#violent ableism

[acewitch-writes]

Fandom decided to make Remus a hyper-masculine dom, and for some reason, this involved stripping him of all of his kindness and softness in the process. Because I guess a character cannot be gentle and kind AND masculine. Only fem characters are allowed to have a character trait as soft as kindness.

If that wasn't bad enough, they also stripped him of any flaw that could be perceived as emasculating. His well-established avoidance and cowardice? His insecurity and passivity? His people pleasing tendencies and self-loathing? His devotion to Dumbledore and his deep admiration (and perhaps envy) for James and Sirius? All gone. Doesn't exist. Fanon Remus is the coolest, smartest, bravest, and most capable of all the Marauders.

Even his appearance was completely altered to ensure that Fanon Remus is just oozing with raw, unfiltered masculinity. This is a topic I am especially heated about as someone who is chronically ill. I relate deeply to Remus because I see my own struggles in the ways his Lycanthropy affects him. It makes him sickly and pallid, he is described as thin and worn down, both from the effects of the disease itself and later from the struggle of keeping himself fed and housed due to the stigma surrounding it.

But Fanon Remus? He's huge. He's buff. He towers over everyone else around him, intimidating and aloof with a cigarette hanging idly between his lips for optimum sex appeal. He is so strong, with his broad shoulders and his rock hard abs, and his Lycanthropy just makes him super fucking aggressive and horny around the full moon. He can lift Sirius up over his head with one arm. He's the Casanova, everyone wants him because he's just so hot and so cool. The fact that he is a werewolf only serves to elevate his primal, masculine allure.

[crippled-peeper]

every time I read about the recent $14.5billion sent to Israel by the Biden Administration I think about how in the hospital I used to work in in New Mexico, we had patients whose parents, being in the poorest and most rural communities in the country, would sometimes be forced to legally surrender their children to the state so they could get the chemotherapy and surgeries their parents couldn’t afford or didn’t have insurance for

I also think about how INTERNATIONALLY BASED rural healthcare organizations have had to intervene in New Mexico, a state in the richest country on the fucking planet, because access to healthcare is so bad for the people living there

we are the perhaps the shittiest country ever I think

[seaweedstarshine]

Thinking about River affectionately calling the Doctor her “madman in a box” only after he's called her his “bespoke psychopath,” and vice versa. They each were called these words by the other before ever using them to describe the other.

Thinking about the way they defy reality for each other. How modern psychiatry elevates objective reality to gatekeep full participation in society, yet they shatter objective reality with love — “I can’t let you die without knowing that you are loved.” and “You are always here to me and I always listen and I can always see you.”

Thinking about “What's the mad fool talking about now?” and how Gallifrey ostracizes those labelled mad, going so far as to see it as failure in children. Thinking about “A child is not a weapon!” “Give us time.” and how Kovarian equates psychopath with weapon as a tool of dehumanization and control.

Thinking about the way the psychiatric-industrial complex inflicts violence upon those who deviate from psychosocial norms. How their relationship was born in violence, but of madness — not madness in a post-Enlightenment framework of opposition to Reason, but madness as radical compassion that doesn’t demand so-called rationality — “Every time you've asked, I have been there.”

Thinking about how neither of them chose “psychopath” or “madman,” but they both own those words as instruments in their own agency.

[the-fallen-collective]

Daily reminder that people with npd aren’t bad. They aren’t abusive. Narcissistic abuse isn’t real. Narcissistic/narcissist is not a synonym for bad/abusive/stubborn/etc.

Can pwnpd be bad and abusive? Yes, everyone can. Is it because of the npd? NO!! “Narcissistic abuse” is fake, call it what is, emotional abuse!

I am so sick and tired of seeing it. I am tired of seeing narcism used as a synonym for bad/abusive people. I’m tired of seeing people in abusive situations default to calling their abuser a narcissist simply because they’re an abuser. Like sorry you’re going through that but also shut the fuck up with your stupid armchair diagnosis.

The next person I see who’s at all ableist towards anyone with npd I’m bashing their fucking head in with a rock and I deserve to because I am so much better than them in every way imaginable

[spot-the-ableism]

to set the record straight, as I have zero things to hide.

[IMAGE ID: a tumblr post by user crippled-peeper, it is a reblog chain of 3 posts. It reads “accuses me of “race faking” because I talked about being a refugee from Katrina checks my bio again first line: white man” next reblog reads “idk what’s more fucked up, that these bloggers are named “spot the antisemitism” or “ spot the ableism” or the fact that they are so racist and ableist they think the only way a white person could be a refugee is if they’re making it up” next post reads “ “you can’t be a refugee and disagree with me!!! Everyone knows that I am the arbiter of who is and isn’t a refugee as someone who lives in a gated community in the USA !!! Don’t you know I RUN A BLOG?!?!?” The tags read “#I’m so glad other people are im agreement that these kids are actual clowns not to be taken seriously at all” END ID:]

I never said or insinuated that you were not a climate refugee, nor that you were a racefaker

above is proof, I have not edited the posts nor want to. You have the reblogs to prove I in fact did not edit anything.

the things you are claiming I “did” were things that spot-the-antisemitism did and said.

intracommunity ableism is still ableism, hate speech against both Jewish and other disabled people is not okay, you can be both completely totally right to call out spot-the-antisemitism’s ableism and commit hate speech against random Jewish and disabled people. You can do both, nuance exists.

me calling you out on harmful behaviour and inciting hate speech is not a bad nor immoral thing I’d hope you would do it to me.

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if you are mad at me swearing at you may I remind you that you have committed way worse acts of hate speech and yet I gave you benefit of the doubt. People are allowed to swear at people.

i have said you may be having a horrible time right now due to medication troubles and that people should not harass you regardless. And that they should keep in mind that you have been through a lot and do not want harassment. I do also humbly apologise for swearing it was wrong of me to and not conducive to anything helpful.

if anything I have been way too forgiving, what you have said to many well meaning and non-ableist/normal disabled people has been utterly vile and yet do I use that against you? Yet do I say those same things towards you? Yet do I mean to hurt or harass you? No.

I live my life, you live yours, I care about you enough to actually call out people who do wish to hurt you. I shouldn’t, but I do. If you return my very calm and sincere response with the same energy and hatred that you usually do it is not in good faith.

you are having a hard time, a hard time always. And I do not wish to contribute to that. But I cannot stay silent and let others be hurt by what you do and you say. Words do effect reality, there are people behind these screens and I am one, and I am writing this sincerely.

again why am I ableist when I was the one to in fact call out and hold spot-the-antisemitism accountable, and explain why it was bad? I spotted the ableism, simple as that.

I am no wimp, or coward if you wish to call me horrible things I am proud to Bare it.

As I do with all things.

sincerely a disabled person who was told way worse things than this over the course of my childhood.

if you do say "KYS" or any variation of it I will be reporting you.

as that. is. hate. speech. and violent speech which. is. not. legal.

I have not discriminated against you nor malgendered you, I have only sweared at you at the worst (and called out that fakeclaiming and spewing violent hate speech is unacceptable), if anything I have been on your side on most of this.

this comes from a place of love, not hatred.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

ppl forget that dream threw a hissy fit about a Mexican man stopping hanging out with him after he bought a trump flag as a “joke” spend over a week posting about how much he wanted to beat him up and liking art of them as real life people making out and then blamed his doxxing (which is obviously horrifying and wrong but that shit was going around since 2019 quackity didn’t even know he Existed when it started) on Quackity muting his ass bc he treated racism against him as a big joke, made comments about wanting to be violent towards him, and pushed romantic fanart after they’d stopped even being friends. like bro Quackity wasn’t reading your messages because he, quite rightly, assumed you were going to be an asshole to him bc you were talking about wanting to fight him in public and making up this whole feud bc you were pissy he didn’t quietly accept the YEARS of casual racism towards him from the dteam any longer like. it’s such blatant obvious racism dream was weaponising white tears bc his friends stopped hanging around his ass bc of his constant fucking casual bigotry. like his ass is not progressive people just apparently don’t recognise basic fucking white supremacy anymore. like. what the fuck.

[soullessjack]

this isnt rlly a serious post more so than a thought I need to verbalize but like. there’s an INSANE difference between the fandom being like “hey what if jack was actually his age and got to be a little normal” vs y’all treating a grown ass man like he has to cover his ears when someone swears or sleep with a nightlight on because he’s afraid of the dark, and throwing the P word around to anyone who thinks he’s attractive. one of these things is not like the other.

[roxylalonde]

tw for extreme ableism but

aggression in autism is the same among genders. literally just lying 👍

[immediatebreakfast]

"When he saw me he became furious, and had not the attendants seized him in time, he would have tried to kill me."

We have already talked how Seward's perspective of Renfield is blurred thanks to his own biases, and his ableist ideas about him, and today we see another example of that unrealiable perspective.

Remember that "underveloped homicidal maniac" diagnosis? It seems that Seward hasn't let go of it since Renfield's anger was interpreted as killing intent. Which is, in a way, a great example of how ableism affects a vulnerable mentally ill person, and weaponizes their emotions against them in order to justify the treatment brought by the system.

Renfield escaped after Seward's attempt at making him escape was ignored, and he went to the deserted chapel (that Dracula is using) to possibly convince the Count to take him as a servant. Seward, not knowing that he "interrupted" this, thinks that Renfield's anger is actually him wanting to kill him, and not anger expressed at said interruption.

But Renfield's reaction was used as justification to restrain him, and even we have proof that if Seward, and his attendants have waited for a moment, Renfield would have gone without problems with them again.

[slugass]

using "sanity" as a stat that lowers... great, so hopeful. what an accurate and not outdated concept.

oh look, now some of you are making higher aggression and scary monstrousness go hand-in-hand with lower sanity... "insanity 100%"... wow so suprised, truuuly an improvement from all those shitty "character go INSANE AND KILL BC INSANITY = VIOLENCE" you used to make all the goddamn time.

[kismetconstellations]

Today in Takes On Shiro That Make Me Want To Gatekeep...

Sure. It's not like he was living on borrowed time, or anything, and Kerberos was very likely his last chance at ever voyaging into space, or potentially flying at all before his condition began to deteriorate. Adam being the selfish, irrational one? No. That was all Shiro. How dare he want to chase after his dream while his body still allowed it? God forbid he might have actually considered dying out in space preferable to slowly wasting away in front of the man he loved, and inevitably becoming reliant on Adam to bathe him and change out his diapers or bedpans.

Heaven forbid he might have also wanted to spare Keith the horror of watching one more person, one more adult caregiver in his life die, albeit at an agonizingly prolonged pace.

And, if you don't think that Shiro did everything in his power to protect every single one of the kids in his care, heedless of the risk to himself, you flat out watched a different version of this show.

[struck-by-the-rain]

terves love to fearmonger and throw hissy fits about "vulnerable autistic gay girls being manipulated into thinking they're trans/non-binary" and like... ok I'm sorry I've spent so many years growing up being treated as some weird, freaky little alien creature rather than as girl/woman, why are you mad that I'm embracing that label and being proud of it as who I am? why are you clutching your pearls so furiously about me walking away from a gender I never felt welcome or comfortable in, partially because of people like you? as much as you claim to be my "sister" or have good intentions for me I guarantee you were one of the kids who would have been treating me like a weird pet on the school playground, the way you talk down to autistic trans people like myself is one and the same as the singsong voice kids would use when they mockingly called me "their best friend!!!". you just hate autistic people having a backbone and autonomy and not having any authority over the weird kid at school anymore

[crimeronan]

this post is well over a year old now but i still stand by everything me n alfie said here. house md has had a renaissance on this site over the past few years & i do dearly love it & it does sometimes do Fantastic things with its portrayal of house as a sick doctor himself.... BUT. the overall ethos and attitude throughout the show is Not kind to chronically ill people. & it Stresses Me Out for people to genuinely non-jokingly and DESPERATELY wish for a doctor like house, to the point of "you can do whatever you want as long as you diagnose me." doctors like house do exist and they Will do anything to you and they are So So So So So Dangerous.

i absolutely get the fantasy inherent in those posts about wanting house to be your doctor (it's about being diagnosed in a week by a team of specialists who run exhaustive batteries of tests and take your medical mystery seriously and actually know things about medicine unlike the average GP) but they also make me cringe because like. you guys... you wouldn't... you wouldn't be the patient of the week. none of you would be the patient of the week. unless you're literally already so close to death that you have organs shutting down and are actively admitted to the hospital, you would NOT be a patient of the week. if you can ever get out of bed without collapsing then you are not the patient of the week. if you can breathe then you are not the patient of the week. if run-of-the-mill doctors keep telling you to exercise and take NSAIDS and stop bitching then you are not the patient of the week.

what you ARE is one of the comic relief clinic patients. you come into the hospital complaining about how bad you hurt and the show takes great pains to illustrate that you're a whiny lying faker with a booboo whose mommy coddled you too much because you're from an entitled generation of able-bodied pissbabies. the audience hates you for wanting medical help for your ailments. you are resoundly mocked for the entire episode and house is eventually validated when it turns out that combining ibuprofen and acetaminophen makes you capable of doing one entire dish in your sink, so you're an exaggerating asshat who's monopolizing the time that could be spent on REAL problems.

at MOST -- at VERY MOST -- you exist as a foil to make house angry, in which he'll throw something at the wall and scream at you about how you should just get addicted to vicodin to manage your pain and then maybe you'll actually HAVE something to bitch about. and if you're not willing to do that then it's proof that you weren't all that fucking sick to begin with. (50/50 this is portrayed as a negative interaction and a sign that house is Getting Worse but he won't suffer any social or licensing consequences for it because you don't matter.)

you are not the patient of the week. you are not going to be the patient of the week. real life is full of doctors who grew up on house md and who think they ARE house md and this is how they're going to treat you, because you are not the patient of the week.

so in real life you absolutely need to look up healthcare reviews online before you book a doctor's appointment and NEVER go to ANYONE with ANY negative reviews from ANY chronically ill patient. PLEASE.

[tiptapricot]

Guys in MK fandom can we please leave the trend of saying “It’s Jake” in any scene showing any type of violence or Marc being flawed in the pits of early show stuff please please I’m begging please

[kafus]

for a few years in middle/high school i went to a "special ed" school that was part mental hospital and part school. in the 8th grade, i got attached to one of my classmates because she was the only other person there who knew what vocaloid was, and we were both into it. at the time, kaai yuki was mostly known through the western fanbase because of songs like Crusher's Calalini, and despite the controversy surrounding jani schofield and everything that was unearthed, and despite the song being kind of insensitive, Calalini was my friend's favorite vocaloid song because she was schizophrenic and she genuinely felt like the song understood her experiences. i associated her with yuki and with that song as a result. yuki, in my mind, has always looked like a sick and tired little girl with messy black hair because of this early association, instead of anything even remotely resembling her canon design lol (you can imagine i was pleased when inabakumori started taking off and not only does he use kaai yuki, his mascot character looks similar to my headcanons for what yuki looks like)

the school we went to was abusive, very shitty environment, i feel like i escaped from there by the skin of my teeth - my friend was not so lucky, the abuse really aggravated her schizophrenia symptoms. at some point she brought a knife to school and tried to attack one of the abusive "therapists" there, and she was taken away in an ambulance to a mental ward and i never saw her again. i was forbidden from asking for her personal information to try to reach out and i've never found her online anywhere. whenever i listen to songs using yuki i passively think about her, i really hope she's doing better now and is with safer people. i'm convinced she doesn't have a violent bone in her body, she was just an abused kid trying to defend herself

calalini is a really important song to me despite all of its flaws because of this personal story, and i really value the remake of it that changes the lyrics slightly. kaai yuki will always look like that disheveled girl with black hair to me

[bonefall]

What would bb!Tigerstar think of Shadowsight? Would he attempt to gain a hold on him like Ashfur did and use him, especially since he's 'kin,'?

Tigerstar refused to even associate with Jaypaw in spite of the anger that would have been very easy to exploit. He hates people with disabilities, especially in his "great bloodline."

He wouldn't want to admit that Shadowsight is kin. He'd sort of dance around it, he's diplomatic enough to not say DIRECTLY that his grand plan for the forest would dissappear him quietly... But, Shadowsight is not part of his grand vision, either.

It's more likely he would target Lightleap and try to find any resentment she has for her brother. But, thankfully, he is double-dead and only exists now in gorey nursery rhymes, where he belongs.