#as can her trumpie family

[schumigrace]

can tumblr, twitter and reddit stop shitting on Danica?

They are the ones online shitting online yet shes in front of the cameras at the circuits. People may not like her but bashing isn't the best. What if she read them and was in a sad moment of her life?

How would people like if it same things were said about their families?

she can get fucked

[im2tired4usernames]

Ugh I was excited for today until I found out I'd have to spend it with people that actively make me hate being alive hate the future and drain me off all energy physically mentally spiritually like a vampire I can't stand to be around her she is the definition of stupidity and even then that's generous as fuck this bitch has filled her brain with so much garbage I watch her brain cells die at alarming rates every single time she uses her vocal cords her giggles make me want to jam a sewing needle into my ear repeatedly so I can never have to hear it again its a friendly reminder that my parents decisions this time my dad's constantly makes me want to die

[mascara-pyjama]

People who don't absolutely hate trump supporters are so weird

[livelymoonwalker]

Celebrities treat your fans respect ✅

Treat your favorite celebrities as a human ❌

Can you imagine if people were harassing and stalking Michael Jackson and his family and then called him a “rude person” That fact he didn’t like yelling at fans or screaming in his face. Can some fans please be normal?.

Espceially, Fabio Jackson pretending to be a look-alike of Michael Jackson. I don't understand why some fans defend him when he’s a racist, z!0n*st, homophobic, and Trumpie supporter. Please stay away from me and MJ if you still support Floppio Jackson ❌. How can he claim to be a fan of Michael Jackson when Floppio is being problematic?! Fabio makes me ick 🤢. I wonder what Michael Jackson's reaction would have been if he were still alive. Of course, he would have been scared of Fabio Jackson and blocked his all accounts on social medias.

When Michael Jackson went shopping without disguising himself, people treated him like a normal human being too. This is how fans are supposed to behave, without harassing, stalking his family, or leaking his music. Yes, he loved his billions of fans, but people treating MJ as an object is WRONG. There's a music video called “Speed Demon” where he runs away from paparazzi and crazy fans, and the track "Privacy" from the Invincible album, because he wanted to lead a normal life just like you! Just like you! Please respect his decision too. You can learn from Michael Jackson's songs about his struggles with the media and stalkers. I remember reading an Ebony interview from 1987 where he sometimes regret about being famous and just wanted to enjoy his favorite places without being noticed. That's why he wore disguises so often.

He’s still famous musician but people forgot he’s still a human being :(

Chappell Roan is right about her fans there’s a videos from Tiktok. They need to treat her as a human. Please respect her decisions, whether she wants to give autographs and take pictures with her fans or NOT. She doesn't want to be harassed and stalked. As I've said before, fan and stan culture needs to be normal.

Leave Chappell alone

Leave MJ alone or leave your favorite celebrities alone cause it’s their decision.

Being a moonwalker/soldier of love/MJ fan is not just about having posters, pictures, or albums. It’s about standing up for him, not being ashamed of defending him against the medias, and ALSO appreciating his arts.

This isn't just about MJ; it's about all your favorite celebrities who deserve respect, so please, let’s learn to treat them like human beings. 💗🫶🏼

[butmakeitgayblog]

different anon here, and I want to acknowledge that you could be right… and your feelings are 100% valid

in all honesty, just casually looking at her overall “following” list on IG, she follows Obama, Biden, Harris and “potus” accounts… nothing overtly trump or his ideologies…

I just think it *feels* like a big jump to say she might be shifting away from those views. not everyone validates their beliefs on social media. but sure, there could be clues anywhere in there.

me personally? i don’t see how anyone who previously or may currently support obama, biden and harris can swing to supporting the exact opposite in such a relatively short period of time.

i may not be vocal online lately against so many keyboard warriors and bots, but i am very vocal in my personal life. frankly it’s exhausting to try and defend things online all the time and i’m not even famous. half the time you’re arguing with idiots or AI.

just my thoughts. absolutely understand yours also!

I mean it's not a jump, because I didn't jump there.

I said it looks odd. I said I hope she's not being swayed that way. I said she should get the trumpy tradwife stuff figured out.

I never once accused her of being a Trump supporter, and I didn't do that very pointedly because that's not something I know about her.

Pointing out oddities and making overt accusations are two different things, and I'm sorry if I sound gruff, it's not personally at you, but I just am starting to feel like I'm being misinterpreted here. As if my words are being used as an insinuation and launched off of and followed through to a conclusion that I am personally not making.

I'm not saying she's a Trump supporter, I'm saying it's odd that she follows a few Trump supporters. I'm not saying she's an ~aspiring tradwife~, I'm saying it's weird that she follows and likes tradwife content. I'm not saying because she doesn't post as often about political activism anymore it must definitely mean she doesn't still hold the same ideology, I'm saying it's weird that she's fallen silent at such a dangerous time in society. These are not outlandish things to note when they seem to differ so far from previous things she's shown.

I mean it wholeheartedly when I say it could be nothing. I'm not being cagey here! I'm saying exactly what I think! It's just weird!

As for flipping values, unfortunately that's simply just untrue. In a purely broad sense and forgetting ADC entirely, it's extremely easy to have your views changed through propaganda and coercive content. It's easy to have success or lack of success change your world view. Most everyone who has MAGA people in their lives will tell you that those people did not used to act like that. TT and IG is filled with stories of people who voted Trump and are now crying because their family has cut them off. You think their family knew they were Trump supporters? If it was shocking enough to cut them off, you think they had previously stated they supported him or his ideals around their family? Like. Assuming just because someone was one way, therefore they will stay that way, is part of what's gotten us into this mess. I know that's not what you're out and out saying, but it's still a point that needs to be made in general. People change, views change. It happens. And it usually starts with small things that get bigger and bigger and more encompassing. (Again, not an insinuation! Just a broad statement)

[whatiwillsay]

i think it’s important to ask: what does blame accomplish? plenty of arab americans i know abstained from voting bc their cousins are dying. we can say “oh it’ll be worse under trump” and blame them but the blame there lies with the DNC. she could have given an arms embargo. plenty of latinos voted for trump. we can say they should understand the consequences of mass deportation but the blame lies with the DNC, who did not counter message border lies. some leftists didnt vote for kamala. fine, the blame can be with them, but leftists are such a small % of the electorate, even if every hyper online socialist did voted for her, we wouldn’t hit 15 million. i talked to a lot of online leftists about voting, and my approach wasn’t to say “it’ll get worse under trump & it’ll be your fault” but tried to understand their reservations with casting a ballot and talk them through my poltical, moral, and philosophical reasoning without judgment or anger. that worked. of the 21 ppl i had convos with, 18 voted (not all of them voted at the top of the ticket but at least 12 voted dem down ballot). i don’t want ppl to blame. i want to know what i can do to move forward and i cannot afford to let my own ego and anger cost me allies in an uphill fight, neither can you. i’m being firm here bc it’s life and death, not bc i don’t understand the emotional impulse.

the ONLY way you can defeat maga is with an anti maga coalition. that is how PiS was defeated in Poland. PiS is poland's alt-right trumpy party and the ONLY way they took back parliament was by combining these parties:

greens, right-wingers, left-wingers, centrists, and independents ALL banded together to defeat the evil and it worked.

that's what should have happened on tuesday and what will have to happen in 2026 in the midterms (GET REGISTERED TO VOTE NOW IF YOU ARE NOT)

it's not my business to talk down to Muslims and brown people with dying family members in Palestine and I won't. if you have family or know people with family in Palestine I would just say to you I'm very sorry and make sure to say your goodbyes and do any heroic last-ditch effort to get them out now. Under Trump, Palestine will be leveled permanently. I would say the same for anyone who knows anyone in the Ukraine. Genocide won on Tuesday.

and by the way the biden admin TRIED to stop sending bombs to isreal. republicans blocked them. Harris could not have started an arms embargo. that power does not lie with the vp. Maybe she should have campaigned on it but it's too late now.

the bottom line is we all have to band together and democrats need to stfu up about identity politics and run on the economy (which they are literally better on). democrats also need to stop running women. it's sick and wrong but America hates women. there's a lot the dnc and dems need to improve on and be smarter about.

we didn't need 15 million more votes. we needed a few hundred thousand in some key states.

but also, it's just time to stop ligating all of this. it's time to band together, form our anti-Maga coalition, and get ready to resist.

and by the way i did exactly what you did with my platform here and I am in the midst of writing an action plan to share on my podcasts to inform people how we move forward.

[tayloralison]

Taylor's aunty Alison (Andrea's sister) is a Trump supporter imagine seeing her during family events thats even more awkward than having a Trumpie friend (who you are only friends with because of your boyfriend)

but you can't always pick your family so it can be more complex emotions. friends, however, you're in more control and you decide when to see them etc

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/761158838742335488/love-how-yall-are-calling-out-taylor-hugging?source=share

Anon is joking but I literally just saw someone comparing Taylor hugging Brittany with her hugging her mom but not agreeing with her politics. As in she has to live with and hug her mom, the same way Taylor has to with Brittany

… I also think again Swifties miss that this woman is a billionaire. Yes, if you depend on your parents or you’re underage then there’s fuck all you can do about their political opinions. Also if your parents or other family members are weird and even if you don’t depend on them like obviously you can’t be a complete asshole. I have this legit homophobic uncle (also the guy who tried to like shoot his now ex wife’s then lover, he’s just a crazy dude lol) and my dad is not close to him because of a bunch of stuff and he was SUPER weird when my ex and I were together and my dad got pissed at him about that (also other things) and now I’m with a guy so that man has tried to be nice to us again and both my dad and I are like “eh you’re kinda a trashy human tho we’re not sure we forgive you” lol but we still have him at big family functions and we still are both relatively nice to him and we both like all the pictures he posts on FB (and the ones his new new wife posts). Anyway like we don’t dig him per se but he’s my dad’s brother/my uncle. We deal with it. We aren’t THAT nice to him because we don’t depend on him but he’s still our relative so 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ whatever.

Brittany’s Tay’s bf’s work husband’s wife.

That’s really not the same thing. You shouldn’t throw stuff at them or be a compete cunt but cuddling your bf’s work husband’s wife is really not necessary lol even if she’s not a Trumpie. You can just be nice to her. You def don’t need to cuddle the Trumpie one.

[rainbowdaisy13]

The concert she went to wasn't even heavily pushed by PR. She just went because she enjoys spending time with this crowd. What normal person chooses this instead of taking time off to be with their family? I don't care what she said 4 years ago. People can change their political views. There's nothing pointing to Taylor being against Trump right now. She even dropped her Pride speech because she's in business with Trumpies. I would not be shocked to see her at games happy and smiling in videos with Butcker again like she did last year. And Jackson of course. When you stand for nothing you fall for everything, is truer than ever for Taylor. I don't even know where Karlie and the kids even fit anymore in this equation. I've been a Kaylor since 2014 and this makes me so sad to say: right now, if I start seeing Karlie with another women that would send romantic vibes, I'd be happy and relieved for her. Taylor is keeping herself as busy as possible, to avoid taking a break and being with them. She was barely around for Eli's 1st year of life. Why not take a break until the season starts back up? She could push articles about being with them, but she actually wants to be with them.

I agree with many of these points with the caveat that we have zero clue what either of them are doing when we aren’t seeing them pretending not to notice the paps

[socialistswiftt]

Her handing out a thank you note to this trash is not valid criticism. Her hanging out with brittany the trumpie who is not valid criticism. Her white feminism is not valid criticism. Her using and abusing the travels with private jets is not valid criticism. Her making piss poor merch is not valid criticism. Her sending out a story and not mentioning ana, a fan, who died at her concert is not valid criticism.

I can go on and on.

What the fuck is valid criticism then ? Enlighten us since apparently you’re so knowledgeable about it.

Her thanking Dave is not valid criticism.

All she did was thank him for defending her. This does not mean she thinks he's a good person or condones his behavior for being an alleged rapist.

Brittany and Taylor do not have a friendship. They are acquaintances at best due to Travis and Patrick working together. A lot of you automatically assumed they were besties. Furthermore, Taylor is not a leftist. She isn't going to ghost people who have different political views. Saying she's horrible for not doing this isn't a good argument, and if anything, it shows that leftist antis and swifties want her to be like them, which is unhealthy.

Her white feminism is a valid criticism.

The private jet argument is only valid if you're actively criticizing other celebs for their private jet use. Blaming Taylor and her alone is biased and unfair when she's not the only one who does this.

The fan that died at her concert is not valid criticism. Her publicly not mentioning her is not proof she didn't do anything for her family.

[helpformylove]

I'm worried my girlfriend is being abused.

Hi, i've made a new blog for this post as I don't want to share too much personal information.

for a bit of backstory, this post is about my gf, 14mtf, not me, as you can see by the title. she's not allowed to use social media and i'm concerned for her well being. some details may be inaccurate or vague but this is just from what i know.

at the surface she has pretty basic strict parents. can't close her bedroom door, cant use social media or download too many things on her phone, phone is heavily monitored, etc.

first issue i'll talk about mainly revolves around their impacts on her mental health. first off, as i stated before, she's trans. also bi. they're homo- and transphobic trumpies. not off to a great start. she has a younger sister who's 9 and the favorite child. her sis asks for something? no doubt she'll get it. she asks for smth? 50/50. favoritism is bad in general but it's just too much. hard to describe but it's wayy too obvious to say the least. it seems like they hate her. they yell a lot too. the slightest mistake will result in a harsh scolding, even if it's just something like forgetting to do the dishes. horrible for a kids mental health.

now, the physical stuff. the thing that has recently made me so concerned that i decided to make this post. for starters, my gf has not been taken to the dentist in years. she said she probably has a cavity and it hurts. not good. next, the food she's given. breakfast and lunch are always "find something" and during school, she buys lunch from there. for dinner, it seems to be the same thing or fast food most of the time. rarely eating out somewhere good or homemade food. meals usually include cereal, little bites muffins, bagel bites, pizza rolls, or snacks. not nutritious at all. now we'll talk about frequency and amounts of food. they tell her to stop eating so much. she is very skinny, not quite underweight though, has a bmi of 17.6. i feel like telling someone who's already built like a skeleton and trying to eat a healthy amount to stop eating isn't the best course of action?? especially when it's already obvious how much you eat fast food (gfs words, not mine). she's also yelled at whenever she complains about hunger or tries to go against this. last week my gfs parents didn't order groceries for days. she said she was struggling to find food in the house for about 3 days. when she finally got groceries, the only food she had to eat was white cheddar popcorn. not good in the long run. today, there were people coming to install lights in the cabinets. she wasn't allowed to go downstairs or eat while they were there, meaning she didn't get food for the whole day until around 2 pm. similar is said for when the family's cleaning lady comes by every other week, not allowed to get in her way. before she ate today, she said she was starting to shake, couldn't stand for long, could hardly move herself, was in pain, and barely had any energy.

there is obviously an issue here and i'm not sure how to deal with it. i don't want her to deal with this until she's able to move out but i don't know what would be the best course of action. i'm worried about her. If you don't have advice, the least you could do is reblog.

i don't want to seem so desperate but i really am. it feels like things keep getting worse for her and i don't want it to get too bad.

thank you so much for your time. if any more information is needed for a solution please tell me and i will ask my girlfriend about it. thank you again.

[girlsexbattle2]

hm. i- i just called the girl that raised me for the first eight years of my life and like. hm . shes a trumpie and says god hates gays but also hasnt called me a slur yet and i feel more at home talking to her than i ever do at my house. if all the people that feel like family to me are white trash (lovingly) can i call myself white trash by extension? no, definitely, but im going to be choking on this information for the next.... hours. like i knew they were out in the bounies but also i remember as a small child her telling me that she would love me even if i was a lesbian so like. idk. i think ive fallen for the old 'idolizing makes you forget who your thinking about' route. they shouted the nword back and forth at eachother. they didnt say it with a hard r tho nor with the intent of bigotry. i think i might go to church with them saturday, leave if things get uncomfy. maybe i can argue with more religious figures for funzies. i might load myself up on all that info tho first. can anyone tag me in christian debunks?

[hazelrose3637]

This is more for me to track my thoughts on this, but...

A lot of my family and a couple of my friends are insisting that we remain friendly and cordial with any family/friends who are Trump supporters. They think we need to bridge the divide, and we have to be open-minded about it. That not all Trump supporters are bad.

And I just...I know they're not all bad, and that they could do good things. But how do you reconcile that with the fact they chose a literal Nazi, who's admitted he wants to be a dictator?

I always considered myself to be a kind, forgiving person, but this election is really testing me. Where's the line between open-mindedness and complacency? How can you cross a divide when the other side refuses to listen? Or in the more extreme cases, want to make it worse?

I've already cut off family in 2020 when it was clear they not only supported Trump, but also a lot of his ideas regarding immigrants and BLM to name a couple. And now, a friend that has helped me through hard times is a Trump supporter. Not only that, since we live in California, she voted to keep prison slavery.

(Addendum: she thought it wasn't actually slavery cuz the prisoners get paid, but when I explained it was more than that the prisoners are being forced to do these jobs, then she started to get it.)

My sister is also dealing with some friend drama, and I think(?) she's cutting them off. But otherwise, we're the only two considering ending contact with our friends over this. Everyone else I talked to? They say it's best to stay friends with these people:

to close the divide in this country

because they're not that bad

But how much are we supposed to teach them? How much are we supposed to guide them when this is what they knowingly chose? And my Trumpy friend said that God will be with us...but I don't like the idea of just sitting back and waiting for God to do something. And I really don't like the idea of using God as an excuse for either not doing anything or for "forgiving" the other side.

Does the other side understand what they voted for, or how their views affect others? If Trumpians don't think they did anything wrong, then why and how do I forgive them?

How can you give someone a second chance when they don't want it? And if we should be sympathetic/empathetic to them, then why aren't they to us? The Trump supporters aren't trying to learn or listen. And look, I know being patient and open-minded is important, but again, how much am I supposed to be in this situation?

I'm grateful my friend started to listen about the prison slavery. But I also feel like I shouldn't have to explain it to her. And my family wouldn't listen about Trump using the military to attack citizens just for a lousy photo op with an upside-down Bible.

Now, I'm just repeating myself, so I'll end this section here. Hopefully, the update is happier.

TW: US Politics, self-harm, suicide, lots and lots of ranting

I think my friend voted for Trump.

When I asked her who she voted for, she said (and I'm summarizing here) that she has the right to keep her vote to herself and that she'd made the decision over the past few years to keep politics to herself and out of friendships. She does have that right...but I wonder if she said that cuz she knows I hate Trump, and she doesn't want to admit she voted for him?

Besides that, she thinks the media is at fault for making Trump look bad, and she knows that (and I'm directly quoting here) "half the country is taking the news very hard and the other half is celebrating." And the other day, I told her that a couple friends of mine either self-harmed or attempted. Her response?

"And the fact that the media has played it up so much that it would drive anyone to extreme emotional distress or physical harm is inexcusable."

Now, this may just be me being overly sensitive to Trumpian rhetoric, but blaming the media for this? Yes, the media is flawed, but none of them made Trump look bad; he did that on his own. And hearing a blanket blame for media just...it makes me think of Maga supporters going "Fake News!" I don't know if she intended this or not.

And then she ended her message with God is in charge. Which...I'm a Christian witch, so I do believe that, but still, just because God is in charge, doesn't mean this is God's will. And it doesn't mean we can just sit around and expect Him to do everything for us.

I'm just hurt and confused right now. She's helped me through some dark times, but even the thought of her thinking Trump is ok? Or at least thinking it's the media's fault for making him look bad? It sucks. And, I don't know if I can keep being friends with someone who legit doesn't see anything wrong with Trump.

[mars-ipan]

just came out to my grandpa like. for real :)

[agirldying]

digesting early childhood trauma pt. 3

another facet of my childhood i often overlook is my parents. this one's a little long because there's a lot of tea about my dad and i haven't really thought about this before.

lets start with my dad - when i was younger we used to be much closer and we'd play games and have fun together, i used to sit inside a tote bag and he would swing it in the air from side to side and i would scream and laugh, i remember he'd spin me around in the pool and stuff. but every time i cried it would set him off. he would accuse me of "making a scene" and would yell me to stop crying.

i have always been absolutely 100% horrible at doing math so my dad would sit down in the dining room and do math homework with me. but i got wrong answers all the time and he was very impatient and would shout "No!" like the answer was so obvious and i was avoiding it on purpose or something. it made me feel even more insecure about math and every time i guessed my answer i would say it very timidly in fear of being yelled at. especially if i kept getting the answer wrong, i'm pretty sure he would just get up and walk away if not just scoff at me. i really feel like this experience made it really hard for me to even attempt to do my homework at home, so i got used to doing it all at school if not in my bedroom, and at this point i pretty much do all of my homework in my room.

my dad is also very opinionated and stubborn, so as i grew up and entered teenhood, him and i butted heads a lot and got into arguments and even screaming matches at times. i remember one time, not sure how old i was but imma guess i was maybe 11 or 12? i also don't remember what led up to it but all i remember is being in the living room with my dad and he was all up in my face yelling at me, and i decided to put my foot down and yell back, at which point he threatened to throw my phone in the garbage so i stopped.

then when i was about 16 or so we only got into more arguments as our political views drifted farther apart (he's a republican im pretty sure? thankfully not a trumpie though). one time a family friend made a facebook post making fun of emotional support animals on flights where a guy pulled up with sort of like a rolling bar of alcohol and was like "this is my emotional support bar" or some shit. so i commented and was like "wtf is this ableist shit" and then she was like "omg how dare you swear at me on my own facebook post i'm contacting your father right now" so i was like oh great. soon enough my dad storms in and yells at me about how you can forge a doctor's note to allow an ESA on the flight and how people bring peacocks and pigs on the flight and how that one girl flushed her hamster down the toilet at the airport or something and was overall just trying to say that emotional support animals are just a euphemism for pets you want to bring with you everywhere. and at that point i knew that there's no arguing with my dad so i just sat there quietly until he started repeating his points so i said "you said that already" and then he mimicked me and said it back to me and then stormed out.

he also used to say a ton of fucked up shit to us at dinner like how he believed transgender people were no different than transracial people or whatever and that black people in hoodies should realize they're suspicious and that he as a musician reserves the right to refuse to perform at gay weddings because watching them kiss makes him uncomfortable or whatever his stupid reason was. also after one of my friends died by suicide he tried reassuring me by saying she was going to die that way regardless. so him spouting all this stupid stuff really deeply strained our relationship but i never said that outright because i figured he was dying on those hills.

at one point i told my therapist about how i'm not close with my dad and don't even care about that and she scheduled a session to mediate between my dad and i. basically it was good in that she allowed us to take turns talking without interrupting each other but the whole point was to be closer and do more things together after the session but that quickly fell through.

so because of all this my dad and i are really not close at all, in fact his perception of me seems to be from when i was 13, even though i'm 22 now. like he thinks that my autism is like a personality trait to me and that my only interest/skill is with technology. and while he now also knows i'm a poet because my parents attended my publication party, that's still virtually all he knows about me and i'm honestly happy with that. i don't really feel like he deserves to really know me after how he treated me growing up.

that being said my dad has changed a lot since and while he still has a lot of bigoted and far-right opinions on shit he's much more considerate especially since i came out as trans (even though he sent me a letter back saying he basically rejected that idea but would call me a nickname of my birthname instead of my birthname). i think he understands that i'm an adult now so i'm going to disagree with him and he's just going to have to accept that.

i also will mention that because he struggled with money growing up, he financially supports me to the point that i haven't worked more than a month in my life. i have an allowance of $60/week and it's livable for me because i don't ask for much, i'm not materialistic really at all, and anything school or food-related is reimbursed, generally speaking. i am privileged to live like that but the con is that i have an extremely poor work ethic and i have a hard time understanding the true worth of money when it's given to me for free. it's hard to even want to break the cycle and get a job knowing i get the equivalent of a paycheck from doing nothing. it makes me feel ill-adapted to the responsibilities of adulthood and it seems like my parents didn't expect that. i know they just want me to not have to worry about having enough money but i honestly wish they gave me less.

[rantsintechnicolor]

Adopted for TG (updated)

It’s Thanksgiving. For a while there, my family dominated the holidays, but after a few years we decided we would go to W’s parents in OC for Thanksgiving and my family for Christmas, because my young cousins were less annoying and better behaved than W’s young nephews. We haven’t been much to the OC due to W’s dad’s prison drama and the pandemic. (Oh, and because they love Trump.) We haven’t been going anywhere really, with the business being so new and a few of W’s migraines having the worst timing.

These days we make the conscious decision to stay so our business may benefit from any Black Friday revelers, like lots of small businesses. It’s sort of a crucial move, because funds are depleted after the harvest, and we hope very much to limp into the new year, hope very hard to see gains, hope very hard that this will get easier.

So for TG, we try to get adopted. Our favorite family, our first choice, did indeed adopt us. The Rs. We go camping with them every year at the Kern River. We were in a band with P. C is our best friend and we see her every week. We have been part of the family for many, many years. 

And it was all going to be fine and relaxing with the following folk: 

P-- grandpa

D-- grandma

S-- son of P and D

C-- daughter of P and D

G-- husband of C

O-- grandson, son of C and G, age 5

and then us. 

Now, Ch is coming with Da and their three girls. So that’s:

Ch-- son of P and D

Da-- wife of Ch

Sa-- granddaughter, child of Ch and Da, age 16

V-- granddaughter, child of Ch and Da, age 13

A-- granddaughter, child of Ch and Da, age 7?8?9?

AND I-- Sa’s boyfriend. 

Ch is P and D’s eldest son. There are hard feelings between P and Ch-- they do not speak and the grandparents rarely have access to their granddaughters. We have been instructed not to mention Covid because Ch has some very strong opinions about it. (C says, “Ch says it’s (covid) not a thing.”) Also, that we are not to grill I and scare him. 

Wha?! Now. Fair. P and Ch think they are right about everything so they won’t back down if they have strong opinions. And this is a rare occasion when P gets to spend time with his granddaughters and we should work hard to see it doesn’t get spoiled. Still, I hate to have my speech restricted. And honestly, if we wanted to hang around conservative folk and listen to some trumpy shit, we would have visited W’s folks in OC.

Grilling this kid I? Is that like roasting? I don’t even know this kid. Why would I want to grill or roast him? Do they mean interrogate? (I have been known to be an aggressive asker of questions.) How do you learn about someone if you don’t ask questions?! Maybe I shouldn’t even ask questions, because this is probably not the first or the last boyfriend Sa will ever have, if we are being real. For peace, maybe I should just say hello, how are you, what’s your favorite color, and forget him. 

So that’s 6+2+5+1. It’s not the small intimate family gathering I was hoping for. It has grown to a rather monstrous size for today’s standards-- or my standards of today. Fourteen, which includes a guy who doesn’t think Covid is a thing. Can I still be gay at this party?! 

Our hosts are wonderful people. They are as intuitive as they are kind and generous. We will be eating outside to contend with Ch’s Covid denial. I will avoid the situations that cause me stress. And C says I can dress like a vampire and talk about all the gay shit I want, so at least I will be having fun in the garden sipping all the bubbling wine, looking picturesque and unapproachable. Maybe I’ll play cribbage with S.

I’ll let you know how it goes.

UPDATE: it went fine. The teenagers ignored us and we carefully monitored our alcohol intact so as to keep our contentious opinions where they needed to be. When the contentious contingent took their leave, we gave thanks for the people in are lives with whome we can speak to openly and respectfully even though we don't always agree.