#Childhood ABuse

[sticky943]

this reminds me of how people typically respond to abusive parenting on the internet, making some unoriginal joke of "lol when the child grows up and turns 18, they're going to put their abusive parents in the nursing home" or "and in 30 years, the parents will wonder why their adult/grown child never sees them again."

it's never "oh my god, get that child out now, throw that parent into the slammer right now" or "somebody save that child right now." i swear that if this were SA, people wouldn't making these thoughtless, complacent nursing home jokes that trivialize child abuse/children's human rights violations as some personal individual matter that is solely the child's responsibility to deal with once they hit 18 (assuming they survive that long and they don't commit su1c1de or their parents don't murder them). but apparently, waiting until a child is 18 to take action is totally the way to go to stop abusive parents in their tracks. yeah, that should go perfectly well, treating children as subhuman until they're 18 /s

Adultcentrism fucking kills, people. The mindset that children are not real people until they're adults -- such as "What do you want to be when you grow up?" or "I'm an adult now, treat me like one and stop treating me like a child/infantilizing me" -- fucking kills. To all the people out there who see abusive parents and don't intervene and instead go "And then their parents will wonder why their child went no contact," FUCK. YOU. YOU COMPLACENT BASTARDS.

people need to think real hard about where the concept of a minor even came from, and what reaching the age of "majority" even means from a legal standpoint, and how the social construction of adulthood and childhood functions to oppress and isolate kids. people always assume there is some nefarious purpose lurking behind somebody saying this, but as a transmasc white birthday boy i can get away with saying it without catching any accusations so i'll be the one to do it. if we want kids to be safe from predation they need to have legal autonomy, privacy, and the ability to seek help from other people who are not their legal "owners" (typically but not always their parents)

[pixierainbows]

Pixie really not okay . Do not want wake up back with birth family where Pixie be so much abused . so badly hurt it cause Pixie have dissociative identity disorder …

Pixie Still not really sure if here with guardian Wizard guardian Librarian and all rest of new good family , Is the real . or . is nightmare dream actually reality .

Will Pixie go sleep here with the Kitties . And . Wake up back in childhood house with all the hurtings and .

Or .

will it be just worst traumatic nightmare . but .

wake up still with guardian Wizard guardian Librarian the children Sunshine MoonMoon Shadow all of good chosen family

Everything Pixie not can even remember . but . that . body do kind of remember . and . is make body brain desperately needing run away far away . before am get trapped in That house again …

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

I guess what I'm saying is that if you have abusive parents any level of standing up for yourself will negate all of the groveling you've done throughout your entire life so you should just be a dick to them (if it's safe to do so) and do your own thing forever

[mossy-petrichor]

Offering a big hug to the emotionally neglected people who have no idea how to cope

The ones that can't grasp the concept of coping. The ones that don't even know how to start identifying their emotions. The ones that don't understand coping mechanisms. The ones who only have maladaptive coping mechanisms. The ones who only know how to repress. The ones that feel ashamed for not knowing how to cope. The ones that feel angry for not having anyone teach them. The ones that feel hopeless about healing. The ones that feel like it's impossible for them to cope

I'm sorry you have to build up from scratch something that other people should've taught you. I see how hard you're trying, I see how exhausting and difficult it is. I wish I could give you so many affirmations, but I'm in the same place you are. Ily

[razzledazzlebeach]

Daryl Dixon took awhile to age mentally

As I read more and more analysis about Daryl and rewatch some of the earlier seasons, I wonder if it was intended for his character to have some kind of age regression issue. (I didn't do, like, extensive research, I just looked into some CPTSD and age regression signs on a few different sites, so this is just an idea I'm tossing out in hopes of hearing some other perspectives!)

The first situation that really catches my attention is his reaction to Merle being left in Atlanta. Now, obviously, this would be an incredibly emotional time for anyone and it's not entirely out of place to just say he was very distraught over the news and anyone could have reacted the same way he did. I just think that the specific way he did might have some signs. If you think about a grown man, especially one who was raised in a very macho household, you would assume that their reaction might be to storm out or yell at someone. Although Daryl did yell, he also started crying and pacing. It seemed almost as if he was having a full-on meltdown. Some signs of age regression are meltdowns (Ranting, shouting, insulting others, threatening others, whining, angry tears, or getting physically violent) that ring any bells?

I couldn't find a gifs of that exact moment :(

It probably didn't help that the entirety of the camp was staring at him as all of this happened. Temper tantrums can happen because someone is scared/ashamed and can't regulate themselves. (Like sensory overload.)

Another thing that I want to kind of address is the way Rick responds to Daryl when he's having these sorts of meltdowns. Throughout the series, and in the third episode, we see Rick bending down almost horizontally just so he can make eye contact with Daryl. He speaks to him like he's a child, and instead of feeling insulted, Daryl actually takes comfort in it and calms down!

"I'd like to have a calm discussion on this topic, do you think we can manage that?"

What is age regression?

We all know that Daryl was abused as a child, and trauma like that can sort of freeze the brain. This is a quote I really like that explains it: “It doesn’t necessarily make you stuck at a certain age, but instead, [you are] acting out the emotional wounding that happened at that age,” Lapides adds." People may start to regress because they are triggered or feel threatened, and an apocalypse seems like it would cause a constant trigger. Daryl might be reverting back to childlike behaviors as a trauma response. (honorable mention being the nail biting, but that's a bit of a reach) Shane being the way that he was could have also been a trigger for him.

One of the symptoms of age regression is overly clingy behavior. And you are probably thinking, "well, if there's anything Daryl has, it's not clingy behavior. He's a loner." I disregarded this too for awhile before I really thought about it. He is highly independent when he's doing things he's comfortable in, like being in the woods or going for runs. But when it comes to making decisions or being social, Daryl immediately clings to someone who he knows will do it for him. Most of his life he had Mere to hide behind. The most outgoing and shameless person alive. I don't think Merle ever asked Daryl his opinion on anything. He would decide, and Daryl would follow, and I think Daryl took a lot of comfort in that. So when Merle was gone, he latched onto Rick because he was the best choice. He knew Rick was a very righteous man who had plenty of leadership qualities. He knew Rick would make decisions for him, and give him directions.

Carol and Rick's mothering

Circling back to the way Rick would react to Daryl's outbursts, carol sometimes did the same thing. I know some people ship them, but honestly, at least in the earlier seaons, I got major mother/son vibes from the two of them. Especially when Beth died and she was trying to teach him how to grieve. The forehead kisses, the pookie nickname, all of it seemed to point in that direction. There was also another time Rick pulled the "Can we manage that?" move, and it was during Aiden and Glenn's fight in S5. He made sure to get low enough to make eye contact, and block his pacing. He kept telling Daryl that "We can't do this now." It all just looks a lot like he and carol are parenting Daryl, if only in moments where he is feeling intense stress and that trauma triggers.

Anyways, this was just a few ideas I was tossing around, and very clearly this in my first analysis lol, any thoughts?

[hello-friends9500]

[a-sip-of-milo]

You didn't deserve to be filmed during your most vulnerable moments. You didn't deserve to have them put on the internet for everybody to see, even if it was "just for friends and family". It's not funny and you're not overreacting for feeling humiliated, upset or uncomfortable because of it.

That goes for the people who initially gave consent as a child. It doesn't matter. Shouldn't have happened regardless, and I hope you can find peace.

Believers in narcissistic/borderline/anti-social/histrionic abuse DNI

[evastraea]

[sulkybender]

Zuko is smart.

Sometimes I see joking in the fandom about Zuko being dumb, or a himbo. And part of the reason it makes me uncomfortable is because we know that was how he was treated growing up—Azula is always calling him Dum-Dum. It's the narrative told in his family about who he is, by the people in his life who treated him poorly.

And, some joking aside—famously that moment with Aang on their field-trip—the Gaang doesn't call him dumb or think of him that way, because he isn't. He's ridiculously resourceful, thoughtful when his emotions don't push him to do something rash, and perceptive. If he can be a little literal-minded at times, that seems to come from lack of exposure to the world—to friends, honestly.

Personally I just remember the moment when I understood the narrative my family told about me wasn't true, once I stepped outside my house—that I wasn't a dull, depressing person who annoyed everyone; that I was, in fact, very loving and curious and funny—and what I love about ATLA (among so many things!) is that we get to see Zuko experience that too, when he joins the Gaang. Unlearning the ways in which his family never valued him; learning how to be with people in the world, what friendship means.

Zuko isn't dumb. He's learning.

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Please take kids seriously they are actually people. sentient intelligent beings believe it or not. they know when they’re being blatantly lied to.

They might not understand it, but they know when grownups are being shady.

They know.

Please stop acting like it’s inconsequential if you lie to them or ignore them or dismiss their thoughts and feelings. It’s not. It stays with them forever.

Please take kids seriously.

[copingwithmemes]

[rubypomegranates]

"A child weaned on poison considers harm a comfort."

Gillian Flynn "Sharp Objects"

[batwingsrosa]

The tragedy of Severus Snape

The reason why Severus Snape is the most tragic character in the Harry Potter series

Snape‘s character isn‘t so tragic because he didn‘t „get“ Lily.

His character is so tragic because he was doomed from the very beginning.

It‘s so tragic, because he was hit by his drunk father.

It‘s so tragic because he was neglected by his mother.

It‘s tragic because he was separated by his childhood friend by being sorted into a house where you couldn‘t survive as a halfblood if you didn‘t adapt to the social rules of said house and joining a hateful cult.

He is a tragic character because he is bullied from day one and sexually harrassed in front of the other students.

His loss of Lily is so tragic, because she was the only friend he ever had.

It‘s so tragic because she was the only person in his life to show him understanding and kindness, warmth and love.

The love of a friend.

It‘s so tragic because noone ever showed him love again after Lily.

It is so tragic because he is silenced over the werewolf incident and forbidden from telling anyone he was almost murdered.

It‘s so tragic because he has to see his almost murderers and bullies get away with it without any form of punishment.

He is silenced.

It‘s tragic because he has to watch the love of his life marry his childhood tormentor.

It‘s tragic because he has to kill one of the only people he ever cared about. The only person who knows about his true loyalties.

It‘s so tragic because he dies believing the world will always believe him to be the villain.

A traitor and the murderer of Dumbledore.

He dies thinking that the truth about his loyalty will die with him and Harry.

It‘s so tragic because the only other person in his life to show him kindness(, when he stays with him while he dies,)is the son of the love of his life who he lost.

It is so tragic, because he dies in the belief that he has doomed this boy, the boy he always protected.

He dies in the belief that all of it was in vain.

He dies thinking that all of it was for nothing.

He dies believing that he is sending Harry who he tried to protect all these years to his death.

His death is so tragic because of all of the above reasons and also because he is murdered in cold blood.

He is killed slowly. He is terrified. He knows what‘s coming and that he can‘t safe himself.

He is killed by the person he fears the most.

His death must have been unbearably painful and agonizing.

He must have been in so much pain.

It’s so tragic because he never had a chance.

Snapes character is so unbelievably tragic because he was never intended to have a happy ending.

It‘s so tragic because his whole life was nothing but a tragedy.

[queerautism]

Sometimes children grow up knowing one day they will stop talking to their parents and disappear completely from their lives. Sometimes knowing that is all that keeps you alive.

[orbitposting]

Me: Man, I could have really gone without all of those trauma and dissociation symptoms. Completely disrupted my life. What even happened that was so bad, anyway?

[Really thinks and vaguely remembers what was happening at that time]

Me: Alright, I'm starting to think this was ideal.

[hello-friends9500]