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In big weddings, I think people always do the walk down the aisle thing even if they aren’t church weddings. She probably did walk down the aisle and they had an officiant but it wasn’t religious. The way Tom was dressed made me think he was a groomsmen, and I don’t believe people do those if they aren’t going to have a proper ceremony. I think they had a traditional non religious wedding

that is likeliest

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Wait - file a restraining order against crack heads — are you ok? Are you at least safe in your apartment or safe when you’re with fg/ at his place - idk the details where that’s at? Filing a restraining order would suggest problems, but idk I mean physically at least are you safe?

yea I’m in my apartment and so far they’ve only made threats/harassed by phone and text message. FG’s also fine because since they moved out, they haven’t been physically back (but they told me yesterday they’re coming sooo we’ll see and maybe he’ll have to come to me, but that’s far for him, or go to a hotel or something). We had to call the police on them tons of times when they lived there. The dad did flash a knife at FG - he didn’t come at him but he showed that he had one. Idk guys these people are SO terrible.

They go through spells of being ok when they’re not on crack but they’re the WORST on crack.

Dad and daughter got out of rehab on Tuesday and yesterday was Thursday and in their messages and phone calls and all, it seemed like they’re using again. Which is nuts to me lol like if you’re gonna use again IMMEDIATELY??? Also they only did 21 days (I counted) which seems very short for crackheads like them. Most programs afaik lol and I think *I* do know lmfao are either VERY short (like check you’re physically fine and give you one counseling session) or min 28 days so maybe they skipped on the last week? Not that an extra week would help them much. I think they needed to stay longterm. Like you get 3-6 month programs and that’s what they should’ve done. If they wanted to get better/get sober/stay clean. Which I mean… evidently they really actively don’t.

Do NOT do crack y’all.

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So are you guys all not going to watch the new Harry Potter? Idk, I couldn't disagree with JK Rowling more, I throw some money towards the Trevor Project when I can, but idk. JK Rowling already has more money than God even if this new show or audiobook never got made, and especially if I don't watch the show or listen to the audiobook. I pay for HBO anyways, I have for years, and I was definitely planning on watching whenever it came out. Idk, maybe I need to think about it more

I guess I see your point re HBO subscription but she still gets paid and also imo it reinforces in both her head and in consumers’ heads that her views are not THAT bad. But like. They are. This lady isn’t “just” saying like trans women shouldn’t compete in the women’s sport categories or EVEN that children shouldn’t medically transition and should wait till adulthood to do that - which are eh problematic viewpoints but both come from ignorance imo rather than malice and idk I’ve heard both things and I’ve tried to explain but people don’t listen properly and just to “I’m not transphobic, adults can do what they want”. Also a girlie I know holds both those views BUT get this their argument for no trans women in women’s sports is if you went through puberty as a boy you have different physical makeup than someone who went through puberty as a girl and so I was like “so what you’re saying is… trans women can’t do sports? Because you don’t want them to transition while prepubescent because “they can’t consent” but you then don’t want women who transitioned as adults to compete?” and she had no real answer to that lmfao.

Anyway this was a side rant about people basically not thinking things through BUT JKR is LEGIT transphobic. She fucking hates trans people sooooo much and idk what trans people did to her that makes her such a hateful cunt. She just… is uber transphobic. And I don’t vibe with that.

also once I knew like… how much she hates trans people, because in the books - HP for the moment but her detective books are, per the internet bc I haven’t read them, even worse - almost every villain who’s a women is described as overly masculine and like every fourth villain who’s a man is described as overly effeminate. I also noticed how heteronormative the books are. I obviously don’t expect them to include explicitly gay characters because they are children’s books written in the 90s and early 00s but 1) everyone ends up with other characters from the books 2) “healthy marriage” is a big theme, the “good people” and even the not so great people have healthy marriages and if they’re alone like they’re pathetic losers 3) I don’t want to count them but every other woman character doesn’t work and tbh except for Tonks and McGonogall and JKR’s headcanon for the trio’s future for Hermione (but like this isn’t even in the book lol she added it later and I guess ya retconned Dumbledore gay), the women who DO work (Umbridge, Rita Skeeter, even Trelawney and ACTUALLY EVEN Madam Hooch) are villains of varying degrees. Madam Hooch isn’t a villain but she’s “masculine” and harsh and stuff. Finally - maybe not because I mean I could carry on for quite a while lol with weird shit in the books but this one is just bizarre - Umbridge is HEAVILY implied to have been raped by the centaurs. This is weird because… what a weird “punishment” to give to a character AND back to the gay people thing like JKR felt comfortable heavily implying THAT in a children’s book. Anyhow.

that’s why I personally don’t support her at all and feel quite strongly about that and do not want to watch the show.

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lyrics you relate to this week?

yk I’ve not been listening to music because I left my AirPods at FG’s on accident and I haven’t been motivated enough to sort it out hence yk what I was saying about me being unhappy with my meds and needing to go change them.

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Who do you think cried more at their wedding, Jack or Saoirse?

Honestly it depends on the answer to that church/ceremony question which remains a mystery. Because at weddings with an aisle and the bride coming down it, at every (first lollll because my BIL didn’t) wedding I’ve been to, the guy gets very teary at that point and the girls are usually very smiley and all. If they did something like that for the party, same thing. But like at Dr Blank Space’s wedding - which was SUPER interfaith lol because her mum is Catholic, her dad is Muslim, her husband’s family the mom is Eastern Orthodox and the dad is some form of Protestant - they had a signing and at the party they did have an aisle but they walked it together and she def got more teary than him during speeches. So idk lol to me it’d depend on the way the wedding actually worked.

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https://x.com/mavericksmovies/status/1952870130964427041?s=46

me thinks he likes shakespeare

lol it would appear so.

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nat, you haven't posted in a day!

yea I was just busy with other stuff and uninspired about celebs. I had a bunch of lessons which was good, I went to see my psychiatrist because I’ve not been that happy with what I’ve been on tbh specifically because I’ve had very bad anxiety but also because I’ve had super low mood the last few days and like lack of motivation and an inability to do a lot of basic functioning and like while I have genuine reasons to be stressed and sad yk like I have objective reasons for being stressy depressy but I’m not tidying and I skipped showering a few days and like ok that’s not stressy depressy that’s a genuine problem so ya we changed my meds, I saw my mom, and then… the crackheads finished rehab so they’re out again and harassing us again and it sucks extra hard because I really want to be done with FG lol or at least get legitimate space from him and like fetch my cat and some pots and stuff that’s still there and idk maybe we will see about November onwards when we have short term bookings again but likeeee no because now I have to also go file a restraining order against the crackheads idk. He’s already filed for his.

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I was googling it, but to confirm: Sersh and Jack did not have a church marriage right?

I’m really not sure. Because a lot of the reporting on it has been wrong. The signing was OBVIOUSLY super curated (idk a single person who held the party while doing the signing -usually only the witnesses and immediate family and maybe a couple other close friends) but they did have a big party with friends, including celeb friends, in attendance. The thing is most their friends are normies so that’s why/how they kept it quiet. They could’ve had a church ceremony idk. But also Jack would’ve had to convert to Catholicism and otherwise I’d imagine it’d be pointless for Saoirse to do a religious thing. And I think Jack dgaf. With interfaith marriages I think most people either want a “weird” unique thing that’s very them and incorporates all traditions they like ykwim or wanted/imagined but ALSO with Catholicism and any form of Protestantism like… there aren’t THAT many differences to make it special. So idk lol. Maybe they did in a Catholic Church because idk how we’d know and signed the papers at the Registar’s office like idk because the reporting on that wedding has been pretty demonstrably wrong.

Like the dog thing also - reporting always makes it sound like they have Fran but their dog is a completely different dog and Fran is tbh Saoirse’s mum’s dog lol. Might’ve always been the mum’s dog. They have a different dog. Their dog is called Stella lol. Idk why reporters cannot get that right. Jack and Saoirse have a dog called Stella. Saoirse’s mum Monica has a dog called Fran ffs.

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I feel like a bad person saying this, but I'm finding it increasingly hard to be principled about stuff, online it's so overwhelming, like every piece of media is connected to something problematic, and everything and everyone is problematic. IRL on the other side I feel like people don't care at all about anything lol. Also makes me wonder about overlap between those two, do people shaming other people online walk the talk in real life

I do get that. In real life, loads of people - I’d say most people - have views that are… not great. And the internet is filled with as Taylor said sanctimonious soliloquies. My personal rule irl is not to pay for content from creators who hold views I profoundly disagree with. I’ll pirate sometimes but I don’t stream or go to the cinema or buy those books or watch their podcasts or GIVE THEM ENGAGEMENT ONLINE!!!! The latter is so important to me because the more people engage with their content even just to hate on them, the more opportunities these people will have. So… sanctimonious soliloquies help them directly.

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I was following both Aarika and Calvin, at the time of the 2nd breakup, and there definitely was an overlap with Vick. Aarika had just moved to Ibizia, gave up her LLC in the US because they were permanently moving forever, and it wasn’t long before he flew her back to the states on his jet, into a guest house on his US property. His pr through the Daily Mail made it seem they broke up because she was staying in the US, which was not true. She was with him when he moved to Ibizia, and with him when Vick started dating him. His fans seem to think he bought her silence…again. Also, her friend made a cryptic quote about “fans,” to Aarika, implying it was also a reason they broke up. I guess it was a not so funny inside joke. I know it was a rough time for her because she mentioned on one of her stories about stuff she went through a couple of years earlier without saying CH’s name, or what happened. I feel sorry for her, because she was very young when she met him, and now is pushing 30, and is aging out of modeling.

the thing is she wasn’t even ever a real model lol but yes she wasted a huge amount of time on him instead of figuring out business interests or building her influencing brand or for that matter finding a husband who actually legit wants her. And yes, obviously there was overlap. Calvin dumped Aarika for Vick. And I don’t know if he bought her SILENCE per se but he definitely gave her a cash out and that car and their pets like to look after her imo because he did care about her but he just didn’t really want a future with her. Not like… fully ykwim? Like she was always a placeholder for if he didn’t find someone better and more inspiring for him.

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I think what anon meant is it's ok to consume existing media - so if you have the books or DVDs or merch like that you bought years ago, not burning them doesn't make you a bad ally (although I think there are signs in the text that she's weird lol). but if Hogwarts brings you comfort and you have the books from 2007 or the DVDs from 2011 like... not throwing them out is not a disaster. making new projects that benefit her or buying NEW stuff is bad allyship. // No, yeah I agree with this. If you consume HP and get happiness from it because it reminds you of a simpler time then you're not a bad person. I was trying to say people who willingly still work with her professionally are questionable because they have to know how extremely TERFy she is. I mean Harry Potter himself Daniel Radcliffe said he would never work with her again because of her views.amd I think Emma and Rupert have too.

1000000% agree and yea all three og “kids” said she holds fucked up views. But if you enjoy the original movies (fantastic beasts came out once she started airing her views but I guess u can pirate it? But ya more questionable) and want to reread the books or wear your merch pajamas from 10 years ago because they’re soft and make you feel happy, I think that’s valid. I still have my HP mug and I do own the books (no longer display them though although 3-7 are hardbacks with original covers and people do think that’s somewhat cool weirdly?) and the DVDs. Haven’t watched or reread in a while but I’m not gonna burn that stuff. I do plan to give the show a miss tho lol. I just don’t want to financially support HER anymore and I do side eye everyone who gets involved with this stuff (although the three new kids are… kids… so also tricky lol because how u tell a kid they can’t be Harry Potter or Ron Weasley because JKR sucks ass idk). Riz I’m legit disappointed in. I did expect better from him.

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Personally I'm ok with people consuming HP media, we can't all be perfect angels and allies, but actively taking work I don't support. I'm disappointed by Hugh and Riz, you don't have to defend JK, but you are complicit still. I'm not cancelling them, but I'll be finding Riz a lot less sexy now lol// I mean I don't know if you're okay thing yourself to someone who openly hates trans people to the level JK does I think it goes a bit beyond "we can't be all perfect angels and allys" idk I feel like there isnt an excuse to be made at this point willingly working on a project that going to make her money. Complicity is just as bad sometimes.

I think what anon meant is it's ok to consume existing media - so if you have the books or DVDs or merch like that you bought years ago, not burning them doesn't make you a bad ally (although I think there are signs in the text that she's weird lol but I didn’t know it THEN). if Hogwarts and that whole world brings you comfort and you have the books from 2007 or the DVDs from 2011 like... not throwing them out is not a disaster. making new projects that benefit her or buying NEW stuff is bad allyship.

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You know what I find interesting? Taylor joked abour deep throating and many other sex jokes on myspace, but then when she debuted she became this symbol of a "good Christian girl." Was that because of country music and becoming a celebrity? She clearly never shied away from sex// I think a lot of this is to do with as nat pointed out in her original response to 2000 purity culture but also the fact that she started off with country music which is a very conservative or at least was at the time. There needed to be a good Christan girl for kids to look up to sp Britney Spears did currput anymore people. Even though she was also very much going got the good girl Christian vibe.

I think being a "good role model" was just very important at that time (and yes especially in country or for teen stars)

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Personally I'm ok with people consuming HP media, we can't all be perfect angels and allies, but actively taking work I don't support. I'm disappointed by Hugh and Riz, you don't have to defend JK, but you are complicit still. I'm not cancelling them, but I'll be finding Riz a lot less sexy now lol

lol I agree

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https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/791121024545669120/you-know-what-i-find-interesting-taylor-joked // are you guys seriously comparing her private (i’m aware that they were technically public but she wrote these before she was famous and this was her personal account) comments that she wrote under her friend’s posts to things she was saying to the press? ofc she was sexual in private, she’s never been a nun and never claimed to be! she just didn’t want creepy men sexualizing her and she didn’t want the convos around her music to be about her sex life…which is more than normal at 16-20

sure, she also had a publicist at the time who was crafting a girl next door, goodie two shoes persona for her but she was also never overtly sexual and has never felt comfortable writing explicit lyrics so it wasn’t too far from her actual personality

I do agree

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If people were defending JK Rowling, I would call them TERFy, but I guess me personally, I don't see just agreeing to do an audiobook as endorsing terf views. Other people can definitely have different lines in the sand of course. JK Rowling is an asshole and a moron, but she wrote an iconic story, and of course actors are going to want to be a part of it. If they don't take the role someone else will, the audiobook is still going to get recorded. Just my opinion

also kinda true but I mean I think the people involved are… not BOTHERED by her views because if they were (some people are!?) they wouldn’t get involved.

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Loads of British celebs have their placenta dried and put into capsules and take one a day for weeks post birth. Lottie and Phoebe Tomlinson, Samantha and Billie Faiers and many more. It's a thing in the UK but also in LA. These American women have eaten their placenta:

Mandy Moore · Elle King · Rachel Missie · Christina Haack · Kim Kardashian · Chrissy Teigen · Kourtney Kardashian

loads of people do it for sure but I mean it’s… not recommended by doctors.