#NOT IN MY HARD WORKING HOUSEHOLD

[okkanai]

i'm so sorry for the lack of activity, i cannot focus for the life of me. i think my anxiety is spiking because the reality of not having a job since entering my field is ! hitting me ! & i keep being mean to myself. like i'm not feeling like myself today, so i know i'm not very fun to be around. lots & lots of feelings.

[naamahdarling]

You know what? You know what I think?

I think that if we lived as we were meant to, in larger intimate ("extended family") groups and with more shared labor and time to do it (UBI NOW) people like me would not feel so useless and burdensome because there would be people around to help and to do what neurodivergent people can't while making valuable space for the neurodivergent to do what they ARE good at.

The way we live right now, all right, the way we live right now forces units of two adults to be able to do EVERYTHING or PAY to have someone come do it for them. I have to do the housework. I have to do it! But I am having to do a million different things and most of them I am not good at. I suck at them.

I wouldn't feel like shit, okay, if I had more than one other person around who was not a child and who could do the things I can't, like do the yard and cook and do repairs and basic maintenance; and someone else to split everything else that I like but is too much for me. It would free me to do what I am good at and enjoy. Cleaning, as in the sink and toilet, the windows, the blinds. Taking out trash. Folding, hanging, and sorting laundry.

But because all the shit I can do often relies on other shit being done first, and I can't do or have trouble doing those things, the shit I can do often can't be done. And even the shit I can do, I can't do ALL of it. So I can't keep up, and things get very bad.

We aren't meant to live like this. We are not meant to live like this.

That thought hurts so much because being able to flee the birth family is integral to survival for so many people. I'm so afraid that living in larger family groups would create more opportunities for, say, queer kids to be isolated, rejected, bullied, and abused. But if we gave people enough money to survive, and stopped considering children the property of their parents with no system in place to help them escape bad situations except a system that is often just as bad, just different.

I'm aware that communes and collectives aren't all that successful and are kind of a joke. I don't mean that. I mean a fundamental shift to multigenerational families where taking in "strays" (which my family did) is also normalized so people escaping abuse into existing households was accepted, with these families centered in maybe a couple of different larger residences so not everyone has to buy and maintain their own fucking washing machine and vacuum cleaner, and so people can benefit from large group meals that yield leftovers, and so child and elder care can also be centralized.

Then disabled people and the neurodivergent and sick and injured people, and pregnant people, and grieving people, would not have to either labor through all those stressors or consign themselves to living off an unlivable pittance or being put under legal guardianship.

I'm not saying anything new. People live like this in other parts of the world and maybe it sucks and I am wrong. But I'm just really mad right now because I can either do laundry or clean the sink but not both, and I really think we could improve society somewhat by making it so I did not have to choose one without sacrificing the other.

[shye-eclipse]

With the holidays coming around, there is no doubt many sweets and treats will be baked.

Furnace Man is happy to have an excuse to bake. Cookie anyone?

[dreamlogic]

aye can i get a fuckin uuuhhhh

break. on my burger

[dead-lights]

i feel fine // caleb vatore

guilty drinkers without access to plasma substitutes or friendly humans have two choices: get over their aversion or risk frenzy. they don't always pick the right one.

blood from pale secret collection by @pralinesims pose from show me your fangs! by @ladykendalsims

[diwns]

[skinreflectsthesun]

Yesterday beba was just not having it, he was fussy and crying and thrashing, he was upset because I took his puffs away so we could have dinner, and I really had a moment where I was so triggered. I had to walk away and take a deep breath. I had to take the time and imagine myself handling this well and not completely losing it. And I did that, I came back to him while he was still crying and thrashing and picked him up and sat him on my lap and hugged him and just tried to soothe him. Telling him I understand and I know you had a long day and it’s okay to be upset and I’m here. This was more for me than him because I know he doesn’t understand. But he calmed down and rested his head on my shoulder, his face was still covered in tears and his cheeks were pink. He was having a hard time and he needed me in that moment to be the solid unshakeable foundation, and I did that, I stayed calm even though I was overwhelmed, even though my childhood experiences pulled at my sleeve, I brushed it off and remembered that he was having a hard time and he needed me.

[intellectual6666]

Cluttered 🥹

Neat ✨️

[dailyautophagy]

I can’t imagine being so young I need an audience to feel real

[altcvnningham]

with new years coming up in 6 days, what are some of your resolutions(fanfic or other wise) for next year?

bwuhhh i'm honestly so awful w new years resolutions but this year i'm keeping my goals small and achievable!!

writing wise, i wanna post more on here, namely work on my adlerbell western au (not sure whether it'll stay a one shot or like a short series of vignettes/scenes between them which is what i'm mostly stuck on), definitely knock out some more requests (i'm so awful w these i swear!!) and just work on my writing more in general. i had 2024 to rot and recover from personal things and in 2025 i wanna actually put the work in on my writing again!!

as for general resolutions, i want to step more out of my comfort zone and hopefully expand my career a little more. i'm a jeweller and i want it to stay that way but it's so hard finding meaningful work when i live in a small welsh town- so hoping the universe lands something nice in my lap i can follow!! i also just wanna focus on empowering myself and finding a sense of independence- i'm quite fearful of taking life into my own hands sometimes and i feel i'm robbing myself of my best years because of it lmao.

anyway- happy new year to you and yours and anyone reading this!! what are you guys' resolutions?? <3

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

Okay, after seeing Randy Orton perform live, I get it.

I absolutely fucking GET IT.

Damn.

[naamahdarling]

Augh

[staycalmandhugaclone]

My 65Ib malinois keeps gets bullied by our 9Ib cats who keep stealing his food, which their tummies don't like and they then tear through our new apartment spewing it back up in the hardest to reach places...

Big sigh

He's a cute little shit at least

[peaceshire]

Just binged your fic 'The Kissing Trap' and hi am speechless, started to look through your post and reaches one who was begging to you to make a bad ending. And I completely lose it when I read the tag 'Violenceshire'.

The fic is amazing and I hope you have a good day.

Thank you so, so much!!

I’m dYING TO FINISH IT!! I realized while working I need to split the final chapter into two because I have too much to cover 😭

I’m very close to done with the Final Chapter Part One (lol) !!!

And then I want to write some one shots (sex scenes tbh) and then the bad end 💕

[damndude69]

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[rurpleplayssims]