#BOUNDARIES —

[gladiolus-nyx]

Please understand! (ᅌᅌ|I)

Please do not send me asks for donations

Here's why:

I have NO money to give you

I'm not a popular enough blog that I will give you any reach

I am a minor, and most of my followers are too

It makes me feel extremely guilty

Seeing pictures of injuries or hospitals etc are triggering for me (which are in most intro posts for this sort of thing)

They are always worded in a way that makes me feel like I am a murderer if I don't donate

It makes me feel uncomfortable

I said I don't want them, and my boundaries should be respected

I can't tell what is a bot and what isn't

I get a lot of spam from this. It is disappointing to see 10 new asks in my inbox just to be the same ask for donations over and over

Please, just respect the fact that I have said this.

Edits, propaganda and facts below (probably for the best if you read them too)

Edit: To all the people reblogging this, I'm sorry you have had to deal with this too. And yes, you can put this in your pinned post! Stay safe <3

Edit 2: I am pro Palestine and want to do everything I can to help but I'm not financially or mentally well enough to do much. I'm not in support of these people dying. Also, this post isn't just about Palestine. It's about ALL asks for donations. I'm not doing favouritism or racism. I just can't deal with it. Don't harass me for expressing boundaries.

Edit 3: Yes, this post might seem controversial. But I did literally make this for my own personal experience and didn't expect it to get more than 12 notes or so. You can agree with this post, pin this post, reblog this post, I don't care really. But don't add opposing views because quite frankly, it's none of your business. It's not my problem and I didn't mean for this post to get so many notes. Edit 2 mostly covered what I'm trying to say here, but don't use the number of notes as an excuse to fight me. I just want a peaceful Tumblr experience. Also, if you are reblogging this, don't trauma dump. I keep notifications on for this post so that I can block people harassing me before shit escalates, so I can see every reblog. You can screenshot and repost if you want to talk about your problems, but honestly its no better seeing people saying "I'm bankrupt and I just got kicked out by my family. I also have a history of abuse and those images are so triggering that I want to die". That doesn't help me. Make your own post to say that. Please

[thepeacefulgarden]

Resting is not the same as quitting. It is not a reward for success, it is part of the process.

[bychiamaka]

The relationships you have with other people is a direct expression of the relationship you have with yourself. What you allow, tolerate, & maintain with other people is the expressed manifestation of what you internally allow, tolerate, & maintain with yourself.

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

[her-luminous-highness]

Acknowledge the message mentally. Avoid physically as much as possible. Deny access at all times. Bloom and let them wilt.

Take it as a compliment whenever a man starts negging you or trying to attack your character, looks, and overall persona - or purposely going out of his way to ignore you to try to make you feel unimportant. That means he sees and acknowledges how high your worth is and feels threatened by it. Let him choke on his own venom, you continue being the ethereal princess you are unapologetically because it’s clearly working.

[free-my-mindd]

[unleashfeminineenergy]

NORMALIZE TALKING HIGHLY ABOUT YOURSELF

[sleepwithgiggli]

What's the worst that could happen? I could (and probably will) decide that I can't trust you and will never play with you again.

I realise this is probably a fantasy fetish post, but there's nothing in the post to indicate that so I'll take it as written.

I know I said I wouldn't trance you here, but you look so pretty when you drop for me. When you're all blank and helpless and vulnerable, I just want to cover you in kisses, and it really makes me happy to see you like that.

So come on, what's the worst that could happen? Just relax. Just look into my eyes. And count backwards from ten. We'll both feel better.

[theambitiouswoman]

Don't tell people your boundaries. Show them.

If you tell someone they can't talk to you a certain way or do certain things, those are not boundaries. Boundaries are things we show. If you tell someone "if you do that again I am not going to speak to you" and you stay and continue to speak to them, that's not a boundary. Just words. Words that they now know means absolutely nothing and they can take advantage of.

You show people how to treat you.

You reinforce your boundaries with your actions. Unless you show someone with your actions that what they are doing is not okay, and you do not continue to allow it, they will keep doing it.

[etanow]

MONSTER LABS AU

Welcome to the C&A Research Facilities! Here at this prestigious lab we are dedicated to pushing the boundaries!

Of course, this is all very hush-hush. C&A may be your run-of-the-mill facility to the public, but in reality, is researching the unknown and learning every day, from the occult to manmade horrors! And who better to run the program than an omnipotent Godlike set of Dentures with a crazy cast of monsters he can run all sorts of tests on?

BOUNDARIES:

Any story plans? I'm not sure yet, I don't have much time to create comics or animatics like I'd like to, but I do have a few rough story ideas.

Any boundaries? None really, go crazy! I am OK with gore, NSFW, angst, violence, etc, just be sure it is tagged/TW'd appropriately as not everyone is OK with that content.

Can we create fanart/fics/content? Can we dub or fancam? Yes of course!! Please tag me, I'd love to see all of it! I'm tracking the tag #TADC Monster Labs AU for other's content

Is NSFW allowed? Yes, so long as it's marked appropriately I'd very much love to see!

Can I ship the characters, self-ships, or OC x Canon? Yes ship away! Just be aware the only au-canon ships are Caine/Pomni, Ragatha/Pomni, and Gangle/Zooble.

Can we make OCs? Go on ahead!

Here is a blank version of the intro card if you'd like as well as a PSD file!

[selfcare-journey]

Telling yourself could have done "more" to help a situation, is sometimes a lie.

Sure, sometimes we could have put forth a little more effort, but if you were giving so much that you were constantly drained and stressed, you could not have given more to the situation without injuring yourself.

You did everything you could while still surviving. You are not a bad person because you didn't sacrifice yourself completely for something/someone else.

You did everything you could.

[hermajestyimher]

Be Comfortable With Being the Villain

In my country we have a saying: "I am not a golden coin to be liked by everyone". It doesn't matter how "nice", correct, and appeasing we may behave with others, there will always be those who will dislike us for no apparent reason. Learning to not only be ok with them disliking you, but going as far as to embracing it can propel you forward.

Many people will dislike you because you trigger something in them that makes them feel threatened, less-than, or jealous. That is a them problem. If those same people proceed to lie about you and attack you to try to take you down, you need to be prepared to be ok with being perceived in a negative light by them and the people who choose to believe them. At the end of the day their talking is just that, and it cannot affect you if you choose to rise above it.

Learning to embrace being hated means that you can stop trying to seem agreeable and nice to everyone and instead pursue respect. Someone doesn't have to like you to still respect you. Respect and status will allow you to rub shoulders with people who can improve your life in meaningful ways, and place you in spaces where you can flourish.

Being liked is overrated and at times useless. Instead, be a woman of influence, power, and good character. When your brand speaks for yourself, the naysayers become powerless and desperate, and others will be able to see right through their lies.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[spiritualseeker777]

[autistpride]

Credit: McKayla Robbin, We Carry The Sky (2016)