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WAYS TO LIVE SLOWER IN 2025

2024 was such a blur for me, and I feel like I wasn’t really taking in the present moments as much as I should have. I don’t want to repeat the same thing in 2025, here’s a little few ways i’m implementing living slower in 2025. 

SHOWER MEDITATIONS. Each time I’m in the shower, I just focus on rinsing, soap, rinsing then I get out. While its a small thing to consider, as someone who has a lot of thoughts especially during school mornings, it's a nice way to ground yourself. 

If you’d like you can start off with a little prayer, thanking him for access to clean water and a bathroom. Let the water take all the struggles and stresses you have down the drain, use soap to renew yourself of yesterday for the new day and focus on how the water feels on your skin. Then, you can end it off with a prayer as well. 

TAKE THE TIME TO BE IN THE SUN OR NATURE. Perhaps you can read a book, listen to a playlist or just soak that time spent in nature. It's completely up to you, but I wouldn’t do anything that's too distracting like studying or scrolling. 

SAY THANK YOU, FOR NO ONE. Each time you get to sleep in your bed, say thank you. Each time you eat a meal, say thank you. Each time you get to have access to water, say thank you. There are a lot more opportunities to say thanks, but it just allows for daily appreciation of things that we do without thinking. 

UNATTACH YOUR PHONE FROM TASKS. Certain tasks, you do not need your phone. For example, cooking. When you cook and perhaps you’re waiting for something to boil, wash some dishes instead of opening instagram. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be a task, when you’re in a car, don’t look at your phone, look outside at the window and observe the people or the cars you see. 

NO SOCIAL MEDIA IN THE MORNING OR EVENING. Social media is meant for quick consumption, but because it's so quick, we underestimate the time that we spend on it. Only 10 minutes can easily turn into an hour. I would avoid using it during these times because this is probably when we’re the most easily influenced by fads, products or misinformation. 

REST IS A TASK. Take the time out of your day to rest, because you need it. It doesn’t have to be a singular session daily either, it can be regular small intervals throughout the day. Use this time to reflect on how you’ve spent your time earlier, then do whatever you consider to rejuvenates you. 

LISTEN TO YOURSELF MORE. While the self improvement community does perpetuate the idea of ‘following the plan, not the mood’, (and i agree to an extent) but being miserable while trying to be productive is not ideal. If you’re sad, take the time to calm yourself down. You’re angry, then channel it into something high energy but not necessarily productive. 

In a way, being able to recognize these feelings and acknowledge them is a skill that is developed overtime and will be useful. 

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Replacing shame with gratitude is one simple step you can take TODAY to start cultivating self love.

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do you have any posts abt decentering your life from men? i think i rely on male validation wayyyyyy too much lol. love your content btw ✨

✧˖° how to stop centering your life around men (because you have way better things to do)

(a guide to decentering men, breaking free from male validation & making yourself the main character for real this time)

so you’ve noticed it... the way your mood shifts depending on whether or not he texts you back, the way your confidence is high when you’re getting attention and low when you’re not. maybe you catch yourself subtly performing when guys are around, or maybe you find yourself molding into the kind of girl you think they’d want.

and honestly? same. we’ve all been there. society trains us to believe that being wanted is the ultimate achievement, that our worth is measured by how desirable we are to men. but that’s a lie. your life was never meant to revolve around them. you were always meant to be the sun, the main event, the entire storyline.

i really hope this post can help you understand you were never meant to revolve around them. love you - mindy

✧˖° step one: start seeing them for what they actually are

listen, it’s time to be so for real with yourself. ask: do I even like this man, or do I just like the attention? do I actually think he’s interesting, or do I just want him to think I’m interesting? do I want him, or do I just want to be chosen?

because half the time? the men we obsess over are painfully mediocre. and yet we assign them so much power. letting them dictate how we feel about ourselves, letting their validation (or lack of it) determine our worth.

take a step back. stop romanticizing them. start seeing them as human beings. flawed, regular, not the prize. the real prize? is you.

✧˖° step two: detox from male validation (yes, a real detox)

you don’t realize how much male validation fuels your self-worth until you cut it off. so let’s go cut. it. off.

for the next month, no:

dressing for male attention (dress for you instead).

posting just to see if he will like it.

checking who watched your stories.

replaying conversations to see if you sounded cool enough.

instead, every time you feel the urge to seek male validation, replace it with self-validation.

take pictures just for yourself.

romanticize your own opinion of you.

remind yourself that your value doesn’t shift based on their perception of you.

✧˖° step three: become the most interesting person you know

a lot of us center men in our lives because we have nothing else filling that space. so fill it. with things that actually excite you.

start a niche hobby that makes you feel alive (pottery, screenwriting, blogging (girlblogging to be exact), literally anything).

go to cafes alone, sit in the prettiest spot, and enjoy your own company.

build your dream life piece by piece, your wardrobe, your routines, your vibe.

when you’re truly obsessed with your own life, the need for male validation just… disappears. because suddenly, you’re so content, so full, that their attention feels like an afterthought.

✧˖° step four: unfollow the pick-me content (yes, even the guilty pleasure stuff)

what you consume matters. if your feed is filled with “how to make him obsessed with you” content, if you’re constantly absorbing media that glorifies male attention, you’re subconsciously reinforcing the idea that men = purpose.

so let’s cleanse. unfollow the pick-me content. mute the male gaze influencers. instead:

fill your feed with confident, self-sufficient women.

read books by powerful women who own their narrative.

watch movies where the female lead’s story isn’t about a man.

you are not the supporting character in a man’s story. start consuming content that reminds you of that. you are a goddess, an angel, the main character of YOUR story! please remember that <3

✧˖° step five: enforce the highest standards (with zero guilt)

decentering men doesn’t mean avoiding relationships, it just means refusing to settle. it means knowing that you don’t need male validation to be worthy. and that means setting real standards:

if he’s inconsistent? he’s gone.

if he makes you question your worth? he’s out.

if he needs you to shrink yourself to fit into his life? bye.

your love life should enhance your life, not become your life. you don’t need to be chosen. you need to be cherished. there’s a difference.

✧˖° mindy’s personal tips ✧˖°

some little things that helped me fully break free from male validation: ➝ talk to yourself like you’re the love of your life - hype yourself up in the mirror, take yourself on cute dates, write love letters to you.➝ wear perfume, do your hair, and put effort into your looks even when you’re alone. let your beauty be for you, not for male approval. ➝ when a guy doesn’t text back, shift your energy immediately. instead of spiraling, get up, put on music, do something fun. do not make him your focus.

✧˖° homework: shift your energy back to you

for the next week, every time you catch yourself seeking male validation, pause. redirect that energy inward. do something for yourself instead. and watch how your entire aura changes.

because when you stop chasing their approval? you start living for real.

love you <333 so sorry this reply was sooo late

xoxo mindy

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We are officially mid-way through the year!! 

Are you proud of the moves you’ve made? 

Have you been focusing on move the needle tasks this past 6 months? 

What are you hoping to achieve in the next 6 months? 

Who do you want to be? 

What do you need to let go? And who? What habits? 

What needs more focus? 

What needs less focus? 

Diving into yourself is juicy, its empowering, it’s expansive. Reflections offer an opportunity to re-align and re-evalaute your dreams and goals and also honour and celebrate how far you have come. Go back to your New Years resolutions, edit your life ruthlessly. You are your greatest masterpiece after all.

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Love freely, trust wisely, harm never.

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Consistency is not having 100% every single attempt, consistency is giving all you got every single attempt. Some days you might have 0.0001% to give. That’s okay! That doesn’t mean you won’t be successful. Consistency, success, healing, none of these processes are linear how we think they are.

Give it your best shot, that’s the most anyone can do. Maybe yesterday wasn’t your best day. That’s fine. At least you showed up. That’s the only thing we can ask of you.

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A Love Letter to the Light & Dark Within You

We exist in contradictions. Soft and sharp. Quiet and chaotic. Dreamer and destroyer. We crave serotonin—the golden glow of contentment—but we are also ruled by our shadows, the parts of us that lurk in moonlight, whispering truths we often ignore.

This space is not about toxic positivity. It’s not about drowning in darkness, either. It’s about integration. It’s about alchemy—turning pain into power, restlessness into creation, and emotions into art.

Welcome to the grey area, where we don’t just survive. We thrive.

☼ The Serotonin Side: Soft Euphoria & Gentle Joys

Serotonin isn’t just “happiness.” It’s balance. It’s the quiet kind of peace that feels like warm coffee in your hands or the way sunlight kisses your skin after days of rain. It’s the deep exhale that says, I am okay. I am here.

☁ How to Cultivate Daily Euphoria (Without Faking It)

Ritualize the Mundane.

Light a candle before you journal.

Play music while getting ready, make it cinematic.

Drink water like it’s a love potion.

Turn walks into thought voyages.

Learn to Love the Small Wins.

Finished a task? Clap for yourself.

Woke up on time? Victory.

Drank enough water? Main character behavior.

Fuel Your Brain Like It’s an Expensive Car. (A NON NEGOTIABLE)

Dark chocolate, matcha, bananas, omega-3s (because you deserve high-quality energy).

Hydration is non-negotiable.

If the sun won’t shine, fake it with golden lighting and warm colors.

Move Like You Love Yourself.

Not as punishment, but as poetry.

Dance at 2 AM just because.

Stretch with intention—feel every part of you waking up.

Practice the Art of Feeling Good for No Reason.

You don’t need an occasion to wear your best outfit.

You don’t need permission to be happy.

Sometimes, joy is just deciding to be present.

☾ The Shadow Side: Befriending the Beautiful Darkness

The world tells us to fear our shadows. To hide our anger, sadness, and intensity under layers of politeness. But ignoring the dark doesn’t make it disappear—it just makes it grow in secret.

The truth? Your darkness is not your enemy. It is your teacher.

☽ How to Integrate, Not Erase, Your Shadows

Meet Yourself in the Mirror.

Look into your own eyes. Really look.

Whisper affirmations, but not just soft ones.

Try: “I honor all versions of myself, even the ones I don’t understand yet.”

Let Your Darkness Speak.

Journal without filters. Write the raw, the messy, the uncomfortable truths.

Ask yourself: What am I afraid to admit? What parts of myself do I reject?

Turn the answers into art. Poetry. Fashion. Music. Movement.

Release & Rage with Purpose.

Write an angry letter and burn it.

Punch a pillow. Scream in the car.

Let emotions move through you instead of keeping them trapped inside.

Romanticize the Dark.

Late-night walks under streetlights.

The scent of rain-soaked earth.

Candlelit baths with black lace and red wine.

Music that aches, books that make you feel too much.

Let the darkness be cinematic, not just heavy.

☯ The Balance: Where Serotonin Meets Shadows

You are not meant to be all light or all dark. You are a storm with a sun inside. You are the wild contradiction of soft hands and sharp claws, poetry and chaos, serenity and rebellion.

How to live in the in-between:

Romanticize both ends of your spectrum. There is beauty in the darkness, just as there is depth in the light.

Feel deeply, but don’t drown. Let emotions pass through you like waves—not as prisons, but as messengers.

Make art out of your duality. The best stories, the best music, the best fashion, the best moments come from contrast.

Know that you are never just one thing. You are allowed to be happy and sad. Strong and soft. Lost and found.

Final Thought:-

You Are a Walking Universe

The world will try to tell you to pick a side—to be either sunshine or shadows. Don’t listen. You are both. You are all.

You are not broken. You are not too much.

You are the entire spectrum of existence wrapped in skin, and that?

That is magic.

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“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” - Buddha

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The Power of Softness: Embracing Feminine Energy in a Harsh World

"Softness is not weakness. It takes courage to remain gentle in a world that wants to harden you." – Unknown

There’s an unspoken rule in this world: to survive, you must be tough. Harden yourself. Build walls. Speak louder. Move faster. Show no vulnerability. Strength, as we are often taught, means being unshakable—unyielding like stone.

But what if true strength is something softer? Something quieter? What if it is found in the curve of a smile, the warmth of a kind word, the grace of someone who chooses understanding over retaliation?

☁️ The Misunderstood Power of Softness

We live in a society that often equates softness with fragility. To be gentle is to be naïve, to be emotional is to be unstable, and to be nurturing is to be submissive. And yet, softness is one of the most powerful forces in the world. Water carves through mountains. The moon controls the tides. A mother’s touch heals wounds no medicine can reach.

Softness is not about passivity—it is about presence. It is knowing when to bend without breaking. It is having the strength to love without conditions, to listen without judgment, to trust in the natural flow of life.

🌙 Softness in Astrology & Archetypes

Feminine energy, whether in astrology or mythology, often represents intuition, emotion, and creation. In astrology, signs like Cancer, Pisces, and Libra embody this energy through their deep emotional intelligence, compassion, and artistic expression. Venus—the planet of beauty, love, and harmony—reminds us that attraction and influence don’t come from force, but from resonance.

Even in archetypes, the Priestess, the Lover, and the Nurturer wield power not through aggression, but through presence, connection, and wisdom. Their strength is in their ability to inspire, to heal, to transform.

🕊 Ways to Embrace Your Softness

In a world that often demands hardness, how do we embrace our softness without feeling small?

🌿 Speak with warmth, even when others don’t. Kindness is a quiet rebellion. 🌿 Dress in a way that makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. Fashion is self-expression—your softness can be romantic, delicate, or even bold. 🌿 Let yourself feel. Crying is not weakness; it is a release. Love is not foolish; it is courageous. 🌿 Set boundaries with grace. Softness does not mean being a doormat. It means choosing where to invest your energy wisely. 🌿 Create. Whether it’s art, poetry, music, or even decorating your space—softness thrives in beauty.

✨ Softness is a Revolution

In a world that expects us to be hard, choosing softness is an act of defiance. To be soft is to remain open, to feel deeply, to love fearlessly. It is the quiet but unshakable strength that refuses to be turned cold by a cruel world.

So go ahead—embrace your softness. Let it be your power, not your weakness.

Love, Vee

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20 Women Empowerment Quotes From Remarkable Women

International Women’s Day is a time to celebrate women’s achievements and push for equality. Explore 20 powerful Women Empowerment Quotes from remarkable leaders like Malala Yousafzai, Michelle Obama, and Serena Williams. These quotes inspire confidence, courage, and ambition, urging women to embrace their strength, break boundaries, and lead change. Let their wisdom fuel your journey toward success and self-empowerment!

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the feminine urge to be that student effortlessly ✧˖°

there’s something undeniably magnetic about that student. the one who always has her life together; notes perfectly highlighted, grades effortlessly high, coffee in one hand, an annotated novel in the other. she’s the girl who glides through hallways with a quiet confidence, always prepared, always composed, always one step ahead. but the truth is… she doesn’t just wake up like this. she became her.

if you’ve ever looked at an aesthetic studyblr post and thought, i wish that were me, it already can be. being that student isn’t about obsessing over perfection, it’s about creating systems that make success effortless. and when you master that? discipline doesn’t feel like a struggle. it feels natural.

being that student sometimes is subjective, so take this post with a grain of salt, don't change yourself, but become the better version of yourself. this post is to give you some tips that i personally use to become "that student". academics is so important to me, and it always has been. i've always shoot for the highest, and honestly? even though i sometimes feel like "i hate studying" or "i don't want to go to school". i never succumb to it, i have a gravitation towards studying, and good grades. academics is not just about grades, but learning skills to improve your life, your career, relationships and don't forget, your brain! so please try to see school and academics as improving yourself, not just about using grades to define who you are. - mindy

☁️ how to become that student effortlessly:

✧ romanticize your study sessions – make your desk a space you want to be in. light a candle. play soft classical music. use a pen that glides smoothly. let studying feel like self-care, not a chore. pretend your rory gilmore, or even paris geller.

✧ develop signature study rituals – always start with a cup of tea/coffee/matcha/ANY DRINK, a five-minute review, or a fresh page in your notebook. habits make it easier to start, and starting is half the battle.

✧ master ‘bare minimum’ studying – not every study session has to be two hours long. learn how to get the most out of 10-15 minutes. review flashcards while waiting for your coffee, summarize a chapter in the notes app before bed, listen to an audiobook while getting ready.

✧ have a ‘default’ study outfit – cozy but polished. a chunky sweater, soft leggings, blue-light glasses, a sleek ponytail. when you dress like the kind of student you admire, you become her.

✧ use strategic aesthetic motivation – pinterest boards, beautifully organized notion pages, a soft academia playlist, these are not distractions, they’re tools. use them. let the aesthetic inspire action, not replace it.

✧ learn in layers – don’t cram. absorb knowledge naturally throughout the day. read your notes over breakfast. explain concepts in the shower. let studying weave into your routine like second nature.

✧ stop glorifying stress – good students don’t burn out. they rest, recharge, and protect their mental clarity. discipline is not exhaustion, it's balance.

☁️ mindy’s personal tips for being effortlessly studious:

✧ “the 2-minute review” – every night, spend two minutes looking over what you learned that day. your brain loves repetition. what feels hard today will feel effortless in a week.

✧ “the open book trick” – leave your study materials open on your desk, bed, or counter. you’re 10x more likely to glance at them if they’re already in front of you.

✧ “library aura” – if you struggle with focus, go to a place that forces you to be productive. a coffee shop, a library, even just a quiet corner of your room with your phone in another area. change your environment to change your mindset. i personally love studying during eating brunch and drinking frappes with my friends at starbucks <3

✧ “study like a writer” – instead of just passively reading notes, rewrite them in your own words. like you're explaining them in a diary or a letter. it makes the information stick. tip: one study method i loved using when i took ap art history, was writing an essay on each individual artwork, even if it was just 200 words long, i was able to write it in my words, it's another method based on active recall. it helped me so much, and i ended up getting a 5 on the ap exam thanks to this amazing method <3

✧ “live like a student you admire” – every day, ask yourself: what would the best version of me do? would she scroll mindlessly for an hour, or would she review her flashcards? would she procrastinate, or would she get started now? act accordingly.

☁️ the truth? being that student isn’t about talent. it’s about mindset. show up for yourself. build effortless habits. make learning part of who you are. and soon enough? you won’t just look like that student. you’ll be her.

xoxo mindy

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If you grew up in an abusive home, you’ve probably learnt to play the second class citizen when it comes to love, and who could blame you? This was your only way to survive, you came second, the person you loved, your 'protecter' came first. Walking on egg shells, and trying your best to keep your abuser happy and not upset was a lifestyle for so many years. But as an adult, if you carry over this learnt behaviour, you’ll suffer. You’ll feel short changed in relationships, over giving and under receiving. The scales won’t be tipped in your favour… but how do you move out of this people pleasing tendency and put yourself first?  - You need to reflect, get clear and understand the roots, what you are missing in your life that is allowing you to continue to put yourself second, maybe deep down you don’t feel worthy, you don’t feel love. It might take a while to realise this but once you get to the root you can start reprogramming your self concept (there is so much on Tiktok, youtube etc on this topic) - So you’ve established the root of your people pleasing, now you need to re-write the script. You need to work on this everyday, with affirmations, journalling and ACTIONS that (at first might feel like swimming against the tide) but ultimately will get you to a place of HEALTHY love. For example, if you are prone to hyper-fixating on a man for attention and validation. You need to focus on giving this to yourself. When you self validate, nothing or no one can take this away from you. This looks like telling yourself and giving yourself everything you CRAVE. Not from him, not from your friends, but from within. Yes, it will take some effort and work, but do you want to play out your broken childhood wounds or start living from a place of power?  - Once you’ve worked on your self concept and taken the time to fill your own cup, it’s time to start dating and learning to put yourself first. This might take some practise, but keep trying, keep prioritising you, and if you slip up, don’t beat yourself up. Growth is not a straight-line. The most important thing is you're trying your best and moving in the direction of self love and healing. 

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