#validateyourself

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Do it for you, not for them.

[theanonfirefly]

Learnt this quite late in life, but, I don't need to seek validation from everyone and i dont need every person on Earth to like me.

I know my worth, I know who I am and what I bring to the table.

I only seek to be accepted by a few close ones, that is it.

[its-dawns-blog-blog]

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[sadiahakim]

You do not need any external validation when you know what you bring to the table. The only validation you need is within you. So, keep doing, keep moving, keep hoping.

Sadia Hakim

[crescent-july]

Don’t let anybody ever make you believe that you’re not good at something you do or that you don’t deserve better. Your heart and soul that has been poured into the work knows you better.

And that’s all that really matters.

[itsreallyjustme]

I started going to bi-monthly therapy consults a couple of months ago, to prepare for the fact that I had to move out and restart my life.

I saw someone on tiktok share what they learnt in their consults cause not everyone can economically access the help they need, but everyone should be able to use the information gained.

So, things I learnt in therapy today:

- Do you crave and need adult validation? (if you are over 18) You are an adult, validate yourself.

- You can only have the role of an observer in other people's lifes. Unless they request your help otherwise.

- (related to the concept of spoons) You only have a certain amount of psychological energy to spend in everything going on in your life (including feed and bathing yourself, also getting out of bed). If you spend 85% of it in worrying about something, you will only have 15% for everything else going on in your life

[art-appreciation-dog]

I'dike to extend a thank you,

To artists whose posts only get a few notes

To artists with OCs and whole universes waiting to be written

To artists working with strange unique mediums

To artists with story and comic ideas

To artists who put their stuff on here for the whole whole to see

To artists who don't feel appreciated

To artists who love what they do so so much

To artists with big dreams

To artists taking commissions

To artists who'd like to make a living doing what they love

To hobby-artists who often feel pressured to make money off their stuff

Thank you for existing. Thank you for brightening this platform with your unique skills and individual work, nobody can do things quite like you. Thank you.

[f0mo]

you are not going in circles.

you’re making progress in a spiral. you do come back around to where you were at the start, since recovery and healing take time, but everytime you come back around to that point you’re a little higher up because youve got more experience, more knowledge and more strength.  

you are making progress

[missysippiiiee]

Through growth and life experiences, I learned to appreciate silence, privacy, peace, happiness, and tears. I realised that acceptance isn’t something I’m entitled to receive from everyone.

It’s something you have to dig deep within yourself for, as it is solely coming from you — the one who possesses, owns, and identifies it.

Search for that peace with everything you do. Seize every moment. Avoid things that compromise your happiness. Live a meaningful life and make the most out of it.

Allow peace, contentment, and happiness to fuel your soul without considering others approval. The only validation you need, is your own.

[positivewritesxo]

Gentle reminder-

If your feelings feel invalidated then validate them yourself. You're not overreacting or weak for how you reacted, notice and think about your actions and responses, learn your triggers and toxic traits. Teach yourself and reparent yourself.

[thespiritinme]

You’re hurting and it’s okay. I mean it.

You’re finding yourself dealing with many uncomfortable, irritable and negative emotions. But you also hate that you have these emotions. You do not want to feel this way at all, but the emotions just won’t seem to go away.

I’m here to tell you, and anyone, that whatever emotion you feel is literally 100% valid. It’s real and it’s here. You are feeling this emotion. Whether you perceive it as a “bad” or “good” emotion. This emotion you are feeling, is valid, simply because you are FEELING it.

It’s so important, and I can’t stress this enough, that you are able to sit comfortably with any emotion that you feel. If you cannot do this, then you are invalidating your own feelings. People tend to avoid their emotions by distracting ourselves with work, school, drugs or purely just denying it is even there. This is evident in the common phrase “I don’t even care,” which is often contradicted by moody or acting-Out behaviour. Often times, you may lead yourself to believe you don’t care when the situation or event is lingering in your mind constantly.

The first step to healing the wound behind these overwhelming emotions is simply acknowledging the way that you are feeling.

“Kina, you are feeling angry and upset right now because you didn’t pass your mid term exams. And that’s super okay, many people who anticipated better results are also feeling this way. You are not alone in this.”

Speaking to yourself in third person like this helps to validate these emotions your having, so that you can reinforce to yourself that it is actually okay to be feeling this.

[chaoticpete]

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the ones whos reading, wanna play a game?.

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OK STOP! Click the read more

You might be almost as cute as this raccoon. Almost.

But you know what you are? Completely validated and loved so much. Even if you don't feel like it today, or tomorrow, but you are. Even if you have to feed that love into yourself, that's the best type of love and validation you could ever receive. So keep your head up.

[shark-b0i]

if you make a list of things that you love it should never take you long to get to yourself.

to anyone reading this who has ever felt like a burden or like you’re not good enough- you are beautiful and loved.

to anyone reading this who has every gel invalidated or like being yourself is hurting other people- you are valid and if someone says that you being your full true self is hurting them then they’re an asshole and don’t deserve you.

[drusillab]

truth be told, society really tell us we, females, are wrong no matter what we do because our very existence interfere whatever plans of submission, overpower and oppression men have going on for the pasts centuries. telling girls they need to be better than boys when boys need to be better at all is bullshit. we don't need to forgive and raise above guys who spend years trashing our mental health in order to overpower us in every single interaction. i lost track how many times I was interrupted, diminish, ridiculed and provoked by a group of guys (YES, BECAUSE WE KNOW THEY ALL WALK IN PACKS SO THEY CAN HAVE BACK UP WHEN THINGS GET UGLY TO THEM) when I was making reasonable point with facts and arguments to validate myself. i also lost track how many times my appearance was used against me in moments of no relevance during arguments or totally out of the blue. i lost track of when I learned 'if a guy mistreats you is because he likes you' which led me to lose track to of how many guys (and then girls too, as if that stupid logic follows) i swore I loved because I needed their approval and validation and i needed them to stop being so shitty to me and apparently the only way a guy would stop being awful to you is if they admit they like you. i need to know who came up with that lame excuse for boys misogynistic behavior so I can send my therapy bill. I'm so tired mentally and emotionally drained after being expected my entire life to seek the good part of men that, for some unknown reason, is always buried deep in disrespect and total disregard for other's feelings. it's not even actual disregard. men, even and maybe specially boys, know they gonna hurt your feeling and make you self-conscious and insecure, that's their aim, to say something, to make a "joke" that will disarm you and strip you of your dignity. and it's not because maybe later they don't behave that precise way with you or someone else, that you need exclude all the damage it done to your, your mental wellness and self-esteem. it's gonna take years for me to recover of every time a guy convinced me i wasn't worth respecting, years to build myself with all the mercy they say I should give to those who did me wrong but I need it more and I deserve better. i wish every girl knew that and thought that about herself.

[crownmalone]

I post enough of my butt. I can be cute doing other things, dammit.