#yes this is how coping-

[teruwasright]

I got the base for a Kou doll ordered today!!!

After this chp seeing Teru all alone made me even more sad so I finally sucked it up and asked my Mom and she ordered it!!!!

I'm really excited!!! And I will definitely be taking pictures of Kou and Teru together happy like THEY SHOULD BE ^^

[starleska]

how tall is Tenna?! here's a rough estimate 📺👀

so we haven't had any official confirmation of Tenna's ridiculous height yet, and i haven't been able to yank sprites from the game...

however. there's a handy little Deltarune height chart made by an anonymous user some time ago, which gives a rough indication of the height of each character:

crucially, we see Kris' height is 5'1.5": this is great for us, because we see Kris next to Tenna frequently!!

if we round down Kris' height to 5', we see that Tenna is approximately three Krises tall without his antennae, and nearly four Krises with them!!

that means Tenna is at least 15 feet tall, but if you count the antennae, his whole height is closer to 19 feet.

good grief 😳

[n0anix]

whatever *domesticates your Carnivàle Lecroux*

[balimaria]

I just realized I can cross over my favorite characters and literally no one can stop me. This is way too much power.

(these captures are from gll99's GX fansub! you can find it free on their blog @/kaiowut99)

Part 2

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Jaing Yanli's bad luck with sauce continues.

[judgedarts]

my favorite masochist...

[adhd-winterfalcon]

jason, coming back from the dead and seeing tim as robin: how could bruce replace me? how could he give robin to someone else?

dick, who created robin in honor of his dead parents and then had bruce take it away and give it to jason without even asking him:

[chialattea]

Oh so YOU GUYS can monologue for hours but my man yorick tries to have a nice conversation after regaining his ability to speak AND YOU GANG UP ON HIM???? I see how it is!!! The double standards are crazy!!!

[ayyunah]

it’s hard to care when they don’t care about you

[bullet-proof-gay]

You have Bad Person Disease.

Oh, what does that mean? Well basically. You're Bad. And you can't be Good, because if you ever try to be Good then you're only doing it to hurt people, because you're Bad.

If you ever try to seek help through therapy then you'll have to wade through therapists who believe Bad Person Disease makes you dangerous to everyone around you. Yes even if you've never actually hurt anyone, or you respond to stress by isolating or hurting yourself. Actually if you hurt yourself it's just to manipulate others. Because you're Bad.

Also any time you try to seek help online you'll find people discussing specifically how to upset you, including to the point of ruining your life. But it's okay, you have Bad Person Disease, so acting maliciously or cruelly towards you is justified.

These kinds of disease are all on complicated spectrums and different people will experience wildly different symptoms or express things in wildly different ways. Not Bad Person Disease though. Yeah, you're all the same. All Bad, you see.

If someone else takes personality traits from other people then it's just a normal impact of socialisation on human development. Not you though, if you take any personality traits from the people around you then you're doing it on purpose and it's bad, because you're Bad.

If someone else has a meltdown, screams or yells or snaps, it's probably just that they're having a rough day and need some help. Not you though, if you ever do anything that upsets anyone then it's because you're Bad and always will be Bad and that makes you dangerous.

I don't know how to end this post.

[ccccatttta]

what if regulus wasn't really an anxious king, and he just had hyperthyroidism....

[samgirard]

└ "But sitting there in street clothes, that has always felt forced. And that's hard. But now I get back into that room and...I'll have my jersey on tonight."

[gomzdrawfr]

Ghost being the drama queen

[loucifersbitch]

[leaveslikefeathers]

chopping onions with a clingy cat entity

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis