#and no the autistic isn’t autistic people

[plaidos]

It's weird how JK Rowling is anti autistic, yet made an autistic coded character (Newt Scamander).

It also says a lot about her how the majority of the Harry Potter cast want nothing to do with her now that she's full mask off and has proven to be a bigot.

Also, I feel sorry for the Harry Potter fans that grew up loving this series only to eventually find out what a piece of shit JK Rowling is.

I also feel bad for the cast. There's a couple of pictures I've seen where Emma, Daniel, and Rupert are at the premiere of the first Harry Potter film in 2001, and one of Deathly Hallows part 2.

The three have distanced theirself from her and I'm glad they have.

i mean. it isn’t really weird at all? like JK Rowling isn’t nebulously “grrr i hate autistic people” she is just ableist in a way that enables her to say shit like “autistic people are too confused to be allowed to transition”. i doubt she meant Newt Scamander or any of her other autistic-seeming characters (it’s been a while since i gave a shit but Luna Lovegood springs to mind) to be like, literally actually autistic, she probably was just like “oh i want to make one of those soft boys with particular interests. one of those real Sheldons. a straighter Alan Turing”. the same way that Sheldon Cooper actually is canonically NOT autistic — because if they make him autistic canonically (which he would undeniably be diagnosed as were he real) then suddenly all the jokes about what a mean loser he is for having a spot become obviously bigoted.

autistic coded characters are in fact incredibly popular amongst people who are bigoted towards autistic people, because the way anti-autistic bigotry manifests isn’t as overt hatred of autistic folks (usually) but of condescending pity to us & hatred of the ways we are inconvenient to them.

this, i think, is part of the problem with people just posting “Um JK Rowling hates autistic people, she’s anti autistic” like no not really, she’s not really any more ableist to autistic people than any other rich white neurotypical british cis woman, she literally only gives a fuck about autistic people at all so she can use them as a token in a debate. by accepting that premise i think people are being as intellectually dishonest as she is.

[rouge-fauna]

I wish there was a way to create like a scrap book or something of all of the supportive posts on all the social medias to send to Dream, because I feel like the people on Dream’s side are really spread out at this point and if all he’s seeing is Twitter it just not a lot and can’t help him feel good. And like for him not just to see that people support him no matter what or whatever but that people actually relate to him. That we see what’s happening even if no one else does. That he is not alone in being made fun of for any of these things from social inappropriate behavior, speech and logic to sexual orientation. Not just so he knows people have his back, but knows he isn’t alone and isn’t weird or wrong or insufficient or worthy of this treatment… I have been hurt so bad in situations like this with like 20 people, I can’t even fathom what it must feel like to have hundreds of thousands (millions?). And don’t even get me started on the content creators, who make the people who betrayed me look like angels…

Anyways… I’m sorry I’ve talked a lot about this over the past week, especially when I strive to keep my main blog more dsmp related and drama free for the most part for anyone not wanting to get involved. And usually I wouldn’t have gotten involved and in the past I have been annoyed at first or whatever but then tried to ignore it and move on. This time I didn’t (couldn’t?), I’m not sure why this is different. Why this drama just bothers me so much more, it’s not like injustice, lies, bandwagon, hypocrisy or any of these things are new… my best theory is that so many of the things people are attributing to Dream being a “proper movie villain” are things I see in myself so perhaps it feels as though the internet is against me too? Or that it hurts so much to see someone struggle with the same things you have? Or maybe it’s the hopelessness that comes with my very first prediction that no matter what autistic people will always be disliked. I don’t know, I think this has bothered me more than when people harassed me and called me ableist in September… like it’s just so… but again, I will say having y’all commiserate with me in this has helped a lot and I guess I want Dream to feel that too.

[flutterpieprincess]

There are lots of people within the agere community who do talk abt the negative aspects of age regression a lot, they just don’t get as much traction. I think they aren’t as popular because I think it’s sort of an unspoken rule that like…yeah of course regression can be negative. Most ppl who regress at all it’s because of early or mid/late childhood trauma, so a lot of people are intimately aware of the negative feelings that come up, so it almost seems sort of redundant to constantly talk about it.

I occasionally see awareness posts like “age regression isn’t always fun and happy it can be scary and depressing sometimes” and I’m always like “yeah…duh?” and I tend to just scroll past or not acknowledge it. Cuz it’s obvious to me, anyone who legitimately tries to claim that age regression is always 100% positive…I don’t think a person like that exists actually.

and to be honest I don’t think niche online internet communities are the best places to engage in praxis. I’m not a researcher, or a medical professional, neither are the vast majority of people online. I’m not interested in that, I just want to have a space online that is relatively safe and where I can engage in my hobbies and interests. And I think a lot of people feel the same way as well.

idk, I’m just here to live my life on my lil corner of the internet just like everyone else is. I definitely agree with a lot of what your saying, I just think for a lot of people it might seem kinda redundant or pointless to talk about these things since it seems obvious. if some researcher would like to pay me like 20 bucks to tell them all the gritty details abt regression then sure but I don’t think the general attitude around negative age regression is gonna change…I don’t even align myself with a particular agere community (I was around when chire and cglre communities were fighting…iykyk).

im also autistic so I don’t take any offense to what ur saying and I agree with a lot of it, just kinda sharing my thoughts n ideas on why I think things r the way that they are

sometimes I see criticism towards online agere communities mostly boil down to “why don’t they discuss the negative or traumatizing parts of age regression and only the positive parts ?” and my response is…why would I do that?

seriously why would I share very sensitive, personal information about myself, my mental health and my trauma on a social media website? be so fr rn. it would add 0 benefit to my life and mental health and just leave me vulnerable to predators and bad people.

you know who I do talk to about those things with? my therapist. my psychiatrist. ykno, the people who I pay to listen to me talk to about my mental health problems.

I think people have gotten used to others constantly oversharing about their mental health issues that when others don’t do it, it makes them uncomfortable. idk that’s just a personal theory but I can’t think of another reason why someone would want a community full of trauma survivors and those struggling with mental health issues to share intimate and personal details abt their struggles for funsies

[lesbianstarlightglimmer]

“Is he acoustic?” “She’s just a little artistic.” “He’s restarted”

Exploding you with my mind. Die.

[ontheoutside-lookingin]

“She’s so sweet she’s always going out of her way to help others” quick someone give that girl all the love and safe space she deserves before being “sweet” (pathological people pleasing as a trauma response) destroys her and leaves behind a bitter empty shell of a person

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autistic_Lia

[eloquentsisyphianturmoil]

It’s just that Fingon’s like that stereotypical son who calls his mum and walks old ladies across the street, mows the lawn for his neighbours, brings home nice, pretty girls who want to be kindergarten teachers or something and is really passionate about some niche compassionate topic like children in poverty’s access to multiple sclerosis treatment and who everyone says is ‘such a nice boy’ but then he goes and dates the eldest kid of Mr. Stay Away From My Boys, Son, a flaming ginger who most people haven’t heard speak. And this is hilarious.

[youbutstupid]

I say this all the time but the most unrealistic part of Criminal Minds is how much Reid’s ‘closest friends’ don’t like listening to him talk. The writers have done a lot of ableist stuff in the past towards Reid but it sucks that his autistic trait of infodumping is portrayed as such an inconvenience to those who are meant to love him because it creates the idea that autistic traits are hard to love but they’re really not.

My best friends could be talking about anything, they could be talking about something that I’m not even remotely interested in and I will sit and listen and enjoy watching them light up as they talk about it. When you love someone, you love watching them be passionate and happy even if the thing they’re passionate about doesn’t interest you. I may not love the topic but I love them and that alone makes listening worth my time.

The only people who actually visibly enjoy listening to Reid seems to be Elle and Luke and keep in mind, Elle only joined the team at the beginning of season 1 before leaving in season 2 so her and Luke knew Reid the least amount of time yet they’re the only ones who seemed to visibly love him enough to listen.

I’m not saying that Reid wasn’t loved by the characters, I’m saying that the writers just did a poor job of showing what it means to love someone whose form of self expression is through talking. Of course you can be fondly exasperated by someone as a sign of love, but it sucks that the writers made characters like JJ and Morgan exasperated every time Reid spoke because it’s so unrealistic.

My best friend infodumps so much, and I don’t even know what she’s talking about a lot of the time, but there is not a single moment where I have wanted to cut her off. Yet cutting Reid off seems to be a bit in a show that prides itself so much on its characters being a ‘family’.

[kayvsworld]

every time i see someone trying to label specifically what tony’s mental health situation is or isn’t i pour one out for natasha romanoff who entered the ring at the worst possible moment (he’s dying he’s got heavy metal poisoning he’s actively lying to everyone around him he’s very recently traumatized) under orders from her boss to decide, definitely, on paper what mentally is going on with this man. like girl you are not qualified

[ed-recoverry]

I see a lot of posts on the internet saying something along the lines of, “I can’t believe people need a god(s)/religion to convince them not to murder or do something awful. I don’t do that stuff because I have basic empathy.”

And while I do see where these people are coming from, and, to an extent, agree, we can’t discount the effort of people out there who are not hurting others solely for reasons other than empathy.

If the only reason you aren’t harming people is because you don’t want to be arrested? That’s fine.

If the only reason you aren’t harming people is because you don’t want to ruin your reputation? That’s okay.

If the only reason you aren’t harming people is because of a religious or spiritual belief, good!

If the only reason you aren’t harming people is because you want other people to admire you. That’s fine.

If the only reason you aren’t harming people is because of social or financial repercussions, okay.

If the only reason you aren’t harming people is because of anything other than empathy, that’s okay.

Low empathy isn’t a personal failure. All that matters is people around you are safe and respected. And if that’s something you can only accomplish because of physical repercussions, that’s okay.

Though it would be nice for everyone to be nice to each other out of empathy, that is just something super difficult, to even impossible, for some. And any effort to not harm people (physically or mentally) is valid.

[swingingthehatchetnow]

I fear that my brother and I are too far gone

[peppermintpillz]

How do people just start yapping to their mutuals in DMs I’m always too scared to just slide in and randomly start talking 😭😭 how do y’all do it

[soullessjack]

idk i just think it’s a little weird that almost every character who gets the “innocent baby” / “little ray of sunshine” treatment usually ends up just having neurodivergent traits and actual negative traits in the show that nobody pays attention to. like idk man it just feels like diet infantilization to me and it’s a teeny weeny bit uncomfortable to see all the time

[sparklebyte]

no you aren’t a little autistic for not wanting to make eye contact sometimes no you aren’t a little bipolar for having a mood swing no you aren’t a little adhd for bouncing your leg no you aren’t a little depressed for wanting to stay in bed no you aren’t a little schizophrenic for mistakingly hearing a voice no you aren’t a little ocd for wanting the class desks to be straight stop characterizing disorders by one symptom stop trying to lighten and romanticize disorders by applying a normal thing to do to a disorder that impacts peoples lives stop trying to water down these disorders so you can make it about you and so you can make a joke off of other people’s lives because you want to be funny

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Plushies Are Amazing Help For Autistic People

They’re great comfort items

They help you sleep better

They help prevent/recover from meltdowns

You can hug them

They’re great for stimming

They help you when you’re overwhelmed

They get you with/without words

Every change is easier with them (this may or may not be true for some)

Lil Penguin Studios/Autism Happy Place

[bloodibambiidoll]

I block and delete any and all hate I get because I’m tired of giving people who want to muck up my safe space with negativity my energy. But my patience is wearing fucking thin. Everyone has a limit and I’m almost at mine. I’m just trying to write about fictional men and be delusional and occasionally emo. I already got bullied out of an entire fandom. Leave me the fuck alone.