 2019 by Gil Dibner, focuses on early-stage deep tech enterprises in Europe and Israel. Similarly, Amadeus Capital Partners, headquartered in Cambridge, invests in startups across Europe and Latin America that have the potential to disrupt billion-dollar markets. As their CEO puts it, “We are attracted by companies that can disrupt existing billion-dollar markets, by either cost or performance, and we are supportive over a number of years as the technology is commercialized.”

Challenges in Deep Tech Investments

The difficulty for venture capitalists does not end with understanding deep tech. One of the biggest hurdles is aligning financial returns with the longer development cycles of deep tech startups. Unlike SaaS or MedTech businesses that follow conventional revenue patterns, deep tech startups operate on uncertain timelines and unpredictable market adoption rates.

As Rajat Khare, founder of Boundary Holding, puts it, “The possibility of particular new deep tech businesses succeeding, the best investments to make, or the speed at which their potential will be reached are all unknown at this time. But now, the sector is developing more swiftly than many experts anticipated.”

This sentiment is reflected in a recent survey where 70% of European investors admitted struggling to apply traditional investment metrics—such as annual recurring revenue or customer acquisition costs—to deep tech startups.

A Strategic Shift Toward Long-Term Investment

Despite these challenges, leading investment firms are actively working to adapt their strategies to fit deep tech’s unique growth trajectory. For instance, Boundary Holding, based in Luxembourg, has been consistently backing deep tech startups, recognizing that long-term research and innovation are crucial for future technological breakthroughs.

To succeed in this evolving landscape, VC firms must adopt a problem-solving mindset, similar to how the Internet transformed the IT industry in the 1980s. As more venture capitalists take the time to understand deep tech, refine investment strategies, and adjust financial expectations, Europe is poised to become a powerhouse for deep tech innovation.

The increasing interest in deep tech by European venture capitalists signals a shift toward sustainable, high-impact investments, ensuring that the region remains at the forefront of the next technological revolution.

[ventureleader]

AI Must Address Societal Challenges Without Replacing Human Values – Rajat Khare

Rajat Khare, founder of Boundary Holding, highlights AI’s crucial role in solving global challenges while ensuring that human values, ethics, and instincts remain central to technological progress. He advocates for responsible AI development that balances innovation with ethical considerations. Read more on IBTimes.