#I hate people so much sometimes

[crewdlydrawn]

Having to “be a person” is a terrible trade-off for existing as a human being. Raw deal. 0/10

[platoapproved]

louis + cruelty

[thewanderingace]

..

[lovphobic]

immediate next game someone locked mercy from me Again so instead of leaving i was like i am Not on my main Please be kind

[marzipanandminutiae]

There were so many dramatic changes in women's clothing in the 1920s that coincided with peaks in ongoing fights for our rights that the two end up conflated. Such that nobody wants to discuss any flaws in it- as exist in any clothing system -because it's Liberation FashionTM (spoiler: it's not; it's just another era of style )

One thing that comes to mind is: what about women who just didn't like the fashion? Obviously they would still have to wear at some degree, because that was an element of respectability back then. But I think when the question comes up, everyone immediately jumps to the idea of women who were more conservative and afraid of any sort of change. I am wanting to know more about the women who just… Thought it was ugly. Or uncomfortable, or impractical, for whatever reason. You don't really hear about them as much, but they surely must've existed

I guess nobody wants to acknowledge them because they're so busy waxing rhapsodical about a clothing style they have no more worn than the garments that came before it, and the comfort of which they have as little clue about as a Gibson girl's ballgown

("but it's not that different from modern clothes!" most people haven't tried it with the corsets/girdles and binders though. which a lot of women wore- I wouldn't necessarily say "most" for the binders but girdles- again, often still called corsets -remained VERY popular. despite being just shapewear at this point with no support functions)

[randomalistic]

Cool awesome reminder that you don’t need amazing technical skill to be a good artist/storyteller

[lgbtlunaverse]

Most annoying NMJ or JC take is when someone that dislikes them is like "oh you're a fan of him? *scoff* Well obviously you've only seen cql, where he was super watered down. In the novel he's a dislikable asshole and that's the objectively superior canon I'm working from instead of your woobified fanfic." Meanwhile your main canon is novel canon and you genuinely find novel Jiang Cheng and Nie Mingjue complex sympathetic characters.

[334iwatchshit]

what the fuck are these gay doctors doing on my screen

WHY ARE THEY DOOMED I CANT

[lycandrophile]

today, my coworkers’ refusal to see me as a man put one of our patients in a position where they felt unsafe for the third time. i’ve been at this job for less than two months total. i don’t even care about getting misgendered anymore, i just want the people we’re supposed to be taking care of to feel comfortable around me.

i work at a hospital where we have to supervise our patients in a lot of vulnerable situations. there are safeguarding rules in place for certain things that male employees aren’t allowed to be present for when it comes to female patients. and yet, the people training me and telling me what to do have repeatedly put me in situations where i’ve been forced to do things that the female patients aren’t comfortable with me doing. and because they have repeatedly failed to teach me the rules for doing my job as a man, i have no way of knowing when i’m crossing one of those lines unless one of the patients tells me.

i’ve had to watch a victim of SA stare at me in abject terror as my coworkers asked her to strip naked with me still in the room. it took several minutes for her to even be able to speak enough to ask if i could leave the room. i found out after that she broke down crying the moment i walked out. my biggest regret is that i didn’t realize what was happening fast enough to leave before she ever had to say something, because she shouldn’t have had to say it. i never should’ve been allowed in the room in the first place, because that’s not something male employees are supposed to be present for. but i didn’t know that yet, because i was training and i thought surely, they wouldn’t train me to do something that directly violated their own safeguarding rules. that moment was the first time, and it’s haunted me ever since, but it wasn’t the last time. not only did it happen for the third time today — it almost happened for the fourth, and would have if someone hadn’t spoken up to say they should pick someone else. i care for these people so deeply, it’s why i took this job, and i’m so tired of hearing the fear in their voices when they have to ask me not to do something i never should’ve been told to do.

i’m very used to the personal discomfort of being misgendered. i willingly deal with it a lot at work as well as in other situations, not because i’m in the closet (at this point in my medical transition that would be impossible), but because it’s such a frequent occurrence with my coworkers that we would never get anything done if i took the time to correct them every time. but to see it get to the point of causing such visceral discomfort in other people? people i’m supposed to be taking care of and keeping safe? that’s something else entirely, and i’m fucking exhausted.

and after all of that, some of them still look at me like i have two heads when they tell me what to do and i say “i can’t do that, only female employees can” because i’m learning now. clearly i’m already seen as a man by our patients, but my coworkers would still rather put them in an unsafe situation than just train me as a man.

[erinwantstowrite]

Hello!! I'm new to the DC fandom and I want to ask why do people hate Devin Grayson? I think it's cool she has the same last name as dick but I'm starting to think it's not just that

i'll save you before you find out from another more traumatizing source (tw for SA under the cut)

Devin Grayson changed her last name to Grayson because of the character, and it's not in an innocent way. In her time writing for Dick Grayson, she inserted a character based off of herself and had said character sexually assault him. If you want to know more details about that, I'd recommend finding someone else to explain it in full, because I bet there's someone out there who's made a whole list of shit.

Also, she specifically made Dick Grayson canonically Romani, but again, not in an innocent way. She fetishes Romani people and it's just... icky. All around.

Overall, there's a LOT of reason to hate her. I hate her so much that I refuse to write anything canon that she wrote. Dick is Romani in LoF but that's because it was a headcanon prior to her writing

[problemnyatic]

Look, the bottom line is this. You're gonna be wrong and fuck up sometimes, that's just how being human works. No matter what you mean or how much you care, sometimes, you're gonna do something or say something that hurts someone or perpetuates bigotry you don't believe in.

The goal isn't to do no wrong, that's an impossible standard. The mark of "a good person" isn't that they always do good, it's that they're willing to admit when they've failed, done wrong, made a mistake, and they're willing to course-correct when they do.

It's important that you're trying. It's okay to be the bad guy. You don't need to get defensive, you don't need to stake your identity in "person who never does that kind of wrong." You just gotta be able to say "Fuck, my bad, I'm sorry," accept that your behavior didn't reflect your beliefs, and change your behavior so that it better represents who you mean to be.

The less time you spend lingering on whether it feels like people believe you are who you say you are, the more time you can spend getting better at being that person.

Some people will try to tear you down when you make mistakes, they'll try to pigeonhole you as a "bad person," someone whose very existence is defined by doing harm. This isn't your problem, and it's not your responsibility to prove anything to them. They don't have to believe you, and you don't have to appease them. So long as you're willing to accept when you *do* hurt someone, intentional or not, and you're willng to put in the effort to make reparations and change, you'll never "be a bad person."

Let yourself fuck up. All you have to do is course-correct when you notice your actions' impact have strayed from your intentions. The right people will notice that effort, and they'll be proud of you. And perhaps most importantly of all, they'll let you make that effort. Anyone who tells you it's too late to change, to discourage you from improving, or stop you from trying, is not your frend. You don't have to impress them. Ignore them, and let yourself change.

[lesbiansforeddiediaz]

The Diaz parents are shitty parents but they aren't shitty in an exaggerated or caricatured way. Ramon wasn't trying to make Eddie into anything specific, there wasn't an expectation of perfection, he was just trying to raise him to be a man in the way that he perceived what being a man meant. Helena was not consciously trying to make Eddie into her pseudo husband/coparent/whatever but she still put those expectations onto him. Even now with them taking Chris and alienating him from his own father they are not doing it as a deliberate way to hurt Eddie but because they have convinced themselves this is the best solution. It's awful in a way that's so difficult to come to terms with because on the surface it just looks like a genuine effort, despite the hurt and damage it caused (and is still causing). But what they are doing now (and what Helena has been doing always) requires for a genuine cruelty and callousness towards Eddie even if it isn't conscious.

[silvermoon424]

Really getting sick and fucking tired of how much online leftists (Tumblr users are a huge demographic I'm talking about btw) engage in bad faith interpretations. Everybody is so ready and eager to assume the worst about people and have no problems with being rude as fuck for no reason.

I don't wanna be all "purity culture is why Trump won the election!!" because that's an incredibly reductionist and online take, but I am actually begging people to start being fucking NICER to people who largely agree with you. 2025 is not looking good, because unfortunately the US's politics influence everyone else. I am pleading with progressives to stop ripping each other apart when there's a much bigger threat. You can educate and criticize people without acting like they're a horrible person who needs to be flogged.

I'm not better than anyone btw, I've had to check myself a lot on bad behavior. But some of you guys are just fucking mean and rude, and I think that you use your progressivism as an excuse to be mean and rude. Like I'm not even asking you to stop being rude, I'm just asking that you don't direct as much of it towards your allies. I don't think that's too much to ask.

[fjordfolk]

at this point both of my dogs' dams have passed so now every time someone refers to me as their mother i get to look them in the eye and say "her mother is dead."

[blueskittlesart]

being in art school and having basically 0 knowledge about christianity whatsoever is so funny at this point i think you could tell me literally anything was an allegory for jesus and i'd just believe you

[soleminisanction]

Okay this misconception keeps coming across my dash and it drives me nuts because it means people are lumping two very different versions of the DC universe under one disparaging banner. So let me just say this to get it off my chest because I'm this close to shaking somebody:

The New 52 ended seven years ago in 2016.

That started a section of DC's history called "Rebirth" in which they started bringing elements of the pre-Flashpoint continuity back into the timeline. The first changes came in a big burst called Convergence -- which is how Jon Kent effectively manifested fully formed at 10 years old -- while other reintroductions like Kon-El, Bart Allen, Cass Cain, etc. were more gradual.

The original plan, being forced through by King of Bad Decisions Dan Didio, was that after ~4-5 Rebirth would give way to another full reboot known as 5G. I could go into detail about the plans but they're honestly not important to this post because Didio was (thankfully, finally) ousted from his role as publisher early in 2020, along with something like 80% of the higher-level editorial staff. DC had a complete creative turn-over at the start of the pandemic and completely changed directions as a result. The material being developed for 5G was retooled into the hypothetical future event "Future State" to buy the new staff time to pull together their new direction.

That new direction is called INFINITE FRONTIER. It started in 2021 and THAT is the era of DC comics we're in now. Infinite Frontier is an active push to bring back the pre-Flashpoint characters, as well as some pre-Crisis ideas and characters, while also keeping the few elements of the New 52 that people actually liked (like Jason Todd's more heroic characterization) and actively pursuing diversity initiatives both in creative staff and in creations. And outside of the big events, they're making a real effort to keep these comics short and self contained in the hopes that that'll make them more accessible. So it's actually really easy, if you read comics pre-Flashpoint and dropped off, to just pick up a series and go with the flow. Anything confusing is just a Google away.

Please, please don't make the mistake of thinking modern comics are as bad as the New 52 just because some people are butthurt their ship isn't getting canonized. There have been some really good comics made in the last few years that you should totally try! Spirit World, Monkey Prince and the entire We Are Legends line has been genuinely fantastic. The new Birds of Prey is shaping up to be a ton of fun. Dark Knights of Steel is an entertaining Elseworld. Urban Legends and Brave & the Bold have done some really fun things with shorter anthology books. One Minute War was a really fun Flash family event and everything Stargirl's done recently is liable to make you cry.

I'm begging people to give these comics a chance. It's just really sad to see them being dismissed out of hand.