#whinying - other stuff

[mikalilys]

When I open the comment section on a jily post and all of it is hating on jegulus 😞

They’re the ones that complain about jegulus taking over and there not being enough jily content, but when there is all they comment is “finally not jegulus” “keep up the jegulus hate” like maybe you should sit down and think about the fact that, everyone commenting hate about jegulus on a post about jily, is one of the reasons there’s not that much content about them anymore.

Like why are you thinking about jegulus more then actual jegulus stans??? I like both and I was like awww cute jily!! because I don’t spend enough time thinking about what i don’t like to hate it.

So yk maybe you’re the problem

[strawberry-smog]

I find it interesting that regardless of whether a Fidd/Ford meta post is trying to argue that they’re healthy or toxic or in between or whatever they all still tend to take the stance of “Fiddleford is such a saint for putting up with and forgiving Ford!” when the more canon stuff I see about him the more I’m convinced he’s a fucking maniac. I don’t mean this is a “wow McGucket is so problematic, I guess he’s the REAL toxic friend” way, but I do mean this in a way where I don’t find how he acts around Ford very admirable at all.

Like, this is a guy who cannot have a serious argument or disagreement with Ford, not just to the point where he hides his own feelings around him and then snaps, but to the point where he hides his own feelings around him and then snaps and then secretly uses his memory gun to erase it out of both their heads so it’s like the argument never even happened. This is a guy who moved to and stayed in a town full of dangerous monsters that gave him panic attacks because Ford asked him to. This is a guy who moved ten hours away from his wife and small child for a year, visited them once on Christmas, and then immediately flew back to work because he got into a fight with his wife over not buying her a present while he was busy hand-making Ford, a man who doesn’t celebrate Christmas, two presents. This is a guy who started a cult to cope with all of this rather than telling Ford something was wrong. This is a guy who stood by Ford even after receiving a really mean and disrespectful ultimatum from him and only left when he got irrefutable proof that Ford was about to unleash a demon that would devour the earth, and even then he just ran off to forget everything with his cult rather than try to, you know, stop Ford from doing that.

This is him bending over backwards for Ford, yes, but this is fucking insane. Yeah sure he’s pretty put upon by Ford, but he’s also putting quite a lot of this upon himself, because he can’t just have an important discussion with him and will instead martyr himself upon Ford’s disregard endlessly, to the detriment of himself, everyone who knows these two, and, tbh, Ford.

[page-of-void-mogai]

Norma's Coin War: January 2025!

Hello gamers! It's me, Norma. Welcome to Norma's Coin War, an event where two teams fight by coining terms until the last team standing. I'm planning on making this a bi-annual event if this goes well. The event will start January 19th at 12:00 am Eastern Time until January 25th at 12:00 am Eastern Time. Anything before or after will not be counted in the final count. Heavily inspired by colajimmycoca's 1k event.

The Rules

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1 - This is run by only one person, so be respectful and be patient.

2 - You may coin any terms/labels you want, with exceptions being pr*ship, nsfw (nothing against it, but I am a minor and I don't enjoy seeing that stuff), r*dqueer, and other stuff along the lines of that.

3 - Be respectful to team members and opponents.

4 - Anyone can join (as long as you don't fit my DNI!)

5 - Reblog if you wanna join, and I'll assign you a team.

6 - Tag your posts with #normascoinwarjan2025, and depending on what team, use the team's tag!

The Teams

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Team Apollo

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Team Apollo's tag is #teamapollo2025 and the team colors are yellow and white.

Team Artemis

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Team Artemis' tags #teamartemis2025 and the team colors are purple and black.

Prompts

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The prompts are seperate for each team.

Team Apollo's Prompts

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day 1 - team apollo spirit/the sun/the seasons

day 2 - emoticons/webcore/the internet

day 3 - beverages/cartoons/animals

day 4 - ocs/fandom of your choice/gemstones

day 5 - mythological creatures/fashion/disney films

day 6 - sparkles/youtube/cosplay

day 7 - free day

Team Artemis' Prompts

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day 1 - team artemis spirit/the moon/wolves

day 2 - avant garde/music/decades

day 3 - desserts/sitcoms/sports

day 4 - art/nursery rhymes or fairytales/clowns

day 5 - weather/drag queens/your culture

day 6 - favorite movie/memes/nostalgia

day 7 - free day

i think thats about it, this post is subject to change. pass it around. please.

[stiffyck]

Can I be real for a second here I really wish people would like stop sliding in allies when it comes to lgbtq+ related conversations if they can't even include idk. aspec people? Intersex people? Literally like queer people and identities instead of idk. ALLIES?

[lady-shadow-and-darkness]

The concept of a character being pathetic™ and the concept of them also being one of the most powerful characters in their world can and should coexist.

[fisheito]

i am still sulking about no aster. (give me a few days and a couple watermelons and i'll be back to normal)

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

and to clarify my issues with Dream’s video are Not the evidence itself but How it’s shown. most of the video is Not about grooming allegations. it’s edited in a way that downplays a lot of the serious with visual gags. it leaves some of the most important stuff til the end- even with chapters, it’s important to debunk the most important stuff first. this isn’t a hater thing, at least not entirely. people fucking HATED kwite, for instance, but when his video dropped people listened, because it was presented in a thoughtful and respectful manner that immediately got to the most important evidence first and spent its entire runtime focused on one topic instead of jumping back and forth. the reason the analytics look like this

on Dream’s video are not entirely down to haters, it’s naïve to say that when people who were also getting incredibly violent and awful things said about them didn’t receive the same response. people Didn't Like the way it was framed, it was uncomfortable and inappropriate. it would Not be recieving the same amount of backlash if he did the kwite thing and kept it minimalistic, opened up with the most important evidence, and stayed on topic. that’s the gold star of response videos not just because of the evidence but because it handled it Respectfully. even if everything is false it’s important to do that.

[triglycercule]

all i have been able to think about today is that silly little knife game where you stab the spots between your fingers and try not to hurt yourself and how that silly little game is SO horrorkiller. i cant explain it it bothers me so much that i cant explain it but it just does its so them

they play it when theyre bored. because when in doubt bodily mutilation and the risk of hurt and pain is always an appealing one. and when i mean they i just mean killer because horror wouldn't wanna just hurt himself on the fly like that for funsies. he likes to see others hurt because hahaha FINALLY some damn entertainment!!! but hurting himself???? nononnno hes already got enough body pain as it is oh and killer has already grabbed his hand and started playing (and now horror can't back out because killer's got him sucked in the game)

they sing the silly little song. horror has all his fingers the knife goes chop chop chop if killer misses the spaces in between horror's fingers will come off! and they are both enraptured and both captured in this childishly morbid game. it's so anticipatory because they both know its all up to killer to decide if horror gets hurt. hes more than precise enough to keep the game going for hours long without ever hitting horror but would he want to keep it going for that long? horror doesn't know how long killer would want to wait before getting to see him react to getting hurt

and killer does eventually do it even after theyre sung the song over and over countless times and tried different harmonies and finally killer decides to end this little song and dance and stab into horror's hand. maybe he decides to do a finger. maybe the palm if he really wants to piss horror up. its sudden its surprising and GODDAMN is it painful!!!! horror's trying not to show it but with all the sweat and the way his fingers are twitching killer can see that it hurts him. it's a bit amusing :3

and then horror grabs the knife from killer and they do it all over again but this time horror's the one doing the stabbing. he's not as precise as killer. he hits him a lot more than killer hit him but goddamn it he is in PAIN and wants to let it out because hes annoying and irritated and goddamnit would killer just stop looking at him with that blank smile while he's bleeding out from his hand???? yeah horror's pissy

horror's annoyed and trying to get some form of petty revenge on killer (he likes it when he finally manages to get that stupid smile to falter just a little bit) and killer's watching horror desperately try not to just stab the knife through his oh so very exposed soul that he could very easily hurt if he really wanted to hurt killer. anyways the game finally ends when either one or both of them get bored! but thats fine!!! killer will get bored again and horror will end up escalating it to a messier point than it was before and the only thing that'll get hurt is the surface that they use to stab between fingers. oh and eachother of course :p

[autisticlee]

when you're autistic and can't mask and genuinely don't know how to talk to and interact with people, but you really want friends or something.....people tell you "go to places and ~just talk to people~ it's easy" but when you ask how to talk to people they say "just say anything" but you're super confused because any attempts to try to speak either end in getting completely ignored, bullied, or worse, because you're "weird and creepy" and can't say things right, make everyone uncomfortable, and making strange noises to communicate when you can't speak actual words isn't acceptable. that's if you can even physically say anything at all! because if you struggle to speak in general, then it's game over before it even begins. small talk seems simple because you can script most of it, but I can't even do that irl. even online when I do it, it never goes past that. i never feel connected to people, get bored/uninterested, don't know what to do after, and don't know when it's appropriate to start talking about special interests, if at all, because most people dont share my interests at all

no one has advice for that besides "just do it" and no one is ever patient or kind enough to try to engage themsleves, because no one understands how hard speaking is! it's always expected that *I* initiate everything and have to do all the work because im the one that wants a friend. no one is interested in me first, so no one will be the one to initiate first. i've gone to things alone, awkwardly did everything alone, tried to talk to people and failed, but no one approached me first or tried to converse and be friends. if someone did try to talk to me, i'd be so overwlmed with sensory processing disorder that i dont hear them and before i can try to clarify what they said, they walk away. my processing speed is so slow that i cant react before they get lost in the crowd.

I always end up extremely overwhelmed, burnt out, and need to find a quiet place alone to have at least a few meltdown or shutdowns. i'm struggling and suffering the whole time, but i'm "just doing it" because people keep telling me I need to "just try" and no one will help or support me and my needs and struggles so I have no choice but to put myself in dangerous situations where I can't be fully aware of my surroundings because i'm so disabled by my brain. I don't know how to behave if i'm not following and copying someome i'm with. instead I just dissociate until i'm not present and i'm unaware of myself and everyone and thing around me, while also being painfully aware of all the sensory input that wants to send me into meltdowns.

realistically, I don't think I *should* be going anywhere alone. I need help. I need support. I've gotten into near trouble with strangers who see me as an easy target but somehow got lucky and got away. I can't ask got help if I need it. I can't scream if one of those strangers got ahold of me. actually one DID get ahold of me once. I don't remember how I got oht of it. i dissociated so bad I have no memory after being grabbed...I don't know how to react to trouble correctly. I don't know basic common sense needed for being out alone. *I* know i'm in danger by being out alone but everyone in my life ignores my needs and struggles and forces me to either do everything alone or rot in my tiny dark room alone. so I decide to prove to them doing things alone is dangerous and doesn't help me. i'll tell them the dangerous stuff I got into they don't care. they just lecture me for not acting normal.

but I try. I try so hard. I hate every moment of ot and never get anythjg out of it except misery and pain and mental and emotional turmoil. but people don't believe me that i'm actually trying because they swear it will work if I "just try" so I keep trying and keep having a horrible time. it always ends in me feeling horrible physically and emotionally, being burnt out and disappointed that i didnt make friends like i was told i would just by going there alone. going to places does not mean you automatically make friends!!!!!! everyone else goes there *with* friends. they aren't looking for new ones. people who are good at making friends don't need to go places to make friends, because they already have them! so no social person who is good at talking and really nice is going to be there looking for friends, see i'm alone, and become my friend. hell, most social people talk one look at my awkward ass and turn the other way. they dont want someone awkward around them. my first impression is horrible. that's what people judge by. it's expected that i'm the one to try to break into a group of people and sell my soul to them and make them want to add me to their already established friend group. but i'll never know what group i'd fit in. I barely have the social energy to be around a crowd of people. how am I expected to interact with even a single person??? when you don't have the skill, social energy, or general ability to do any of the expected social stuff and cant mask on top of it, you have no other choice but to accept being alone forever...😞

[foulfeast]

Ohhhh i now remember why i got shy about talking abt ocs

24/7 fear that someone will tell me my ideas are cliche/stupid/bad in some other and it will hurt more bc these are my own creations and not just fun and play

[demi--human]

So I've told a few people I consider close friends about being "more than just me". Like I've explained that I'm plural, that I have "others" [read: headmates] that I share brain/thinking space with.

And so far we've had no negative reactions. Which is great! I mean of course there's doubt about whether or not some of them actually believe us, and if maybe they're just thinking we're attention seeking... or crazy....

But there hasn't been any like,,, positive reactions. Which I know is a bit much to ask, but I just wish that someone would at least be a bit excited. Like dude, I'm like five friends in one, thats pretty rad, right?

Like I wish they'd take the time and ask questions, ask about us individually, even ask to speak to specific members. Like I'm so paranoid about being seen as weird or pushy so we continue to mask as a singlet. Like I keep Coda from outerworld interactions because I'm scared of him embarrassing us [and I know it's just me and Null being anxious for dumb reasons but still]. And Caz just wants to infodump about all of us, he's so desperate for interaction outside of us and I feel like an ass bc I know he's holding himself back for my comfort.

I just. I wish we could be us. I wish the few people I consider close would be excited to get to know each of us [and yes Null, that includes you.] I want them to know the others as themselves and not just as me 'but to the left'. It's frustrating.

[For the love of puppies, don't bring discourse here]

[e77y]

Glad I’m starting therapy so soon after moving out ☝️ I am already feeling the helplessness and loneliness

[worldofgoo]

sorry if ive made this exact post before i love metablogging when i have nothing else to say. funny that i gave myself permission to talk and express myself on my main account yet i continue to basically only talk in my personal blog rambling hole, i think i realized a while back that mostly its just my friends that care about my posts/interact with me so posting where theyre concentrated is i guess more efficient and less embarrassing

[itsalwaysdark]

its so embarassing likee. going to talk abt a feeling you have but you already know ppl will be like Oh that sounds like depression lol and its like. well yes . i know . trust me i am so aware i am depressed . but its still like a thing ive been thinking abt and wanting to talk abt but ik itll just be like Ok hun 👍. idk idk what response i would want tho ig FNFNFNF

[milkymars]

chat does true love exist

[koraesdoodles]

“Don’t start, unbelieving! Never not, feel your feelings!” <-- literally on loop the entire time I drew this. 

Reference/redraw of the 2nd panel of this comic <3 https://www.pinterest.com/pin/49891508365383156/