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I am as effective a teacher as I can be right now
#an exercise my therapist wants me to do#anxiety#self worth#mental health#positivity#still not quite able to say I’m effective#so I’ll hedge#until I can believe#I am an effective teacher
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I think when people think of mental illness and what helps, especially with things like anxiety and depression, the treatment involves pushing yourself. Pushing yourself to get out of bed, to exercise, to take a shower, to go out in public, to order your own food from the cashier, etc.
And because the mental health movement has grown so much, people think that's the default of ALL illnesses. That the only way someone will get better is if they push themselves. That practice makes perfect. That you'll become more comfortable or strong over time the more you do something.
But what people need to realize is, with physical disabilities and chronic illnesses, pushing yourself in most cases is DETRIMENTAL. Pushing yourself past your limits can lead to flare ups or further injury. That's why it's important to know your limits, how certain activities may affect your condition, and learn how to either adapt or get help to complete the activity in question.
Also, most of us are already pushing ourselves. Most of us don't have access to the help or equipment we need. Most of us live in places where we frequently encounter inaccessible obstacles. Most of us NEED to rest.
So please don't try to be our physical therapists or doctors. There are people specifically trained to help us navigate our own conditions and limitations. There are people trained to help us strengthen our body's resilience without causing flare-ups or injury. Do not tell us "it'll be good for you" or "you need the exercise" when we say something is too heavy or too far or when we say we need our mobility aid(s). Your friend with depression may need to be encouraged to get out of bed, but your friend with chronic illness definitely doesn't.
Respect our rest.
#wrenfea.exe#DISCLAIMER: dont take this as me saying you should be pushing your mentally ill friends#this is more about how physical conditions often differ in how they are treated#also dont like. force your friends or anyone with anxiety to do things they dont want to#thats what therapists are for#also most mental illnesses require medication alongside therapy before they can get better#but even chronic illnesses and disabilities that benefit from exercise still require knowing your limits#and not being pressured to push past them#ive noticed some professionals who help both mentally and physically ill patients tend towards the push method#like my therapist and sometimes my counselors fall back on that method#and i have to remind them i am already pushing myself#and i need to adapt rather than push forward#chronic disability#chronic pain#spoonie#disability#chronic illness#cripple punk#cripplepunk#cpunk
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it's esp in these times when i wake up early in the morning and cant get back to sleep bc i have so much anxiety my entire body hurts that i just so badly wish i wasnt alone in the world and that i had someone to hold me tightly and ground me and let me focus on their breath bc my breath hurts going thru my body, and focus on their warmth and anchor me down, show me and my mind that im not alone so that i wont spin away into a neverending abyss of worries and nightmares
#ig in a way this is part of why friends or therapists or family etc etc wont heal my loneliness#bc like they wouldnt hold me like that and we wouldnt even be sleeping in the same place in the first place#also tbh im uncomfortable even if a friend would lean their head on my shoulder 💀#so no... my heart and soul needs more#it doesnt matter if thats unhealthy or not thats just how it is#my fear and anxiety and pain runs so deep that it cant even be allievated by the things that help normal ppl#idk how to put it into words but yeah...#even therapists i meet are like omg get a job get friends and go workout and everything will be great 👍#but like.....#even when i this summer saw my upper secondary school classmate a few times#i still felt empty and hollow bc after we hung out#she'd just go home to her boyfriend and i'd lie in bd crying alone so like yeah idk#it just reminds me even more of how out of place and out of touch and lonely i am :(((#i want to sleep but i cant bc like my ntire body aches. even my arms and thighs lmaoooo. from anxiety!!!! wth...#my chest is tight af tooo like im trying to breatheeeeee and do meditation exercises#but yeah none of that works evn if everyone tells me it will
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feeling the angst today. my dad was like “try ketamine therapy” again yesterday and i’m like. in order to do that i’d have to get off All my medications. and in order to do that safely, it could take months. during which i would be basically nonfunctional. so do you want me to do that or do you want me to get a new job. cuz it’s one or the other.
#i’m so sick of feeling so sick. i get it. everyone is fed up with me. everyone is over it. so am i.#but you can’t just throw suggestions Like That at me#and then not offer me the support necessary to make it happen.#like. it’s the same fucking thing that happens with Exercise and Physical Health.#where everyone says ‘go to physical therapy! or get a well-educated personal trainer!’#and then i’m like okay. i can’t afford that and even if i could i don’t have the time & energy while working 8 hours a day.#so what do you Actually want me to do.#i’m so fucking frustrated. i miss my therapist.#my stepmom keeps being like ‘do you want to go back to therapy’ and i’m like ‘it wouldn’t fix me but it would help’#and then no one offers to help me pay for it.#even though they spend. yk. $4000 a month to keep their boat in the marina#if i need $300 a month to go to therapy. well. that’s asking a lot.#izzy.txt
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Wtf, even just browsing job sites / listings / descriptions is enough to make me nauseous with anxiety and depression. When, why, and how did I ever become such a useless and pathetic mess?
#not trek#personal log#unemployment#unemployed#my therapist wanted me simply to Look and see what's out there but omg i've spent 90 minutes and want to tear all the skin off my bones#i can't handle anything that involves phone/video calls‚ customer service‚ relocating‚ teaching‚ or early mornings#trying to look for remote work because she said there's lots available now and yet everything i've seen still seems beyond my capacity#eventually my parents will die. and while i doubt my brother will want their house (so i'll inherit it) i won't last long without an income#i can't take care of myself and it horrifies me#and i know i'll never have a spouse to help me or depend on so once my folks are gone i will be completely on my own#but i don't know how to do the most basic damn things i can't cook can't work a standard 9-5 can't even make phone calls#how the fuck am i ever going to make it?#(i know. i won't‚ that's how.)#i'm in literal all-over physical pain over this‚ headache nausea sore joints sobbing just waiting to see how long i can go without c*tting#prayers appreciated‚ i genuinely don't know what i'm supposed to do#depression#anxiety#depressive episode#my life is an exercise in absurdity shame futility and more shame#self loathing#self pity#pantophobia#spiralling#if you're reading this i am so sorry in so many ways 😣#forever alone#heartsick#soul sick#jtkchu's brain#stfu jtkchu#early morning thoughts
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;~; (tags vent)
#i feel so lonely and i dont know how to fix it#im trying to engage with people. im trying ot take space. im trying but nothing is helping#and like im hormonal so i wanna cry about it today#and like this loneliness isnt for one reason only#there's no One Thing#but so so many things making me feel like i cant connect#and even wiht making progress and even with coping and even with reminidng myself its okay to just feel bad sometimes like#i want company. i dont want online company i want irl company. i want friends. and im so miserable about the fact that i struggle to#make irl friends - not bc im not a good friend!! honestly tehre's been plenty of opportunities for me to make friends is the worst part#between work; disabilities; energy; and like interests/things to talk about its really hard to make friends (and tbh the first three-#really are the biggest drains). and i love my online friends i do i jsut. miss them all so much when i talk too much and then it hurts more#and i lost a friend group recently so im feelng really out of place#nearly everyday for the last idk. 5 months i had a group of people going “hey. love you” (even if they didnt say it verbatim daily) and lik#im so sad! and the feelings are coming out today ig cause i havenothing to do at work so im just. here#but yeah - ik part of this grief im experiencing is YET AGAIN experiencing change and loss re:friendships bc of things largely out of my#control /: and every time this happens it just brings up every single wound#im talking with my therapist about it too i just. wish friends were more permanent in my life yk?#or at least that i had friends irl still /: but all my deepest connections are all So far away#and it hurts so much to miss ppl rn im just. isolating myself#but i dont awnt to TALK. i dont want to TEXT. i dont want to hang out on a vc. i awnt to be held and loved and just talked to about anythin#other than the stresses in peoples lives. i want people to infodump to me w/o me having to Beg or Engage Correctly#i want people to tell me about themselves. jsut fucking lore dump in my inbox. its not dumping. i dont care about trauma dumping. if you do#cw i guess i jsut. im so tired. im tired of the “haiiiiii love you!!!!!” i have to do over the keyboard to have social connections#im tired of being so disabled i cant make friends bc no one wants to be friends w/ me irl and all the reasons (“ur a flake” “u cancel plans#“u never want to go out” “u never have energy” “why do you disappear when you need to recharge it makes me feel bad?” etc etc etc) all#relate to me being disabled and like.i feel like the problem. my existence is a problem. and the worst part is all iwant to do is just.#go run errands with someone. do important tasks &get a little treat to celebrate after. go to the doctor. the hospital. wherever im allowed#i want ot be a PERSON#): i jsut miss my friends#and liek im going to a thing later this month to try and make friends irl even if its just exercise friends
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Time for y'all to
send asks!
again!
#i have to do a treatment plan tomorrow instead of you know actual therapy that might help me and MAN THOSE THINGS PISS ME OFF#y'all at Therapy Place make me take these but it's like...no#no i will not call 911 if i am suicidal#no i will not call y'all either#no i will not call a crisis line because i'm never suicidal from things they can actually help me with#and i can do the counting exercise alone#i have my own plan and you are not part of it and don't get to know what it is because you cannot be trusted with that information#it goes on the tall shelf away from the pathologizers kidnappers gatekeepers and just plain assholes#i SUPER like my therapist she's great but man these people expect me to barf my entire life story on demand any time there's An Assessment#and they don't give me anything in return#please#i want to know the worst thing that happened to you#no details just tell me in like three words what it was#and let it flash through your mind#i want you to remember it with me and for me on demand just for a second#and then we can look in each other's eyes and i won't feel like a dancing monkey and you won't feel like whatever it is you feel like#because you are insulated from the need for exchange of some kind between humans having intimate conversations by your job#must be nice for you#are YOU having nightmares? do YOU ever feel like the trauma is happening again? never almost never sometimes most of the time always#no but seriously i'm sure giving dozens of these takes a toll and i do have sympathy#but they still expect me to do it without any objections and I am NOT getting paid and they are NOT having necessary health care gatekept#so it's still really unequal#sorry not sorry
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also GOD my BOSS wants me to PRESENT SOMETHING during a MEETING as a stupid STRETCH GOAL. like ma'am. please. i'm dying here
#also she's continued her longstanding habit of telling me what she thinks my face has just done#she thought i rolled my eyes when she said i should do that. and i was like i didn't! i wouldn't do that!#she was like well your eyes went here then here then there#and i'm like. boss. i was looking away not in annoyed exasperation but in mild panic#it's fucking stupid like#my job does NOT require verbal communication skills. or presentation skills. or leadership skills#i'm not in a management position i'm not in a client-facing position i am JUST a little monkey banging on a keyboard that's it#i wasnt hired for my social skills i was hired for my fucking attention to detail#let me fucking play around with google sheets all day and leave me ALONE#thats what you pay me for why are you so OBSESSED with my social skills & lack thereof like christ#she saw me get embarrassed & panic & lose my words in ONE meeting when i was addressed unexpectedly and she keeps bringing it up#and it makes me want to scream#and now she wants me to do what would be - for me - basically a therapy exercise#this woman is not my therapist shes my BOSS#and again theres no fucking reason i should have to work on Speaking To People bc my job doesnt REQUIRE it#it's STUPID#i hate it here it makes me wanna quit
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¯\_(ツ)_/¯
#okay#body image tw#i never got like pro-ana social media before like how could people talk abt it encouragingly and like commune abt it#but i just found out i’ve lost like 10 lbs and im so proud of myself and i want to tell someone#but my stupid stinkin methods are rooted in mental illness and so if i tell anyone#it’s not a ‘good for you’ but a ‘im telling your therapist’ and in grumpy abt it#but i needed ti say it somewhere or i was gonna go nuts#and before anyone gets worried abt me: it’s rly not that bad i swear i am getting nutrients#i’ve done way way worse#it just feels so nice to be proud of my body#bc this time i’m exercising consistently and it’s so cool to see the changes#i know everything i’m doing is rooted in my ed but i think it will grow into actually just being healthier#i know i sound delusional but i swear i mean it#i just….was shocked to see the scale where it was like i would’ve been so happy with half of that#:)#AND i only weighed myself bc i’m at my mom’s house and i shall never own a scale so it’s just a lil check in#that’s all
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I think I’m failing therapy
#personal fuity shit#I can’t answer my therapist’s questions#I feel like I’m only repeating myself every session#I can’t do the things she asks me to. and I don’t even know why. I just can’t#I don’t exercise. I don’t leave my room. I barely drink water. I have an eating disorder#I honestly don’t know what she could do for me. and I noticed she doesn’t either#maybe I truly am a lost cause#I’m stuck in place. can’t get better and sometimes seems to be getting worse#when I told her I don’t even want to live anymore she kinda got. pissed at me?#she made it sound like ‘being alive only because I don’t want to make my mom sad’ is the most insane and wildest thing she’s ever heard#and that I was crazy to even think about it#as if that wasn’t my only thought for like idk 8 years or so#ALSO she keeps putting my bisexual identity in question every opportunity she gets. like wtf#just because I’ve never hooked up with a girl doesn’t make me any less bi#‘are you truly bi or just curious?’ idk and idc ma’am you’re the one bringing this up and making it look like a problem#I’ve got lots of complaints but. it’s not easy to quit#I’d have to tell my mom an excuse as to why I want another therapist#and looking for a new therapist is just nightmare#I’m just tired. really wish I could think about killing myself more in depth without feeling guilty#thinking about how my mom’s life would be shattered and all the pain I’d cause her gives me goosebumps. it breaks my heart
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My brain was thinking about sensory processing stuff again with that last post.
That might be one of the many reasons Gymrat!Logan hits the gym - mitigate some modest dyspraxia / proprioceptive dysfunction related to being autistic.
Because physical exercise/therapy is a known modality that can help build those skills. Obviously - it's a treatment not necessarily a cure in moderate-to-severe cases.
I feel like some of Jan's caseload are for ND folks like that (on top of pain/mobility/etc. management ones). :Ic
(Maybe a reason for why Lo isn't the hardware guy at the tech firm. Amusing how Remus is - since he might be a bit twitchy from too much caffeine and not enough sleep more often than not.)
#sanders sides#logan sanders#janus sanders#remus sanders#(i know when i had my 5 yr stint w/ exercise - my balance/coordination got so much better)#(jan's a physical therapist in that au)#(i just have the mental image of lo doing shit like kneeing his desk on accident a LOT - esp when he's tired/overwhelmed)#(just him letting out a string of curses afterwards and his friends just know he's having A Day)#(... this is me wanting to get back on the damn wagon)
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#i think there's been something my therapist has been helping me chip away at#that was at the root of a recent bad anxiety episode/trigger that's been bothering me for weeks#if not months#over the last few weeks they've really cracked this nut wide open and the exercises are a little cheesy#but that's okay too... sometimes deconstructing the selectively reinforced self-flagellation#looks a little cheesy#but that's part of the recovery... kill the cringe cop in your (my) head...#but it does also mean having retread some old ground plus unearthing some text posts from before therapy#forgive the long rambling tags i just feel awed once again at how much changes in 3 years#i feel silly looking back at things that were obvious#at times i didn't advocate for myself in the name of people pleasing and believing less in myself#than in the necessity of harmony by anyone else's terms#the feeling silly isn't the same as feeling regret#but i think i don't fully want to forget what the echoes of those feelings were like#bc they were part of a deeper bonding process with so many people#that i love to have these bonds with#including nova who tried to eat my foot an hour before i queued this#isn't his birthday bowtie so cute 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺#also i know it isn't a necessity towards doing good work in therapy#but having a queer nb e asian mandarin speaking therapist has just#been really cool and helped me relax in so many ways and they ask great questions#never felt so consistently that way with any other mental health professionals#so apologies for all the therapy related rambles that have gone in the tags lately#fore-apologizing for a little more to come
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A love letter to strangers:
-To the cashier at the gas station/convenience store that I stop at a couple times a week on my way home from work; who always has the biggest smile and an infectious laugh; who shares my love of trying all kinds of new random snacks, even when we think they're going to be bad; who last year when I was having a hard time, must have seen something in my eyes that made her grab my hand after I paid and tell me with the first serious look on her face I'd ever seen to take care of myself, the winked and said she had something special coming in the next week and to make sure to come back and see her
-To the park ranger at the state park where I camp and hike a couple weekends a month; who always calls me "honey" or "sweetie" in the twangiest accent I've ever heard (and I'm from the South); who always tells me to be safe and enjoy the woods for her; whose eyes light up with the most true display of joy when I compliment her nails that she paints herself every week; who once during a freak cold snap with an unexpected inbound ice storm, stopped by my campsite in the evening with a cup of hot chocolate and an extra wool blanket, saying that she had to look after her regulars so we could save her from the tourists in the summertime
-To the owner of the Korean restaurant/cafe that I eat dinner and drink tea once a week; who lets me stay and work on my homework while I drink tea but only because she says I take my tea the same way she does, so we're "some kind of soulmates"; who argues with me about the tip that I give, but grudgingly accepts it in the end every time; who when I missed a couple weeks in a row when I was really sick, cupped my cheek when I sat down at my table and refused to give me my normal order, instead giving me a lovely soup and sending me home early with a bag of loose tea leaves and instructions on how to brew them to build back up my immunity; who sometimes when it's slow sits at my table with her back against the wall, watching the front door and humming quietly and out of tune to the kpop music in the background
I madly love all of you more than you could ever know. You provide me with the small connections to this world that keep me going.
#this was an exercise my therapist made me do#but i decided to post#because if others like these women see#i want them to know#the power of kindhearted strangers is immeasurable#personal
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I had a nap earlier and have been thinking about how the end of my therapy session ended earlier, and man. I AM gonna give this guy a run for his money.
I even gave a psychiatrist who thought he was all-knowing a run for his money and he said to my face that if he were to train new arrivals to the mental health scene, he'd use ME as their "test run" of having a patient. He said I made him "want chicken soup for his soul".
#half of my issues are a personality disorder issue and the other is untreated ADHD symptoms if I'm being generous#most of it is untreated ADHD I know it is#but I'm genuinely convinced this guy thinks I'm solely just severely depressed and it's my mindset making me doomthink 24/7#he looked at me like I was nuts when I told him straight up I HATE striving for positivity because it places too many expectations#and that I want to achieve neutrality as a first step at the very least#also that I think about this shit logically I'm not an idealistic and whimsical type of person#and we butt heads about coping mechanisms when I told him I HAVE coping mechanisms that WORK#I just DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO COMMIT TO THEM BECAUSE OF MY UNTREATED ADHD#he talked AT me like ALL therapists do and I don't tolerate that shit#if they don't wanna LISTEN then I'll interupt the fuck out of them until they do#I'm happy to work with him and give a bit for this too! As long as he LISTENS TO ME when I say I KNOW what works for me#we just gotta feel each other out like I have to with every one of these goons I'll break him eventually#until it clicks that these muscle relaxation exercises for my anxiety aren't gonna help with the bigger picture of NO BRAIN CHEMICALS
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completed.
EDIT: this has now, as of this edit, reached over 2,000 notes. And I have started doing the things. My life is still far from perfect, but I genuinely do scroll through all the replies and reblogs and watch people get other people to help and reassure me and check on me and it makes me feel so much more loved than i normally do. i'm even going to bed earlier because you said i should. i love all of you so much, and i owe you 2,053 times. all my love, witch.
ORIGINAL POST:
ok here goes. i haven't taken enough care of myself recently. so here we go
if this reaches 100 notes i will start doing yoga again, to help with my anxiety COMPLETE (how you guys are insane)
if this reaches 200 notes i'll start studying more and putting in more effort COMPLETE (o my gosh)
if it reaches 500 i will actually try my best to exercise for the right reasons, instead of random bursts of self-hatred/body hatred COMPLETE (i posted this yesterday evening)
if this reaches 700 notes i will try my absolute best to fix my sleep schedule COMPLETE (ok this is insane)
if this reaches 1000 notes i will be more honest with my therapist COMPLETE (dammit you guys ilysm but this is gonna be hard)
if this reaches 2300 notes i will be more honest with myself about why i am turning to tumblr for this kind of thing and write a poem about it. (this one is a joke since i think 5000 is impossible, and i will write a poem for you guys anyway. i love you) (i’ve now changed this to a more reasonable goal - one really close to what i have now - because honestly i want you guys to succeed because the fact that people are still on this post is insane and it makes me smile.) AND COMPLETE! (i love every person who interacted with this post so much it isn’t even funny. all my gratitude and adoration, witch)
this ends at the beginning of may. you can spam i guess i have 35 followers it prob wont even reach 100. but go ahead, tumblr, do your thing. lol
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#honestly I can’t do this much longer#everything is awful all the time I wake up feeling awful I go to work feeling awful i go to sleep feeling awful#nothing is fun anymore#I don’t want to do anything anymore#I’m so fucking exhausted and it’s fucking pathetic#I literally don’t know how much longer I can do this for#every day it takes so much energy just to do the bare minimum#and nothing is enjoyable I don’t want to do anything but fucking sleep forever#I just… i don’t know what to do#I need help but no one understands when I try to tell them what’s happening#my mom thinks I’m blaming everything on my autism so I’m not even trying to get better#but god I’m trying SO HARD everything is just so much effort and so draining#and she still says I need to go out and see people more exercise more eat better sleep better go back to school etc.#I just can’t do it anymore I don’t know what to do#I can’t even talk to my therapist because she just raised her prices and I can’t afford it anymore#and I know my friends are sick of hearing it since I’m like this literally every day#fuck me I hate myself so so much why do I have to be like this#tw: self hatred#tw: despair
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