#violent ableism

[soda-no-sugaruki]

people are literally going to die because of the labour welfare cuts this is so monstrously evil and depraved

Nowhere is hiring and even if you do get hired it isn't accessible, the chances of an employer putting in accommodations is slim not to mention what happens if you're hospitalised or have a flare up that leaves you bedridden for weeks? labour clearly has not thought about any of that and it's so obvious they're going to either work us into the ground and/or try to kill us

[buried-dog]

It's honestly such a shame so many "glass children" are just raging, self-pitying, ableist assholes that would rather shit on their siblings rather than hold their parents responsible. Coming from someone who was a glass child until I was 12 when I had a stroke then became it again when I was 16.

You getting physically abused by your parent(s), siblings or anyone else isn't the fault of disability in your family. That's not being a glass child, that's just domestic abuse, even if your family justify it with the disability.

Your parents enabling unhealthy behaviour of your neurodivergent (especially mentally ill/addicted) sibling is just that - enabling. Just because you were neglected and your sibling has disability doesn't mean you're a glass child.

Not everything is your disabled sibling's fault or more specifically the fault of the disability itself. Sometimes your parents/family are shit and there's nothing more to it.

Having your parents give most their attention to another child while your needs are pushed away is annoying, and frustrating, and painful, and it ruins your relationship with your parents when they never have time to be there for you, but there's a THICK line between being just plainly abused and/or neglected as a child, and being a glass child.

My fav tho is grown ass adults saying stuff like autistic siblings blowing their birthday cake candles, usually repeatedly, is "traumatic". Like, okay, cry me a fucking river? I spent my 13 birthday literally dying, drug up and still feeling 9/10 pain, alone in a hospital bed, but I guess me forcing myself into every part of my older sister's 13 bday party, when I was 10, was traumatic? Grow a pair.

And before you come to tell me how I don't know what it's like being blamed for things your sibling have done or some other shit like this, ask yourselves about the times you did something wrong and yet it seemed you weren't even asked about it. I promise you, neurodivergent sibling get blamed for leaving things in weird places, eating someone's stuff, destroying something etc all the time and most of us can't even defend ourselves. Of course it was the "violent" autistic child or junkie, who have poor impulse control, that broke the decoration or somehow got to the snacks hidden away. It can't be the "normal", good, quiet child. You guys seem to forget that being "see-through" applies to both the good and the bad. Statically speaking it's usually the disabled children that get the blame for things they didn't even do, especially in school.

[crippled-peeper]

every time I read about the recent $14.5billion sent to Israel by the Biden Administration I think about how in the hospital I used to work in in New Mexico, we had patients whose parents, being in the poorest and most rural communities in the country, would sometimes be forced to legally surrender their children to the state so they could get the chemotherapy and surgeries their parents couldn’t afford or didn’t have insurance for

I also think about how INTERNATIONALLY BASED rural healthcare organizations have had to intervene in New Mexico, a state in the richest country on the fucking planet, because access to healthcare is so bad for the people living there

we are the perhaps the shittiest country ever I think

[the-fallen-collective]

Daily reminder that people with npd aren’t bad. They aren’t abusive. Narcissistic abuse isn’t real. Narcissistic/narcissist is not a synonym for bad/abusive/stubborn/etc.

Can pwnpd be bad and abusive? Yes, everyone can. Is it because of the npd? NO!! “Narcissistic abuse” is fake, call it what is, emotional abuse!

I am so sick and tired of seeing it. I am tired of seeing narcism used as a synonym for bad/abusive people. I’m tired of seeing people in abusive situations default to calling their abuser a narcissist simply because they’re an abuser. Like sorry you’re going through that but also shut the fuck up with your stupid armchair diagnosis.

The next person I see who’s at all ableist towards anyone with npd I’m bashing their fucking head in with a rock and I deserve to because I am so much better than them in every way imaginable

[spot-the-ableism]

to set the record straight, as I have zero things to hide.

[IMAGE ID: a tumblr post by user crippled-peeper, it is a reblog chain of 3 posts. It reads “accuses me of “race faking” because I talked about being a refugee from Katrina checks my bio again first line: white man” next reblog reads “idk what’s more fucked up, that these bloggers are named “spot the antisemitism” or “ spot the ableism” or the fact that they are so racist and ableist they think the only way a white person could be a refugee is if they’re making it up” next post reads “ “you can’t be a refugee and disagree with me!!! Everyone knows that I am the arbiter of who is and isn’t a refugee as someone who lives in a gated community in the USA !!! Don’t you know I RUN A BLOG?!?!?” The tags read “#I’m so glad other people are im agreement that these kids are actual clowns not to be taken seriously at all” END ID:]

I never said or insinuated that you were not a climate refugee, nor that you were a racefaker

above is proof, I have not edited the posts nor want to. You have the reblogs to prove I in fact did not edit anything.

the things you are claiming I “did” were things that spot-the-antisemitism did and said.

intracommunity ableism is still ableism, hate speech against both Jewish and other disabled people is not okay, you can be both completely totally right to call out spot-the-antisemitism’s ableism and commit hate speech against random Jewish and disabled people. You can do both, nuance exists.

me calling you out on harmful behaviour and inciting hate speech is not a bad nor immoral thing I’d hope you would do it to me.

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if you are mad at me swearing at you may I remind you that you have committed way worse acts of hate speech and yet I gave you benefit of the doubt. People are allowed to swear at people.

i have said you may be having a horrible time right now due to medication troubles and that people should not harass you regardless. And that they should keep in mind that you have been through a lot and do not want harassment. I do also humbly apologise for swearing it was wrong of me to and not conducive to anything helpful.

if anything I have been way too forgiving, what you have said to many well meaning and non-ableist/normal disabled people has been utterly vile and yet do I use that against you? Yet do I say those same things towards you? Yet do I mean to hurt or harass you? No.

I live my life, you live yours, I care about you enough to actually call out people who do wish to hurt you. I shouldn’t, but I do. If you return my very calm and sincere response with the same energy and hatred that you usually do it is not in good faith.

you are having a hard time, a hard time always. And I do not wish to contribute to that. But I cannot stay silent and let others be hurt by what you do and you say. Words do effect reality, there are people behind these screens and I am one, and I am writing this sincerely.

again why am I ableist when I was the one to in fact call out and hold spot-the-antisemitism accountable, and explain why it was bad? I spotted the ableism, simple as that.

I am no wimp, or coward if you wish to call me horrible things I am proud to Bare it.

As I do with all things.

sincerely a disabled person who was told way worse things than this over the course of my childhood.

if you do say "KYS" or any variation of it I will be reporting you.

as that. is. hate. speech. and violent speech which. is. not. legal.

I have not discriminated against you nor malgendered you, I have only sweared at you at the worst (and called out that fakeclaiming and spewing violent hate speech is unacceptable), if anything I have been on your side on most of this.

this comes from a place of love, not hatred.

[soullessjack]

this isnt rlly a serious post more so than a thought I need to verbalize but like. there’s an INSANE difference between the fandom being like “hey what if jack was actually his age and got to be a little normal” vs y’all treating a grown ass man like he has to cover his ears when someone swears or sleep with a nightlight on because he’s afraid of the dark, and throwing the P word around to anyone who thinks he’s attractive. one of these things is not like the other.

[crimeronan]

question for kitkat about tachni: is invalid a permanent status? is it revokable in theory, but in practice too difficult?

this answer may change as i work out the precise legal proceedings and history of mental health advocacy in tachni. as of now, though, i think invalid status CAN be changed.... but ONLY by the individual or organization responsible for the invalid's contract/guardianship. you can't really advocate for revocation of your own status as an invalid because you're not considered competent to represent your own interests. so you just have to hope that the person who has guardianship over you WILL allow you full personhood once you're "well" again -- if you Can get well again.

[ur-all-fucking-idiots]

I wish I could hang u up by ur feet and watch the blood spill from ur neck :3

Maybe next time don't treat me like shit just cause I've got a disorder BITCH

[roxylalonde]

tw for extreme ableism but

aggression in autism is the same among genders. literally just lying 👍

[immediatebreakfast]

"When he saw me he became furious, and had not the attendants seized him in time, he would have tried to kill me."

We have already talked how Seward's perspective of Renfield is blurred thanks to his own biases, and his ableist ideas about him, and today we see another example of that unrealiable perspective.

Remember that "underveloped homicidal maniac" diagnosis? It seems that Seward hasn't let go of it since Renfield's anger was interpreted as killing intent. Which is, in a way, a great example of how ableism affects a vulnerable mentally ill person, and weaponizes their emotions against them in order to justify the treatment brought by the system.

Renfield escaped after Seward's attempt at making him escape was ignored, and he went to the deserted chapel (that Dracula is using) to possibly convince the Count to take him as a servant. Seward, not knowing that he "interrupted" this, thinks that Renfield's anger is actually him wanting to kill him, and not anger expressed at said interruption.

But Renfield's reaction was used as justification to restrain him, and even we have proof that if Seward, and his attendants have waited for a moment, Renfield would have gone without problems with them again.

[slugass]

using "sanity" as a stat that lowers... great, so hopeful. what an accurate and not outdated concept.

oh look, now some of you are making higher aggression and scary monstrousness go hand-in-hand with lower sanity... "insanity 100%"... wow so suprised, truuuly an improvement from all those shitty "character go INSANE AND KILL BC INSANITY = VIOLENCE" you used to make all the goddamn time.

[androphagy]

also, i can't remember where i first saw this fall-through-the-ice take, but i've been watching it be echoed in youtube comments/twitter/some parts of tumblr, and when people say "we need to hold people with mental illness and developmental disabilities accountable, they can't just get away with it because of their disabilities!!!" i am baffled because. they are. do they know how disparaged, abused, ignored, and erased from society these people are.

when someone with severe autism or schizophrenia or any manner of severe debilitating issue has an outburst, lashes out, hurts someone, and/or does something "bad", the amount of times it's excused is rare. the people who use it as an excuse are those able to understand why they need to use it as an excuse. severe issues can cause severe actions and subsequent consequences — if you actually look at the (estimated!) statistics of mentally ill and developmentally disabled people in jail, prison, and indefinite psychiatric holds as a result of violent or "uncontrollable" behavior, they ARE being punished. and if they're not being punished with imprisonment, they're being punished with abusive "therapy", state/federal programs relying on people who need their services to not understand the process — then make them jump through hoops and wait for half a year at least to make any progress (which can and regularly leaves people homeless and starving), societal ostracization and abandonment, and abusive people who come and go in the form of caretakers, friends, and those who take advantage of their loneliness for benefit payments, if they ever receive them.

the people in these comments are talking specifically about people who don't understand or weren't able to understand at the time what was happening, for the record. the idea that we lost a valuable resource when crowded, abusive, and dangerous asylums could hide these people away from "good and proper" society (of which still happens, see my point of imprisonment via jails and psych wards) and often end in their deaths is such a heartless and nasty belief.

[kafus]

for a few years in middle/high school i went to a "special ed" school that was part mental hospital and part school. in the 8th grade, i got attached to one of my classmates because she was the only other person there who knew what vocaloid was, and we were both into it. at the time, kaai yuki was mostly known through the western fanbase because of songs like Crusher's Calalini, and despite the controversy surrounding jani schofield and everything that was unearthed, and despite the song being kind of insensitive, Calalini was my friend's favorite vocaloid song because she was schizophrenic and she genuinely felt like the song understood her experiences. i associated her with yuki and with that song as a result. yuki, in my mind, has always looked like a sick and tired little girl with messy black hair because of this early association, instead of anything even remotely resembling her canon design lol (you can imagine i was pleased when inabakumori started taking off and not only does he use kaai yuki, his mascot character looks similar to my headcanons for what yuki looks like)

the school we went to was abusive, very shitty environment, i feel like i escaped from there by the skin of my teeth - my friend was not so lucky, the abuse really aggravated her schizophrenia symptoms. at some point she brought a knife to school and tried to attack one of the abusive "therapists" there, and she was taken away in an ambulance to a mental ward and i never saw her again. i was forbidden from asking for her personal information to try to reach out and i've never found her online anywhere. whenever i listen to songs using yuki i passively think about her, i really hope she's doing better now and is with safer people. i'm convinced she doesn't have a violent bone in her body, she was just an abused kid trying to defend herself

calalini is a really important song to me despite all of its flaws because of this personal story, and i really value the remake of it that changes the lyrics slightly. kaai yuki will always look like that disheveled girl with black hair to me

[tiptapricot]

Guys in MK fandom can we please leave the trend of saying “It’s Jake” in any scene showing any type of violence or Marc being flawed in the pits of early show stuff please please I’m begging please

[bonefall]

What would bb!Tigerstar think of Shadowsight? Would he attempt to gain a hold on him like Ashfur did and use him, especially since he's 'kin,'?

Tigerstar refused to even associate with Jaypaw in spite of the anger that would have been very easy to exploit. He hates people with disabilities, especially in his "great bloodline."

He wouldn't want to admit that Shadowsight is kin. He'd sort of dance around it, he's diplomatic enough to not say DIRECTLY that his grand plan for the forest would dissappear him quietly... But, Shadowsight is not part of his grand vision, either.

It's more likely he would target Lightleap and try to find any resentment she has for her brother. But, thankfully, he is double-dead and only exists now in gorey nursery rhymes, where he belongs.

[crimeronan]

48 and 16 for sol, perhaps?

48. What would be the most offensive word or term to use about your OC? How would they respond to this being used towards them? Would it matter what the intent or understanding of the person using it might be?

i told rafi "i have to come up with some new fantasy slurs" & rafi was like "what. why??" and so i told them the premise of this question.

no fantasy slurs yet, though! we just get unpleasant real life terminology

you'd think "slut" or "gold digger" or "murderer" would be it, but nah. these are things that are Frequently said about sol. they're offensive, sure, but she's so unbothered by them that they're also in-jokes among her employees. there goes sol, evil slut bitch murderer of sodom, or whatever. yes she signs my paycheck. yes she is evil. any questions

so. the Actual most offensive term one could use would be to call her an invalid. which means much the same thing in tachni as it does in america, ie: a person who's too sick or crippled or mentally disabled to have autonomy.

if anybody said such a thing as a joke, sol would ice them out in a way that made it Very Clear they should never say it again. if anybody Earnestly and Legally tried to ascribe that label to her, she would Freak The Fuck Out. and do her level best to kill them.

robert tried to do this to her at one point. oops!

16. Does your OC's body language sometimes give away what they might prefer to conceal? Or are they practiced at ensuring that their physical presentation matches their stated positions?

this one depends HEAVILY on how well the other party knows her.

sol is Very Good at being charming, friendly, and relaxed in business meetings. her main persona is Ice Bitch, but she can do a whole three-act play over the course of a night about how the other person is "winning her over." she's also good at swallowing her disgust and rage if doing so serves a longer-term purpose.

however. people who know her well also know her tells. there are certain things in how she speaks or how she sits. if she laughs freely, she's putting on an act. if she relaxes her guard or casually turns her back to somebody, she's furious. you know this because sol never does those things when she's just being herself.

ruby can read sol like a book, even when sol WANTS to lie to her. devin can Mostly read sol like a book, but is being lied to about several things regardless.