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[androphagy]

this isn't me doing a bit btw but people really want to talk about "transgender milfs" and then treat trans women/fems who genuinely want to get pregnant and be mothers like shit.

like it's a really rough experience feeling that alienated from your body and desires and the amount of hostility towards literally just wishing you could be a mother in a specific way and being upset that you can't is really fucked. everyone is so fucking hostile and weird about bodily autonomy including wanting to have a kid.

like people act like transfems are delusional for wishing they could have kids and society treats the idea transfem uterus transplants as either a laughable joke or a disgusting perversion. like fuck, be nicer. treat them right.

[androphagy]

i think its really interesting how intersexism and misogyny and transmisogyny can all intersect and how many people refuse to acknowledge the fact that these forms of bigotry and oppression DO intersect and that your gender, while affecting HOW you experience oppression, doesnt exempt you from it. transfems experience transmisogyny at a rate different than transmascs, and acknowledging that shouldnt make you feel like you have to be on the defensive. but i feel that its okay for transmascs to also acknowledge the transmisogyny they face as well, without being shouted down that they dont experience any form of bigotry based on gender identity. the two can coexist, and i feel that you should be able to speak on transmisogyny, and misogyny, without having to constantly apologize or diminish yourself. the language around the gender spectrum (and the bigotry that comes with deviation from “standard” gender expression) shouldnt be segregated based on determinative gender identity and “oppressor bias” - it should be available to all people regardless of what each person individually thinks. to deny any one person the language to describe their experiences with bigotry is to essentially silence them from speaking ON bigotry. if youre a transfem thats experienced misogyny pre and post transition, then you should be able to speak on misogyny and describe it in the terms you want to! if youre a transmasc who has experienced it, you should be able to as well! and that goes doubly for the intersection between transphobia and misogyny (transmisogyny) and the queer infighting that people do over “who faces what” discrimination does nothing but detract and distract from discussions of bigotry and how its affected the queer community.

all thats to say that as an intersex transsexual man whose experienced transmisogyny, misogyny, and intersexism both pre and post transition… its important to me to be able to speak about my experiences. i should be able to describe the experience of when i had to quit multiple jobs due to being grilled about my genitalia, the fear and revulsion (including attempting to get me branded as sexually dangerous) i was treated with once discovered to be trans, and the many other aggressions ive experienced that are based in transmisogyny as transmisogyny, i should be able to speak about the experience of being put on medication to treat depression (that i had already been shown to have dangerous side effects as a result of taking it) and birth control rather than being provided with any form of care or information for my intersexuality and describe the intersexism ive faced as intersexism…... all while still respecting and uplifting other voices (whether transfem or transmasc) and their experiences.

tldr; the queer infighting has got to stop. the policing of language has to stop. we, as a community, need to uplift trans voices and stop punching down on transmascs who speak on their experiences, and stop harassing transfems for daring to speak at all.

i agree with what you're saying overall. i think contention is a natural part of any community simply due to the fact that individuals are going to have issues with each other; no community is going to be a homogenous sunshine-and-rainbows force that can always agree on what do to or what's okay/good/right depending on the situation. in fact, i think it's a good thing that people have differences and argue about things. it prevents things from becoming an echo chamber, internalizing a bad set of ideals, and going down a path of harm that fucks everyone over in the end.

intersex issues are something i have personal experience with but not in the body i inhabit. your perspective is an interesting one and an important one as well; i'd hope that anyone who reads this sees what you have to say and it expands their worldview a little more. your experiences with transphobia and misogyny (as well as transmisogyny) absolutely stand for themselves, but i will add that if i didn't know you were a trans man or trans woman i would assume you were a trans woman simply because it's more common for those on the transfeminine axis to be postured as dangerous for their existence. that doesn't make my set of beliefs right, however; just as you've had your experiences, the differences between ours make up those gaps at which devolve into the "queer infighting" you referred to at the end of your message.

i believe you're exactly correct in saying that we need to focus on uplifting voices as a whole. what you said is especially important at the end, though -- "stop punching down on transmascs who speak on their experiences, and stop harassing transfems for daring to speak at all." the acknowledgement that the simple existence of a transfem's issues opens her up to harassment is the core thing here. transphobia ridicules everyone who tries and speak about their experiences with bigotry. transmisogyny ridicules and silences people who experience it from speaking at all.

[androphagy]

also, @impunkster-syndrome is wrongfully assuming that i sent those anons, which i didn't. when you make assumptions about people you don't know, you come off as even more disingenuous.

you said "i'm pretty sure androphagy sent those anons." as well as screenshotting my blog, accusing me of things that i haven't done but have actually happened to me, and you have a much larger following than i do.

i didn't. your supporting theory that i did was that i reblogged one of thicced-witch's posts. i don't care about you or what you do aside from the fact you interacted with me first after i had you blocked, to which i remembered you were pretending to be transfem and speaking over trans women. there was another blog you were having beef with that actually was celebrating who wasn't me OR thicced-witch. you did this as well to others where you assumed people were antisemitic based on the fact that you believed they were a bad person.

i would suggest going offline for more than a single day, stop making assumptions, and just talk directly to me instead of making up things that aren't true to bolster your reputation and status as the sole victim here. i have made it expressly clear that people can and should talk to me.

[androphagy]

anon. oh my lord. someone's experiences do not mean they get to steamroll others and mine. please go take this up with the people actually involved here instead of saying i'm "incredibly malicious" (your words) for saying they don't experience this offline (notice how i said "also".) if you actually read my post and didn't immediately jump to a rabid defense of someone i don't know and have made a few posts on because they interacted with me (after i had them blocked because i had a snarky one liner in my blog title for a couple hours while resituating things), you'd see that i was specifically talking about them making their presence known online and speaking over others.

please stop sending me asks. you're not making anyone here look better by doubling down and dragging this out even longer. i wasn't going to talk about them any further. i'm not answering your asks for your own sake, despite you being anonymous, because i'm hoping that you look back on this and go console your friend instead of making yourself look like a jackass.

[androphagy]

anon seriously i need you to remember that that's not me doing that and that i have personal experience with them long before yesterday. i am also one of "those queer people" that draws negative attention except it's been in real life in public and has lead to some awful shit happening and i haven't been able to just delete or password protect my blog to defend from it.

me being credulous about one person who is consistently making the choice to speak over others and be combative to everyone who doesn't align with their exact ideals is not "hyper focusing on one person." i made a couple posts about their behavior. i don't know thicced-witch aside from reblogging one of her posts and i have no idea what their personal beef is with each other.

also, anon, i have two followers. my biggest post has 14 notes, most of which are me and two others talking about different things aside from impunkster-syndrome. my blog is not one that has a lot of eyes on it. if you put something online and constantly interact with others with that kind of behavior, there are going to be people who are offput by it and react to it.

[androphagy]

yk impunkster-syndrome was getting rape threats and harassment so they had to password protect, right? seems kinda meesed up to celebrate in light of that. ive seen the screenshots and its really disturbing, plus the person who sent those is already back on the platform after getting termed so they are still at risk of it happening again to them

i wasn't celebrating? i was providing proof for my statements, as i try to. i have also received death and rape threats for...just existing. providing examples of their behavior then stating why i feel it's better they're not interacted with -- as that's what i literally said, i said not to interact with them -- is not celebrating. what?

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irt last post that's what gets me really heated about transmisogyny in specifically online "queer" spaces. the idea that it's performative femininity especially once you start taking estrogen (and spironolactone, which has many side effects that just aren't talked about because people aside from transfems and trans women don't care), that you're sectioned as a trans women and/or transfem into a special box where you're simultaneously being targeted with misogyny of the usual type, transphobia of the outer and inner community type, and transmisogyny specific to this belief that the idea of the "trans woman" is wrapped in layers of unshakable masculinity regardless of the individual (not that that even matters.)

let me be crystal here: transfemininity is not a separate form of womanhood below or different from the anatomical female. the visibility and attention they get from the greater public does not work in their favor aside from incidences which are far and few between. the idea that transfeminism is rooted in a belief of womanhood is directly oppositional to the reality that trans women, transfems, transfemmes and everyone in between on that axis aren't "believing" their experience with femininity; they are living it just as much as someone anatomically female especially if they begin HRT, FFS, SRS -- and then they see the absolute dregs of society's misogynistic venom aimed at them simply due to the fact that those people can get away with it because of how devalued anyone on the transfeminine axis is.

the fact i have to say any of this at all is insane. it should be obvious. this isn't a case of "but other trans people..." no they don't. don't derail. don't shove your head in the sand and act as if the torrents of transmisogyny outside and inside the trans community aren't lobbed specifically at those who are simultaneously positioned as entitled males and targets of misogyny (not women -- targets of misogyny!)

recognizing your similar experiences as a non-transfeminine person regardless of assigned genitalia status should not make you immediately try and defend yourself as not transmisogynistic or both-sides it. it should make you empathize, listen, and do what you can to make those under more public stress than you feel safe in your company. if you can't think of a single transfeminine person you know or have even met outside of briefly online, think about why she might be afraid to be in public or be around you in the first place.

[androphagy]

"Trans women are actually women for real, not in a metaphorical sense, not in a "anyone can be anything" sense, but genuinely actually make more taxonomic sense to classify in the category of women than any other group" is a position you'll find is pretty radical even in queer spaces

[androphagy]

impunkster syndrome, though clearly terrified of me, can't resist engaging with the izanami, which only reveals even more of their bigoted mindset.

they've so fully convinced themselves that they hold a position of absolute moral authority over everyone (but especially trans women), that they take pride in their constant and bizarre attempts to de-platform trans women who don't conform to their way of thinking.

that's probably why, when called out for stalking someone's following list and demanding they unfollow people impunkster syndrome doesn't like, they don't reflect on their actions and realize what a freak they're being. instead they say weird shit like this:

impunkster...what happened to "publicly shaming transfems is wrong because of our hypervisibility and it causes harassment?"

unfortunately impunkster is so wildly transmisogynistic that they can't see the hypocrisy in their own actions. but the izanami will show them.

[androphagy]

the first person is speaking genuinely which i don't fault them for, but it was the post i was talking about in the last response to the anon. the second post is just a further example of their behavior of attempting to say they're transfem because they're intersex and AFAB. don't get me wrong; intersex erasure is absolutely an issue and contributes to medical as well as societal abuse under all different beliefs of why it's "wrong", but that isn't the issue at hand here.

[androphagy]

wait, sorry, whats wrong with impunkster-syndrome? i haven't really seen much of their(?) posts but they seemed to be normal, is something wrong with the term transfemmasc?

far be it from me to police how someone identifies gender-wise, but the specific issue here is that they are AFAB and are speaking over transfems and trans women while intentionally leaving out that fact when making posts about transmisogyny (however they didn't leave it out elsewhere on their blog, which is how i found out after they randomly came onto one of my posts a while ago. i don't have that specific conversation but if i find it i'll post it.) there are other posts that come up when you search up impunkster-syndrome from people who don't know that they're an AFAB transfem and were (rightfully, because they didn't know!) indignant about them being doubted as transfem because they spoke on transmasc issues as well. the term transfemmasc as i've seen it being used is solely by AFAB people positioning their experiences with femininity outside the norm and thus the direct equivalent to transfemininity.

i'm sure you already know this but just to be clear on my own stance, to be transfem or a trans woman you can't* start as assigned female then live your life positioned as a perceived girl/woman (depending on age) and then decide because your experience with femininity doesn't match the stereotype you can be transfem or a trans woman. transfemininity isn't a costume you can put on when you want to identity under those parameters and take off when the consequences of being a trans woman rear their head, even if you personally believe that you align more with the transfeminine struggle. if you align with that set of circumstances, it's much more conducive to not only yourself but other trans people around you to analyze why you believe you fit the label of "transfem" when you were already assigned female at birth, regardless of intersex conditions.**

culturally in eurocentric societies the concept of "womanhood" has been rapidly changing and fluctuating far more than the concept of manhood. someone's womanhood will always be doubted and ridiculed regardless of how much they try and align with the ideal; and once you bring transfemininity into it, you have this whole new layer of anatophobia that permeates every layer above and below their experiences as transfem. TERF ideology gets away with so much because they're preying on the historical precedent of "but the women and children!" and the societal need for a villain and punching bag. it draws people in because they want someone or something to blame for how terrible everyone adjacent to the feminine has it while not having to confront the people who can actually hold power and do damage (i.e. the cis men i've been talking about.) it also relies on the fact that they know people who believe that rhetoric won't go into anything with an open mind or willing to change -- they (and "they" can mean actual specific people or the TERF guidelines as a whole) know that the fear of the cis male is so prevalent that they can get away with making up ludicrous monster-in-the-closet stories about trans women and have them be believed for no other reason than their anatomy.

trans women, trans men, transfems, transmascs, cis women, and intersex individuals with prominent female sex characteristics are all at risk for misogyny regardless of how well they do or don't pass. there's nothing to be argued that misogyny is an extremely pervasive (i'd even argue one of the defining worldwide beliefs to all varying degrees) danger to anyone positioned too close to "female."

transmisogyny however is specifically directed from those who believe women and nonbinary people born with a certain set of genitalia cannot be women regardless of appearance, surgeries, experiences, etc and will thus utilize their anatomy (not just genitalia!) to justify targeted attacks anywhere from verbal insults to assault and murder. you don't have to be an all-out TERF repping JK rowling to perpetuate transmisogynistic rhetoric.

are there exceptions? yes, there are with everything. but the people who are claiming to be AFAB transfem are experiencing misogyny, not transmisogyny, and thus can't be speaking on personal experiences with anatophobia (and they always seem to be positioning arguments about the issues transmascs and trans men face along with their identity as transfem -- let me be clear here, trans men and transmascs absolutely face their own sets of issues more specific to those experiences, but that's not what this is about.)

*i mean, you physically can, but this is about the issue of transfems and trans women being talked over especially in regards to their anatomy and public perception.

**i don't talk about my own circumstances too much on here but let it be known that i have a lot of experience with intersex conditions from both ends of the male-female spectrum and everything in between; intersex does not equal transgender, and while some intersex people may identify with the transgender label, intersex conditions are very common and are repeatedly refused to be acknowledged as an intersex condition.

and as a last little aside, impunkster-syndrome's politics and beliefs aside from their transgender identity are full of "be want you want forever and words mean nothing" misused terminology everything is traumatic and pathologized echochambered-ness that gets extremely grating extremely quickly especially because they have that same bigot-brained ideal of "it doesn't matter what anyone else says because i'm right and thus i don't need to change my perception, it's everyone else who's attacking me and my beliefs."

[androphagy]

i don't know how much i'll actually use this blog here, but for the sake of others here's a bit about me:

i'm an early 20s trans man (he/him is fine) who studies and occasionally writes theory independently. since this is tumblr, which is its own landscape designed to torture those interested in being taken in good faith, i tend to pare it down a fair amount; though my posts still get long as hell. i don't speak on things i'm not familiar with but i'm always willing to learn. my beliefs and views aren't perfect and i'm no stranger to being wrong. i'm completely okay with being challenged and critiqued; i think pushback is generally conducive to deeper understanding and stability in beliefs providing the pushback is isn't just, like, name calling and intentionally construing it in the worst way possible

i love parentheses, i love slashes, i love the semicolon, and i love the humble emdash. they make frequent appearances

final note is that i have moderate brain and vision damage thus my words/writing/grammar might get messed up to varying degrees. i (or my boyfriend) try to catch it when we can but some things get through especially on more intense days

[androphagy]

yeah, i knew i wasn't making it up or misremembering. this is the person who was back in either late 2023 or early 2024 that was bothering me and is also claiming to be entirely transfem now. don't even talk or engage with impunkster-syndrome if they come crawling back, they're an extremely bad faith run of the mill internet troll and literally the exact type of person i was talking about in that post.

[androphagy]

did they deactivate? what?

[androphagy]

no, transphobic cis men can't be victims of systemic transmisogyny. i can't believe i even have to say that. what?

[androphagy]

@impunkster-syndrome since you clearly can't read and i said literally none of that, it's refuting the terf idea that male bioessentialism makes trans women inherently more dangerous for having male anatomy.

i don't have to talk to you. i don't even know how you found my blog because you were blocked specifically for this reason. the reason i blocked you is because you are a transmisogynist and take everything aside from your own point of view and echo chamber you're in in the most bad faith possible, as evidenced by saying "you're saying all marginalized men of color and sexualities are inherently dangerous."

no, and i will say this slowly for you, and in smaller words: cis men are more dangerous than trans women, cis women, and trans men because historically, cis men have been given power even when they're marginalized. a black man still holds status over a black woman. neither are treated the same or fairly as a white man and a white woman. the ties of "gay men want to abuse your kids" doesn't change the fact that a cis gay man is still capable of violent transphobia, which is the issue at hand that i'm talking about.

if you're still following that and not inventing new ways to be angry about someone not wanting to talk to you because you consistently detract from the point because you're personally offended, my "terrible take" is based on years of schooling, research, primary and secondary sourced experiences as well as expanding on my own hypotheses beyond bioessentialism and tumblr feminism which can be dropped the second someone hears something they don't like or agree with.

if i could cover all lived experiences and convey every single point of view from a single post, i probably wouldn't be on tumblr, would i?

your incensed behavior because someone doesn't want to talk to you for the specific reason you just so thoughtfully demonstrated for us is protected under federal free speech, not protected from consequences under the androphagy. if you read my whole post and your only thoughts were "what about the cis men???? what about my feelings???" perhaps you should take a moment and reconsider why you feel that way.

[androphagy]

if someone sent an anon/message to my inbox it's not showing up but i am getting the notification!! if you want to resend it that's totally fine