#agender neutrois

[genderqueerdykes]

i think it's insane that nonbinary people went "hey i'm trans, i'm just not transitioning to one of the two very specific ideas of gender you have in your head" and so many cishet people and transmeds went "ah so you're not trans, you're just quirky." like hello? i literally started the sentence with "i'm trans" are you okay? people can transition in more than just one of two extremely specific ways, carol.

[bloomshroomz]

Imagine

[lulendrea]

my enby headcanons

[literarymenace]

Nah, I wasn't born in the wrong body. It was just a "some assembly required; batteries not included" type package.

[our-abinary-experience]

"abinary people can be gay, lesbian, veldian & straight" & "orientations that are explicitly inclusive of abinary people need more visibility and to be taken more seriously" are two statements that can and should coexist.

i see way too much "abinary people can be lesbian etc." and not nearly enough people lifting up orientations that are more explicit in our genders or in people's attraction to us. tbh, this is true for midbinary genders too. there's way more "nonbinary people can use [orientation with binary connotations]" and not enough "look at these orientations that honour us".

trixic, toric, enbian and other mestric labels for specific genders deserve as much love as lesbian, sapphic, gay, achillean, veldian.

not to forget there are many people who are both! for some people, "gay" just doesn't tell the full story and they might identify as a toric gay specifically.

all abinary experiences of orientation deserve visibility.

[lorevenant]

Testing Something

Apparently there is huge correlation between being asexual and agender (up to 50% of asexuals are agender) and considering only about 0.7-1% of the pop is ace and 0.1-0.5% is agender thats a huge amount! Im curious if this checks out on Tumblr

[nsdrawsstuff]

PRIDE MONTH'S NOT OVER JUST YET, FOLKS!

2 top and 2 bottom rows are granny squares with pride flag colors with solid color rows of the rainbow pride flag in the middle <3

[ryanyflags]

A List of Gender Terms !

So I disappeared for 2 months, but I finally completed this project! :D (Though I've been making some random posts talking about it, so it's not like I was really gone, or what I was working on wasn't obvious.)

It started off as me having trouble keeping track of a couple gender terms (and also not knowing they existed before, since I've never really seen people talk about them), then I thought I should make a list, and if I was going to do that I might as well post it to help other people too. Which I started out trying to make that list on Tumblr, but I found it too limiting so I moved to google docs, which I also found too limiting (I just couldn't achieve my vision, if you will), and now I know html and css.

As usual, I kinda overdid it, but I think I should be a little proud of myself. I had 0 knowledge of html and css, and 2 months later I've made my own website. (I could have made it much quicker, but I often had to take breaks, a bit overwhelmed by all that new stuff.)

Anyways, it has a ton of terms on there.

I have sections for nonbinary, abinary, midbinary, atrinary, midtrinary, androgyne, agender, neutrois, maverique, ilyagender, aporagender, outherine, kenochoric, and xenogender.

For 7 categories (sex terms, adult, general term, child, gender quality, gender-quality-in-nature genders, and spectrum / -iagender spectrum).

And they all have sources on both Archive Today, Wayback Machine, and if still existing, the original post too. (At least to the best of my abilities, and there are a couple of exceptions that I couldn't figure out.)

I did put effort into this, but it's possible I missed something. So if I made a mistake anywhere, or if anyone has any extra information to add on, or if you just have some comments, you can tell me. My ask box is open, but comments on this post would probably be fine too.

Also, I checked on a couple of different browsers, mobile too, and read up on web accessibility and checked and all that (I tried using a screen reader, I'm not a pro at it though, so it's possible I may have missed something obvious), so I hope the website itself is useable. But if there's any bugs there, just tell me (it'll be appreciated).

I'm also thinking of making another compilation, but for flags (for all of the terms listed here), and maybe orientations too, but maybe later haha

I also don't know how to write a image id for the top picture, if anyone wants to write to one I'll add it.

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Below the cut is a short little video scrolling through the site.

[this-is-exorsexism]

welcome to this is exorsexism.

this is an account to highlight exorsexism, so that more people learn to recognise it when it's happening and we can fight it better.

what happens here is that i will post examples of exorsexism here as i encounter it, as well as submitted examples. this can be stories of exorsexism of offline or online exorsexism. if not immediately clear, i may provide an explanation of how something is exorsexist.

this is also a safe space for nonbinary people to vent or rant about exorsexism.

you can submit exorsexism you encountered to me via submissions or asks. if you send a screenshot of someone being exorsexist, please make sure to crop or censor any identifying information such as their username and profile picture. this account is for educational purposes and for nonbinary people to vent their experiences, not to send harassment to anyone.

exorsexism from within nonbinary and wider transgender communities is also welcome as that too needs awareness.

not sure if something you want to submit counts as exorsexism? submit it anyway and we can talk about it. and if you think your exorsexism experience isn't "bad enough" to be submitted: yes, it is.

credit where credit is due: this account is very much inspired by @exorsexistbullshit who sadly hasn't been active in going on 5 years, as well as casualableism on instagram.

submission rules:

since this is a blog to highlight a form of bigotry and oppression that also often intersects with other forms of oppression, a "no bigotry" rule doesn't make sense here. however, being bigoted towards bigots is not welcome here. this includes calling bigots or bigotry -phobic (i.e. "homophobia"), narcissistic, delusional, lame, blind, cr*zy, st*pid and more.

the key difference here is whether you are quoting bigotry you have encountered or whether you're being bigoted as well.

i am multiply disabled and we don't do that kind of thing here, so if i ignored your ask or blocked you, that's probably why.

what is exorsexism?

in short, exorsexism is the oppression of and bigotry against nonbinary people. it is essentially sexism directed at nonbinary people. furthermore, it also includes the hatred of anything heavily associated with nonbinary people, like certain pronouns. exorsexism ranges from the erasure of nonbinary people to outright hostility. there are many different kinds of exorsexism as there are many different kinds of exorsexism. exorsexism affects the whole range of nonbinary gender identities, including but not limited to agender, multigender, genderfluid, aporagender & xenogender people, as well as androgynes, nonbinary men & nonbinary women.

here's an incomplete list of examples of exorsexism:

- nonbinary erasure, not just erasure of all nonbinary people, but also of more specific gender identities

- forcing nonbinary people into the gender binary or creating new gender-related binaries to force us into (e.g. amab/afab, masc/fem, men/non-men, cis/trans)

- thinking gender can't be fluid

- thinking everyone has to have a gender

- thinking nonbinary identities are new, a trend, a choice, a phase or a way to try and be special

- erasing exorsexism as a specific form of oppression

- thinking nonbinary people have to look a certain way

- centring binary people & experiences in communities that have historically included us

- mocking they, it and neopronouns

- thinking that "everyone is a bit nonbinary"/reducing nonbinaryhood to gender nonconformity

- thinking nonbinary people are just deviations from binary genders, i.e. men & women lite

[genderqueerdykes]

you can't support the normalization of the usage of singular they/them pronouns and then say you don't support people who want to normalize it/its because it's "too weird," as if using singular they/them pronouns isn't clearly weird to a lot of people.

you can't refuse to acknowledge an identity because it's "weird," they're all "weird" in the eyes of cisheteronormative society. people who use neopronouns like it/its, ze/hir, xe/xem, thon/thons and others don't deserve to have to settle for they/them if that's not what they use. it doesn't matter if something is "weird" or not. let go of the compulsive need to assimilate and just let people express themselves freely

[goth-brushbug]

This one goes to all trans nonbinary/genderqueer ppl whose identity is constantly erased and put into boxes labelled transfem/transmasc, etc, even by other queer ppl

I love you agender, maverique, neutrois, transneutral, abinary, gendervoid, androgynous, genderfluid, demigender, unlabeled/any other identity that is completely outside of the binary and/or genderless

Pls stay strong, don't let anyone define you

I know there are more labels and that some ppl might use mixed ones like transneumasc. Feel free to interact if this post is relatable to your experience

[boreal-sea]

I just saw a post talking about “transintersex” people. The tone of this post was angry, sarcastic, and derogatory.

Now, the reason for that anger is legitimate: if you are perisex, meaning you are not intersex, you cannot “transition” into being intersex. There is a history of perisex trans folks misusing intersex terminology while also managing to completely ignore and dismiss actual intersex people.

I've browsed the tag and also seen some folks who are actually intersex and trans who use this word too, so it seems like it has mixed usage. The following is therefore only aimed at perisex trans people.

Some perisex trans people do in fact want a mix of sex traits. This is not intersexist on its own. It is perfectly ok to want a dick and a vagina, for example. But this does not make you intersex. You cannot transition to become intersex.

If you are perisex and have been identifying as transintersex, I understand that you are probably just trying to find a word that describes your experience. Unfortunately, you’ve been causing harm to our intersex siblings. Fortunately, there’s already a word for how you feel that has been around since 1996 and that doesn’t appropriate from or harm intersex people:

Salmacian.

This identity is for anyone who wants mixed genitals.

If you don’t want mixed genitals, and just want other mixed features, then nonbinary, agender, bigender, genderless, genderqueer or neutrois may work for you.

Stop appropriating intersex language.

[coolxuli]

I made a drawing based on this diagram:

Here’s how it turned out:

[textk4kira]

Happy Trans Day of Visibility!

A special shoutout to intersex trans people, multigender folks, and trans poc 💗 You do not get the love and attention you so rightfully deserve.