#(when it's not specifically ableist)

[bonefall]

I understand being upset by the moonpaw dog post but i dont think talking about some random teen publicly (on a pretty big fandom blog) as opposed to like, dming them about it, is a very nice thing to do? Would recommend keeping that kinda gossip in dms going forward personally.

??????? "That kinda gossip???"

Saying that it's fucked up that a publicly posted incest joke about how deformed she should look went to the top of the Warrior Cats and Moonpaw tags, is gossip???

TRENDING TAGS?? GOSSIP?

I'm not talking about "some random teen," I have not even dropped a username and been VERY clear I don't want harassment of anyone. During this discussion about wider ableism against Moonpaw, I've directly answered two anons about the contents of a post that was/IS extremely popular to the tune of nearly a thousand notes.

One of those two asks was an anon who only stumbled in to say that the post was funny in a display of SHOCKING tonedeafness, while I was talking about how shitty it is to compare people who are the products of incest to unethical dog breeds, especially in the context of WC. The other was an actual XX/XY chimera who expressed that the extremely popular post hurt their feelings, and when they tried to express discomfort to someone, got told they "probably killed their twin in the womb."

It's not just one rando weenie little blog the minute half of the Tumblr space is openly laughing at a joke about deformed incest kids and hoping Moonpaw dies because she's so "gross." Not nice?? Your feelings are hurt? OTHER people's feelings were ALREADY hurt.

NOTHING about this was "nice" to begin with!

Difference is, when YOU cry me a river, you can build me a bridge, and get right the fuck over it. A person who's the product of incest cries and has to go right back to every shitty banjo-hunchback-hapsburg joke they've heard before, just feeling more unsafe about a space that PRETENDS to care about the abuse they experienced. If you feel guilty about that, maybe you should!

If you were under the impression I was ever "nice" about bigotry, you were mistaken. I don't appreciate calls for ME to be more polite when I'm at a trend of fandom ableism and calling it fucked up. I've named NO names. Sounds like what you ACTUALLY want is for people like me who have a platform to shut up.

[starleska]

Just wanted to say that your whimsy and unironic enjoyment of things continues to be a passive inspiration for me: at one point today I thought "Damn I should really learn to calm down about this character. Shame I can never be as enthusiastic as I am about some of the characters I like because it's probably considered weird or cringe to like them." And immediately afterwards I went "No. Tumblr user Starleska doesn't live their life with 100% unrestrained enthusiasm and love for characters just for me to be a chicken." askdjhkjadkjdh

buddy!!!! you're going to make me cry, thank you so much 😭😭😭💖💖💖 i'm honoured to hear that!! y'know, over the past...ten? years or so, my goals in life have shifted a lot, as have the things i value. i realised at some point that i may never be able to achieve the kind of success most "gifted" (undiagnosed) kids envision for themselves...but i can always make things a little happier for myself and other people. being unapologetically enthusiastic about things is something i've always valued in other people, and it's a gift i want to pass on 🫡 my question for you is: what will you achieve by calming down about the things you love? the approval of some ignorant folks who equate enthusiasm with a lack of restraint, intelligence, or fake cool points? bro, who wants validation from people like that anyway 😂 and you never know when you yelling about the things you love might spark that same love in other people!! isn't that what fandom has always been about? 💖

[sukibenders]

Lottie Matthews: *a teenage girl stuck in the middle of the wilderness, stranded with other teenage girls and two boys and a coach, all traumatized and simply wanting to go home, starving, struggling with guilt and her own mind, trying to find comfort in whatever she can---which ends up being a supernatural force, some of the girl's cling to it, because it's provides comfort, while others turn against her because it's too far out of the realm of belief even though she stabbed a bear through the skull and fed them from it, but in the end she's just a teenage girl placed on a pedestal that she didn't ask for but took it because it would help her friends, only for years later said pedestal she didn't ask for causes her to be seen as a pariah amongst the same girls that she survived the wilderness with.*

Some people: Lottie is most definitely the villain of the series! Look how she's tearing the girls apart and making them the worst versions of themselves! She's just crazy, and none of this is even real. I'm glad Shauna--

[corporatecoinings]

No hate but if you’re going to make a post that has hard to read text or specialized fonts or typing quirks in it, at least provide a readable plain text version. As the bare minimum. I’m not going to spend the next two minutes trying to decipher fancy text with a bunch of aesthetic symbols around it, thanks.

-Anthony

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

me: hermes is a painfully accurate example of how some ways of defending yourself against certain kinds of insidious emotional abuse, gaslighting, ableism, and therapy speak can warp you into a person whose learned helplessness and lack of perspective can result in doing really shitty things, and who passes that abuse along in different forms (hi meteion) + lashes out in disproportionate ways + can be deeply hypocritical.

me: as a disabled person in a society where our systemic mass murder via pressure into government-sanctioned suicide is on the rise, the ancients' society is beyond fucking upsetting to me. i have zero sympathy for anything to do with them pre-apocalypse except for the effects of living in that system.

me: that said, they are a good opportunity to remind oneself that there are children in that burning building; that a society being fucked does not mean they deserve to be wiped out; and that that does not mitigate the harm they do, nor mean that its victims are not allowed to be angry or resist it, including the victims inside it.

me, booboo the fool: oh, this youtube essay about hermes looks interesting--

[pandoratheprocrasticreator]

i think ppl can and should project onto fictional characters. that's kind of what they're for a lot of the time. even if in the story they dont have the exact same experiences the audience can still find similarities with them and it's empowering to headcanon that, because of these similarities, the character has a similar identity to you. a lot of writers purposely give their characters experiences similar to marginalized groups to make those groups feel seen.

that being said, if you project your own experiences onto your blorbos you HAVE to be able to tell when the story is purposely making the character a metaphor for your experiences and when the story is. not doing that. just because you personally relate to a character doesn't mean the character literally is your marginalized identity. and it definitely doesn't mean that the writers hate your marginalized identity, specifically, if they don't do what you want them to do with that character.

[ersatz-introspective]

ppl, especially low/no-empathy ppl, who talk to ableist anti-pd cluster b abuse believers with the upmost patience & understanding are so crazy (/pos) for that because what

how do y'all sit there and level w/ them just. so much.

i know it's kind of necessary bcs even if they don't listen to us anyways, they're only gonna think we're 10× worse if we don't walk them through the spiel w/ hands held (which we're not even owed to do anyways) but like i can hardly see myself doing it

so like

respect

[selectivechaos]

cw: slurs ⚠️⚠️⚠️

quit using insecure as an insult.

quit using desperate as an insult.

quit using ‘needs therapy’ as an insult.

quit using psychotic as an insult.

quit using pathetic as an insult.

quit using clingy as an insult.

quit using sociopath as an insult.

quit using narcissist as an insult.

quit using dumb as an insult.

quit using slow as an insult.

quit using autistic as an insult.

quit using psychopath as an insult.

quit using insane as an insult.

“but sometimes they are these things.” an accurate label used as an insult is a mirror shard used as a knife.

you’re hurting real people. people who don’t deserve to believe they’re bad or flawed or wrong.

🌹🌹

[halfricanloveyou]

“hey so we’re gonna need you to focus up and pay attention and not talk for 3 hours straight. and no you can’t look at your phone or ask brief questions or think out loud and 98% of what will be said won’t apply to you.”

“also i know you have adhd and that you said your adderall wore off but so do i. you just have to learn.”

do you seriously think i am capable of that. what if i blew you up with a cool wizard beam attack? what if the beam was purple.

[seaweedstarshine]

Rewatching my favorite Christmas special and I cannot get over “Psych*tic Potato Dwarf” as an insult from a person who — canonically — according to sources from the same writer — often hears voices that he has trouble distinguishing from reality. It's not just the one line, it's the fact that it’s the title of Strax’s theme! I always wanna call it out 😭, which works out in my The Snowmen-era Eleventh Doctor fanfictions because Strax is a nurse and would know what that word means.

Like, it does unfortunately fit the character because Gallifreyan culture is — canonically — systematically exclusionary of mentally ill people, and the Eleventh Doctor — canonically — hates himself more than anyone in the universe. But the choice?

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

jsyk . if you ever get mad at traumatised people engaging with a completely sfw , non-k!nk / fe.tis.h related coping mechanism that sprouts from childhood abuse / neglect or just general stress, and label them a freak or bully them or anything along that lines, you're ableist, a complete cunt and i dont like you. this goes double for if you completely REFUSE to understand the concept of what the coping mech is and why its helpful. traumatised people dont owe you normalcy and we sure as fuck dont owe you an explanation 👍 and if you disagree w/ me you can piss off

[ablednt]

I don't get gatekeeping cripple from people tbh

"If they're just ND and not also physically disabled they use the term but are sometimes ableist" implying??? That physically disabled people who reclaim cripple aren't often blatantly fucking ableist as well?

Idk like it's not that I don't get the frustration when mentally ill people who aren't visibly physically disabled don't take the time to actually listen to us and say stuff like "you wouldn't do this to a wheelchair user" about stuff that happens to us constantly

But as a mentally ill person who's also physically disabled there is just as much ableism against me in the cripplepunk communities from disabled people who consider themselves NT. Like if that's the logic we're going by then only people with both "physical" and "mental" disabilities could use cripple because plenty of y'all will be violently ableist to people with stigmatized illnesses.

"You can't use cripple you're not physically disabled" what are you? A fucking cop?

1. How are you defining physically abled because the vast majority of mentally ill people I know also have a lot of physical symptoms. It can be difficult to tell between anxiety or a stomach disorder and heart problem, depression and chronic fatigue, or adhd / dissociative disorders and brain fog. Half of the fucking time someone you think isn't physically disabled actually is.

2. Are we really going to pretend that the ableism faced by the mentally disabled community is any different than the physical one? Deaf people get called retarded, congitively disabled people and people with severe ptsd get called crippled, etc.

3. When you try to make rules for a punk community around reclaiming a slur you sound ridiculous lol. People are going to do whatever they're going to do. You can call them assholes if you don't like it but you don't get to make decisions for the whole community.

Like I get "y'all are reclaiming cripple but still being ableist" but the answer is to attack the actual ableism instead of focusing on whether or not they have enough marginalized points to use a word.

Just oh my god shut up thats not how punk movements work ND people belong in the community they just have to accept that if they're ableist they're getting called assholes and people aren't going to like them. Punk movements aren't psrsonal vetted spaces when you try to decide for others whether or not they belong you sound stupid.

[codgod-archive]

pretty much the only time i’ll think an ask is weirdchamp is when it’s like. idk how to explain this but it has happened to me multiple times before. like someone trying to confuse me on purpose and then acting like they achieved something when i’m confused ? like wording something really weirdly and then when i ask them to clarify they just. don’t at all. one person just sent a smiley face and another asked if they got a prize for confusing me like no you get blocked for being weird. it’s been ages since that’s happened tho LOL

[the-abyssal-system]

Singlets stop talking about systems as if you’re an expert because you follow some on tumblr challenge (also warning the tags here are a huge rant so feel free to ignore that)

[scarletfasinera]

I love when Moon Knight is a creep and he's not really the scary type of creep but just like the. Like just a "very very strange person" type of creep

[lunathewafflelord]

I came up with some improved and more fair rules for the ArtFight Discord server, and if someone would be able to message these rule proposals to a member that'd be greatly appreciated. I REALLY think the moderators of that server need to reconsider some of their rules, as they are extremely restrictive and have led to severe backlog in the different help channels which could easily be solved if non moderators could assist: -In the different help channels, if the question is not directly related to the site itself (eg, how to convert a gif, how to resize an image, what does x art term mean, etc) it is allowed to be answered by anyone and is not considered minimodding due to it not being possible to "spread misinformation"

-people are allowed to give their personal experiences with bugs, and their personal solutions to bugs, as long as they aren't doing obvious alt F4 pranks.

-questions which are asked extremely frequently (how to submit an attack, how to block a user, do chibis count as fullbodies, etc) or have on site answers (such as things that can easily be answered through the rating guide) can be answered, especially if a mod answered the question recently. Directly quoting a mod's response can't cause misinformation as a mod themselves confirmed it

-people are allowed to make a single comment on art in the help channels, but further discussion must be taken to DMs or other channels

-if a mod answered the same/a very similar question recently, non moderators can quote the mod's response (which is especially easy with Discord's built in reply feature) without getting a minimod alert

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a MAJOR issue I found with the Discord server is that the mods are EXTREMELY strict about minimodding, so much so that just recommending someone use ezgif can get them a warning. even if "rules are rules", being this strict regarding answering questions in the help channels leads to severe backlog and MANY questions - some urgent - being unanswered

I think some of the rules being loosened or adjusted would benefit the server - and the people in the server - greatly

Some particular moderators in the server can have especially power tripping like responses, and be extremely rude when someone points out that what they said seemed a bit harsh and what they did really wasn't minimodding. When I pointed out that the way a mod was acting felt very powertripping and rude they ended up muting and later banning me without taking my criticism in account

It really seems like the mods don't accept criticism well, and if someone points out an issue with the rules or a moderator action they get EXTREMELY defensive and refuse to admit any mistakes and try to improve upon them. This leads to a very toxic and stressful environment to the server and the site as a whole.

Additionally a lot of the rules are very vague and can easily be interpreted in many different ways, and when someone expresses confusion about the rule and says "maybe it could be made a bit clearer" and gives advice on how to make it clearer, mods insist that the rules are "Very clear", even when multiple people state that the rules are confusing to them. A lot of the rules only fully make sense when a moderator answers a question about them, which really shouldn't be the case to begin with. It's not very neurodivergent friendly if you ask me (and many others agree)

If you are able to in any way, PLEASE find a way to let the AF moderators be aware of this post. We really need the Discord server's rules adjusted to be more accommodating and the server be less stressful for people like me who have trouble understanding rules, and make the rules less restrictive to prevent backlog in help channels