#a-spec positivity

[platoniromantic-feelings]

I, personally, do believe that some people have soulmates, whether platonically or not, but as an asexual on the aromantic spectrum I really appreciate all the aromantics who loudly object to the idea. You’re right: we are whole people. Each person is whole. No one needs anyone to complete them. The idea that we are broken or lacking without one particular person is ridiculous and deeply harmful. Whether or not some people have soulmates, it doesn’t follow that anyone is incomplete without one. I appreciate y’all pointing out the harm that belief in soulmates can do, and your refusal to fall for the idea that there is anything incomplete about you. Thank you.

[platoniromantic-feelings]

I never thought of it like this before, and I am thrilled. So often I think of us asexuals and aromantics in terms of our struggles to find happiness and belonging in a world that is — at best — inconsiderate of us (and, at worst, actively hostile). I've never heard anyone say that we a-spectrum folks contribute something to the world that isn't just greater awareness of our spectrum to people who are like us (for example, telling people who didn't know they are asexual that there are words for people like them).

We are not just valid but valuable. We bring something extra, something necessary, something important to the world, causing allos to re-examine their beliefs and assumptions and desires the same way transgender people cause cisgender people to re-examine the same, so that when cisgender people and allo people conclude that yes, they are indeed cisgender/allosexual/alloromantic, they are embracing that identity or orientation on purpose, having considered the possibility that it might not be so, rather than just defaulting to it because they've never thought about anything else.

Just like all other queer identities, we are living proof that there are other options besides what mainstream society claims is normal.

Seen on my fyp today :)

[matcha-milo]

I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.

[platoniromantic-feelings]

When I discovered the word for people like me — "asexual" — twelve years ago, there were no explicitly asexual characters in any story or media that I had seen or heard of.

Now, on my dashboard I see you folks talking about your favourite asexual characters who are canonically, explicitly, asexual, and it makes me so happy, even if I never experience that media or those stories. "Such-and-such said they are asexual in episode nine!" "Blorbo is canonically ace — they said as much in chapter twelve, and the author confirmed it at Comic Con!" "Guys, this show has not one but TWO asexual characters, and an aromantic one!" "Binky the vampire said he's aro-ace! I KNEW it! He's my favourite character, and I'm so happy that he's like me! And the other characters are being so supportive, it's so lovely OMG!".

I have no idea who these characters are, but I'm so happy for us all. Please never stop.

[lgbtqtext]

[i-like-swiss-cheese]

OK GUYS

SO

THE ASEXUALS HAVE GARLIC BREAD

BUT WHAT DO WE AROMANTICS HAVE?

I SAY THAT WE MAKE THE ARO FOOD BE SWISS CHEESE

DONT LOOK AT MY BLOG TITLE I AM TOTALLY NOT BIASED WHATSOEVER

TRUST

[bizarreaizen]

i will always dislike the stereotype that cisgender men are just beings who only think / care about sex, so my cis men out there who are asexual or just genuinely don't think sex is that important, you are seen and will always be valid :D /gen

[platoniromantic-feelings]

Let's use that aromantic rage, folks!

So I hear we're making the aromantic tag trend for valentines day, excellent work, let's keep it up

[theacecouple]

It's official! We got the state of Kansas to formally recognize Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week this year!

February 18-24, 2024 DON'T YOU FORGET!

[filurig]

närsi in her working uniform - ive mentioned it when i posted her first, but she works in the sartrill defense force, the Sartrill Tirsekki (more specifically in the Rau-Tirsekki, the division for basilisks). and yes her wings look different bcs ive been pondering a bit of an anatomical revamp of basilisk wings... so they can have silly hands. Yey. more rambles under cut

in most basilisk communities it's not seen as indecent to not wear clothes really, as they don't really need to. but in many communities it is a fun decorative element they like engaging in and clothes may often be seen as more associated with certain events or social positions. bcs of their anatomy most clothes however extend to chest/neckpieces, hats and legpieces as it can be a struggle and a hinderance to put on stuff below the arms as their wing membrane stretches from their arms to about halfway downt he tail.

the basilisks in the Tirsekki have their own division as they are usually delegated to special reconaissance roles separate from the rest of the order, who are usually trained in more typical forms of defensive and offensive combat. the subdivision has their own leader/trainers who are usually basilisks themselves as they know their own abilities best, rather than a harpy. their shapeshifting is obviously a huge part of their work, and scouting/surveillance is their most common form of work. sometimes they are called to stuff that involves combat however too.

the sartrill tirsekki formed as a revival of an older defensive order, the kaskin tirsekki. kaskin was a crakam town that fell due to human discovery and attack, and the crakam that formed sartrill were the fleeing survivors from that siege

[melovibes57]

I’m sick and tired of having to explain to people that i’m not interested in sex because i’m asexual, NOT because i’ve been brainwashed by purity culture. 😒

*I’m also sex positive but apparently it’s not possible to be sex positive and have a disinterest in sexual activites at the same time. 🙃

[platoniromantic-feelings]

A dear friend of mine, who is allo, wished me a happy Aromantic Day of Visibility this year and said, “You are important, and the ways that you love are important.”

No one had said something like that to me before. No one had ever validated my aromanticism and called it worthwhile or valuable or important. Most allos treat my a-spec attributes as things that have to be accommodated for rather than things that have value in themselves. I hadn’t even known that Aromantic Visibility Day was occurring, but my friend found out and thought of me. I was, and am, so touched by my friend’s words.

There was a small bicycle pride demonstration today and at the end this guy held a speech entirely about aromanticism?!?! Mostly about how it's often forgotten or unknown but how it's an identity that's part of the queer community. I've never seen aromanticism included in any of the queer events I've been to, not as a flag and not even as a footnote on websites or in speeches so I'm just... so happy about this. I thanked him afterwards (he wasn't even aro himself, just thought it was important to raise awareness). Anyways, I'm feeling good about life today. Maybe we are getting somewhere.

[batri-jopa]

I love my life highly satisfied just being myself

(Check the OTHER VERSION too✌️)

[acexualien]

Day 4 of Ace Week: Asexual Characters In Media! PART 1

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

Sure you're sex positive but are you normal about aroallos?

[platoniromantic-feelings]

I love this article and have re-read it several times.

hey aros! with asaw in the horizon, it's easy to forget about a lesser-known holiday that takes place on february 14th- alloromantic awareness day!

read the article below for a guide on how to celebrate this holiday and how to be an ally to your alloromantic peers!:

(seriously please read the post it is extremely funny)