#Self Preservation

[drferox]

Listen, if you haven’t been told before, let me be the first one to tell you:

If you are working in a vet clinic alone, all by yourself, you lock the damn door.

This is especially important if you’re young and female but should apply to everybody.

It does not matter if you’re just about to open and another staff member will be there ‘soon’. It does not matter if you are expecting a client any minute now. It does not matter if it is the middle of the day because the vet is on a house call.

You are sitting, by yourself, in a building full of cash and drugs. You lock the damn door.

You can sit yourself down somewhere that you can see the door and be selective about who you let in, but otherwise you lock the damn door.

You do not want to find yourself in a FNAF situation trying to avoid the person with ill intent who walked in looking for drugs while you were out the back, or hanging up washing. You don’t want to look up after feeding a cat to realise somebody followed you in when they saw only one car in the car park.

Just lock the door.

[robocop1906]

Just going to the store for some milk

[shadycomputerpolice]

Stranger Danger

Sex Positive Feminists will talk all day about male sexual violence and in the same breath encourage women and girls to have sex with men and boys they barely know.

They always rebut with "Well, most women and girls are harmed by men and boys they know so..." as if they are saying the most profound shit. Of course women and girls are harmed by males that have access to them.

Above in the crime triangle, we see that opportunity aka access is necessary for a crime to occur.

So yeah, the people who have access to you are the ones who are going to hurt you regardless of if you know them intimately or not. The answer to women being abused by those closest to them is not for them to grant access to strangers.

Strange men do not hurt women because they are good men, strange men do not hurt women because they do not have an opportunity to harm women. There are cases that reveal that strangers do in fact hurt women when they have the opportunity to harm them.

"Stranger Danger" is not completely unfounded. You can absolutely be hurt by strange men when they have the opportunity to do so through sexual access and other means.

[whumpster-dumpster]

"I'm not afraid to die."

"You should be. You might live longer."

[palatinewolfsblog]

"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare."

Audre Lorde.

[crazycatsiren]

Hearing your mother's voice on the phone shouldn't activate your fight-or-flight, I'm just saying here. 😑

[enii]

🐸💕🌻

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

Monarch butterflies will not attempt to fly in the rain because the raindrops will damage their wings. They will rest and wait it out. It’s self-preservation. It’s okay to rest during the storms in your life. Take all the time you need. You will fly again once the storm passes.

- Sharon March 🦋

[classic1970beauty]

Sis, please romanticize your life! Go on solo trips, buy yourself flowers, splurge on yourself. Do what you want someone to do for you! Set the bar as high as you'd like and fall in love with being good to you! If you're too afraid to be with yourself then why should anyone want to be with you? Do this and I promise the glow you'll have will need to be studied! Only then will you attract like minds, hearts, opportunities and doors so big you know it was the Lord! May your whole life be proof that God doesn't play about you!🙏🏽❤️

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

[shadycomputerpolice]

Honestly, I feel that women trying to defend their personal boundaries with academic research and peer reviewed journals when a simple "eww gross" will suffice is female socialisation.

You are not advocating for public policy, you shouldn't have to debate your personal boundaries like it is public policy.

[dosesofcommonsense]

[quotesengage]

After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.

Judith Lewis Herman

[howifeltabouthim]

' . . . but you've always been too busy protecting yourself to protect anyone else, least of all me.'

Jenn Lyons, from The Ruin of Kings

[basiatlu]

fmk… the black sisters?

Ohohoho why is this honestly a hard call?

Ok ok:

Fuck Cissa, Marry Andy, and Kill Bella

[classic1970beauty]

being a better person to myself by taking my time, honoring my needs, & telling myself that it's okay if something doesn't work out.