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myimaginarywonderland · 7 months ago

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I think my main problem with people wanting Buddie to happen is partly the treatment of Buck's actual sexuality like a stepping stone/check list item and also the fact that neither of them are in a place where their relationship would work (which I know many people will disagree with.)

I think the first one is self-explanatory. Buck being bi is somehow for some people only valid if it's Eddie or less worth it because he didn't kiss Eddie which would make 0 sense considering neither of them would ever be brave enough right now to take that step. Of course an outside character had to step in and take on the role of the first guy Buck has ever kissed. Which leads me to the other thing. Buck is bisexual. He is attracted to both women and men. While he hasn't quiet figured this fully out yet, we know his sexuality because of the writers etc. Notice how both women and men is plural? Meaning that he has been/is attracted to all sorts of people from that gender? His bisexuality, his interest in men, isn't only tied to one person or just disappears because he is with someone. His sexual identity remains and isn't narrowed down to Eddie. I am sure there will be talk off people Buck might have been attracted to, hell maybe even guys he could have had a crush one now that he self reflects because he is realising that there was a whole different world out there he never realised he could step into. And I am sure they might make some jokes about how Buck openly appreciates guys now but is in a relationship because the firefam would just tease him about checking someone out (before they know about Tommy maybe.)

Buck is bisexual and currently he is crushing on Tommy. Buck is bisexual and can be interested in men now, can let himself look at them and appreciate them in a way he hasn't before.

This new door just opened and Tommy, someone who has been there before and has years of experience now and is kind and gentle and also really smitten by Buck, Tommy is right there waiting for Buck. He isn't pushing him or grabbing his hand he is waiting for Buck to reach out, to seek him out because he needs Buck to take this step. Tommy can't make him come out or tell him when to be ready and he has patiently explained that and added that is willing to wait, that it's okay if Buck isn't ready.

And Buck, he is still confused, but isn't confused about wanting Tommy there.

Buck is actively reaching out for Tommy and Tommy is gently guiding him, waiting for him to take a step back if he needs to. Because this is Buck's journey and not his. This is Buck coming to terms with his sexuality and his identity and it isn't about Tommy or Eddie or anyone else, it's about Buck. This is the one thing that Buck needs to do himself because no one else can do it for him.

So yeah, this isn't a Check list item, this is a lifechanging journey that Buck is making. A discovery into who he is. And Tommy being there, that isn't a stepping stone to some final end goal (which doesn't exist either), it's someone who really likes Buck being there and wanting to be there.

Now onto the part where I think Buck and Eddie will not be good for each other as a romantic relationship or wouldn't work.

Buck is on a journey that might never end. He might never figure out a label that fits him, he might not want to have a label, he might be suprised along the way by other people he could now be attracted to etc.

Sexuality is not fluid as much as it is complex. We are only just seeing Bi people on the screen. There have been huge milestones when it comes to representation but so many people didn't have that when figuring themselves out. Hell, Buck has only now just realised he might like men too. That is the beginning of his journey. He could figure himself out in days, weeks, months, years or never because there is no timeline for your sexuality and the reality is not everyone will figure themselves out.

So Buck is still a "Baby" Bi and he doesn't even know it yet fully. And one of the most important things you can have during the time you try to figure yourself out is a support system. People who will listen and not judge you, people who will understand that maybe the label you give yourself might change later on when you have gotten more information, people that could potentially share information or stories about their coming out etc.

Buck has that support system but most importantly he has Eddie. Eddie who is his best friend and has been with him through some of the worst things but who also will just let Buck be. It can be overwhelming sometimes with how willing people are to accommodate you or treat you differently etc. Eddie is his grounding presence. You really think he will care? No and he won't change his behaviour. Eddie will be there but Eddie knows Buck so well that he can read when he needs to be which person for Buck. There is nothing Buck will need more than that right now.

And Eddie? Well, he needs that from Buck too. He just had a talk with Bobby that probably left him questioning things. He is ready to commit to a relationship, run headfirst and he doesn't even know why or is really thinking about that, too caught up in wanting to go on dates. Eddie is trying to fill a spot for Chris that can't and doesn't need to be filled and he is not even realising it. Eddie isn't stable. Both in a romantic relationship and in himself. At first he was trying to leave something that he wasn't ready for (a family), then he has been trying to push off his families expectations, then he has been trying to fill something that wasn't meant to be filled all while managing the left over PTSD from his army days alongside the challenge of a single father. He got so bad about the prospect of the future he started having panic attacks who where coincidentally around the time he was shot too. Eddie has so many unresolved issues because he doesn't think he needs to be fixed. He thinks if he can just fill some gaps, if he can just pretend that things will be fine but maybe he is finally starting to realise that won't work. Chris needs him and in the time of Chris needing him I think he kind of forgets sometimes that he needs to be okay. That Chris will always come first but Eddie can't do that when Eddie isn't fit. There is so much baggage he is carrying around that he has refused to open up. The fact that he just realised how heavy his religious upbringing might weigh on him is other thing that he needs to deal with. And that's okay! It's okay to take that step back from a relationship because Eddie needs to put himself first. And right now Eddie isn't doing that. I think he is finally starting to wake up and realise that he needs to do that and that he might need help being able to do that.

This is in direct contrast to Buck who has had that realisation and worked on himself and now, eventhough there is this new part he hasn't figured out yet, is taking a first step. Buck who is putting himself first and needs his system to be there while he maybe fits this last puzzle piece into place so that he can have a fully picture. Buck who actively reached out, who made a decision to step onto a new path in contrast to Eddie who still keeps walking down the same old road he deep down knows is not the right one.

And right now Buck needs someone like Tommy there who is willing to let Buck figure himself out and willing to wait, to grab Buck's hand when he reaches out, to kiss Buck after he says okay, to take this relationship at Buck's tempo.

And Eddie is nowhere near that. He is nowhere close to taking a first step. I know he will probably get there but that is where my concern for the Buddie relationship comes in.

Whenever something goes wrong with Buck or Eddie they turn to each other. Because that's your best friend, your family. But how can they turn to each other when the other is the problem?

What will they do when they might kiss and have questions but they can't answer them because the person who would asually help them is the one that caused the questions?

When they fight, who will they turn to when it's always been the other?

If they need someone to talk to about being concerned about things in their relationship who could that be?

Because making Buddie canon would fundamentally change their dynamic. Because making Buddie canon would throw in the question if they can still be each others nest friend while also being each others partner?

And with the way we have seen how codependt they are to a point where it ruined some parts of their relationships with other people? I don't think that codependency is good.

It would ruin their relationship. They need to grow to a point where they can both put themselves first, can openly communicate their feelings to the best of their ability and have understand that their relationship can not be the same as it was before (something I think most shippers don't want to admit.)

Because they are each others person. But can they be each others person while being in a romantic relationship? For me that is a no. Especially with where their characters are. Especially with how long of a path they still have to take.

Can they be both the others person and the others boyfriend and balance that correctly especially with the fact that they are raising a kid together and will both still be new to their identity even in 2 seasons? Can they fit so many roles in each others life without one taking over too much? Can they fit their job and those dangers into everything else as well? When they would officially make that step could they still work with each other?

I am not expecting a Bucktommy endgame or saying Buddie could never happen but for me I just wish Tommy would be allowed to be a genuine love interest and I am also certain that for me Buddie will never fully be a stable relationship because of how much they are too each other in all the aspects in their life.

#anti buddie #again to be safe #just my opinions #evan buckley #eddie diaz

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biggest-gaudiest-patronuses · 1 month ago

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main take aways from Halloween (1978) rewatch:

michael myers is canonically 21??? this bitch should be at the club

*sees tiddies* ***MURDEROUS RAMPAGE NOISES***

that's it that's the movie

outside of the fact that everyone who has sex is murdered by the narrative, this is a surprisingly chill portrayal of female sexuality? these teen girls are horny and actively enjoying Getting It On with their boytoys. no pushy boyfriends sneaking in through their bedroom windows--these ladies are taking the initiative to sneak out and GET SOME. one of them gets laid and then immediately orders her boyfriend to get her a beer. (yes she gets Slashered soon afterward, but so does the boyfriend so honestly, gender equality.) yes the Final Girl is the only one not having sex, but she's not bullied for that, nor are her friends slut shamed except possibly by being murdered by the narrative

actually the only character who is shown being morally condemned on-screen is michael myers. specifically FOR his violent overreaction to other people's sex lives. (people he is spying on). metaphorically, the villain is American Puritanism sticking its judgy nose into other people's business.

aka Michael Myers Is A Republican

but actually the real villain is the doctor. guy's a judgemental, shaming, pathologizing asshole. and he's been in charge of michael's care since he was SIX YEARS OLD? kid never had a chance. i'd go on a killing spree too

also the parents. where are the parents? it's halloween night and all the teenage girls are home babysitting their younger siblings? come to think of it, michael's first victim was his own older sister, whom he killed while she was babysitting him. teen girls are really shouldering a labour burden here. maybe parentification is the true villain

side note: mike commits his first murder wearing a clown costume...which is never referenced again? his 'iconic' costume is a generic mask and wig and jumpsuit, when we coulda had a Killer Clown Michael Myers??? travesty

i like how the Final Girl and her friend casually smoke weed in her car. yeah she's an honor student and her friend is the sheriff's daughter. yeah they smoke weed. so what it's 1978

(to reiterate, mike is 21 and should be at the club. im not saying he shouldn't be rampaging, im saying it's sad that he broke out, tasted freedom for the first time in his life, and immediately snuck back into his childhood home to go rampaging. let's have a remake where he goes to a nightclub and has a few beers. maybe some slutty dancing. then rampage)

oh no he's hot