#bi ply

[im-here-im-queer-im-full-of-beer]

Bi Spike/Bikesexual/Bikeromantic

Someone who identifies as Bi and for the most part, is attracted to men and women equally, but on some rare occasions, will have intense spikes of feeling sexually and/or romantically attracted to one gender more than the other.

(I know bi people aren’t just attracted to men and women, I’m just using them as umbrella terms for all masculine and feminine genders.)

[noahizslay]

unpopular opinion time: just because someone is queer doesn't mean they are automatically a good person.

[isabellascarlett1]

Asexual folks are no “less Queer”.

Aromantic folks are no “less Queer”.

Bi/Mspec folks are no “less Queer”.

We’re all just as Queer as any other Queer person.

[lesbianpolls]

happy international lesbian day!! especially to:

male lesbians and lesboys and boydykes

transmasc and transfem and transneu and transfemmasc and all other trans lesbians

nonbinary and multigender and xenogender lesbians

intersex lesbians

lesbians who use he/him pronouns and neopronouns

aromantic and asexual and aplatonic and afamilial and all other aspec lesbians

queerplatonic and alterous lesbians

polyamorous and nonmonogamous lesbians

bi and omni and ply and pan and abro and all other mspec lesbians

gaybians and straightbians

butch and femme and stud and futch lesbians

lesbians with stigmatized disorders

[genderstarbucks]

Can y'all stop centering the definition of lesbian around hating men and start centering the definition of lesbian around our love for women?

Like if gay was centered around the definition of hating women you'd call that misogynistic right? So why is it okay to do that with lesbian

Lesbian will never have a clear cut definition that fits everybody, but centering it around hating men feels icky

What about the lesbians that DO love men? What about us?

Being surrounded by people who think that lesbianism is just about hating men is getting tiring

Lesbianism is defined by our queer love for women, it shouldn't be defined about hating men

Also while I'm at it, the non men loving non men definition of lesbian is icky too

Nmlnm isn't as inclusive as you think it is, plus the word non men (and non women) was used to dehumanize black people

You can use the nmlnm definition of lesbian for yourself, but don't force it on others

[xxcalicofemmexx]

queer flower wallpaper collection!

(kinda) requested by this anon. unfortunately, they never got back to me about what exactly they wanted. BUT i'm fond of this template, and decided to fill the request anyway (⁀ ◡ ⁀)

white background version here

[bilesproblems]

Just in case any baby mspec lesbians are here, that might still be unlearning the validity bullshit and drawing lines in "acceptable" vs "unacceptable" lesbian identities:

You are not gonna be one of the good ones. Even if you're one of the ones who isn't attracted to men at all, the exclusionists will never accept your mspec identity because it goes against their hatred. The transmasc bigender lesboy who's primarily a guy but still feels like a lesbian will validate your identity and affirm your simultaneous lesbianism and mspec attraction. Even if you're a SAM user so clearly you're experiencing 2 distinct identities, exclusionists will decide on a whim that SAM users can't be lesbians and they'll demand you leave the community. The omni lesbian who's got a heavy preference for women and so calls themself a lesbian will validate your distinct experiences as two different things, deserving of having both labels.

You have to learn to give these people the same acceptance. They are your community. They are the people that will listen to you when you explain how you're simultaneously mspec and a lesbian, and they're the ones who will validate your identity. You need to unlearn the things exclusionists say. You need to unlearn "nonmen loving nonmen" as the One True Definition of Lesbian. It will take a little bit, I know. It's an adjustment. But if you push away the community you have, then you'll end up alone. The people who would have accepted your identity don't want to associate with you because you invalidated them. The people who most of your beliefs align with hate your identity. So please, don't push away the community. Take time to learn it, accept it, and be part of it. Ask questions if you want to, in good faith. If you have to, make up an explanation like exclusionists do, but instead of something bad faith, make up something you'd accept (I did this with binary trans man lesboys when I was still attached to nmlnm, because I was thinking about orchid aces and how despite not fitting a definition they're still a part of the asexual community because their unique experience makes them feel more like an asexual than an allosexual, and I realized that would totally apply to a lot of binary trans man lesboys). Whatever it takes to accept the rest of your community because if you reject it, you're aligning yourself with people who hate you.

I learned this from experience. I wanted to be one of the good ones for a hot minute. I was against pan lesbians despite being a bi lesbian because I hadn't even thought of split attraction and I thought "well bi is compatible with being a lesbian because 2+ genders and nmlnm don't contradict but pan lesbian isn't because all genders and nmlnm do." I was resistant to non-SAM mspec lesbians that liked men. I was resistant to lesboys. But thankfully I held my tongue long enough to hear them talk about their history, their experiences, and point out how genderqueerness and multigenderism would very obviously allow men to be lesbians (before I had my epiphany about binary trans man lesboys). I am forever grateful that I didn't voice my shitty baby bi lesbian opinions and immediately push away the community that accepted me as a lesbian, as a biromantic, as a term collector, and as all of me. I got the chance to grow as a person.

So even if none of this stuff makes a lot of sense to you yet, I promise you will get it in time. Do not try to be one of the good ones. You'll never be accepted by the people you're trying to appeal to. The people who will accept your explanations, will also accept the rest of the community and their explanations. You don't have to other anyone to be accepted by the people who are willing to accept you.

[sapphic-boy]

Genuinely, if someone's own personal identity makes you feel invalidated then that's a personal insecurity you should examine and reflect on and maybe talk with a therapist about because people who are secure in their identity don't feel threatened when other people have a different experience with that identity

[doomsdayradio]

i love you mspec lesbians and bi lesbians and pan lesbians and omni lesbians and ply lesbians and abro lesbians and mspec gays and bi gays and pan gays and omni gays and ply gays and abro gays and mspec straights and bi straights and pan straights and omni straights and ply straights and abro straights and abros and gaybians and lesboys and trans man lesbians and turigirls and trans woman gays and enbyhets and aplatonics/aplspecs

[pupiipawzz]

[seraphic-sapphic-safehaven]

Nah fr though, don't reblog my shit if you're hateful towards any queer identity!!

If you don't like pan, ply, or omni people, fuck off.

Hate MOGAI? Get bent.

If you don't like acespecs and/or arospecs, fuck off.

Hate mspec lesbians? Leave right tf now.

If you don't like enbies, fuck off.

Hate cultural identities? Turn tf around.

If you're hateful towards any of these identities and/or lesbians, bi people, gay people, trans people, or any other part of this community, get the literal and actual fuck out of here.

WE DON'T DO EXCLUSIONARY BULLSHIT IN THIS SPACE! WE NEVER HAVE! AND WE NEVER, EVER, EVERRRR WILL!!

This is a safe space for queer people, especially the ones who get spoken over and shit on all the time, NOT hateful and bigoted people. And when I say hateful and bigoted people, I'm including queer people who feel the need to hurt and harm and harass and shit-talk other queers. Go anywhere else if you wanna be a jerk!! Hope this helps 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[bi-lesbian]

[noahizslay]

[isabellascarlett1]

Exclus: “Bi Lesbian is a new made up term”

Actuality: “Bisexual Lesbians are a large and irremovable part of the Lesbian community, even if many Lesbians treat them with insults, ignorance, stereotyping, exclusion, rejection, invalidation, and worst of all, silence”

- Bi Women Quarterly, 1983

(Not that it matters if the term is “new” or not to begin with)

[dragonpride17]

IDs in alt text

some aro and ace venn diagram edits using these (link) flags!

[genderstarbucks]

[ID: 2 images that are a drawing of a white hand with the middle finger up with a lesboy bracelet and an mspec lesbian ring on the middle finger. They both have a white background. They both say "FUCK OFF!" on the left side of the image. The image on the left has "FUCK OFF!" in a black text and the image on the right has "FUCK OFF!" in a red text.

I'm tired of the exclusionsinism within the queer community. Lesboys and mspec lesbians have been here for decades (since AT LEAST the 70's) Read up on your queer history. We're not leaving this community.