#validateyourself

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Do it for you, not for them.

[theanonfirefly]

Learnt this quite late in life, but, I don't need to seek validation from everyone and i dont need every person on Earth to like me.

I know my worth, I know who I am and what I bring to the table.

I only seek to be accepted by a few close ones, that is it.

[sadiahakim]

You do not need any external validation when you know what you bring to the table. The only validation you need is within you. So, keep doing, keep moving, keep hoping.

Sadia Hakim

[crescent-july]

Don’t let anybody ever make you believe that you’re not good at something you do or that you don’t deserve better. Your heart and soul that has been poured into the work knows you better.

And that’s all that really matters.

[itsreallyjustme]

I started going to bi-monthly therapy consults a couple of months ago, to prepare for the fact that I had to move out and restart my life.

I saw someone on tiktok share what they learnt in their consults cause not everyone can economically access the help they need, but everyone should be able to use the information gained.

So, things I learnt in therapy today:

- Do you crave and need adult validation? (if you are over 18) You are an adult, validate yourself.

- You can only have the role of an observer in other people's lifes. Unless they request your help otherwise.

- (related to the concept of spoons) You only have a certain amount of psychological energy to spend in everything going on in your life (including feed and bathing yourself, also getting out of bed). If you spend 85% of it in worrying about something, you will only have 15% for everything else going on in your life

[art-appreciation-dog]

I'dike to extend a thank you,

To artists whose posts only get a few notes

To artists with OCs and whole universes waiting to be written

To artists working with strange unique mediums

To artists with story and comic ideas

To artists who put their stuff on here for the whole whole to see

To artists who don't feel appreciated

To artists who love what they do so so much

To artists with big dreams

To artists taking commissions

To artists who'd like to make a living doing what they love

To hobby-artists who often feel pressured to make money off their stuff

Thank you for existing. Thank you for brightening this platform with your unique skills and individual work, nobody can do things quite like you. Thank you.

[f0mo]

you are not going in circles.

you’re making progress in a spiral. you do come back around to where you were at the start, since recovery and healing take time, but everytime you come back around to that point you’re a little higher up because youve got more experience, more knowledge and more strength.  

you are making progress

[missysippiiiee]

Through growth and life experiences, I learned to appreciate silence, privacy, peace, happiness, and tears. I realised that acceptance isn’t something I’m entitled to receive from everyone.

It’s something you have to dig deep within yourself for, as it is solely coming from you — the one who possesses, owns, and identifies it.

Search for that peace with everything you do. Seize every moment. Avoid things that compromise your happiness. Live a meaningful life and make the most out of it.

Allow peace, contentment, and happiness to fuel your soul without considering others approval. The only validation you need, is your own.

[chaoticpete]

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the ones whos reading, wanna play a game?.

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OK STOP! Click the read more

You might be almost as cute as this raccoon. Almost.

But you know what you are? Completely validated and loved so much. Even if you don't feel like it today, or tomorrow, but you are. Even if you have to feed that love into yourself, that's the best type of love and validation you could ever receive. So keep your head up.

[shark-b0i]

if you make a list of things that you love it should never take you long to get to yourself.

to anyone reading this who has ever felt like a burden or like you’re not good enough- you are beautiful and loved.

to anyone reading this who has every gel invalidated or like being yourself is hurting other people- you are valid and if someone says that you being your full true self is hurting them then they’re an asshole and don’t deserve you.

[big-sis]

Friendly Reminder: Do All The "Childish" Things you want

The fear of being childish is, in itself a childish fear that we can and must learn to outgrow. If you like something targeted for kids, that is okay. Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you forget how to be a kid.

So buy gel pens and and glitter glue and construction paper. You don't have to be in elementary school to do little art projects with crayons or finger paint or wavy scissors, adults need self expression just as much as kids if not more.

Watch cartoons. Put stickers on your wall and your phone and your ceiling. Decorate your driveway with sidewalk chalk. Eat Gushers and Gogurt and drink chocolate milk. Sleep with stuffed animals and pillow pets if it's comforting. Want a little doll with tiny assets and bendable joints just to see how many poses you can put it in? Do it. Do it all.

(Image credit)

[webadele]

Introduction to HTML

We learn by making mistakes.

I learned so much about HTML this week and it’s mostly down to all of my errors. Below are three mistakes I made during my first HTML lab and how I solved the issues.

Error 1 - Language Attribute 

After watching the web tutorial from my tutor, I had to do some worksheets, but first I had to add in a quick language attribute. Uh-oh, first hiccup!

What I wrote:

<!DOCTYPE html> <html> <html lang="en">

The HTML Validator told me I didn’t need the extra <html> tag, so the correct code looks like this:

<!DOCTYPE html> <html lang="en">

Error 2 - Saving the File

My tutor had told us to save the Atom editor file as task_1.html and I did this while saving my first template. I saved this template as task 2, 3 and 4 in order to complete my worksheet tasks. 

I quickly wrote the code for task 2 and tried to check it with the HTML Validator and, uh-oh, mistake number 2. I hadn’t saved tasks 2, 3 and 4 as .html. This was quickly rectified my renaming my file. I didn’t have to rewrite my code. Phew!

Error 3 - Skipping a Line

For my final task I had to write the code for a poem which involved a lot of line skipping. I had to constantly check the HTML Validator to ensure I hadn’t made any errors with the line breaks. 

I discovered that <br> will skip to the next line and <br><br> will skip a blank link. I had included </br> but no closing tags are needed for void elements. 

[theanonfirefly]

Lets make this world a better place by not Invalidating others experiences, traumas and feelings.

It may be something trivial for someone else but it could be a great deal for the person going through it.

Be kind, always and forever. 🤍

[nomagicchanges-just-world]

Aprender de vos.

Estuve mucho tiempo convencida que lo extrañaba a él, pero era la manera en que me hacía sentir lo que realmente me destruía haber perdido.

Cuando pasas tanto tiempo validándote a través de tus vínculos, te olvidás que podés existir en soledad y aún así quererte. Esta vez era yo la que tenía que decirme palabras lindas al despertarme, la que iba a mirarse al espejo para encontrar una mirada que simplemente quería que le dijera: todo va a estar bien hoy. 

Lamentablemente es un proceso larguísimo, porque el drama no está en que debo dejar de recibir estos halagos, sino en que debo dejar de pensar en ellos como un requisito indispensable para sentirme bien. La autoexigencia constante viene de ahí, del reconocimiento que busco, de las inseguridades que aparecen a seguirme como un fantasma que sólo yo puedo ver en el silencio. 

Porque el silencio también tiene colores para observar. Puede ser blanco, negro, rojo o el que uno sienta en el momento. Después de reconocer el color, tengo que empezar a ser consciente de cómo me sentía cuando estaba presente. La asignación de emociones la doy yo. Todo está en mi control. 

¿No es eso hermoso? Por primera vez, siento que algo está en mi poder para ser cambiado.

Y esas noches largas, donde el silencio me invadía para hacerme sentir inferior, ya son de otro color. 

[the-fire-bubble]

Am I Tumblr Famous yet? Jw.

Idk. Trying to measure my achievements without a "Trophies Unlocked" tracker is difficult.