#my aroace thought of the week

[chrishangry]

Let me just say as someone who hides a lot of myself in public how nice it is to see aroace and gender flux folks like me being unapologetically proud of expressing their nonbinary attraction and identity. I’m proud of you and I want to be like you when I grow up….even though I’m 35

[wings-of-angels]

I get so sad thinking about when university ends like ive never been happier than i am right now with multiple friends who i can see and go out with several times a week. And its not perfect like im so broke its scary and i want to be an author and i wont be satisfied till i am a published author with actual money but i worry, once that happens, all my uni friends will have moved to different cities/countries and i'll never have the same happiness again

[raviankaivao]

the aroace experience of constantly saying to people that they're a really good friend and that you like them platonically only to find out later that they had a massive crush on you and you've just been friendzoning them 24/7

[explodingstarlight]

Thank you for drawing Aro mikey- I kin mikey and im aro, we don't get much rep so thank you!

awww no prob! i’m honestly honored by how many people got a lot of joy from aro Mikey--based on the reblog tags at least haha ( yeah i read all of them :3). from one aspec to another, i totally agree and i will gladly smack all of my faves with the aspec stick <3

bonus Mikey doodle, just for you 💚

[callofdudes]

When extended family wants to talk about partners and grandkids and your in the corner trying to avoid the conversation like:

[3amsnek]

ending aro week with a special bonus cozy pride bean :3 an aroace friend!

I couldn’t find a specific event/day to draw them for but I really wanted to make one of these guys for our sunset flag so! here they are <3

and as always here’s the links to their now quite sizable horde of accompanying pals: trans, ace, lesbian, pan, lgbtq+, nonbinary, bi, & aro :]

click for better quality

reblogs > likes! please don’t like if you don’t rb!

[clarablightt]

okay so yknow it’s valentine’s day so i would be remiss if i didn’t do this, so im doing it…

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO MY MOST INCREDIBLE AND WONDERFUL QUEERPLATONIC GIRLFRIEND 💙💜

she has genuinely changed my life. as of tomorrow, we will have been together for 7 months. these 7 months have genuinely been so perfect and incredible and magical and they’ve been the best months of my life. i love everything we do together. our little texts throughout the day, the snapchats she sends me of things she’s doing, and our nightly discord calls. every second i spend with her is incomparable to anything else on this earth. she has gotten me through so many difficult times, and i trust her so completely. my life truly would not be the same without her. we may be long distance right now, so we only get to see each other every couple months at most, but the thought that one day we will be living together and i’ll hold her in my arms forever brings me so much hope for the future that i feel as tho i could take on the world!

lovey! if you’re reading this (as i’m sure you will hehe) thank you for everything! you’re truly the most incredible girlfriend i could’ve ever asked for, and i’m so glad you decided to spam like all of my aroace posts! you’ve made me feel so much more comfortable with myself. you’ve shown me that i’m worthy of kindness and caring and love in a way that no one else ever has. you’ve shown me i matter. thank you for being the most kind-hearted, loving, and compassionate soul on this planet! without you, i could’ve never achieved all the personal growth i’ve made over the past few months. you’re constantly encouraging me to improve and become the best version of me that i’ve always known i could be but never had the strength to achieve. you’ve given me that strength. so, for everything, i thank you. thank you for loving me. thank you for being so kind. thank you for choosing me. and thank you for putting up with my nonsense!

and most of all, thank you for being mine ♡

i truly can’t wait to see you again! when i do, i will never ever stop hugging you! i truly cannot wait to continue our aroace adventure! i love you @animalsandskyyy ♡ ♡ ♡

anyway sorry to be gushy on main i just love her so much *sniff*

[theyanderespecialist]

EPICNESSQUEEN's👑Thoughts On Aro/Ace🧡💛🤍🩵💙Jesus✡✝Theory (Yes and No)

[socialiseisnotinmyname]

Fellas I don't think I feel anything anymore...

I genuinely don't know how to word it...AUUUGGHHH... I mean you guys know that I'm aroace ofc you do the flag is literally in my pfp and like ok...let's just hope that I explain this clearly

(My rare moments of yapping so read as you will)

...So I don't feel really anything for the ladies...anymore? Like I wanted to at least date or have queer platonic relationship with female identifying people/non men ...but now...I don't really want anything with anyone at all...so I'm just Aroace now??

I don't know...it feels weird to be present yourself as one thing and changing said thing while your presents is still present!!?? Like if I was on a break or something I could just come back and like "....oh yea! I realise that I'm don't really feel attraction to anyone at all, so I'll identify myself as Aroace from now on!"

But now I don't know, I feel like it was out of nowhere for me to announce it to you guys like this... well I mean...I guess I was thinking and finding myself out "behind the scenes" for lack of a better term and I guess it is better to figure yourself out with people that you'll know that will accept you

But yea! I'm Aroace guys

(I'm not even sure if this is going to reach my followers but it's hilarious to watch yourself ramble and the next day I'm gonna be like "Ha ha even if they didn't see it...they won't be bothered anyway!..Ha ha!")

(^^^It's way more hilarious that I pinned this post(@0v0@)

....OK excuse me I need to sleep It's almost midnight as the time of posting...)

Edit:...Ha ha now I can put my flairmidable aroace pic as my pfp *rubs hands maliciously*/j

(I'll actually change into it tho...)

[mirokata]

my mood today

But it’s funny because I’m confused in the aromantic way

I’m so, so confused about what I’m feeling for somebody rn

It feels like a squish but a crush but it could also just be the temporary high of getting to know someone new. I mean there’s a bunch of *signs of something going on from both of us but… I don’t know how I feel about it. I feel kinda overwhelmed yet I kinda enjoy some part of… these new feelings. Like, craving emotional intimacy with a particular person. But it also scares me. I’m so confused about how I really feel about them.

It’s bizarre that I’ve never related to ANY love songs in my life but today this one just clicked, thanks to one single person. It’s wrecking my brain how that happened.

I don’t wanna dwell too much on it but it’d be nice to hear any thoughts, should anybody be reading this.

*Signs like:

It’s so obvious that we want to be physically close to each other (I do that with friends too but I guess it felt a little different, or I’m overthinking)

We keep anticipating possible opportunities to see each other. A hatable experience became something we now look forward to (but like, friends have that effect too?? I think?? but now I’m literally dressing up thinking about them instead of everything else that’s gonna to happen in my day)

I also know they recently fell in love with somebody and whoever it is, it’s been on their mind. Not necessarily me tho. I don’t know if I’d be jealous if it isn’t me but I know I’d panic if it were me.

Gosh I’m a 1am mess

[chrishangry]

I always doubt myself for being aroace then I remember that for a long time I tried. I really tried to be attracted to people. But some things just aren’t for me. Self acceptance is more important than fitting in.

[whoa-where-did-the-pancakes-go]

I'm actually so shitty at separating romantic feelings from platonic ones. Sobbing into my hands.

[thegreeninyoureyes]

I think I’m emotionally exhausted rn and that means that my deepest desire at the moment is to isolate myself to rewatch koisenu futari and cry

[opheliaweeps]

this is super late, but happy aro week y’all! remember, there’s no need to have a romantic partner/inclination to live a long and happy life (a lesson it took me a while to learn). above everything else, the person you should love most should be you 💕

(love, your fellow aro-ace gremlin,

jyot)

[idmnbc]

Yesterday I was talking with a friend abt being in a longtime romantic relationship, romantic companionships and stuff like that and she said to me “It must be even harder for you...” and even tho I understood what she meant, that it was harder for me bcs I’m aroace spec, I quoted my dear (platonic) Takahashi from Koisenu Futari: Just because I’m *alone* doesn’t mean I like to feel lonely and that I don’t want the company of special people in my life.

Companionship doesn’t come only from romantic or sexual partners. My biological family is my family, my friends are my family, my future dog is my family and every other living being that want to participate in my life will be my family.

[disabled-dinos]

Aro/Ace things :)

Okay so something kind of small that really annoys me:

Both in fandom and on-screen/page when a character risks their life for another character, and now they are both considered to definitely be in love. Usually followed up with something along the lines of, "there's no other explanation for that kind of crazy!"

Now it's not that big of a deal but ughhhhh I hate it. I'm aroace. I love my friends. In almost any of these scenarios, I would do what the love interest is doing to protect my friends.

I just hate the implication that we can only be that close to the people we are romantically or sexually attracted to. Or that aromantic and/or asexual people are incapable of loving someone that much.

Also what rhetoric is this pushing? It's almost always a male character diving into danger for a female one; are the only women men are willing to protect the ones they're attracted to?

Idk i just find it a weird sentiment.