#Actually aspd

[skyrages]

This is why is pisses me off that I was dx with autism. Like why didn’t my parents think? Like there’s no treatment its just a label that gives me bad shit. ADHD I guess actually has treatment and doesn’t make people assume you’re incompetent so that doesn’t bother me. I don’t have a paper diagnosis of ASPD but my notes from trying to get help for not wanting to ruin my life are damning. There is treatment for ASPD but psychs pretend there isn’t and it would just fuck me over. And yeah I have better non-emotional empathy than most people it’s stupid. @c1trvswurld

Why is no one talking about how having diagnosed ASPD or psychopathy (also a ‘lack of remorse’ also is a frequent determining factor on parole or sentencing, as if that’s fucking controllable) gets you worse sentencing, like longer prison time or lose parole or even death penalty over life according to some. Literally the most blatant ableism nobody talks about. All considered normal and valid and talked about casually. Occasionally, ive heard of non ableist psychiatrists refuse to diagnose people with aspd when they might get in trouble with the law in future because of a fear theyd get worse sentences or death because of this. Having a disorder about a lack of empathy and impulse control is somehow considered voluntary and making you more “evil” and deserving of suffering. Prison system is shit in general but this is a great example.

[unwillinglyrotting]

I have a chronic sense of feeling like an outcast and not fitting in anywhere, not to mention the emotional abuse and severe bullying I went through.

Anyways yeah these are my reasons as to why I feel validated by Eric and Dylan as a TCC member.

Yes I genuinely love listening to KMFDM, wearing all black tactical clothing inspired from the natural born killers, and wearing all black oilskin dusters and black duster trenchcoats.

[autopsyfreak]

my anhedonia is eating me alive so i’m making these mental illness memes to cope

[youlookkindadead]

i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

[4ngelfvck]

I asked a friend who is a sociopath (diagnosed with ASPD, he refers to himself as a sociopath which is why I’m calling him that) what love feels like to him and how he knows when he loves someone.

I loved his answer. He said “Routine. If they are a part of my routine and feel familiar and comfortable and I would feel like something is missing if they weren’t there, then I think I love them.”

I have bpd with ASPD traits and I think his answer was so cute. I think that is what love is like for me too but I’ve never heard it so succinctly explained, perfect summarization.

[asherwentinsanelol]

yknow qhat i love seeing? people with the "scary" or "mean" or "evil" disorders getting silly with it. thats definitely destigmatizing it /srs

like, if audhd people get to joke around about their disorders, not always treat it with an absurd amount of weight, so does everyone else. i love you aspd people who make jokes about your disorder, you deserve to do that without being called an edgy teen. i love you npd people make memes about it. i love you scary people who get to destigmatize your disorders by laughing.

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]

[typical-vindication]

"you can't have npd/aspd! you're too nice"

"you can't have autism you're just an intj!"

"You don't have DID you're just young!"

"You're not disabled you're just a strong and special perso-"

beheading you with my axe

[necroticcadaver]

Do not claim to be a mental health advocate or a safe space for the mentally ill if you demonise systems, cluster B personality disorders and/or psychotic disorders.

[dailydivergent]

Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.

[entity56]

Tips for Cluster B Anger

~ coming from someone who has BPD and a psychology special interest Have you been feeling like your anger is completely uncontrollable and all encompassing? Do you feel like your anger controls you more than you control it? Me too! But here are some things I've found to be helpful: - Taking notes. Write down triggers for what causes your anger episodes (as well as other episodes e.g sadness or paranoia) once you come down from it and start looking for a pattern. Not only will this help you to slow down and self reflect, you can begin to either avoid those triggers or find ways to regulate the effects. - SLOW DOWN. If something is making you want to hurt someone else or yourself, slow the FUCK down. Push against the grain, step back and let yourself have a good cry or scream into a pillow. Do whatever you can to (healthily) process the emotions, no matter how long it takes, before making major decisions. - Avoid self harm, substances or unhealthy habits like disordered eating or emotional self harm. It's so tempting, believe me, but it will only serve to make things worse. You might feel like you want it to get worse now, but in the future, you WILL regret it. If you start feeling these urges, refer to the urge surfing diagram below this. - Get outside advice. Think you're splitting but you can't tell? Run the situation by a close friend or loved one and see how they feel about it. Try to relay it with as little bias as possible and see if they agree with the decision you're about to make or if you perhaps need to reevaluate some things. - Take care of your heart. I know this is cliche, but a good sleep schedule, hearty food consumption habits, hydration, exercise routine and mental health care go a long way in helping you succeed in the above tips. You are struggling with an illness, and ill people need as much care as possible. Become your own parent. This works for anger in all Cluster B personality disorders, as well as with autism spectrum disorders! Urge surfing:

[familiarplacedisc]

[vent-antiendo]

Ableism is fucking everywhere. And it's so insanely normalized. I was watching a commentary youtube video about a pretty shitty person. And the person who made the video, someone I watch frequently, calls the person a sociopath, a psychopath and a narcissist. Over and over again.

We're people too, what the fuck? Having ASPD or NPD does not equal being a shitty, abusive person. I'm so fucking sick and tired of my struggles being used as a way to insult and label others as abusers.

I am not your fucking horror trope.

[autopsyfreak]

‘letting my intrusive thoughts win’

shut the fuck up.

you’re referring to impulsive thoughts, intrusive thoughts are undesirable and often horrific for the person experiencing them. you dying your hair randomly is not an intrusive thought.

if i let my intrusive thoughts dictate my actions, id be in jail for a long fucking time.

[the-bonfires-ember]

Narc abuse truthers: “Narcissists only care about manipulating you and breaking you like you’re a plaything for them 😡”

me, a Narcissistic Sociopath, getting supply from my friends therapists calling me a healthy influence, strong pillar of support, and a good friend: 🙂