#bc i respect his boundaries and feelings !!!! obviously
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yesterday was the last day i’ll see my best friend in my program for a MONTH and it’s so sad. we had a really really nice time genuinely the nicest time and i left feeling very secure and happy and loved. but that was the 13th of dec . and i don’t think ill see him again until the 12th of jan. which is FOUR horrible long weeks. and i miss him so much already. and he’s terrible at texting too so :(
#but it’s also so funny bc he’s like. very much not a physical touch dude he does NAURT like hugs#our friend hugs him bc i think she’s trying to socialize him like a dog but i know he hates it#he does not will not hug people and so even though I’M a HUGE physical touch person i never ever give him hugs#bc i respect his boundaries and feelings !!!! obviously#so whenever we say goodbye it’s just a goodbye without anything else. and it’s cool like yeah that’s just how it is#but last night when we were about to say goodbye. he hugged me ;—; ;—; ;—;#he never ever ever offers. and he did. because he knows I’M a touch guy. and bc it’ll be a month til i see him next#and so he held out his arms and said bring it in because he is first and foremost a cishetwhitemidwesternboy. and i was so so soso so happy#and he put his arms around me and hugged me. and i almost cried real tears then and there.#and besides that we had just a really really really good night together and i like feeling so comfortable and vulnerable and trusted#and i like how stupid ridiculous silly funny he is.#i love him.
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sorry i just. need to rant for a second
#cause dude the whole joost situation is SO fucking upsetting#he's mentioned over and over again how overwhelming this whole overnight success thing has been for him and to respect his boundaries#and instead of yk respecting his wishes “fans” go and make things worse by constantly overstepping and being creepy and weird like hello???#like why can't we all just be normal and take a step back and enjoy things#these people are gonna end up driving him off the internet and i wouldn't blame him one bit#and the worst part is the people who should get the memo obviously don't (or refuse to) bc this isn't an isolated instance#like its been going on for a while now#idk man i just think about how hard it must be for him rn#one of the things that turned me into a joost fan (besides his music) was his personality#like i obviously dont know him on a personal basis#but from the little bits ive seen he comes across as a really genuine and sweet and kind dude#super thoughtful as well. like i just love the way he thinks and his take on things#like i remember watching his eurovision interviews and just thinking oh man this dude's a ray of sunshine LMFAO#also the literal definition of resilience like dude's been through so much stuff and hes always managed to come out on top despite of it#and thats something i really admire about him too. like the way he put it as not letting your traumas be just that#but also something that can drive you forward#but yeah dude's had more than enough like he deserves to be happy and have some peace and ppl keep ruining it for him and it makes me upset#like i actually slept like shit last night and woke up feeling terrible and i wonder if what went down yesterday w the whole live thing#has anything to do with it lmfao#and you may be like ok well youre taking it too personally and letting it affect you#and yeah maybe youre right LOL but i cant help it i care about the guy and i want him to be okay#he seems to have a really good support system though so i hope things blow over soon and he can finally have some peace#anyway. rant over! 💋#raquel speaks
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i think goro would really not gaf abt kasumi because well 1) shes dead 2) he never knew her so he has no reason to care. Or pretend to care 3) sumire is the one who's alive right now and if she doesnt shape tf up STAT she might not stay that way. so obviously he tries to Help:tm: sumire get over it in his own way......... which obviously oversteps like ten million boundaries
like hes trying to say that yknow 'you should think for yourself' and implying 'if you dont think for yourself you wont get anywhere' but it ofc comes off 10 times too harsh and hostile.
but goro's never really Had people that he Cares about. he doesnt know how to properly do this soft love and care and affection thing. so he phrases things like this.
(btw theyre trying to solve some random puzzle in marukis palace and akira's scoping out the outside but he hears the slam which alerts him oh huh smth must have gone wrong) (sorry i suck bad at drawing backgrounds
im not 100% on what i wanted for goro's expression on the 3rd page, a combination of conflicted anger at her for snapping back - respect at her for snapping back - a kinda "oh shit" - just a kinda reproachful kind of glare like "fine, have it your way" but it kinda dawns on him how unsympathetic he was in the moment when he sees akira
ALSO!! edit bc i forgor to add. i think there’s smth important abt the fact that he actually fucks off when sumire tells him to, and doesn’t say anything more (granted he already said what he wanted to say.) he listens to her and respects her in this sense. i feel like if it was akira or anyone else he probably wouldn’t bother but . WAVES HANDS. DOES THIS MAKE SENSE. sorry i’m adding this at 5am rn my brain MY BRAINNNN
#whistles........#goro akechi#sumire yoshizawa#akira kurusu#shuakesumi#royal trio#akesumi#cele draws#persona 5 royal#cele comics#violetcrow
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UGHHH the way viktor was afraid of people forgetting his accomplishments and how his memory will be short lived only for it to ACTUALLY HAPPEN is SO FUCKING HEARTBREAKING
because he was never included in the hextech credits, his name isnt as publically known and ppl will only see him as That One Guy who started a cult and tried to take over the world or smth (IF that. like do most people even know thats viktor in there or is it just another Piltover’s nameless baddie of the week to them… sad)
and the FEW people who knew him and his contribution to hextech are either just dead or probably saw him as a villain as their last memory of him, was he even worth saving in their mind??
the ONLYYYY person who understood him and loved him for who he was (other than sky ofc, who also died lmao) was taken with him in death, so viktor’s story wont even live on in honor for how he truly was and what he really stood for, bc jayce is the only one who can accurately describe him post-mortem
and people will probably think jayce (THE GOLDEN BOY, MAN OF PROGRESS in the eyes of piltover) died trying to fight him bc no one knows what their conversation was about before they went out, or how jayce was willing to sacrifice himself too because he shares blame in it all, so theyll likely just villainize viktor for that as well, 'the one who killed jayce talis- creator of hextech'
and no one is alive to mourn him :( so fucking depressing
also i dont blame jayce for 'taking all the credit' like some people do lol ive seen ppl say he was egotistical and taking it all in for himself and pushing viktor aside, but he literally always says viktor is his partner and never implies that HE ALONE developed hextech or that hes the sole creator in it all
like its always been 'OUR inventions' and 'my PARTNER' and 'WE created this' whenever jayce talks about hextech. he literally corrects viktor from "your [jayce's] hextech dream" to "our hextech dream" the very first night they partner up bc, despite knowing this man for maybe 4 hours max, he already recognizes the importance of their partnership and that hes not the sole idea-man in this project anymore
i think that whole negative idea was probably developed from jayce signing every single page in his notes,, but itd make more sense to me that he'd do that- not out of arrogance- but he might share the same fear that viktor has: in being forgotten for his work... so he signs every page making sure no one can take a piece out of context and pass it as their own years down the line, or erase the possibility that forget the origin of the creator, especially in a world where a species like yordels are seemingly immortal, names hold a lot of weight as time withers tangible things away
and im assuming jayce recognizes that the fact that being from the undercity could have easily silenced viktor's ideas and contributions in the eyes of the public, and jayce doesnt want to diminish his work towards it. two very important lines jayce hears from viktor that night are "do you think i want to spend my whole life as an assistant" and "a poor kid from the undercity, no one believed in me, i was an outcast the moment i stepped foot in piltover" and he probably took those to heart (paraphrasing those quotes bc i have the memory of a goldfish or smth)
i feel like its moreso piltover to blame (? imo) lmao they set up jayce as the golden boy, and piltover is all about names and status and wealth. they very obviously discriminate against zaunites (and viktor himself states that too) like yeah we dont see the whole process of The Man of Progress being made,, BUT viktor expresses how he doesnt want to go out in front of people in Progress Day, so jayce is very much just respecting his wishes and boundaries to not drag him up there when hes clearly uncomfortable at the thought yk?
viktor might also recognize himself that piltover will use his knowledge as a celebrity idol for people to look at rather than as an actual scientist for people to acknowledge and appreciate. he wants to be known for what he did, not a soulless face for people to gawk at. makes sense tho, irl u usually dont remember celebrity actions unless theyre negative, but you do remember scientist's accomplishments rather than what they look like
ppl bring up the hexgate blueprints at the end and how it only has Jayce's name on it as another argument and idk i feel like it has multiple things to stem off that before getting to the 'jayce took credit for everything' idea?
maybe they were changed after the whole cult incident, like viktor's name taken off, which yeah thats obviously depressing in itself. i think its more likely bc piltover wont want their whole gimmick to be associated with that incident, rather than jayce purposefully leaving viktor's name out of it... thats probably the strongest explanation imo. we gotta remember viktor is quite literally jayce's best friend- do you really think jayce would take away his best friend's accomplishments like that? lets be real yall HAHA
my own guess is that jayce was actually the sole designer in the hexgate design, and while they can share custody, maybe viktor doesnt take credit for things that werent his ? like yeah they worked on the hextech ideas together but it could be more like jayce drew up the plans and viktor helped with the science of it idk, but thatd explain why only jayce's name would be on it (in a non depressing way that kind of makes sense), bc jayce designed the hexgates specifically
maybe viktor didnt want his name on it either bc reasons i said above, tho this is unlikely to me bc he probably wouldnt want his name taken off if he was scared about legacy erasure,, but these are just theories idk
anyway i think blaming jayce for viktor's erasure is kind of - uhm -stupid because jayce has always made it his goal to not just save viktor but to include viktor every time he brings up hextech in conversation, whether it calls for his mention or not. because jayce knows drilling viktor's name association as co-contributer to hextech into the heads of other people is important, considering viktor's background, and jayce's own current social status as the golden boy: the leverage he holds when he speaks. people will listen lol
#i know people have already said this so many times but GODDDDDD#kats movie rants#arcane#jayvik#viktor arcane#jayce talis#karcane
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Cuddling with Eddie
Pairing: Eddie Munson x gn!reader
Warnings: fluff
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He's touch starved, same as Steve, but whereas Steve doesn't really like touching other people, Eddie is extremely touchy, with the people he knows. He ignores the concept of personal space half of the time and loves being close to those he trusts.
Will love it if you ask him for cuddles, he'll basically drag you to bed and make you his teddy bear
Moves around a lot until he gets into a comfortable position
Makes sure that his hair doesn't get all over your face
Its the kind of person that would ask you if you're asleep if you've been quiet for a long time, then apologize profusely if he woke you up
He LOVES to talk, a lot, about any of his interests, dates to take you to, gossip, ANYTHING. Sometimes he worries that he's talking too much so he'll stop mid-sentence to see if you want him to continue, and you obviously do so you ask him to keep on and he gets super excited
He likes to give little kisses to any exposed skin that he can see
Likes to be the little spoon
But he also likes to have your head on his chest
Lots of I love yous and sweet nothings
Dies when you call him pet names
Always wants to cuddle
Even if the bed is too small and you two don't fit
Will whine a lot if you push him away bc of some reason, like going to the bathroom
Likes it when you rub his tummy and kiss his upper chest
He's a freaking puppy
Eddie would likely respect your personal boundaries and preferences during cuddling, ensuring that you feel comfortable and at ease.
#eddie munson#stranger things#stranger things headcanons#eddie munson x you#eddie munson fluff#eddie munson headcanon#eddie munson x reader#eddie munson x reader fluff#eddie munson x reader cute#eddie munson x reader cuddling#eddie munson x reader hc#eddie munson x reader headcanons#eddie munson blurb#eddie munson x reader comfort#eddie munson x y/n
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I genuinely think Tootie’s behavior towards Timmy would improve dramatically like. The second Vicky moves out of the family house. It’s clear that Vicky is severely inhibiting Tootie’s ability to have friends, much less have them come over and spend time with her. And it feels likely that the main reason her crush turned into an obsession is because Timmy had shown himself to be the only person willing to be nice to her. It doesn’t justify the way she acted, but let’s be real it’s not like she has good role models to teach her better.
I feel like once Vicky isn’t around to ruin her social life she’ll be able to have other friends over and like, have someone around to seek comfort in that isn’t her crush. She could actually start growing as a person. Which could happen as soon as like, 1-3 years after the events of the show?
I also really like the idea that even if she isn’t obsessed with Timmy, that Crimson Chin doll he gave her holds a special place in her heart because like. As a sentimental person I gotta be real something like that would never not be sweet to me. I’d thinking about it for years.
And I like to think because of that she eventually got into comics and began to obsess over those instead. Maybe Crimson Chin wasn’t her thing! But she seems to enjoy fantasies and I think it would be so fun to see her find her own interests. If we’re getting into specifics, I get the vibes that she would be into comics following heroes like Superman, or when villainesses get their own comics like Harley or Poison Ivy. Obviously not those exact characters but those are the vibes I get. Not to say I don’t think she wouldn’t still have girly interests and love romance and stuff but man.
Additionally. I fucking hate Tootie from the live action movies. They glorify her as hot and morally perfect while simultaneously treating how she was as a child as weird and ugly. Man people grow up and sometimes get less weird but like some people are just dorks. Tootie is a dork. Keep her as an overenthusiastic, emotional, glasses-wearing, strong-willed dork. You cowards. Women don’t need to be “perfect” to be accepted and loved.
If Tootie and Timmy did eventually get together, personally I think it would be good if Timmy just. Didn’t see her for a while. She gets more into spending time with actual friends, and doesn’t talk to Timmy as much until they meet up again a couple years later at an afterschool comic club/comic con, or something of that sort. I think she deserves to be her own person before she actually ends up with anyone.
And while I normally don’t like “ships” (I say that in quotes bc I don’t particularly feel compelled to ship these children at all) that involves a party who clearly isn’t interested… they’re also. Children. It’s not that serious. They really shouldn’t be together at this age anyway, and they probably will change as they get older.
It doesn’t feel that big of a deal to imagine Tootie and Timmy might be together as adults despite their current dynamic, because the main issues are:
a) Tootie doesn’t respect boundaries and is emotionally unstable, which are both likely caused by isolation, lack of good role models, and being too young to understand things. Very likely she grows out of it.
b) Timmy not liking her. Which, in the context of the early episodes about her, is actually something you could debate?
To clarify, he obviously isn’t interested in a romantic relationship most of the time, but at the same time he clearly has some care for her. The argument could be made that it is because of his fairies influencing him, yes, or it’s just pity. But like. There are episodes where he legit just does something because he wants her to be happy. And he indicates he doesn’t really dislike her or hate spending time with her. He, at least in theory, is actually willing to spend time with her. (“I would’ve gone to her dumb party if she’d invited me.”) That’s not even mentioning how he. Like. Just straight up chose to stick himself with a love arrow because he wanted to enjoy spending a Valentine’s Day with her. Which is a whole thing that could be analyzed but not the point.
If anything his actions point to a young boy who at the moment, only feels attraction through the lense of someone being “pretty” instead of someone they can genuinely get along with. He sees Tootie as weird and embodying the qualities boys find “icky” in girls. It would make sense if he grew out of that.
Although at the end of the day I don’t really care who these kids end up with, I JUST want Tootie to be able to have a happy and healthy social life/relationship with a partner when she grows up, and I hate the idea of completely stripping away her “not pretty” qualities before she’s allowed to have that. She’s a fucking lovely little girl who deserves to be herself, and to be weird, and to be happy. That’s my fucking daughter!!! I love her so much!!!
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keenry- tory’s pov (im insane)
s3
tory accepting robby and giving him advice related to training and home life
tory inviting robby to hang out with the cobras and defending him against hawk
s4
tory telling robby to stay when he was going to leave the dojo
tory smiling at robby when he respected her boundaries
tory smiling at robby and asking him what he had in mind in order to get revenge on hawk without fighting
tory asking robby to prom and obviously lying when she said it was strictly a tactical move
tory trusting robby enough to open up a little and resting her head against his
tory allowing herself to fully forget about sam and miguel because she liked robby too much
tory pulling robby into the pool and being silly with him
tory asking robby if he was alright after his fight with kenny at the avt, going after him and being being the only one concerned for him after his loss against hawk
tory almost smiling at robby when he wished her luck before her fight with sam (silver interrupted their moment, he hates keenry and regrets setting them up i can feel it)
tory looking at robby while holding her trophy
s5
tory telling robby she missed him
tory admitting to kreese that she didn’t like hiding the truth from robby
when robby came to cobra kai, tory’s moves were delayed and when silver was giving the class commands not chanting no mercy with the other cobras. she gave him a final look before he left
tory punching through stone in the name of love
tory assuring robby she was ok when he asked about her hand
tory looking out for herself and robby, making sure they didn’t violate their probation
s6
tory shamelessly kissing robby in front of devon when she found out he was reinstated (THIS WAS GOLD KWKWKWKSNDMD)
tory sticking around at the double date robby brought her too, even if it was kinda uncomfortable
tory asking robby about kenny and supporting him when he wouldn’t give up
tory stopping kenny from using a bat on robby, working with sam to keep kenny away from their boyfriends
tory entrusting robby with the fact that she ran into kreese
tory supporting robby when he opened up a little about his second place trauma
tory apologizing to robby for not showing up to the captain’s match sooner
tory using a softer tone with robby when he tried to console her after the news of her mom broke out
tory putting their relationship on break, knowing how her rejoining cobra kai has affected him and not wanting to cause further harm
tory confirming to robby when he asked that it was a pause, not a breakup, and that she still wanted to see him on the podium next to her just like they said
tory wishing robby good luck even after he reminded her of her trust issues (which she’s improved on)
tory stealing zara’s phone and outing her to her followers (even tho my girl misunderstood what zara actually did to robby)
tory reminding robby that she never broke up with him, still willing to stay with him even under the impression that he cheated on her
tory yelling “kiss this bitch” to zara before kicking her. i know for a fact that tory would be enraged if she found out what zara actually did and i would do anything to see that play out in the show
bonus: tory looking at robby. she be doing this every season it’s so cuteeee
did i forget anything? idec at this point bc this has been sitting in my drafts too long 💀
making a robby version that i was planning on posting at the same time as this, but it’s sitting in my drafts unfinished and im lazy :P
#cobra kai#ck#cobra kai season 3#cobra kai season 4#cobra kai season 5#cobra kai season 6#tory nichols#robby keene#keenry endgame#keenry#robby x tory#tory x robby
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Kill Bill

𝐖𝐀𝐑𝐍𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒! : toxic!reader, toxic!bakugo, mentions of drugs, reader smokes, lots of cursing bc what’s a bakugo fic if he isn’t cursing????, slight infidelity?, alcohol consumption and lots of spelling errors 😭
Tonight you were supposed to chill out with Mina and Momo in the dorms but word got around that Jackson Wang was hosting a party at a frat house off campus..so obviously you got your ass up and put on the cuntiest outfit you could find in your closet. You had originally wanted to talk with your boyfriend (who’s not your boyfriend but everyone knows he’s your boyfriend) about what the hell you two even were. there would be days where you wouldn’t even get a text back, not a ‘hi sorry i’m busy’ or a ‘let’s talk later im in a training session with kirishima’ literally nothing.
You were fine with it, honestly. If he wouldn’t give you attention then there’s a whole campus of guys that would. It sounds terrible but you’ve learned that it is what it is and you’re on what he’s on. No way in hell would you ever beg for his attention.. at least not anymore. You looked good, you know you did. Tonight was supposed to be filled with good times and (bad decisions) fun memories. He said he was exhausted after hours of grueling training and that we’d talk tomorrow morning. So why is it that you see your boyfriend sitting on a couch outside the frat house with some girl whose name you don’t even know on his lap?
momo stopped all three of you in your tracks, glancing over at you. “y/n, we can always just leave? i’m sure another frat is hosting a party.” should you leave? it’s not like you haven’t seen this from him before. countless nights you spent crying, wondering why you weren’t enough for him to show some effort. fuck, you even wondered if he liked you at all. “what?! no way, why should y/n leave just because he doesn’t know how to keep it in his pants? we came to let loose!” mina disagreed with momo from the opposite side. he hasn’t noticed you guys from a far. sitting there with a red solo cup in his hand, man spreading for the whole block to see and looking as cocky as ever.
fuck no, you were not leaving. he no longer gets to ruin your fun. “it’s cool momo, we’re not leaving. i want to have fun and drink a little before exams start kicking our ass next week.” she looked at you a little unsure but started walking in the direction of the house once more. mina cheered with a shit-eating grin on her face, happy that you chose to stay. walking with a little more confidence in your step, you made your way up the lawn and straight to katsuki. you pursed your lips, faking a look of understanding “exhausted huh? yeah, i’d be exhausted too entertaining all these other bitches. it must get hard trying to keep count, no?”
there was something about seeing him with another girl on his lap that made you want to crash the fuck out. sure you’d hear stories of him jumping from girl to girl while you two were on breaks. a break doesn’t mean you’re completely over, a break mean you two put a pause on your relationship. you still expected loyalty and trust but even that was wishful thinking. the girl was sat on his lap, arm around his neck, giving you a one over. she looked (in the nicest way possible) cheap and tacky. not because she wore the smallest dress known to man but because of the way she carried herself. she had a look of arrogance and a serious case of lash blindness. you were not a bully by any means. you got along with majority of the girls on campus, always gave out hero advice or fashion advice. you’d lend your lip gloss to girls you’d meet in bathrooms if they asked. you truly loved the feeling of having so many friends who can lean on you and vice versa.
But what you hated most were girls who thought that they were superior to others. ones that didn’t respect boundaries OR relationships. you hated this girl.
the smile fell off his face once he heard your voice, probably thinking that you were at the dorms in bed. “y/n, what the fuck are you doing here?” he has such a punchable face, fortunately for him you never believed in putting hands on your significant other. the audacity of him to question you when he was the one who lied? “what the fuck am I doing here? no, what the fuck are YOU doing here? you said you’d be asleep but you’re at a party and laid up with some girl on top of that? you have no right to question me.” you scoff, looking them up and down. you said you wouldn’t let this ruin your night and it won’t. if he wants to act single then you could too. momo and mina follow behind you, throwing dirty looks at both of them. “you ever heard of girl code? bakugo will drop you as soon as y/n calls his name.” momo says and drags mina inside. tonight you’re gonna let loose and let go.
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𝐚/𝐧 !! okay so this hasn’t been proof read so there may be mistakes but let me know how you like it so far!
#Spotify#katsuki bakugo x reader#bakugou smut#fanfic#college au#bnha#bakugo x reader#mha#reader insert#jackson wang#toxic love#fraternity
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When Peter told Rose to take the bed. Her face dropped :( it was like he answered the “what are we question”
it was certainly a MOMENT and the "what are we" seems to be a big theme of the season as a whole and i love how it was handled.
peter was clearly glad to have her there even as he was worried for her, and rose tried to brush over him not calling her and say he didn't owe her a call at the same time she was obviously hurt, but he wouldn't let her dismiss it and made it clear he was sorry. they haven't talked in ten months so they weren't going to jump straight into romance right away, respected each other's boundaries at the same time they found it surprisingly easy to fall back into their emotional closeness as if no time had passed.
it gives a whole new dimension to their relationship to be sort of back to square one except they aren't, because it's so easy for him to hold her through a nightmare or for her to kiss him to shut him up, no actions two people going through a breakup or figuring out their feelings in the first place would so casually take. they really felt like an established relationship/married couple this season in how they were able to give each other emotional support and communicate openly when they didn't see eye to eye on an issue while sharing meals and jokes and comforting each other physically without any awkwardness. from the second she moved in with him his priorities shifted from the mission to "did rose eat? did rose sleep well? is rose okay?" while she didn't hesitate to risk her job and safety to help him in the first place and it's just so beautiful to see.
this is a relationship and i think they both know it and are committed to it, but the best part of romance is this gradual process of figuring things out and deciding to prioritize the other, and we already saw peter do it when he became a traitor to keep her safe (and how much she hates that he did that!!! bc it's so important to her that he's alright!!!) and now what we have left to see is rose deciding to commit to jumping into the fray of spy work herself or finding a way to pull him back to safety.
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HI ANY TIPS ON BEING THE NEW KID AT A NEW SCHOOL
GENERALLY GETTING ANXIETY ATTACKS LOL
ALSO I LOVE YR BLOG SMM
𝜗𝜚 ݁ ˖ Doll tips! ; Being the New Kid!! 🎀⭐️
Tip #1 ; Taking a Breath now speaking from experience being the new kid at school is very nerve racking ik ive done it so many times and just sitting back and just breathing snd relaxing can definitely help just calm you down!!
Tip #2 ; Making a Good Impression!! now for this one i not saying you have to be the most outgoing person ever bc it can be overwhelming especially if you have social anxiety or you just have trouble with interacting!! but definitely being as polite as possible can definitely help you in the long run!!! ⭐️
Tip #3 ; Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself
now since you are new to the school you may or may not have to introduce yourself and ik how nerve racking this can be but doing a simple “Hi! I’m _” is really good if you don’t wish to speak then a simple smile and wave is also just as good!!!
Tip #4 ; Recruiting Friends!!
if you wanna be friends with a particular person try going up to them and saying hi to them also helping people with something is a way to get to know a person or having desk/table mates is like a gold mine for making friends with people !!!
Tip #5 ; Not Everyone is a nice person
if you can tell someone is a mean person stay away from them have little to no contact with this person its will save you all the energy and time because people like this can be extremely draining trust ik that!
Tip #6 ; Be nice but don’t be a pushover
obviously being nice is ESSENTIAL but never let someone cross your boundaries or disrespect you call them out on it don’t make a huge scene obviously but definitely let them know that you’re setting a boundary and if they cross again then cut this person off because obviously they don’t respect your boundaries!!
Tip #7 ; Don’t be a Bystander!!
if you see someone getting bullied say something about it,defend them or just ask them if they’re okay being a bystander to the problem makes you part of the problem as well!!!
Tip #8 ; Don’t let others bring you down
again with making boundaries never let someone cross you or make snarky remarks call them out on it and remember this person words obviously don’t matter what other people say doesn’t define you
Tip #9 ; Join a Club!!
joining a club can be an amazing way to make friends while also doing something you enjoy and over all its just an amazing activity!!
Tip #10 ; Don’t overshare!!!
unless you genuinely trust a person don’t overshare because people switch up and anything you say can and will be used against you!
Tip #11 ; Have Main Character mindset
even if you have zero confidence fake it till you make it!! walk with good posture and some pep in ur step!!🎀
Tip #12 ; If u have a group assignment don’t do all the work
omg i can’t stress this enough only do your part if someone is failing to do their part don’t do it for them let them fail thats their own fault
Tip #13 ; Being popular isn’t everything!
social hierarchy in high school or middle school (idk what grade ur in im sorry!!) is so bleak okay being popular isn’t everything i mean sure by some chance you’ll be popular but still you don’t HAVE to fit in because ur made to stand out
Tip #14 ; Channel ur inner Elle Woods & Cher Horowitz
* apply ur self in ur academics
* if you need help ask its not a bad thing to need help!!
* Make an Organizer to stay in top of ur work!!
* STUDY!! STUDY!! STUDY!!
* if you have an assignment with a rubric read it carefully to ensure you can get the highest grade possible!!
* if you unhappy with your grade or feel like you should’ve gotten a better one ask your teacher to review!!!
* wear cute clothes and style ur hair neatly not to for the lookism esque obviously but looking ur best and feeling your best are definitely good ways to feel better!!! 🎀⭐️
* have a “what? like its hard?” mindset
* Don’t Judge!!
* Pursue ur dreams!!
* Don’t be afraid of a challenge
* Be yourself!!
Tip #15 ; Don’t Leave people out!!!
say ur in a group setting and you see one particular person being left out and not getting their chance to speak make them feel welcome ask them about what they were gonna say and include them into the conversation!!!
Tip #16 ; Eat what makes you happy and don’t yuck someones yum
if someone has a cultural dish for their lunch DON’T EVER make them feel bad about it don’t care what it is that loser behavior! also eat the kind of food that makes you feel good inside and that nourishes your body i definitely suggest packing a lunch the night before!!!
Tip #17 ; Don’t hang around Slackers!!
be friends with people that actually apply themselves in their academic and working for what they want!!!
I love you anon i hope you do AMAZING at ur new school!!! 🎀⭐️
#the advice column with dolly ���⭐️#it girl#wonyoungism#self care#self improvement#self love#elle woods#cher horowitz#dream girl#pink pilates princess#dollygirl#dolly#2sweet2eat🎀🧁#girl blog aesthetic#girl blogging
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BESTIE. I was just casually thinking about your whole dybmn series and now I’m wondering, as both reader and Spencer become more confident with their spicy dynamics, what kind of lover would Spencer become with her? New k!nks, maybe?, I JUST genuinely think that Spencer is so whipped for her that he would definitely use toys and anything else, not only to experiment but to get to know and find out about all of her secret facets.
I believe she would be his “creation” like he would be so proud to see her development in her confidence in spicy times like smirking all over as she does anything to please him and he’d be like “yeah, I created that” because I’M BITING MY PILLOW RIGHT NOW and gonna dig up a hole after this to hide myself because my thoughts are so hideous. Girlie, what did you do to me? I wasn’t like this. 😩
oh let’s discuss
18+ long ass rambling and things i think about A Lot ……..
in my opinion (which is not the end all be all everyone can perceive them however they’d like) reader and spencer definitely bring out more sexually adventurous sides of each other like they just have a shit ton of chemistry and for a while ithink spencer would just be easing reader into sexuality so nothing that crazy would happen aside from the power dynamics we see pretty much from the start. i think those would definitely get stronger and occasionally more variable. im not usually into sub!spence but i think there would be times he would definitely allow reader to have more control (i don’t ever think he’d be like calling them mommy lmfao) but aside from that i could also see him veering VERY rarely in a slightly harder!dom direction. like he’ll never hurt or seriously degrade you but in p3 reader says something about liking it when he acts like they belong to him and he was really into that. as the relationship progresses i think he would almost start taking more ownership of r’s body in a way, like obviously nothing is ever nonconsensual but he just knows you so well that it’s like… well he knows you better than you know yourself sooo you let him call the shots, but at his core i think spencer is forever oriented to please. he just wants to make you feel good, that’s always gonna be his goal, so he’s always going to listen and even if the power dynamic is weighed in his favor you are actually always the one in control bc he’d do anything for u lol
in terms of kinks…. idk, i never really see spencer as a super kinky guy? like he just knows too much about paraphilia and obviously sexual violence ties into a lot of his job so i sincerely doubt he’d find giving or receiving pain arousing beyond like slapping your ass or you scratching his back or whatever. love is always at the heart of sex for him and that’s going to be the most important part, he’ll never be able to see you just as a body. he’ll always see you as the person he’s in love with and there are things he’s simply not willing to do to the person he loves.
because of his trauma he’s super duper hesitant about bondage BUT i think he wouldn’t be completely opposed to very light restraints on you or him, he’d just have to be in a specific mood. i also never see him as being someone who’s super into toys because he’s such a luddite, he can barely stand having an email i doubt he’s going to have an extensive collection of sex toys. but he would so use your vibrator on you or make you use it on yourself in front of him again if he’s in a very specific mood
oh but YES he DELIGHTS in having defiled and corrupted you. idc idc im not accepting criticism on this. like he spoils you so much that you’re used to getting him whenever you want and so you’re not very subtle about it. if you get all needy in public and start draping yourself all over him and giving him looks and pulling on his sleeve because you want to go home he’ll fuck you in rossi’s bathroom because he wants to encourage your lewd behavior.
obviously he has boundaries tho and he has respect for you and the people around him like he won’t do anything that draws attention and he’ll only ever do things he knows he can get away with without anyone else noticing
later seasons spence also LOVES when you leave marks on him he thinks it’s cute how you mark your territory and he’s not at all embarrassed if there is a hickey above his collar at work. in his mind it’s like. why would he care about other peoples opinions on his sex life when they have nothing to do with it god i think about this all the time
anyway im sorry if this was disappointing😭 idkidk, thank you for asking about my thoughts tho bc i am always down for headcanons
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stanley barber x reader hcs ?
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ooo okay I can try!! ; thanks for requesting pookie, hope u enjoy!!
STANLEY BARBER ; dating hcs
summary ; dating hcs w stan
warnings ; language
word count ; 457
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he's a pothead so he will be sharing his weed with you
if you don't smoke / aren't into all that, he completely respects it and your boundaries
sometimes he lights a blunt in the car and totally forgets if you don't like him smoking around you and apologizes profusely
like he throws that shit out SO fast
he once accidentally lit a garbage can on fire doing that
but he's genuinely the sweetest ever
he struggles with some social cues and his awkwardness, but you love him just the same <3
when his dad's home, you mentally prepare yourself for vent texts and frantic calls
you're just happy he feels safe enough to tell you things and ask for your help
you usually hang out at his house unless his dad is there, then you're at your house or out on adventures / in the car
he rambles to Syd about you 24/7
it's annoying
he's actually thinking about you constantly
like he's hyperfixated
he probably has adhd so I wouldn't be surprised
he tried to act cool and nonchalant before you were dating but you and Syd always gave him the "wtf" look when he acted like that
cue falling things bc he can't stop running into shit
he did have the courage to actually ask you out though, so one point for him
he was actually gonna ask Syd to ask you out for him like this is fifth grade
goodnight
he allows you to borrow shirts and jackets but he usually wants them back
you make kandi bracelets together tho :))
he's a physical touch and quality time kinda guy so he loves cuddling and just doing stuff with you
he will spam text you if you're not in school and update you through his day
he was lowkey terrified to let you in bc his parents and stuff but you made him realize that not all love hurts 💔
when is he not listening to music
unless the teacher is a bitch, he has headphones on in class
obviously loves bloodwitch but not really his top favorite ever
he also likes that one song (watermelon) from dinner in america, green day, a bit of nirvana, calpurnia, sadcult, sunrise academy, etc
he's got at least 2k+ mins a week on airbuds
he helps you with homework a lot
hes just the type to grasp onto things easier
he's also the type to go to all your classes and pick up any missing work for you when you're out of school
you help each other make outfits for the day over Snapchat
literally the only time you use that app
otherwise you talk on messages
roblox with him is the funniest shit ever 💀
#lowkeyrobin#gn reader#gender neutral reader#they/them reader#🗡 anon#ianowt#ianowt x reader#i am not okay with this x reader#stanley barber x reader#stan barber x reader#dating headcanons#dating hcs#wyatt oleff x reader#i am not okay with this
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ok no offense, but i really don't understand why aj acts like she's some independent boss bitch, when she's really a complete doormat who lets herself get constantly taken advantage of. she says she's doesn’t want to entertain jungkook, but she obviously is. she should've told him he shouldn't talk to her until he apologizes first. i don't understand why jungkook faces no repercussions for his actions. the smirking is annoying. he smirks every 2 seconds. he's just an ass and she lets him get away with it in every conversation.
the contract she was forced to sign in the beginning was illegal. textbook workplace sexual harassment, quid pro quo and she could've easily reported him. i understand jade is pulling the strings and jungkook is a victim too, but like it's still fucked up how jungkook has treated her this entire time, and then when he decides to win her back, instead of leading with an apology and an explanation, he does this???
and it seems like we're supposed to think he's romantic and sexy bc aj is falling for it for some reason??? she needs a reality check and lesson on being assertive.
he's a jerk and adam was the same until he did a 180. i don't understand how she stomachs the tall, dark and handsome, moody and smirking asshole with tattoos personality so much when they've shown such little respect for her.
where is the responsibility and accountability? why doesn't aj ever stand up for herself and put real boundaries in place? she's learns nothing. so toxic
Okay so I’m going to start this off by saying this is fiction. In no way am I romanticising sexual harassment in the workplace, the way I describe jungkook isn’t in anyway to justify his actions just because he’s hot, in me describing him in the way that I do is to effectively communicate the fact that people don’t change straight away just because someone has come into their life. I’ve tried to keep this as realistic as possible so I’m not going to make Jungkook suddenly change for AJ’s sake and erase the way he’s been acting for years because it simply doesn’t make sense. It takes time and a person having undergone harsh experiences to truly change the way that they are.
Yes jungkook is in love with AJ, but he’s not suddenly going to become the nicest person on the planet just because he feels that way. Its going to take time and effort for him to change his ways and she helps him to see that by constantly rejecting his advances by not just succumbing to him and telling him that she also likes him.
AJ is in no way tolerating what he’s doing by listening to him, in wanting to keep this as realistic as possible I’ve had her hear him out and listen to whatever he has to say because it isn’t as easy as telling someone to leave and then them doing so. That’s not how the real world works, men are going to be adamant, they’re going to be cocky and they aren’t going to take no as answer and there is a reason why jungkook thinks it’s okay for AJ to have entered a contract with terms as such with him because (and I’m sorry to anyone in advance since this will be a spoiler for the newest chapter but I have to say this now) he is in the same contract with Jade and he has been in this contract since he was 14.
Once again that doesn’t make anything that he’s doing normal and AJ sees that which is why she doesn’t just go back to working for him and being in a ‘situation ship’ with him, hearing someone out going to dinner with them (which may I add was rushed and had little to no convo going on) try to see what their intentions are doesn’t make you a push over in the slightest. I tried to convey to the best of my ability that she is being as resilient as she can be but a part of her is still always going to push back those efforts slightly because once again that’s reality. People aren’t able to easily let go of the type of person they thought the person they liked was, hence why when he does romantic gestures and tries to be persistent to show how much he enjoys her company it forces her to remember and cling onto that idea of him since that is the type of person she thought he was.
If I wanted to I could’ve made Out of bounds a lot shorter and allowed AJ to forgive him the minute he walked into that cafe but I didn’t. It’s going to take time and effort for him to show her that he’s sorry and respects her, and AJ ultimately forgiving him doesn’t make her a pushover, everyone goes through stuff and like I said previously there is a reason why he thought this was all okay and that fact is ultimately what pushes him to chase after her and want to earn her forgiveness because he knows what it feels like and doesn’t want her to go through it alone the way he did just for the sake of being able to say in the industry.
There is a reason why he isn’t able to apologise to her straight away and that is because once again it is taking him time to truly understand why his actions are not justifiable (this will be discussed further in chapter 35) because Jade did the same thing to him for years and made it seem as if it was normal which was why he thought it was okay for her to have entered into a contact with AJ as such through him. Yes he will eventually apologise but he first needs to understand that what happened to him isn’t right because right now he is still holding this information to himself, no one except from him and Jade know the terms of his contract and it will take him telling someone and admitting his emotions for him to finally understand what he has gone through and that he is also a victim.
Once again this doesn’t justify anything he’s done. All I can say is that once he comes to terms with his own mistreatment as sees it for what it is that will allow him to be emotionally open so that he can understand the depth of what AJ was put through and apologise to her in the most sincere way possible because right now he doesn’t understand the full extent of her emotions which is why he hasn’t apologised yet and is trying to just slowly reincorporate himself in to her life so that he can’t at least get her to trust him and hear him out.
I’m sorry for making this long but I want to just end this by saying this is fiction if you don’t like what you’re reading don’t read it because you never going to understand the message someone is trying to convey unless the books is completed or you have asked them yourself. Out of bounds is ongoing for a reason and I’m sorry to anyone who wants to see them together straight away but it will take time and I promise it’ll be worth it. I hope chapter 35 helps reiterate this as I tried my best to explain what Jungkook has gone through and if you’ve read the book from beginning to the most recent chapter (34) you will have realised that we haven’t gotten any backstory from him other than the brief explanation of why he has his tattoos. With AJ she has spoken about her relationship with her mum and her dad abandoning them which is why something like what has happened with Jungkook has really affected her as it feels like she’s being abandoned all over again.
I hope jungkook’s side helps to clear things up and shows you how a victims experiences can lead them to rationalise harsh decisions and wrongful acts because that is the real world. Not every victim sees their mistreatment as what it is especially if it has been 8 years and he has only been shown how his contract has aided him and made him the worlds best racer (contract began when Jungkook was 14 and he is currently 22).
I hope that the upcoming chapters especially leading up to the final one truly convey this message. Out of Bounds isn’t just a story about a hotshot racer falling for his brilliant car designer; at its core, it is a deeply emotional exploration of how victims are manipulated, how their perception of right and wrong is slowly distorted, and how they come to believe that the abuse they endured is not only normal but something that can be inflicted on others.
This book is about more than just romance or racing it’s about resilience. It’s about breaking free from the chains of manipulation and realizing that just because someone with power tried to define your reality, it doesn’t mean they were ever right. Out of Bounds aims to show that victims are not doomed to remain victims forever. They can reclaim their agency, rewrite their own narratives, and choose to do what is right—even in the face of their abuser’s control. Even when the person who hurt them refuses to let go.
It’s a story about survival, about finding strength in the truth, and ultimately, about taking back the life that was stolen from them.
#jungkook#jungkook fanfic#enemies to lovers#jeon jungkook#jungkook smut#bts jungkook#slow burn#bts#f1 x reader#racer#bts jung jungkook#bts jungguk#jeon jk#jeon jeongguk
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by the way this is not gonna do the subject NEARLY enough justice BUT i do really wish there was more keeley appreciation in the main tags... like not only is she an Extremely explicit parallel for ted, but she's also at the heart of SO much of the show's themes - and you'd never know it from reading most of the meta that goes around!
[content warnings for sexism, sexual harassment, Locker Room Talk™]
okay, so like, in no particular order, here some of the criminally underrated + under-explored things we know abt keeley jones:
she has an almost identical social strategy to ted: being earnestly, and oftentimes defiantly herself, regardless of what assumptions it pushes other people to make abt her (i.e.: her description in the pilot, 'used to having her book judged by its cover'). and then, in spite of the ppl around her belittling her/writing her off, she STILL approaches them w genuine intent to connect + get to know them.
i think it was an EXTREMELY deliberate choice in episode 3 for both keeley and ted to give rebecca 'a compliment she's never heard before'. they're not merely skating by on small talk or doing the bare minimum to show their appreciation for killing the photo (which rebecca would be prepared for), they're subverting her expectations by going for genuine (if bemusing) compliments.
then ofc w keeley's s3 arc, you can see how she's trying (and slowly succeeding, judging by that nervous worker guy's attempts to start joking around with her) to get her PR firm's culture to the same, easy-going, more-friends-than-coworkers vibe of richmond. she even specifically asks ted for advice (and, again, i think its relevant that the advice he gives refers to his most effective team building moment - the ghost banishing ceremony). it's very important to her that ppl feel comfortable in her presence, and we can see her getting genuinely distressed whenever she struggles with this.
she says EXPLICITLY in that one exchange w sassy + rebecca that she freaks out whenever she thinks she's being abandoned - she delivers it like a joke, but she's visibly off-kilter and nervous while she says it, apparently still coming down from the anxiety of thinking she'd been ditched. and again, after the gala when she goes to (presmably) get back together with jamie, she says outright that she really struggles to ever break up with people - even people she's no longer interested in, like jamie! - because she second guesses her own judgement so much. on an adjacent note, imo the melt down she has when roy was crowding her was only as abrupt + extreme as it was because she had been repressing her feelings about it for so long. which is SO interesting in the context of her being one of the most upfront and outspoken characters in the show!!!! like. she literally contains multitudes!
and, also, while i do think there's some genuine critical analysis to be done abt the normalisation of what is, essentially, sexual harassment at richmond (it's... extremely uncomfortable to go on such a long tangent about how attractive a stranger's boobs are, even if ur also a woman), i think keeley's active flirtation + general horny-on-main behaviour is ALSO extremely under-explored. bc, in the context of her being a WAG, and also a model, keeley recieves completely unprompted + unwarranted comments abt her body all day every day. when sassy told her that her ex-husband used to masturbate to her photos, she's hardly shell shocked. it's pretty clear that that's something she's used to being known for, and being told about in gratuitous detail. in this context, you can really see how the way she leans in to flirtation, and talking about sex and the hotness of various ppl around her (ie: her entrance in the pilot, making a show + joke out of how she must Obviously want to see all of the footballers naked), is her way of pushing back against the way others don't respect HER boundaries. ie: 'if my body's fair game for everyone to talk about + sexualise, so is theirs!'. it's an extremely interesting coping mechanism, especially in the context of it leading to her oftentimes perpetuating the cycle of harassment herself. and then there's also how the locker room culture OF richmond involves a significant amt of talking about sex, past partners, etc - since she spends so much time in that environment, you can pretty clearly see how that'd influence her decision to go with the current, rather than against.
AND OFC. HOW could i get this far w/o talking about the sheer narrative weight that's given to her relationship with rebecca!!! not only is she arguably the first character to befriend rebecca (beating ted out by several episodes, at least by my count), she is ALSO the reason that rebecca ever tells ted the truth ('it would change how i feel about you'!!!!!!! AGH!!!!), and honestly i think keeley's disappointment in her is what leads her to finally accept that. sabotaging richmond is a cruel thing to do and she doesn't want to do it anymore! like. keeley's unabashed admiration of + love for rebecca, and rebecca's eventual reciprocation is quite literally the driving force for both of their arcs ('thank you for teaching this panda how to be a lion'!!!!!) and i just!!! i care them!!!!!!!!!!!!
tldr; keeley jones is a blorbo of absolutely apocalyptic proportions PLEASE let her into ur heart the next time ur writing analysis + meta....
#ted lasso meta#keeley jones#ted lasso#i basically wrote this whole thing just so i could plead for ppl to accept narrative parallels keeley : ted#into their hearts. like u can learn SO much abt keeley by analysing ted and vice versa!#the anxiety the Baggage the motivations the fears..#even their professional goals + ethics and shit!!
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Aspec ✨Icons✨ part 2: Dana Scully (X-files)
(Missed ace week bc I overcomplicated things and it took me a hot sec to finish the sticker but whatever lol)
Listen, Special Agent Dana Catherine Scully is an icon as she is! She's badass, our Women in Stem queen, canonically immortal, and she is totally demi!
Mulder and Scully, the ultimate will-they-won't-they, right? Is it just coworkers respecting boundaries? Friends to lovers? The slowest of slow burns? Idk man listen to this speech:
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Scully: Well it seems to me, that the best relationships, the ones that last, are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.
Come on, tell me that isn't the most demi thing you've ever heard!
I've seen fans read this as her just realizing or admitting that she has always loved Mulder but that's literally not what she says! And this is in 6.08, so after 6 years of working with Agent Foxy SMulder over here! And then they still don't even kiss until 7.04 and the first time it is implied they had sex is in 7.17 (which can I just say? is also followed directly by a scene of Mulder being heartbroken that Scully isn't interested in his crop circle slideshow, not exactly the peak of their relationship).
(As a demiromantic myself, also relate to this sentiment of "the best relationships." Like yeah we all have our preferences but I've always had this feeling of like a 'I actually understand real love better bc it's not sexual for me' type of a thing, which might be self-aggrandizing, but it's also the complete opposite of the allonormative 'sex is the ultimate goal of a relationship and the deepest act of love' bs)
A few episodes before (6.04) we also have this iconic moment:
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Mulder: Hey Scully? Scully: Yes? Mulder: …I love you Scully: Oh brother *sigh*
Another main thing I think of is in season one when we have this whole 'you have to have a life outside of work and obviously that means dating' thing
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But then the arc of the episode is that actually that ideal is clearly not her thing
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She goes on the date (pretty sure the only one we ever see in the series?) and is bored and uncomfortable and happily leaves to go hunt the Jersey Devil with her loser coworker instead
Also fun fact I learned when researching all this, there was originally a boyfriend character for Scully in the pilot (added by the executives) who was completely cut. And when you look at how the creator talks about it, I think it's clear this ^ episode was a direct response to that
Chris Carter: There was some pressure early on in the development of the show to establish that the characters had personal lives outside of the FBI, and we wanted to see who they were dating, and I felt that was all wrong. I felt the stories needed to drive the characters, and their work needed to drive them. That their work was all-consuming and that they had no personal lives, that this was a quest. A romantic quest, in the literary sense.
And that's def reflected in the writing throughout the whole show lol
Mulder: So Scully, what are you doing tonight, any big plans? Scully: Well seeing as how it’s Friday I was thinking I could get some work in on that monograph I’m writing for the penology review.
Just some beautiful career-driven nerds who find fulfillment in life in other ways!
Which as demonstrated in the above clip, clearly applies to Mulder as well
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Mulder: whAT'S a GIRL?
(aka one of my favorite lines lol and for the record he was going to meet his informant for alieum info)
Same episode as Scully's epic demi speech also gives us these gems:
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Scully: Dating advice? From whom? Mulder: Yours truly. Scully: … Mulder: Hello? Scully you there? Scully: I heard you… Mulder, when was the last time you went on a date? Mulder: I will talk to you later *hangs up* Scully: The blind leading the blind.
Holman: I’ve been envious of men like you my whole life. Based on your physical bearing I assumed you were more experienced. I mean, you spend everyday with Agent Scully! A beautiful, enchanting woman! You mean you two have never uh…?
(yeah you and every allo fan, buddy)
Mulder: I’m perfectly happy with my friendship with Agent Scully.
So yeah, I'd def say Mulder is somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum too, even if on paper it's in the "obsessed with his work" kinda way. He's a bit more complicated, and I haven't seen the show recently enough to confidently be more specific, but friendly reminder that making dirty jokes and watching porn and such are not mutually exclusive with aspec identities (I'd even argue that it's further evidence for rather than against, since the show does specifically include references to porn activity, and not actual dating subplots or shots of one-night-stands like others shows would, so he's satisfying those things without someone else (we DON'T talk about that one vampire episode! fr so much of that was OOC I almost dropped the show lol)). And he also falls victim to the, ah... 'SA a man but play it for laughs and like it's his own personal failing somehow' trope ("trust me the man knows how to kiss" ma'am he was literally pushing you away -_-), the one in 'Syzygy' is far worse (link if you wanna subject yourself to it) but also so very ace:
Detective White: So what are you doing at my house? Mulder: I was hoping you could help me solve the mystery of the horny beast. *cuts to Mulder talking to an astrologer about satanic symbols*
Mulder: *panics trying to get her to leave* White: *literally shoves him onto the bed and pins him* maybe we can solve the mystery of the horny beast! Mulder: Maybe we should just watch some television (:
(poor guy just wanted to netflix and chill lit.)
And kinda random but one of my favorite things about Mulder and Scully's relationship is that Mulder so clearly appreciates her intelligence and who she is. Like these moments when he jokingly and respectfully flirts with her come at such specific moments, best demonstrated by this crack edit lol:
(credit to the creator, I just needed the specific clip)
Ignoring Bambi and Sheriff Hartwell la la la la! Except also I mean it can easily be aesthetic attraction, it happens, and neither of those actually went anywhere (Mulder literally sleeps on his couch and uses his bed as a storage room, he wasn't bringing anyone home). They both also have weird exes that show up (tho rarely) but demi means they can totally have had connections with others in the past (and since Scully is still so attached to that guy in 'All Things' after all these years I say it checks out).

(also available in demiro and demiaroace:)
For the record, there are 11 seasons and 2 movies of The X-Files, and while I have watched all of them, that was like 5 years ago (wow I'm old), so I'm not taking responsibility for every single line or scene that ever took place. But the overall vibe is very clear, and random stuff like 'Never Again' or whatever the heck was going on with Fowley (ugggh) are clearly the outliers.
No matter how you frame it, Mulder and Scully's relationship is clearly one based in connection, not attraction. There are actually lines in S1 that indicate both of them see the aesthetic appeal in the other ("I think it's remotely plausible that someone might think you're hot") that prove that's not what it's about for them. It's about mutual respect and admiration. About trust and being there for each other through hardship.
Their relationship is one with years of emotional intimacy before anything physical. I'd even say they dip into QPR territory for a few seasons
And the thing is! It's kinda actually canon. It's literally intentional! It may not be direct representation by name, but honestly now I'm pretty convinced that Chris Carter would have loved to have been aware of these terms/concepts! It may be unwitting, but it is pretty deliberate, which is so evident if you listen to how the creators and actors talk about their relationship in the bts featurettes:
Chris: I was adamant from the beginning that Mulder and Scully should not be romantically involved. (s1)
(this poor man fighting the amatonormativity in media since day one!)
Gillian: Their relationship is platonic and there is so much respect and so much trust and they will risk their lives for each other. (s4)
Sheila Larken: It sounds cliché to say that they're best friends. But they're best friends beyond what lovers could ever be.
Chris: Scully loves Mulder, and Mulder loves Scully. It's a wonderful romance, it's just not a sexual romance, it's not a physical romance. It is a caring, tender, respectful relationship. It's an ideal, I would never want to do anything to threaten it, to change it. (s5)
(oh my gosh do you hear this! ^ I'm not making this up, even Scully would believe me!)
Gillian: Those moments where there is that intimacy, where even just the touch of a hand can be the same as, you know, making love in another series.
They were meant to be platonic and then they slowly and naturally developed into something more (hopefully not just bc of outside pressure but we'll get to that), and for that it's not just your everyday slow burn, but a relationship that is so much more.
Even early on they are allowed to be so openly sweet and affectionate with each other and it's just so chill. In general, the show is just written so different. Like in literally the first episode we have this scene where Scully comes to Mulder's hotel room in the middle of the night and takes off her bathrobe in just her underwear (so Mulder can check the marks on her back) and Mulder does not react at all. He (and the cinematography) is 100% respectful and normal about it, and then is just worried about her. Like how many other shows wouldn't dangle that as bait or make some unfunny comments of like 'man can't control himself' or whatever?
They are allowed to genuinely care about each other and be so tender, to be there for each other without any romantic or sexual implications (for a long long canonical time).
(will never shut up bc this is the sweetest most heart wrenching comfort hug in television history and it's in s2)
(So many more not pictured bc it's like the whole show and you get the idea) And this is a dynamic that continues into their relationship even when it has become romantic (this is the scene for the cuddle moment above and just ahh). And like check out this screen time ratio:
And 4 minutes of the kissing video is actually bts or deleted scenes stuff that wasn't in the show (another fun fact, Gillian and David did an unscripted kiss on the lips in 4.17 that the writers intentionally cut to save for the right moment) and the majority of the on screen kisses are just adorable cheek and forehead kisses (my HEART!)
All this plus the way the show gives these big ol poetic monologues about human nature and the meaning of life (that never have anything to do with sex) all the time. Like in the very least, if you're aspec there's a good chance you'll enjoy watching the show.
Perfect segue @im-a-goddamn-cat because you know what is so funny about all of this? All this amazing ace love? The allos HATE it! They cannot handle it! They cannot fathom that Mulder and Scully were platonic and nothing more for so long. They see all those amazing platonically intimate moments as proof there must be sex. The word "ship" was literally invented for Mulder and Scully. They were the original (and oh boy turns out shipping was implicitly aphobic from the beginning!). Like it's seemingly so universal, it is everywhere:
(spoiler alert, none of those are valid, it literally included their first meeting!)


(like I love you xfiles abridged but...)
Scully's canonical reaction to watching allos' sexualized interpretation of her (horrified):
(It's okay babe, just NEVER go on ao3!)
It's one thing to ship or want them to be together, but it is always about the sex specifically and it so often dips into this aphobia. I swear people treat it like it's a crime that they didn't have sex for so long (or more often/explicitly). Like why bro? Why is that so important to you? Why does love have to equal sex, huh? Why is this the only possible option?
People literally hate Chris Carter for that amazing quote about their romance not being physical! They say he is delusional or doesn't understand his own characters, or was gaslighting fans, just read this article or these ridiculous comments on this reddit post (like reddit is it's own warning but someone even said he "doesn't know how babies are made") Like I may not agree with all of the man's writing choices, but he deserves better than that! Esp since it is clearly intentional and well thought out. He knew what he was doing, it just didn't fit the allotypical standards.
The world just wants them to have sex so bad and us aces are so content.
🖤💜 Mulder and Scully: baffling and frustrating allos since 1993 💜🖤
#hot DAMN did this post get away from me!#at this point i should just get over my social anxiety and make video essays instead#think I have discovered a high possibility that chris carter is on the aspec and has no idea poor guy#poor guy bc there was so much pressure for romance and shit#i hope the MSR was actually his choice#txf#x files#msr#dana scully#fox mulder#mulder and scully#ace week 2024#asexual#demisexual#demiromantic#aspec#aspec characters#headcanons#except this is clearly canon come on#lol maybe i am due for a rewatch#ive had many a feminist awakenings and such since then and i'm very curious how that would affect my viewing#also i've taken a few folklore classes lol#my art#sticker
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Hallo, hate to bother ya but is it okay if I request poly turtles (dark au or normal) x y/n who like physical affection but is kinda selective about affection (don’t know how to describe it, kinda like Donnie I guess).
You don’t have to, just wondering!
Two posts within a week?? wow I might actually get back to a decent schedule, hopefully. I went with Normal! bc I have so much shit for Dark AU, I just wanna appreciate my original boys, y'know? (also, I'm fucking around with how my posts look, so, sorry abt that besties :'}) I left the cause of Reader's Selective Affection/Selective Touch up to interpretation but it's mainly written for those who get overstimulated (ASD)
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CW/TW: angst for Leo's areas and possible hints of Mikey guilt tripping you unintentionally at the end
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They actually take it pretty well once it's explained to them.
Donnie takes it the easiest, obviously, But Raph also takes it generally well, maybe not as well as Donnie but that's to be expected tbh, I can't decide who would take it the worst though, definitely Mikey or Leo, though.
Now that I think about it, Leo probably takes it worse but gets over it VERY quickly
Why?
Donnie. Donnie will actually beat his twin's ass over it, understanding how it feels to be touched when you don't want to be (even if your issues don't stem from overstimulation.)
But Mikey very rarely gets punished from it due to baby sibling privileges, it'll take him longer to respect that boundary, especially if you don't regularly enforce it with him.
Now that's not to say that he doesn't respect it, it's just, like Leo, he's a very touchy person affection-wise, his preferred choice of showing love is physical touch.
He'll end up stopping all-together until you tell him it's okay, until then? Surprise hugs from behind!
I'll get more into them now, that's just the things that came to mind immediately.
Raph respects it, he might mess up a little bit every once in a while, and he apologizes profusely once it happens
Because while he definitely respects your boundaries 1000%, his usual form of affection is physical touch, but he'll try to find other ways! It'll just take a bit :}
Donnie definitely respects it, scarily so, often avoiding even brushing against you if he can help it
As he has Overstimulation issues and hates being touched at times, he understands the feeling, often he struggles to understand if your selective touch doesn't stem from ASD/SPD (Autism Spectrum Disorder/Sensory Processing Disorder), but he treats it like it is so it's easier for him to relate to.
Leo is difficult about this, I consider Leo a boundary pusher when he doesn't understand or agree with something, for this, it's the former
He doesn't understand why you don't want him to touch you sometimes, if it goes on long enough, he might start to doubt you love him, as his insecurities kick in and overthink about it, he'll think you hate him and just can't find a way to break it to him that you don't love him as much as his brothers
His walls get wrecked and forcefully torn down during this, which is why he gets desperate for affection from you, leading to him getting his shit kicked in by Donnie, just treat him with patience and have a talk with him about it, okay? It'll make him feel a lot better
Mikey is also a Boundary pusher, but not intentionally! He's just.... super Physically affectionate..... he wants to cuddle his darling 24/7 and gets a little bummed during your No-Touch/Affection periods
He still tries to sneak in a hug or cuddle, leading to Donnie scolding him (Donnie is the only brother who calls him out on this behavior lmao), he slowly gets more and more respectful, especially if you call him out on it. He doesn't want to make you uncomfortable after all!
Unlike Leo, he doesn't get insecure about this, he knows you love him, you say it all the time! Why would you lie?
Once you get out of these moods or if this is a constant thing, warm up to the idea of being touched by them, they're ecstatic.
Raph loves cuddling and peppering you with kisses for hours and playing cutesy games like AC:NH on the switch, probably tickles you if you're okay with it.
Leo gets emotional and just clings to you, especially if his insecurities were really bad before you gave the go ahead, you're not allowed to pee or get up for ANYTHING for a couple hours lmao.
Donnie is a 50/50, mainly because if you are okay with touch again, he might be in an Overstimulated state, so sometimes you don't get to cuddle him, but when you do? He's clingy like Leo, understanding that he doesn't know when he'll get the chance to do this again.
Mikey lovebombs you, dragging you to the couch to hug and kiss, constantly complimenting you and whining about how hard it was to not hug you, because he loves you so much!!
All in all, just give them patience and communication and they'll try their best to make you comfortable
7/10, communication is key, boys, communication is key.
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Sorry if it's bad by the end, I'm super tired lmao, but I had the motivation to write and idk when I'll get more :'}
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