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WAYS TO LIVE SLOWER IN 2025

2024 was such a blur for me, and I feel like I wasn’t really taking in the present moments as much as I should have. I don’t want to repeat the same thing in 2025, here’s a little few ways i’m implementing living slower in 2025. 

SHOWER MEDITATIONS. Each time I’m in the shower, I just focus on rinsing, soap, rinsing then I get out. While its a small thing to consider, as someone who has a lot of thoughts especially during school mornings, it's a nice way to ground yourself. 

If you’d like you can start off with a little prayer, thanking him for access to clean water and a bathroom. Let the water take all the struggles and stresses you have down the drain, use soap to renew yourself of yesterday for the new day and focus on how the water feels on your skin. Then, you can end it off with a prayer as well. 

TAKE THE TIME TO BE IN THE SUN OR NATURE. Perhaps you can read a book, listen to a playlist or just soak that time spent in nature. It's completely up to you, but I wouldn’t do anything that's too distracting like studying or scrolling. 

SAY THANK YOU, FOR NO ONE. Each time you get to sleep in your bed, say thank you. Each time you eat a meal, say thank you. Each time you get to have access to water, say thank you. There are a lot more opportunities to say thanks, but it just allows for daily appreciation of things that we do without thinking. 

UNATTACH YOUR PHONE FROM TASKS. Certain tasks, you do not need your phone. For example, cooking. When you cook and perhaps you’re waiting for something to boil, wash some dishes instead of opening instagram. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be a task, when you’re in a car, don’t look at your phone, look outside at the window and observe the people or the cars you see. 

NO SOCIAL MEDIA IN THE MORNING OR EVENING. Social media is meant for quick consumption, but because it's so quick, we underestimate the time that we spend on it. Only 10 minutes can easily turn into an hour. I would avoid using it during these times because this is probably when we’re the most easily influenced by fads, products or misinformation. 

REST IS A TASK. Take the time out of your day to rest, because you need it. It doesn’t have to be a singular session daily either, it can be regular small intervals throughout the day. Use this time to reflect on how you’ve spent your time earlier, then do whatever you consider to rejuvenates you. 

LISTEN TO YOURSELF MORE. While the self improvement community does perpetuate the idea of ‘following the plan, not the mood’, (and i agree to an extent) but being miserable while trying to be productive is not ideal. If you’re sad, take the time to calm yourself down. You’re angry, then channel it into something high energy but not necessarily productive. 

In a way, being able to recognize these feelings and acknowledge them is a skill that is developed overtime and will be useful. 

[wisterianwoman]

Replacing shame with gratitude is one simple step you can take TODAY to start cultivating self love.

YOUR GUIDE TO SELF-LOVE

[adviceformefromme]

We are officially mid-way through the year!! 

Are you proud of the moves you’ve made? 

Have you been focusing on move the needle tasks this past 6 months? 

What are you hoping to achieve in the next 6 months? 

Who do you want to be? 

What do you need to let go? And who? What habits? 

What needs more focus? 

What needs less focus? 

Diving into yourself is juicy, its empowering, it’s expansive. Reflections offer an opportunity to re-align and re-evalaute your dreams and goals and also honour and celebrate how far you have come. Go back to your New Years resolutions, edit your life ruthlessly. You are your greatest masterpiece after all.

[glowettee]

the feminine urge to be that student effortlessly ✧˖°

there’s something undeniably magnetic about that student. the one who always has her life together; notes perfectly highlighted, grades effortlessly high, coffee in one hand, an annotated novel in the other. she’s the girl who glides through hallways with a quiet confidence, always prepared, always composed, always one step ahead. but the truth is… she doesn’t just wake up like this. she became her.

if you’ve ever looked at an aesthetic studyblr post and thought, i wish that were me, it already can be. being that student isn’t about obsessing over perfection, it’s about creating systems that make success effortless. and when you master that? discipline doesn’t feel like a struggle. it feels natural.

being that student sometimes is subjective, so take this post with a grain of salt, don't change yourself, but become the better version of yourself. this post is to give you some tips that i personally use to become "that student". academics is so important to me, and it always has been. i've always shoot for the highest, and honestly? even though i sometimes feel like "i hate studying" or "i don't want to go to school". i never succumb to it, i have a gravitation towards studying, and good grades. academics is not just about grades, but learning skills to improve your life, your career, relationships and don't forget, your brain! so please try to see school and academics as improving yourself, not just about using grades to define who you are. - mindy

☁️ how to become that student effortlessly:

✧ romanticize your study sessions – make your desk a space you want to be in. light a candle. play soft classical music. use a pen that glides smoothly. let studying feel like self-care, not a chore. pretend your rory gilmore, or even paris geller.

✧ develop signature study rituals – always start with a cup of tea/coffee/matcha/ANY DRINK, a five-minute review, or a fresh page in your notebook. habits make it easier to start, and starting is half the battle.

✧ master ‘bare minimum’ studying – not every study session has to be two hours long. learn how to get the most out of 10-15 minutes. review flashcards while waiting for your coffee, summarize a chapter in the notes app before bed, listen to an audiobook while getting ready.

✧ have a ‘default’ study outfit – cozy but polished. a chunky sweater, soft leggings, blue-light glasses, a sleek ponytail. when you dress like the kind of student you admire, you become her.

✧ use strategic aesthetic motivation – pinterest boards, beautifully organized notion pages, a soft academia playlist, these are not distractions, they’re tools. use them. let the aesthetic inspire action, not replace it.

✧ learn in layers – don’t cram. absorb knowledge naturally throughout the day. read your notes over breakfast. explain concepts in the shower. let studying weave into your routine like second nature.

✧ stop glorifying stress – good students don’t burn out. they rest, recharge, and protect their mental clarity. discipline is not exhaustion, it's balance.

☁️ mindy’s personal tips for being effortlessly studious:

✧ “the 2-minute review” – every night, spend two minutes looking over what you learned that day. your brain loves repetition. what feels hard today will feel effortless in a week.

✧ “the open book trick” – leave your study materials open on your desk, bed, or counter. you’re 10x more likely to glance at them if they’re already in front of you.

✧ “library aura” – if you struggle with focus, go to a place that forces you to be productive. a coffee shop, a library, even just a quiet corner of your room with your phone in another area. change your environment to change your mindset. i personally love studying during eating brunch and drinking frappes with my friends at starbucks <3

✧ “study like a writer” – instead of just passively reading notes, rewrite them in your own words. like you're explaining them in a diary or a letter. it makes the information stick. tip: one study method i loved using when i took ap art history, was writing an essay on each individual artwork, even if it was just 200 words long, i was able to write it in my words, it's another method based on active recall. it helped me so much, and i ended up getting a 5 on the ap exam thanks to this amazing method <3

✧ “live like a student you admire” – every day, ask yourself: what would the best version of me do? would she scroll mindlessly for an hour, or would she review her flashcards? would she procrastinate, or would she get started now? act accordingly.

☁️ the truth? being that student isn’t about talent. it’s about mindset. show up for yourself. build effortless habits. make learning part of who you are. and soon enough? you won’t just look like that student. you’ll be her.

xoxo mindy

[marandsviet]

Love freely, trust wisely, harm never.

[authenticity2025]

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” - Buddha

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[malaksyy]

I have a question :)

So recently I saw a video of the wizardliz and she was talking about how toxic people with negative energy sucked her energy and that manifested physically on her, she started being depressed, hair loss... And she said to let go of those persons and when she did that she felt amazing. So right now I'm almost in the same situation, but the "toxic people" is my familly, for some reason my mom always argues with my step dad but they are still together (he is a narcissiste), and when they get mad they both get mad at me ?? :⁠-⁠\, and that negative energy is really affecting me, I'm in my worst moments, im really in a bad mental state, and i want to "grow mentally" i want to get out of this house/situation but im just a teenager i cant be independant yet, i just want my dreams to come true, i want to shift, i want to be happy and loved. I'm really tired. Thanks for your attention!!!

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The Power of Softness: Embracing Feminine Energy in a Harsh World

"Softness is not weakness. It takes courage to remain gentle in a world that wants to harden you." – Unknown

There’s an unspoken rule in this world: to survive, you must be tough. Harden yourself. Build walls. Speak louder. Move faster. Show no vulnerability. Strength, as we are often taught, means being unshakable—unyielding like stone.

But what if true strength is something softer? Something quieter? What if it is found in the curve of a smile, the warmth of a kind word, the grace of someone who chooses understanding over retaliation?

☁️ The Misunderstood Power of Softness

We live in a society that often equates softness with fragility. To be gentle is to be naïve, to be emotional is to be unstable, and to be nurturing is to be submissive. And yet, softness is one of the most powerful forces in the world. Water carves through mountains. The moon controls the tides. A mother’s touch heals wounds no medicine can reach.

Softness is not about passivity—it is about presence. It is knowing when to bend without breaking. It is having the strength to love without conditions, to listen without judgment, to trust in the natural flow of life.

🌙 Softness in Astrology & Archetypes

Feminine energy, whether in astrology or mythology, often represents intuition, emotion, and creation. In astrology, signs like Cancer, Pisces, and Libra embody this energy through their deep emotional intelligence, compassion, and artistic expression. Venus—the planet of beauty, love, and harmony—reminds us that attraction and influence don’t come from force, but from resonance.

Even in archetypes, the Priestess, the Lover, and the Nurturer wield power not through aggression, but through presence, connection, and wisdom. Their strength is in their ability to inspire, to heal, to transform.

🕊 Ways to Embrace Your Softness

In a world that often demands hardness, how do we embrace our softness without feeling small?

🌿 Speak with warmth, even when others don’t. Kindness is a quiet rebellion. 🌿 Dress in a way that makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. Fashion is self-expression—your softness can be romantic, delicate, or even bold. 🌿 Let yourself feel. Crying is not weakness; it is a release. Love is not foolish; it is courageous. 🌿 Set boundaries with grace. Softness does not mean being a doormat. It means choosing where to invest your energy wisely. 🌿 Create. Whether it’s art, poetry, music, or even decorating your space—softness thrives in beauty.

✨ Softness is a Revolution

In a world that expects us to be hard, choosing softness is an act of defiance. To be soft is to remain open, to feel deeply, to love fearlessly. It is the quiet but unshakable strength that refuses to be turned cold by a cruel world.

So go ahead—embrace your softness. Let it be your power, not your weakness.

Love, Vee

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WHAT I DO WHEN I’M ON MY PERIOD

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Hi, hii! Today’s post isn’t random because I started my period yesterday and I also got sick so my energy is really drained and I want to share a few tips to maybe help some of you! ( this is the 2nd time I’m writing this so I’m a bit annoyed )

— HYDRATION : you gotta drink A LOT of water during your period. Hydration is already so important as it is but during your period it’s 10x more important

— TEA : first of all shoutout to all my tea girlies. Then, I love drinking tea ( without caffeine!) because it not only makes my cramps better because of the warmth and since i often drink peppermint and ginger ( which is really good during your period ) but i also just convince myself that tea will make me feel better so it does. ( it’a all about the mindset )

— POSITIVITY : I always try to see the good in things which also includes my period. As i told SOME PEOPLE I imagine it as the blood of my enemies.. not i’m kidding. I just tell myself that I can grow a whole human and that it’s gonna be over soon. This isn’t temporary so I shouldn’t complain because I can’t change anything about it by complaining ( I tell myself that with a lot of things. Complaining never helps )

— EATING : I try to get as many vitamins in as possible with veggies, fruits and nuts but fish and chicken is also very good for you!

— VITAMINS/SUPPLEMENTS : i only eat chicken as meat so i’m deficient in a lot of vitamins so i have to take a lot of the most important one during your period is magnesium. Even if you eat a lot of food containing magnesium ( mostly nuts ) you should consider taking some magnesium supplements

— REST : this is the key to not passing out in this week of suffering. Sleep a lot and limit your physical activity ( I’m sorry to my athletes out there. ), instead of going to the gym and doing heavy workouts stay in bed and read a nice book or do chores around the house ( also has you moving )

— MOVE : very contradictory but yoga and a bit of walking can never do harm, i love walking during my period because it makes me feel like I did something but it also doesn’t leave me completely drained from all energy.

— WARMTH : tea, warm baths, heating pads and pets ( my cats keep me warm <3 )

— DISTRACTION : this may differ from person to person but I need a lot of distraction especially when I’m just laying around in bed so I usually read a very captivating book to focus 100% and forget about the pain.

— PEOPLE : I stay in my dark room and when I’m in school talk less because I’m worried that I’ll snap at people but I usually tell my friends that I’m on my period or they figure so there isn’t any misunderstandings

— REMINDERS : you can’t do anything about the fact that you get periods, they’re normal and you shouldn’t feel ashamed about them. People who make you feel that way about them are childish. You weight may vary so don’t panic! ( i don’t weight myself during my period because it’s not my real weight so it’s of no use! ). Your energy is already low so try to stay calm and not waste it on unnecessary things or people. Drama can wait for when you’re ovulating.

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Try new things, step out of your comfort zone, take risks, do things in ways you've never done them before, ask for help, surround yourself with self-actualized people, become obsessed with the fact that you have one go-round on this planet as the you that is you, and realize how precious and important it is not to squander that. In order to be an icon, a few times you need to be bold. How do I define boldness? Stepping outside of your comfort zone.

You should not remain in your comfort zone; if you want to make it big, you must challenge yourself, get out of your comfort zone, and succeed in doing well outside of your comfort areas. In life, we should explore options outside our comfort zone.

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Nurturing Yourself First: The True Power of Self-Care

Self-care isn't selfish; it's the most important commitment you make to yourself. Nurture your mind, body, and soul—because when you pour into yourself, you’re better equipped to pour into the world around you.

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If you grew up in an abusive home, you’ve probably learnt to play the second class citizen when it comes to love, and who could blame you? This was your only way to survive, you came second, the person you loved, your 'protecter' came first. Walking on egg shells, and trying your best to keep your abuser happy and not upset was a lifestyle for so many years. But as an adult, if you carry over this learnt behaviour, you’ll suffer. You’ll feel short changed in relationships, over giving and under receiving. The scales won’t be tipped in your favour… but how do you move out of this people pleasing tendency and put yourself first?  - You need to reflect, get clear and understand the roots, what you are missing in your life that is allowing you to continue to put yourself second, maybe deep down you don’t feel worthy, you don’t feel love. It might take a while to realise this but once you get to the root you can start reprogramming your self concept (there is so much on Tiktok, youtube etc on this topic) - So you’ve established the root of your people pleasing, now you need to re-write the script. You need to work on this everyday, with affirmations, journalling and ACTIONS that (at first might feel like swimming against the tide) but ultimately will get you to a place of HEALTHY love. For example, if you are prone to hyper-fixating on a man for attention and validation. You need to focus on giving this to yourself. When you self validate, nothing or no one can take this away from you. This looks like telling yourself and giving yourself everything you CRAVE. Not from him, not from your friends, but from within. Yes, it will take some effort and work, but do you want to play out your broken childhood wounds or start living from a place of power?  - Once you’ve worked on your self concept and taken the time to fill your own cup, it’s time to start dating and learning to put yourself first. This might take some practise, but keep trying, keep prioritising you, and if you slip up, don’t beat yourself up. Growth is not a straight-line. The most important thing is you're trying your best and moving in the direction of self love and healing. 

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the glowletter: january edition | mindy's monthly newsletter

𝓇𝑜𝓂𝒶𝓃𝓉𝒾𝒸𝒾𝓏𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝒻𝓇𝑒𝓈𝒽 𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓇𝓉

hi, loves 💌

welcome to the very first glowletter of the year! january is such a soft, hopeful time. a blank page for new routines, gentle habits, and glowing transformations. this month’s glowletter is all about finding magic in the little things, building dreamy routines, and stepping into 2025 with love and intention. this newsletter is a little late, but it took me ages to build. this is going to be a new addition to my blog, a monthly newsletter! this was heavily inspired by an idol of mine @malusokay she's been such a motivator for me when it comes to creating coquette blogs, and her newsletter is absolutely adorable. this newsletter was made from the heart and took ages to plan out. thank you malu for giving me the inspiration to make this <3 - mindy

monday motivations

start your week with soft whispers of inspiration:

affirmation of the week “every day is a new beginning, and i am blooming into my best self.” 🌷

quote to inspire “what the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year.” – verne mckee

gentle productivity tip try romanticizing your to-do list: use a pink gel pen, add little hearts, and start with one dreamy task (like journaling) before diving into the day.

glow-up goals

soft, beautiful routines to guide your january glow-up:

morning routine inspiration

wake up early with your favorite coquette playlist or soft piano music.

write 3 gentle intentions for the day in a blush-pink journal.

sip rose tea or vanilla almond milk while gazing out the window.

finish with a mini stretching session to awaken your body and mind.

night routine inspiration

double cleanse your face, apply a rosewater mist, and finish with a silky moisturizer.

light a vanilla or lavender candle and dim the lights.

reflect on 3 beautiful moments from your day.

wind down with a coquette novel—“little women” or “jane eyre” are perfect.

monthly task create a “soft routines tracker” to stay consistent with your new habits. decorate it with pastel stickers or delicate doodles for extra charm.

glowletter's monthly playlist

“soft beginnings” 💕

this month's playlist is filled with soft, romantic tunes to set the mood for journaling, studying, or cozy mornings:

“champagne problems” – taylor swift

“first love / late spring” – mitski

“love” – lana del rey

“la vie en rose” – édith piaf

“dreams tonite” – alvvays

✨ listen on spotify here: 𐙚ᴶᵃⁿᵘᵃʳʸ ˢᵖᵒᵗˡⁱᵍʰᵗˢ𐙚 let these songs carry you through your month with warmth and inspiration 🌸.

moodboard/pinterest board

“romanticizing the new year” moodboard

january is all about soft coziness and delicate details. here’s a sneak peek of the glowletter pinterest board for this month:

pastel journals, delicate gold rings, and vintage teacups.

fluffy blankets, frosted window panes, and fairy lights.

classic novels stacked beside scented candles.

muted pink ballet flats and pearl-studded headbands.

✨ view the full board on pinterest here: January Moodboard: Romanticizing the New Year

here’s a little preview to inspire you:

exclusive resource/printable

your january glow-up habit tracker is here!

to keep your glow-up on track, download this month’s freebie—a beautifully designed habit tracker:

sections for daily hydration, morning & evening routines, and weekly reflections.

pastel pinks, and tiny heart motifs for that extra touch of elegance.

available as a pdf or png for easy printing or digital use.

✨ download here:

what mindy’s loving this january:

january feels like such a romantic month, and i’ve been leaning into cozy mornings and soft, intentional habits. here are a few little things i’ve been adoring:

journaling daily with rose-gold gel pens.

sipping earl grey tea with vanilla almond milk while planning my week.

adding mini affirmations to my mirror using pastel sticky notes.

reading “the art of stillness” and feeling inspired to slow down.

what’s something dreamy you’ve been loving lately? reply, reblog, or tag me. I’d love to hear your january glow-ups 💌.

it-girl must-haves

this month’s coquette essentials:

“the artist’s way” by julia cameron: a beautiful guide to creativity and self-discovery.

fresh sugar rose lip balm: adds that soft, natural glow to your lips.

silk pillowcases: for better skin, hair, and an extra touch of luxury.

dainty gold hoop earrings: timeless and chic with any outfit.

diptyque roses candle: the scent of fresh blooms to brighten your space.

journal prompts for january

soft reflections to guide your glow-up journey:

what are 3 things you want to nurture in your life this year?

describe your dream morning routine. how does it make you feel?

write a letter to your future self at the end of 2025.

self-care spotlight

this january, embrace bathing like a coquette queen 🌸:

add a few drops of rose or lavender essential oil to your bathwater.

sprinkle in dried rose petals or a pastel bath bomb.

sip a floral tea (like chamomile or hibiscus) while soaking.

play a calming playlist with soft piano or jazz.

end the experience with a silky body oil and your favorite cozy pajamas.

✨ pro tip: set up a bath tray with a candle, your journal, and a light novel for ultimate relaxation.

dreamy recipes

rose vanilla latte ☕ a cozy drink to keep you glowing this winter:

ingredients:

1 cup oat or almond milk

1 tsp vanilla extract

1 tsp dried culinary rose petals (or rosewater for food use)

1 tbsp honey (optional)

directions:

heat milk in a small saucepan until warm (don’t boil!).

stir in vanilla, rose petals/rosewater, and honey.

strain petals (if used) and pour into a mug.

top with a sprinkle of rose petals for decoration. ✨ enjoy this latte while journaling, planning your week, or reading a dreamy novel.

femininity tip of the month

january’s focus: graceful communication

practice speaking slowly and thoughtfully, adding warmth to your tone.

write thank-you notes or letters to friends and family, handwritten is extra special.

compliment someone sincerely (and specifically) to brighten their day.

avoid gossip or negativity; instead, uplift and inspire those around you.

✨ femininity starts with kindness! 💌.

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book of the month

this month’s pick: “the gentle art of swedish death cleaning” by margareta magnusson 🌷

a surprisingly light and heartwarming guide to decluttering your life and embracing simplicity.

perfect for starting the year fresh, clearing out emotional and physical clutter, and focusing on what truly matters.

pair this read with a cozy blanket and a soft lavender tea for the ultimate winter evening.

✨ alternatives: “the alchemist” by paulo coelho (for inspiration) or “the paris library” by janet skeslien charles (for coquette vibes).

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dreamy decor & organization

this month: organize your desk ✨

pastel stationery: use blush pink, baby blue, or cream-colored notebooks and pens.

floral or lace desk mats to soften your workspace.

a small vase with fresh or dried flowers (roses or baby’s breath).

gold or pearl-studded accessories for a luxurious touch.

light a mini candle or keep a scented diffuser nearby (vanilla or rose is perfect). ✨ creating an inspiring workspace will make studying, journaling, or planning feel magical.

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mini challenge of the month

january challenge: “one romantic act a day” 💕 each day, commit to doing one small, romantic gesture for yourself or others:

for yourself: journal with soft music, wear your prettiest pajamas, or buy yourself flowers.

for others: write a heartfelt letter, send an encouraging text, or bake something sweet for a loved one.

✨ at the end of the month, reflect on how these small acts of love brought more beauty into your life.

glowletter's horoscopes

for january 2025:

aries: you’re brimming with energy. channel it into starting that project you’ve been daydreaming about. try journaling your ideas over a lavender latte.

taurus: prioritize self-care this month. indulge in a silky sheet mask and a warm, floral-scented bath.

gemini: reconnect with friends by sending a handwritten note or planning a soft, cozy brunch date.

cancer: january is perfect for reorganizing your space. add a vase of baby’s breath to your desk for dreamy vibes.

leo: start the year with a creative glow-up. try a new hairstyle or a bold lip color. you’ll feel radiant.

virgo: focus on setting gentle, realistic goals. create a pastel checklist to track your progress.

libra: spend time nurturing relationships. write love letters to your closest friends and let them know how much you adore them.

scorpio: embrace the magic of slowing down. light a candle, read a book, and savor the stillness of winter evenings.

sagittarius: plan a dreamy mini-adventure. even a visit to a new café can spark inspiration.

capricorn: this is your season. set your intentions for the year with confidence. wear pearls for an extra touch of luck.

aquarius: let your imagination guide you. start a vision board filled with dreamy images of your future.

pisces: embrace your inner romantic, write poetry, paint something soft, or listen to dreamy music.

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✨ “what are your january glow-up goals?”

reblog this post and share your intentions. I’d love to hear your dreams for 2025!

don’t forget to check out the free printable and dreamy playlist, and tag me in your glow-ups, I’d love to see how you’re romanticizing january!

until next time, stay glowing and growing 🌸, mindy @glowettee

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